The Truth About Street Violence

Summary

The video script addresses the topic of self-defense and street violence, emphasizing the importance of understanding legal boundaries and personal safety. The speaker, with 23 years of experience in security, shares insights on common attack scenarios and the preventability of most incidents. He advises against physical confrontation, highlighting the legal and personal risks, and instead promotes awareness, avoiding risky situations, and listening to gut instincts as effective self-defense strategies.

Takeaways

• 🛡️ Self-defense laws and opinions vary widely, and it's crucial to understand what is legally permissible in terms of protecting oneself.
• 🏠 Home invasions with physical violence are rare, as most burglars prefer to avoid confrontation and will flee at the first sign of trouble.
• 🚷 The risk of physical harm is higher on the streets, especially for males, despite recent discussions focusing on female victims.
• 👨‍✈️ The speaker's 23 years of experience in security provide a credible perspective on the nature of street violence and how to avoid it.
• 💪 Egotistical and aggressive behavior, often fueled by alcohol, is a common precursor to street violence, especially among young males.
• 🚫 Walking away from confrontational situations is often the best course of action, as it can prevent escalation to physical violence.
• 🚨 Preemptive strikes in self-defense can be effective but may also be illegal if the person's life is not in immediate danger.
• 👥 Avoiding isolation and staying in groups can reduce the risk of becoming a target for street violence.
• 👀 Trusting one's gut instincts and avoiding situations that feel unsafe can prevent potential violent encounters.
• 🚫 Martial arts training alone is not a foolproof method for self-defense in street situations, as real-life confrontations differ from controlled environments.
• 🚷 Practical steps such as not walking alone at night, avoiding dark or deserted areas, and not consuming alcohol can significantly lower the chances of becoming a victim of violence.

Q & A

What was the reason for the speaker turning off comments in the past videos?

The speaker turned off comments due to the presence of 'crazy trolls' and people advocating criminality, which was against the purpose of the channel.

What is the main focus of the speaker's discussion on self-defense and street violence?

The main focus is to share the real truth about street violence, highlighting that most physical violence incidents can be avoided and to provide insights on how to prevent becoming a victim.

Why does the speaker believe that most burglaries do not involve serious altercations?

The speaker believes that most burglars are not looking for serious altercations because they tend to run off as soon as they hear a noise, making physical violence during burglaries very unusual.

What is the speaker's professional background that lends credibility to his discussion on street violence?

The speaker has worked in security for about 23 years, witnessing several hundred serious attacks, which gives him a reasonable amount of expertise on the subject.

According to the speaker, what percentage of physical violence incidents on the street could have been avoided?

The speaker suggests that approximately 90 to 95% of the physical violence incidents on the street could have been avoided.

What type of individuals are most likely to initiate physical violence on the street, according to the speaker's observations?

The speaker observed that egotistical, cocky, and sometimes drunk young males who are full of testosterone and showing off with their friends are most likely to initiate physical violence.

Why does the speaker suggest that walking away is often the best option when confronted by a group of aggressive individuals?

Walking away is the best option because it avoids escalating the situation into physical violence, prevents legal trouble, and ensures personal safety.

What misconception does the speaker address about the effectiveness of martial arts in real-life self-defense situations?

The speaker addresses the misconception that taking a few martial arts lessons can adequately prepare someone for real-life self-defense, explaining that it takes years of training and the ability to apply skills in a serious situation.

What advice does the speaker give for individuals who feel unsafe walking alone at night?

The speaker advises individuals to trust their gut instincts, ask for help, call a legitimate taxi, or wait with friends or staff in a safe place rather than walking alone.

What is the speaker's stance on drinking alcohol in relation to increasing the risk of becoming a victim of violence?

The speaker strongly advises against drinking alcohol when going out, as it significantly increases the chances of becoming a victim of violence by impairing judgment and making one appear as an easy target.

What are some of the situations the speaker warns against that could potentially lead to violent confrontations?

The speaker warns against situations such as walking alone in a semi-drunk state at night, going to dark and isolated places like multistory car parks when the lighting is not working, and meeting strangers from the internet in private settings.

