5 Shocking Things Women Do To Manipulate Men Today... (She's Controlling You)
Summary
TLDRIn this video, dating and relationship coach Apollonia Ponti reveals five common manipulation tactics women may use to control men: emotional blackmail, excessive compliments, crying to evoke protectiveness, withholding sex, and demanding proof of love. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these behaviors to maintain healthy relationships and suggests that communication is key to overcoming such patterns.
Takeaways
- 🔍 Women may manipulate men through various tactics, which can create toxic dynamics in relationships.
- 🗣️ Emotional blackmail is a common manipulation tactic where a woman makes a man feel bad to get her way.
- 💬 Excessive compliments are used to stroke a man's ego and make him more likely to comply with her wishes.
- 😢 Tears can be a powerful tool, triggering a man's protectiveness and making him more likely to give in.
- ❌ Withholding sex or physical closeness is a form of physical blackmail used to control a man's behavior.
- 💔 Demeaning a man's performance in the bedroom can be a tactic to undermine his confidence and manipulate him.
- 🧩 The phrase 'if you love me, you'll...' is used to guilt a man into doing something by questioning his love.
- 👁️ Patterns of manipulative behavior should be watched closely, as they can indicate deeper issues in the relationship.
- 🧠 Healthy communication and assertiveness are key to addressing and overcoming manipulative behaviors.
- 📞 Seeking professional help, such as relationship coaching, can aid in navigating and resolving toxic dynamics.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video?
-The main topic of the video is about the manipulative tactics some women use to control men in relationships.
Who is Apollonia Ponti and what is her role in the video?
-Apollonia Ponti is a dating, relationship, and attraction coach who helps men master their attraction and relationship lives. In the video, she shares her expertise on manipulation tactics.
What is the first manipulation tactic discussed in the video?
-The first manipulation tactic discussed is 'emotional blackmail', where a woman tries to make a man feel bad about his desires or feelings to get him to comply with her wishes.
How does 'emotional blackmail' work in a relationship?
-Emotional blackmail works by making the man feel guilty or bad about his own feelings or desires, pressuring him to change his mind and do what the woman wants.
What is the advice given for dealing with 'emotional blackmail'?
-The advice given is to call out the behavior, be assertive, and communicate openly and honestly about the needs and feelings of both parties.
What is the second manipulation tactic mentioned in the video?
-The second manipulation tactic is 'excessive compliments', where a woman uses flattery to stroke a man's ego and make him more likely to do what she wants.
How can 'excessive compliments' be used manipulatively?
-Excessive compliments can be used manipulatively by leveraging guilt and the desire to maintain the positive image the woman has created, pressuring the man to comply with her requests.
What is the third manipulation tactic discussed in the video?
-The third tactic is using 'tears' or emotional displays of sadness to trigger a man's protective instincts and get him to comply with the woman's desires.
Why is the use of tears considered manipulative?
-Tears are considered manipulative when they are used as a tool to elicit sympathy and compliance from the man, rather than being a genuine expression of sadness or emotion.
What is the fourth manipulation tactic mentioned in the video?
-The fourth tactic is 'withholding sex', also known as 'physical blackmail', where a woman denies her partner physical intimacy as a way to get him to comply with her wishes.
How can 'withholding sex' be harmful to a relationship?
-'Withholding sex' can be harmful as it can create feelings of anxiety and punishment in the partner, teaching them to comply through fear of denial of intimacy.
What is the fifth manipulation tactic discussed in the video?
-The fifth tactic is 'proving your love', where a woman requires her partner to demonstrate their love by doing what she wants, using the phrase 'if you love me, you'll...'.
How can the phrase 'if you love me, you'll...' be emotionally manipulative?
-The phrase can be emotionally manipulative by linking the partner's love to their compliance with the woman's requests, essentially using guilt to pressure them into doing something.
What is the solution offered in the video for overcoming these manipulation tactics?
-The solution offered is practicing healthy communication, which can help overcome these tactics by fostering transparency, understanding, and mutual support in the relationship.
What additional service does Apollonia Ponti offer to help men with their dating and relationship issues?
-Apollonia Ponti offers a 12-week transformation program called 'My Algorithm of Attraction', which includes relationship and dating coaching, mock dates, and real date setups to help men improve their dating lives.