Outlines

00:00

🛡️ Self-Defense and Legal Boundaries

The speaker begins by addressing the topic of self-defense, mentioning previous discussions on the subject and the diverse opinions it has generated. They express frustration with the comments section, which had to be moderated due to trolls and inappropriate discussions. The speaker aims to clarify misconceptions about street violence, noting that home invasions with physical harm are rare, while the real risk lies in street attacks. They highlight that both men and women can be victims of street violence, with men statistically more likely to be attacked, and emphasize the importance of understanding the risks and how to avoid potentially dangerous situations. The speaker's authority on the subject comes from 23 years of experience in security, witnessing numerous attacks and noting patterns that can often be avoided.

05:01

🚷 Confrontation and the Avoidance of Violence

This paragraph delves into the dynamics of confrontation, particularly focusing on the behavior of young, sometimes intoxicated males exhibiting aggressive posturing. The speaker describes how such individuals often seek confrontation to boost their ego, but their initial intention is rarely to engage in violence. The speaker advises that the best course of action when faced with such a situation is to walk away, as escalating the situation can lead to physical harm and potential legal trouble. They also discuss the typical outcomes of not heeding this advice, which often result in the victim becoming the perpetrator in the eyes of the law due to retaliatory actions.

10:03

🤼‍♂️ The Futility of Martial Arts in Unprovoked Attacks

The speaker challenges the common belief that martial arts training is an effective means of self-defense against determined attackers. They argue that achieving a level of proficiency sufficient for real-world defense requires years of dedicated training and experience in high-pressure situations. Moreover, they point out that the element of surprise is a significant advantage for attackers, and even highly skilled martial artists can be overwhelmed by an unexpected assault. The speaker shares personal insights from their bujinkan training, concluding that when someone is intent on causing harm, the chances of preventing it through martial arts are slim.

15:04

🚷 Practical Steps to Mitigate Risk of Street Violence

Here, the speaker outlines practical steps individuals can take to reduce their risk of becoming victims of violent crime. They emphasize the importance of trusting one's instincts and avoiding situations that could potentially be dangerous, such as walking alone at night or accepting rides from strangers. The speaker also advises against taking shortcuts or being too embarrassed to ask for help, suggesting that reaching out to friends, family, or even strangers in the community can provide a safer alternative to risky situations.

20:06

🚫 The Dangers of Alcohol Consumption and Online Meetings

The speaker discusses the role of alcohol in increasing the risk of becoming a victim of violence, citing statistics that show a correlation between alcohol consumption and violent incidents. They advise against drinking alcohol when in public places where one might become a target for predators. Additionally, they caution against the dangers of online meetings, urging individuals to meet in public places and to be vigilant about their safety, especially when it comes to drink tampering and the potential for assault.

25:07

🚶‍♂️ Sobriety and Situational Awareness as Deterrents to Violence

In the final paragraph, the speaker reiterates the importance of sobriety and situational awareness in preventing violent encounters. They argue that being sober and confident in one's demeanor can deter potential attackers, as predators tend to target those who appear vulnerable. The speaker also provides advice on avoiding late-night outings to places known for high concentrations of intoxicated individuals, such as 24-hour shops and fast-food restaurants, which can become hotspots for violence. They conclude by expressing their passion for the subject and their desire to help others reduce their risk of becoming victims of violence.

Keywords

💡Self-defense

Self-defense refers to the act of protecting oneself from physical harm. In the video, the concept is discussed in the context of legal boundaries and personal safety. The script mentions that many people have opinions on what one can and cannot do legally when defending oneself, highlighting the importance of understanding the law in relation to self-defense.

💡Street violence

Street violence encompasses violent acts that occur in public spaces. The video emphasizes the prevalence of street violence compared to home invasions, noting that it is a significant risk, especially for men, and often involves physical altercations that can be avoided with the right awareness and actions.

💡Egotistical

Egotistical describes individuals who are excessively self-centered or boastful. The script uses this term to characterize young males who engage in confrontational behavior on the streets, often leading to unnecessary violence when their egos prevent them from walking away from potential conflicts.

💡Derogatory

Derogatory refers to language or actions that insult or belittle others. In the video, derogatory comments are cited as a common trigger for street altercations, where insults about a person's family or girlfriend can escalate a situation into physical violence.

💡Confrontation

Confrontation is a face-to-face encounter marked by disagreement or hostility. The video discusses how confrontations can be avoided by not engaging with provocateurs and emphasizes the importance of de-escalating situations to prevent violence.

💡Preemptive strike

A preemptive strike is an aggressive action taken to gain advantage before the opponent can react. The script mentions the concept as a potential but legally questionable response to an imminent threat, where striking first could provide an advantage but also lead to legal trouble.

💡Martial arts

Martial arts are a variety of combat sports or self-defense systems that originated in the traditions of the East. The video challenges the effectiveness of martial arts for self-defense in real-world scenarios, suggesting that without extensive training and experience, they may not be practical for preventing violence.

💡Situational awareness

Situational awareness is the perception of environmental changes and the ability to react appropriately. The video encourages viewers to develop situational awareness to identify potential threats and avoid dangerous situations, such as walking alone at night or in dark areas.

💡Victim blaming

Victim blaming is the act of holding the victim of a crime responsible for their own victimization. The script addresses the concern that providing advice on avoiding victimhood might be perceived as victim blaming, but clarifies that the intention is to empower individuals with strategies for self-protection, not to assign blame.

💡Alcohol

Alcohol is a psychoactive substance that can impair judgment and coordination. The video discusses the role of alcohol in increasing the risk of becoming a victim of violence, as it can lead to poor decision-making and make individuals appear as vulnerable targets.

💡Gut instincts

Gut instincts refer to intuitive feelings or impulses that guide one's actions without conscious reasoning. The video emphasizes the importance of listening to one's gut instincts when feeling unsafe, as these instincts can often alert individuals to potential danger.

Highlights

Discussion on self-defense and the legal boundaries of what one can do.

The speaker's experience working in security for 23 years witnessing numerous serious attacks.

Most home burglaries do not involve physical altercations as burglars tend to flee upon hearing a noise.

The higher risk of physical harm occurs in street attacks rather than home invasions.

Men are statistically more likely to be victims of physical violence on the street than women.

The importance of recognizing and avoiding potentially dangerous situations.

Egotistical and sometimes drunk young males are often the instigators of street violence.

The option to walk away from confrontations can prevent escalation to physical violence.

The reality that most physical violence could be avoided with better choices by the victim.

The ineffectiveness of martial arts in real-life self-defense situations without extensive training.

The rarity of being able to use martial arts effectively in an unexpected violent confrontation.

The potential legal consequences of using martial arts in self-defense outside of a sporting context.

The importance of avoiding alcohol consumption to reduce the risk of becoming a victim of violence.

Strategies for staying safe, such as not walking alone in potentially dangerous areas.

The advice against meeting internet acquaintances in secluded or private locations.

The emphasis on using legitimate transportation like registered taxis to ensure safety.

The speaker's passion for preventing violence and the societal changes affecting security work.

The final advice on taking personal responsibility for one's safety and avoiding risky behaviors.