How can viewers get in touch with Apollonia Ponti for her coaching services?
-Viewers can click the link provided in the video description to book a call with Apollonia Ponti to see if they are a good fit for her coaching program.
Outlines
🚫 Emotional Blackmail in Relationships
The first paragraph introduces the video's theme of manipulative tactics women may use in relationships. The speaker, Apollonia Ponti, a dating and relationship coach, discusses 'emotional blackmail' as a common method where women make men feel guilty to get their way. She uses the example of a woman undermining a man's desire to go on a trip, thereby pressuring him to change his plans. The coach emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing such toxic behaviors to maintain a healthy relationship.
🙂 Excessive Compliments as Manipulation
The second paragraph delves into the use of excessive compliments as a form of manipulation. Women may leverage compliments to stroke a man's ego, making him more susceptible to their requests. The speaker warns that while some might do this unknowingly, it's crucial to watch for patterns of manipulative behavior. She advises that if such a pattern is detected, it should be addressed to ensure the relationship remains balanced and healthy.
😭 The Manipulation of Tears
In the third paragraph, the speaker addresses the use of tears as a manipulative tactic. Women may cry to trigger a man's protective instincts, compelling him to change his stance on an issue to alleviate her distress. The speaker differentiates between genuine sadness and tears used as a manipulative tool, cautioning viewers to be aware of this pattern as it can indicate a toxic dynamic in the relationship.
🛌 Withholding Sex as a Control Mechanism
The fourth paragraph discusses the use of 'physical blackmail,' where women withhold sex or physical intimacy to control a man's behavior. The speaker describes how this can create anxiety and a sense of obligation in men to comply with a woman's wishes to avoid rejection. She highlights the potential toxicity of this behavior and the importance of maintaining open communication and mutual respect in a relationship.
❤️ Manipulation Through Love Conditionals
The final paragraph focuses on the manipulation tactic of linking love with compliance, often expressed through phrases like 'if you love me, you'll...'. The speaker explains how this can be emotionally manipulative, pressuring a partner into actions under the guise of proving their love. She advises viewers to be aware of such tactics and to ensure that their relationships are built on transparency, communication, and mutual support.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Manipulation
💡Emotional Blackmail
💡Assertiveness
💡Excessive Compliments
💡Tears
💡Physical Blackmail
💡Withholding Sex
💡Proving Your Love
💡Healthy Communication
💡Toxic Relationships
💡Accountability
Highlights
Women do manipulate men, and this video aims to educate men on the tactics used and how to recognize them.
Apollonia Ponti introduces herself as a dating, relationship, and attraction coach with a proven track record.
The importance of subscribing to the channel for men seeking help in their love lives.
Emotional blackmail is identified as the most common manipulation tactic, where women make men feel bad to get their way.
The example of a woman undermining a man's desire to go on a trip to manipulate him into staying.
The advice to call out manipulative behavior and assertively communicate one's needs.
Excessive compliments are used as a manipulation tool, often paired with guilt to get men to comply.
Tears are sometimes used by women to trigger a man's protective instincts and manipulate him.
The distinction between genuine sadness and tears used as a manipulation tactic.
Withholding sex or physical intimacy as a form of punishment to get a man to comply is called physical blackmail.
The potential toxicity of using sex as a bargaining chip in a relationship.
The phrase 'If you love me, you'll...' is a manipulative tactic to guilt men into compliance.
The importance of recognizing patterns in manipulative behavior and addressing them for a healthy relationship.
The offer of a 12-week transformation program called 'My Algorithm of Attraction' for men seeking relationship and dating coaching.
The summary of five common manipulation tactics: emotional blackmail, excessive compliments, tears, withholding sex, and making men prove their love.
The encouragement for viewers to like the video and watch the next video on behaviors that turn off women.