Transcripts

hi guys hope you're all well we've been

talking a little bit in some of the

videos recently about self-defense and

all the kind of things to do with you

know what you maybe can and can't do in

terms of what the law suggests and uh

there's been loads and loads of opinions

on that I had to delete a lot of the

comments in fact I turned a lot of the

comments off in the end because there

was all kinds of crazy trolls on there

you know uh talking nonsense so the

comments have gone unfortunately uh I

just kind have people advocating

criminality and stuff on here if you

want to do that there's plenty of other

places you can go it's not going to

happen on my channel so I wanted to do a

bit of a talk uh based around that

subject matter and I wanted to talk

about the real truth about Street

violence you know cuz uh a lot of people

are talking about things that happen in

the home and in fact that is very very

rare you know the you may get burgled

that isn't so rare but uh most burglars

will just suddenly run off as soon as

they hear a noise you know they're not

people that are looking to have serious

altercation the reason those stories

make the news about uh you know

burglaries where there's physical

violence involved is because it's very

very unusual and thank God for that but

uh yeah it's pretty uncommon for people

to kind of break into your house and

then start doing you physical harm but

there is a risk of being done physical

harm and the highest risk of that is of

course out in the street and there's

been a lot of stuff lately you know in

the last couple of years there's been a

lot of discussion about women being

attacked in the street that normally

tends to be more of a sexualized nature

and unfortunately uh men also get

attacked in the streets so it's not just

a female only problem that doesn't tend

to be of a sexualized nature but both

attacks involve physical violence and

actually males are more likely to have

physical violence done to them in the

street than females are so you know it's

not a competition I'm not having a go

either way basically if you're a human

being you're going to need to kind of

know what to expect if you're out on the

streets in areas that might be risky or

at times of the day that might be risky

and I want to give you a bit of an idea

on that why can I speak with any

Authority on this subject I've said

before I worked in security for about 23

years I've probably witnessed several

hundred serious attacks you know whether

that would be groups of people or

singular people and I've seen all kinds

of different attacks occur on all kinds

of different people and they tend to

start falling into quite similar

categories and you can actually get a an

idea that they're about to happen

because you kind of SE so many of these

incidents over the time that you pretty

much know what's going to happen when so

I think I can speak with a reasonable

amount of expertise on the

subject so the predominant crime I saw

occurring in terms of physical violence

being done to people in the street and

it was this was actually stuff that

could be avoided so th the good news is

that probably 90 to 95% of the stuff

that was going on needn't have ended in

physical violence you know that the

people that were the victim

um made some choices that kind of pushed

it in the direction of physical violence

and they could have got around that uh

so what was that situation so like most

situations you've got egotistical cocky

sometimes drunk males strutting about

the streets that are quite young you

know they're full of testosterone

they're showing off with their friends

and they are walking around the streets

and they're going to be saying rude and

combative stuff to other people people

it used to happen all the time as a a

guy working security I used to get it a

lot you know I'd have groups of guys

come up to me I would be standing

outside a nightclub and the guys would

start mouthing off and call me names uh

say derogatory things about my family my

girlfriend etc etc now that gave me two

different options and whenever these

situations occur I used to see the kind

of potential victim have this point

where he could have an option and get

out

and uh you know everyone goes oh you

shouldn't you shouldn't let people bully

you you shouldn't let people bully you

look if some idiots are pretty drunk and

they've said some dumb stuff you know if

you just walk away from that and you can

walk away from it and they're going to

leave you alone you no one's bullying

you they're idiots you're going to walk

away you're not going to damage your

fists on them you're not going to bother

breaking your knuckles on their faces uh

you're not going to bother sitting in a

police cell for 20 hours and wait for

your solicitors to turn up you're just

going to walk away they're going to

probably continue walking down the

street being rude to whoever they bump

into and that's going to repeat itself

all night so that is the large

proportion of incidents I used to see

and where it went wrong was people that

were the potential victim couldn't walk

away you know they just their egos

wouldn't allow it it was normally

another young man and generally speaking

these guys would say something

derogatory to that guy often about the

guy's girlfriend and at that point the

guy's got a choice he can either just

get him and his girlfriend to walk away

from these guys or he can go back and

say something to them once he goes back

and says something to them that's

exactly what they want out of this

situation you know they're trying to

build a confrontation so that they've

got an excuse to take it to a higher and

higher level and that tells you one

thing you know those guys aren't

supremely confident and they're not like

100% evil you know they're not like

absolutely set out on a committing an

act of violence they certainly will do

if if you escalate it enough with them

but that isn't their direct intention to

start with so you can you can utilize

that and walk away from them because if

they really wanted to commit an act of

violence and it was like a 100% that's

what they were going to do they wouldn't

even bother with the uh verbal

escalation they would just go commit an

act of

violence so once the potential victim

had kind of gone back at them and made a

rude comment back to them or kind of

offered them out for a fight that would

then grow and grow and grow there would

generally be a bit of Towing and

throwing and then it would become

physical and there would be a fight now

generally speaking in that situation the

potential victim is probably going to

lose out because he would have two

choices if he's decided he's going to go

back at these guys and and say something

rude to them he's going to March up to

them he's going to present himself as a

Target there's generally going to be a

group of them you don't you don't

normally see like a guy on his own

walking around shouting at people unless

he's got some serious mental health

issues so this would generally be a

group of lads showing off to each other

and if that potential victim sort of

walks up and thrusts his chest and Chin

out and says what you you know what

you're talking about then he's probably

going to find out and they're all going

to weigh into him the only other option

for him at that point would be instead

of like walking over to them and talking

to them if he was to walk over to them

and actually um make a preemptive strike

and strike them first he might stand

some chance of actually doing something

and and winning the confrontation the

problem is then he would probably be

breaking the law because his life was

not in danger they had said some ex

stupid to him he could have walked away

he chose not to he's then marched up to

them so clearly if he thought his life

was in danger he wouldn't be marching up

to a group of aggressive shouty guys

then he's attacked them so he's now

legally speaking the guy that's going to

get in some serious trouble so that

might win him the altercation and he

might be able to knock a couple of those

guys out and a couple more run off uh

but at the end of the day if the police

get hold of him he's now the one in

trouble so that's a a pretty bad idea as

well uh my whole ethos you know when I

was working or even now when I'm going

out and certainly then when I was going

out was to go out have a good time if

I'm taking a girl out I want to have a

nice time with her she doesn't want to

come back scared out of her wits and

covered in blood I know some guys think

oh yeah the girl's going to be really

impressed if I have a fight girls aren't

impressed by having their outfit covered

in blood and spending six and a half

hours sat in A&E and then another 6

hours waiting for you to get bailed out

of the police station that isn't a cool

date night for most girls so yeah I

would potentially I would completely

avoid all that kind of stuff and that is

the reality of these situations it's not

like a cowboy film you know you don't

get to knock a couple of people out

outside the bar and then walk away and

Swagger off to another bar and another a

couple of cocktails you know it will

ruin your night one way or the other

you're going to wake even if you didn't

get arrested you're going to wake up in

the morning you're probably going to

have broken hands you know none of that

is fun none of that's good so that's the

kind of mildest situation but then

you've got the situations where arguably

people can't get out of them and these

are the really concerning ones luckily

they were a very small percentage but

you do have individuals or sometimes

gangs of individuals that are hellbent

on simply doing harm and they've

actually got a strategy you know they're

going to go and attack you they're not

going to come up to you and try and

escalate a little bit with some words

and and kind of push it that way they're

just going to do you some serious harm

that might be in order to rob you if

you're a female that may be because

someone wants to sexually assault you

and that can happen to men as well so

don't rule that out it's a little more

unusual but it certainly does happen so

they've already got that strategy in

their mind and you for whatever reason

are looking like a victim to them and

they've decided to choose you so what

can we do in those circumstances now

I've heard a lot of people say well I'm

going to take martial arts lessons and

I've covered this in a video quite a

long time ago that doesn't tend to be a

great strategy because to utilize

martial arts to any even anywhere near

an acceptable level for someone that

doesn't normally fight you would have to

do that for several years and you would

also have to get used to applying that

in a a serious situation that didn't

involve you know a nice springy ring and

a referee that kind of steps in and

breaks it all up like a lot of martial

arts are sporting based things and that

is a totally different situation to

suddenly having your life on the line on

a a concrete pavement and if you fall

over and and lose part of that fight you

know the likelihood is you're going to

become very very seriously damaged or

maybe even killed so people kind of uh

don't realize the aspect of how much

training they're going to need to do

doing like a two or 3 week course and

learning that oh I'm going to kick

everyone in the Ghoulies you know looks

great in terms of marketing these

self-defense courses but the reality of

that is it simply doesn't work I worked

with plenty of guys that were very very

highly skilled in sporting martial arts

you know they were black belts whatever

Dan very very capable if you put them in

a ring against another martial artist

you know they would look amazing they

would be like Bruce Lee but then I saw

those same guys get absolutely flattened

by just some 17 Stone who ran over and

sucker punched them and then hit them

around the head with a bottle so you

know that's that's the problem is that

uh you can't account for that kind of

thing and so it doesn't matter how good

you are at fighting it doesn't matter

how quick your responses are if someone

has already built a strategy in their

mind and you're the victim of that

strategy they've got the drop on you you