Transcripts
five sticky things women do to
manipulate and control men this has
maybe happened to you before or maybe
you've seen it happen to someone you
know or maybe you've had sneaky
suspicions that it's happening to you
right now and that's why you clicked on
this video so if you're wondering if
women do things to manipulate men the
answer is
yes and if you want to know what those
things are you are in the right place
hello gentlemen my name is Apollonia
ponti I'm your dating relationship and
attraction coach and I help men from all
over the world not only Master their
attraction in dating lives but also
their relationship lives as well and
I've had hundreds and hundreds of
results you can click Below on my
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it helps me grow this Channel and helps
me get in the right hands of men to give
them significant results in their love
lives and that's the way that you can
pay me back now I'm going to give you
the honest truth about women in
manipulation from a woman myself so I
want to talk to you about seven things
that women do to men to get their way
the reason I want to talk about this
with you is so that you have a very
clear picture of this dynamic in your
relationship or dating life because if
you're seeing these things and
especially if you're seeing these things
very often there is a chance that there
is a toxic element in your relation ship
or the woman that you're dating and you
have to address it right away or walk
away right away so let's get started the
most common manipulation tactic I see is
what I like to call emotional blackmail
oh I was watching Love is Blind the
other day and I saw emotional black hail
firsthand with these women I'm like gosh
women have mastered emotional blackmail
and it's literally not something I'm
proud of guys but it's something I know
very well from seeing it being a coach
hearing about it and being a woman
myself so I'm going to give you the
understanding of what this is this is
basically when she wants you to agree
with her about something so she goes
about trying to make that happen by
making you feel bad about the way that
you feel the things that you want or the
way that you genuinely feel about
someone or something for example let's
say that your friends are inviting you
on a guy's weekend trip and you're
pretty excited about it and your
girlfriend or the girl that you're
dating does not feel the same way she's
not very excited she would prefer you to
stay in town and spend the weekend with
her but instead of communicating that to
you openly and honestly she will start
to tell you things like I would never
want to go to Vegas on vacation only
sleazy people go there or
you would spend money on a trip there I
didn't know that type of place is even
interested you as you can see she's
basically putting you down and making
you feel small or bad about the thing
that you wanted to do so that you can
change your mind and do what she wanted
you to do but she's not communicating
her needs with you she's just making you
feel bad about yours so I would advise
you to be very careful with this type of
behavior because it can become toxic
very fast now before I get into the next
step I want to just take a second here
to tell you that if you're seeing this
happen doesn't mean this woman is a
horrible woman but if she does it all
the time then yeah but here's the thing
with emotional blackmail you want to
remember this is if you're seeing this
in your life or with a woman that you're
dating call it out for what it is listen
you're giving me these underhanded
comments about me going to Vegas and you
wouldn't want to go there it's kind of a
demeaning a little bit give me the truth
about what you're thinking about me
going away this weekend there's where a
man can step into his masculine and be
assertive in those moments you're still
coming from empathy you're still coming
from respect you're not yelling but you
also can't walk away men from conflict
in a relationship because conflict is
what helps you grow and really get to
know a woman's truth to see if she's
worked through the things that she's
experienced in her past life or if she's
still acting from them number two is
excessive compliments all right
next up we have a situation in which she
knows that you're more likely to do what
she wants when she has stroked your ego
in some of these cases I've even seen
women leverage guilt along with
compliments to get their way for example
she'll tell you all the things that she
loves about you all the ways that you
make her happy and how no one has ever
made her as happy as you do and then she
tells you that it would make her so
happy if you would XYZ or Z for her
if you say no then suddenly you're not
the guy that makes her happy anymore and
you just feel so terrible oh is this
toxic so you do the thing and of voila
she has gotten her way once again I
should mention though that sometimes
people do this without realizing it and
it doesn't necessarily mean that they
are toxic that said you should always
keep an eye out for behaviors that are
manipulative in any way so that you can
have clear conversations and also make
sure that your relationship remains
healthy you want to look for patterns if
the woman can consistent with doing this
sometimes people have bad habits that
just need to be addressed and then you
can move past the issue and straighten
your relationship because relationships
bring out what the work that we need
within us and we're not all perfect
we're not all healed when we get into
healthy relationships but what happens
is we have a partner that holds us
accountable and we hold one another
accountable and we do the work to rise
up in relationship all right next up
let's talk about tears because I see
this a lot surprised women will
sometimes turn on the Waterworks to
trigger a man's protectiveness has it
ever occurred to you that when you see
that you've made your girls sad you want
to move mountains to make her happy
again right well women will sometimes
use this to their advantage and this is