know they're going to probably get the

first strike in they've already

developed the mindset that they're going

to attack you they're in that

comfortable situation that they're

confident and they know what they're

doing and you're the one who's like a

rabbit in the headlights and you're

suddenly wow you know I was just walking

down the street thinking about something

completely different and suddenly I'm in

this violent confrontation so it's going

to take you even a few seconds to kind

of adjust your mind to what's happening

you're going to be may be in shock some

people can't even adjust to what's

happening they just freeze you know

they're absolutely shocked by by this

Sudden Change of events so the attacker

definitely has a drop on you if he's

already decided uh I remember saying to

my Sensei I studied uh bujinkan for a

few years which was like a weapon-based

martial arts and um he was a very very

high level guy and he had been involved

in training some tier one operators uh

so serious business and I remember you

know I was getting quite good at uh that

he said to me you know at the end of one

of these years of training what do you

feel that you've learned and uh after

doing it for a few years and I said to

him to be honest what I've learned is

that if someone wants to actually do me

serious harm and they've made that

decision and I don't know they've made

that decision there's very little I can

do about it you know if they run up

behind me with a brick I'm done it

doesn't matter how good I get at this

martial art it doesn't matter how good

my skill set is my reflexes or whatever

no one's going to be able to stop being

smacked around the back of the head with

a brick if there's some notter out there

that decides to do that to you and he

completely agreed he said yeah you know

uh I'm I'm glad that you've learned that

lesson you know and uh he said he sort

of talked about it as if that was kind

of high level understanding uh but it

it's really common sense if you think

about it and it's we've all been

influenced by movies and TV shows and

our egos that make us think you know if

we do this like Montage of training and

run up a hillside in the rain and kick a

tree and punch a bag with some sand in

it and run back down again and keep

doing that for six months then we're

going to be like uh you know Steven

Seagal but without the [ __ ] jacket and

the big fat belly and we're going to be

like destroying Street robbers left

right and center that is just movies

that's not reality if someone really

really wants to do you harm and they've

made that decision you're probably not

going to be able to stop them when

people say my martial arts worked really

well in the street they're normally

applying them in that first scenario so

where you could have walked away and

I've seen that quite a lot you know

you've got someone who's a competent

martial artist or a boxer someone walks

up to them in a bar or outside a bar and

starts verbally and says come on then

mate you know let's have go and they

have this kind of verbal escalation then

there's a fight and of course the person

is now quite prepared to fight and if

he's going to be a really good martial

artist or boxer he's probably going to

win against this other aggressive guy

that's just started for no reason so yes

it works in that case but again why

would you want to break your knuckles on

someone's face and go to a prison cell

when you could just walk away and not

have that at all and in the situation

where someone's going to just do you

harm and you don't even expect it you're

probably never going to get to use it

because it'll be too late so what can we

do you know what are the realistic steps

that you can take to PR prevent yourself

being a victim of one of these violent

crimes in the street when someone has

just decided you're going to be their

victim and there's things that we do

that are going to greatly Elevate our

risk of being attacked and there are

going to be some people that say Hey

this is like victim blaming you know you

shouldn't be saying this because it

blames the victim partially it makes

them feel bad I'm not trying to blame

victims the fact of the matter is

whatever we all do there's going to be

some bad people in the world and bad

people you know if every man and every

woman in the world all stood up and said

we hate people that commit acts of

violence or sexual assault or whatever

and we're all against it which pretty

much we all do those Nutters are not

going to stop being Nutters you know if

you could reason with them and sort of

show them an advertising campaign and

say oh you know attacking women is bad

or attacking guys in the street at night

is bad and they just stopped wow you

know we would have solved all crime in

the world because you could just make a

an advert or have a protest about any

crime and say whatever you know fraud is

bad and all fraud would stop that's not

how criminals operate you know they

don't listen to Common Sense they don't

listen to people pleading and and saying

heartfelt things that's what makes them

criminals they don't care they're just

going to continue doing what they think

they want to do we have to take

responsibility in that case for our own

safety cuz nobody else is the police off

going to be waiting around every corner

to make sure you're okay but there may

very well be criminals waiting around

the corner to make sure you're not okay

and the things that I would Advocate

doing is to start listening to your gut

instincts because too many people ignore

those these days if you are you know

getting a feeling about something so

you're out with your friends and you get

cut off from your friends somehow and

then you think okay I'll just walk back

it's half 11 12:00 at night it's Pub

kicking out time and you think well I'll

just walk back on my own that's a bad

move you know because you're now a

potential victim because you're a single

person walking back when there's loads

and loads of drunks hanging around

there's going to be loads of predatory

gangs hanging around at that time of

night because those gangs will hang

around at certain times when they know