where you wouldn't want that to happen
to you and this is especially effective
if she knows you don't see her cry often
sometimes the tears are real remember we
feel a lot women feel a lot we know when
the tears are real but sometimes she
might be sad but she wouldn't be crying
in any other situation but with you
because she knows that if it's a soft
spot she'll cry or Worse pretend to cry
until you feel so bad that you cray cave
to and do what you initially said you
wouldn't do and just like that you have
been manipulated right now crying is
different from making her she's sad
about something and she's crying because
she's kind of trusting you with this
information or just coming to you for
support or affection or wanting you to
be there by her side but when she's
crying in a way where it's like I'm not
getting my way with him so I'm going to
kind of put up this pity party oh and
I'm going to cry and I'm just going to
do it it becomes a pattern this is where
you want to watch out number four is so
big I think in the woman community of
manipulating men that is sex I have also
seen many situations in which a woman is
displeased with something that her man
did or didn't do so she becomes kind of
cold she requires dismissive quiet or
distant and often she denies him sex or
any type of physical closeness this can
be called physical blackmail just watch
any reality show and you can see this
and she will stay like this until the
man decides to do what she originally
wanted him to do once he does she will
warm him back up to him and be her
normal self the result is the man learns
that if he does what she wants he get
sex as you can imagine this is a
slippery slope and yes it can become
toxic very quickly also when it comes to
sex and when it comes to toxic it gets
really bad this is when a person might
start using the withholding of physical
intimacy as a form of punishment that
teaches their partner to comply it can
create a feeling of anxiety in the
partner that if they don't comply they
will be denied physical and emotional
intimacy and be left out in the cold so
to speak okay and so I want to talk
about another part of this when it comes
to sex I think it's really important to
understand that
um
oh I've seen also women when they don't
get their way demean you and how you
perform in the bedroom and kind of go
after your manhood oh that is the
biggest red flag even let's just say
hypothetical worst situation let's just
say that you're bad in the bedroom okay
if a woman really values who you are as
a character she's going to sit you down
and talk about the things that she wants
to improve and try out with you on or
things that you can do better or she's
going to try to direct you there that is
emotional mature woman okay guys no
excuses for that one number five is
proving Your Love
last but certainly not least we have the
form of manipulation that comes in the
form of a very simple sentence
if you love me you'll dot dot while
sometimes people say this is in a
playful way the message is the same
first of all it means that they are
asking you to essentially prove your
love for them by doing what they want
you to do if you don't do it then you
are showing them that you do not love
them of course this is repetition this
happens often and secondly using this
phrase can be emotionally manipulative
by linking their partner's love with
them to their compliance with their
requests they are essentially trying to
guilt them into doing something there's
a difference between I do this to my
husband all the time he's like a a fine
I'll do it and I'm like because you love
me like this and that's there's a
difference between being playful and
knowing the times but it doesn't happen
often the signs I'm talking about are
things that are happening often for you
I've also seen an instance where clients
tell me that he thinks it's romantic
when his girl says that to him and I
have to remind him that it's actually a
tactic that she's using to make him do
what she wants basically and it's really
easy to figure out if she's manipulating
you with the sentence or not just ask
yourself would I do it if it was just up
to me and what I feel bad about not
doing it if she hadn't mentioned
anything to me about love that's a good
question to ask yourself if this happens
to you in other words if she didn't say
that you'd do it if you love her would
it even cross your mind hmm I don't know
listen I've see this all the time and
while it might seem cute to some people
it actually something that you can have
to put you have to pay close attention
to a relationship needs to be loving and
balanced and both people need to feel
supported heard and understood if you
find yourself not being able to make
mature healthy relationships and build
on transparency and communication which
is why it's so important and I want this
information to be available to you on
what to keep your eye out for but if you
see yourself doing this this could be a
problem with patterns your dating
struggles I've seen men married and
divorced and going back out in the
dating field and just getting into toxic
relationships and I've seen it all guys
and if you want that support to really
transition I would encourage you to
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if you're a good fit after all that's
what I'm here for so to summarize the
five common manipulation tactics used by
women are emotional blackmail excessive
compliments tears withholding sex and
making you prove your love alright guys
the good news is that all of these
things can be overcome by practicing
healthy communication so even if you
recognize these things in your
relationship know that in most cases you
can fix it if you've liked this video
make sure you click that like button and
watch this next video right over here
behaviors that actually turn off women
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I want you to watch that next video as
always I'll see you in the next one and
remember you are always loved bye for
now
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