there's going to be potential victims

around IE drunk people Pub kicking out

time and you're going to present

yourself to them is it right that

they're doing that no of course it's not

do you have every right to walk home on

your own yes of course you do but you've

just massively increased your chances of

some of these sharks honing in on you

and using you as their potential victim

and a lot of this is going to come down

to people taking kind of shortcuts to

save themselves a bit of time or being a

little bit embarrassed of asking for

some help and if that was me you know uh

and I was sort of stuck somewhere and I

knew I had to walk back and I felt

really uncomfortable I would ring a

friend I would ring a family member I'd

ring a taxi whichever one of those you

can do get a taxi from a you know a

proper taxi company not some dodgy guy

that just stops in the street and says

yeah yeah five quid jump in the back of

his banged up old [ __ ] you know get a

legitimate Taxi phone one up wait in the

pub or the club stand with the Dorman

you know we used to make absolutely sure

if a girl came in to the club even if

she hadn't been in as a customer if she

came into the door and said you know I

feel really uncomfortable we would say

no problem wait in here you can sit down

there we' go and get her a glass of

water or whatever sit her down and then

we would call her a taxi make sure

someone legitimate was going to take her

home sometimes the bar girls were going

home so we used to actually say to the

bar girls can you give this lady here a

lift home on the way back so we would

basically do anything we could to make

sure that that girl got back home

sometimes Dorman offered the girl a lift

I would not Advocate that cuz not all

Dorman are nice guys I mean if you want

to go off with a Dorman and uh you fancy

him or whatever that's up to you but I

certainly wouldn't Advocate just

randomly getting in Dorman's cars I knew

lots of really nice good Dorman I also

knew lots of really slimy Dorman that

were probably going to offer girls a

lift so that they could kind of try and

get them more drunk and whatever and

have their way with them so I would not

go with that route I would look for

someone like one of the bar girls or

maybe there's a female door staff that

you can go back with or maybe a couple

of the Dorman are going back and there's

a girl with as well one of their

girlfriends or something but I would

always try and make sure that there was

a female in the car so there are

definitely ways that you don't need to

put yourself in a position where you

kind of walking through the streets on

your own in a semi- drunk State because

as I said that's going to massively

increase your chances of getting

attacked I wouldn't Advocate going into

a dark multistory car park you know if

you live in a complex and underneath

that complex the uh or your cars are

kept and you have to go down there to

get yours out and the lights are not

working one night then I would Advocate

you knock on one of the neighbors doors

and say look I'm really sorry to bother

you I'm a bit nervous you know I've gone

downstairs it's late at night it's

completely dark there's no lighting

working could you just come down and

watch me jump in the car any decent

neighbor is going to say yes to that no

one's going to tell you no no one's

going to tell you that's a pain you know

we all are here to help each other

there's plenty of people that will help

so never ever ever be afraid to ask

people and that's the same if you're a

guy you know it doesn't matter if a guy

came up to me and a lot of Dorman have

done this you know these are Big tough

guys and they've come up to me and said

look mate I got a bit of a funny feeling

you know I left my car in a really dodgy

place I've had a couple of threats made

to me recently I'm not very comfortable

can you just walk along with me so me

and a couple of the other doorman would

walk this guy back to his car and uh

that you know there was no um none of us

kind of gave him a hard time about that

or called him any names or anything like

that if and if your mates do do that

they're probably not your mates right

you know if if I reach out to one of my

male friends and say can you help me out

with something and I ask him for

something serious ious he's going to

help me and if he doesn't want to help

me and if he points and laughs at me and

calls me a load of silly names he I'm

never going to ask him again and B I'm

probably not going to be that bothered

about hanging around with that guy

anymore because he's not really got my

best interests at heart be very wary

about meetings that are set up on the

internet you know that's a pretty

obvious one but it amazes me still that

people are doing this you know I know we

live in an age now where internet dating

is a thing but for God's sake meet the

the guy in a place that's you know very

busy very public it's nowhere that he

can kind of do anything Sly don't meet

these guys and give him the opportunity

to drop stuff in your drink so don't

sort of leave your drink next to him and

then go off to the toilet and come back

again Ask the bman can you put my drink

in the fridge and sort of give him a

wink you know so the Ban's going to know

that he's not going to let anyone near

that drink while you're in the toilet

and you can act like put it in the

fridge cuz I like to keep it cold or

whatever so it doesn't sound quite as uh

dodgy to the person that you're out on

the date with cuz the chances are you

know very high chance he's an absolutely

lovely guy and he's not going to drug

you drink that's quite an unusual thing

but you don't want to take the

chance and uh you know if it's the first

or second dat don't be disappearing off

with that guy somewhere you know after

you've met him in this really carefully

selected place that's nice and busy

friendly Balan you've taken all those

you know risks away and then the guy

goes hey let's go back to my place if

you're then going to go back to that

place you've met this guy for like 3 or

4 hours you know anyone can act like a

decent person for a few hours you need

to like see that person a multiple times

maybe meet them in the day maybe try and

see them when they're in front of their

friends or family and stuff like that

before you start going back to their

house because if you go back to

someone's house and you've only met them

3 or 4 hours you have absolutely no

concept of what's going to happen and

things could turn really

nasty so those are the kind of things

that I would Advocate to stop yourself

becoming a a victim of violence they're

not cool you know they don't involve

doing Bruce Lee roundhouse kicks to

people's heads but those are the things

that are realistically going to stop you

being a victim you know doing the

martial arts class for two years isn't

going to stop it if someone decides that

they're going to do something to you

then they're probably going to do

something to you and the last one that

no one's going to want to hear but it's

something that I certainly do now is do

not drink alcohol if you drink alcohol

you're massively increasing your chances

of becoming a victim of violence we know

that from statistics most people that

are subjected to Violent attacks in the

street have been drinking alcohol the

people that have committed the attack

have been drinking alcohol you know the

if you don't drink alcohol you're you've

got your wits around you you don't walk

and act like a victim you know predators

are very selective they're going to look

for weak targets and if you're sort of

Staggering around and slurring your

words and acting like a fool and you're

clearly drunk then you're a weak Target

so they're going to select you you know

if I'm walking down the street and I

haven't had anything to drink and it's

10:00 at night and I'm walking with

confidence I'm keeping my head up you

know I'm I'm looking at people I'm not

holding eye cont for like ridiculous

periods of time I'm not trying to scare

people or intimidate people but I'm

looking at people to let them know yeah

I'm I'm I'm together man you know I'm

not uh I'm not wasted so uh you're

probably going to need to pick a

different victim and they do you know I

haven't had anyone attack me in the

street for many many years now because I

don't W around outside pubs drunk and uh

that is probably the main reason I used

to get attack was because most of the

time I wasn't drunk when I was doing the

door but I was hanging around outside

those sort of establishments so I'm

massively increasing my chances of being

attacked because I'm surrounding myself

with drunken people at the worst time of

night when they're all kind of

frustrated and angry and having to go

home worst place you can go at that

point is down the kebab house because

I've lost track of the amount of times

I've seen fights escalate there because

people don't generally hang around out

side the pubs for too long especially in

the UK and a lot of the European places

because it's bloody cold most of the

time at that time at night especially so

people come out of the pub and they want

to go somewhere so they're going to go

to like a 24-hour shop and they're going

to go in there and try and buy some more

alcohol to take home so those shops kind

of get busy and they get crowds of

people stood out there smoking

cigarettes drinking or whatever and the

same with like burger places 24-hour

McDonald's all those kind of places

you'll find that they become hubs for

fighting you know the police know this

very well they will get called out to

those places all the bloody time so if

you can leave the pub or the club that

you're in at kicking out time get

straight in a taxi go home with your

friends have some fun at home preempt

the fact that you're going to do that

and if you really want to carry on the

party at home leave some drinks there

you know the night before or whatever

stick them in the fridge and then you've

got them there for when you get back if

you're going to go and try and buy

drinks late at night you're probably

going to run into some issues a you

probably won't be able to buy any

because there'll just be uh nowhere

around or whatever that's open and B

when you do find somewhere that's open

there's going to be loads of other drunk

people there and they're going to be

frustrated and they're going to be

having arguments guys I hope that gives

you some ideas about how you can sort of

lessen your chances of being a victim of

violent assault um you know it's

something I'm very passionate about is

the reason that I got into uh security

work in the first place because I

witnessed some of that when I was quite

young and uh I was you know really

really upset by it and I wanted to kind

of do something to prevent that and I

did that for quite a few years

unfortunately Society changed quite a

lot and the uh the attitudes of

authorities changed a lot and it kind of

took a lot of power away from security

guys so nowadays they tend to be just

these sort of Muppets that stand around

with the clipboard and then they see

something going on they don't actually

intervene they don't do anything about

it and then they ring the police and the

police turn up in about half an hour and

scrape up the pieces off the road so

completely different to the way that we

used to deal with it and you just can't

apparently do that anymore so that's why

I got out of the job but uh you know uh

I'm it's something I'm very passionate

about I hate to see people getting hurt

for no reason and I hope that you can

input some of these ideas especially if

you're younger people uh that you can

input some of these ideas and kind of

really lower your chances of being

attacked because if you do if you take

all the sensible options and you're not

putting yourself in those places at

those times the chance of you becoming

attacked is very very very low you know

you don't get people generally walking

around in the middle of the day just

randomly attacking people in the street

again it does go on sometimes but that's

why it makes the news because it hardly

ever happens so just to statistically

make sure you're not making yourself

into a potential

victim thanks guys great to talk to you

take care see you soon