Body Language SITTING | Easy to Use High-Status Tips
Summary
TLDRThis video explores high-status body language, focusing on how sitting, standing, and posture can project confidence and authority. The speaker highlights the importance of taking up space, adopting confident gestures, and mastering the art of sitting and standing up to appear more dominant. He provides media examples and practical tips to incorporate these gestures into daily life while stressing that true confidence comes from within, not just appearances. The video also touches on territorial gestures like the 'arms akimbo' and the significance of body language in shaping others' perceptions.
Takeaways
- 😀 Expanding your body posture, like spreading arms, signals confidence and high status, while shrinking signals insecurity.
- 🧍♂️ Mastering how to sit down and stand up with confidence is a key element of high-status body language.
- 💺 Sitting gestures like spreading your arms or adopting a 'partial arms of Kimbo' posture expand your presence and portray dominance.
- 🧠 Body language, such as sitting and standing postures, communicates status subconsciously to others, influencing how you're perceived.
- 👁️ High-status individuals tend to claim more space with their body language, and postures like 'arms of Kimbo' are common displays of dominance.
- 🐒 The 'figure four' posture, crossing one leg over the other, is a relaxed but dominant position, seen in both humans and primates as a display of status.
- 🛑 Avoid slouching, leaning forward too much, or bowing your head down, as these are low-status gestures that can undermine your confidence.
- 📏 When standing without support, flaring the elbows out while rising from a seated position adds width and projects confidence.
- 🚨 Some gestures, like touching others, can be used to establish dominance, but there are subtle differences between positive and negative uses.
- 💬 High-status body language should be genuine and supported by true confidence; it’s not about fooling others but embodying real self-assurance.
Q & A
What is the main focus of the video script?
-The main focus of the video script is to discuss and demonstrate high-status body language, specifically focusing on sitting and standing gestures that convey confidence and dominance.
How does the script suggest one should sit to appear high-status?
-The script suggests sitting by spreading arms apart and leaning back, which is a way to claim space and appear larger, similar to the territorial displays of confident individuals.
What are some examples of high-status gestures shown in media?
-The script provides media examples such as leaning on an object when standing up, using the 'arms of Kimbo' pose, and the 'figure four' sitting posture, all of which are meant to convey dominance and high status.
What is the 'arms of Kimbo' gesture, and how is it used?
-The 'arms of Kimbo' gesture involves placing the hands on the hips with elbows flared outwards, which is a display of dominance and territoriality, often used by individuals in positions of authority.
How does the script address the issue of not having something to lean on when sitting or standing?
-The script acknowledges the limitation and promises to show a solution later in the video, suggesting that there is an 'always available option' for such situations.
What are the three critical things to avoid when using high-status gestures?
-The script advises to avoid bowing the head down, staying leaned in unless for empathy, and to always keep the back erect to maintain the high-status appearance.
What is the significance of the 'figure four' sitting posture?
-The 'figure four' posture, where one ankle is crossed over the opposite knee, is seen as dominant, relaxed, and youthful, indicating readiness for debate or competition. However, it's not conducive for decision-making as it's not a stable position.
How does the script relate high-status body language to success?
-The script suggests that weak body language can undermine credibility and limit success, while strong, confident body language can enhance one's image and potentially lead to more opportunities.
What is the role of internal traits according to the script?
-The script emphasizes that while high-status body language is important, it should be supplemented by internal traits such as character, integrity, and ethical behavior. True confidence comes from within and is only enhanced by external cues like body language.
What is the final tip given in the script for maintaining a high-status posture when sitting or standing without support?
-The final tip is to use the legs to push oneself up from a seated position and to sit down by placing hands on legs and flaring the elbows out, which can be done without any support.
How does the script discuss the concept of touching in body language?
-The script differentiates between touching as a sign of dominance, where a person might use it to establish control or superiority, and touching as a sign of affection or comfort.
Outlines
🪑 The Importance of High-Status Body Language When Sitting
This section highlights the concept of using body language to appear high-status, starting with the act of sitting. Confident individuals expand their bodies and take up space, which contrasts with those who feel insecure and contract themselves. The video promises to explore how to sit and stand confidently, with a focus on 'high-status' postures. The speaker introduces the idea that mastering sitting and standing confidently is a key step to exuding status, while teasing future content for later in the video.
💪 The Power of Arms Akimbo and Expansive Gestures
This section explores the 'arms akimbo' gesture, a posture frequently used by high-status individuals. It explains how this posture signifies dominance and readiness for action. The speaker connects this with observations in the gym, where people can use a partial arms akimbo stance to communicate confidence and readiness. The section also highlights how these postures are seen in day-to-day life and advises viewers to look for them in real-world settings.
🤝 Shortform Sponsorship and the Value of Knowledge
This part transitions into a sponsorship promotion for Shortform, a platform offering summaries of important books. The speaker explains how Shortform helps users gain knowledge in a productive way, using the body language book 'What Everybody is Saying' as an example. The promotion emphasizes the value of investing in self-improvement and productivity, encouraging viewers to sign up for a trial with a discount offer.
🦍 The Figure-Four Sit and Its Dominance Signals
Here, the speaker explains the 'figure-four' sitting posture, which signals dominance and readiness for debate or competition. The gesture is linked to animal behavior, particularly among primates, who use genital displays to assert dominance. However, this posture has its limitations, such as discomfort when wearing tight clothing. The figure-four stance is discussed in terms of its psychological and social implications, particularly its connection to relaxed confidence.
🧍♂️ Why High-Status Gestures Matter in Everyday Life
This section emphasizes the importance of adopting high-status body language not just for appearances but to genuinely embody confidence and authority. The speaker explains how weak body language can undermine one's credibility and success, regardless of competence. It compares high-status and low-status behaviors, noting how they affect people's perceptions and decisions in both social and business contexts. The speaker encourages viewers to balance internal confidence with external body language.
📏 How to Stand Up and Sit Down Without Support
In this part, the speaker demonstrates how to sit down and stand up confidently even when no support objects (like chairs or tables) are available. The technique focuses on flaring the elbows and using the legs to push the body upright. The speaker notes that mastering this gesture eliminates any excuse for not adopting high-status postures. Additionally, they mention that this video had to be released quickly, apologizing for the cut content and emphasizing the importance of maintaining quality.
👋 Dominance Through Touch and Future Videos
The final section discusses the use of touch as a dominance signal in both personal and professional contexts. It contrasts touches used to exert control with touches meant to convey affection or trust. The speaker teases future videos on body language, including a breakdown of submissive gestures and how to cross your legs in a way that conveys confidence. They also mention an upcoming video based on viewer interaction, where a pinned comment will determine the next content.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡High Status
💡Body Language
💡Arms of Kimbo
💡Confidence
💡Territorial Display
💡Figure Four Sitting Position
💡Steeple Gesture
💡Posture
💡Dominance
💡Genital Display
Highlights
Confident individuals expand and enlarge themselves, making them appear high-status by claiming space.
Mastering the art of sitting and standing with confidence is crucial to being perceived as high-status.
When sitting down, spreading your arms apart is a powerful high-status gesture.
A high-status sitting position includes keeping your back erect and avoiding slouching.
The arms akimbo gesture, often seen in people of authority, conveys dominance and territoriality.
The figure-four sitting posture exudes dominance and readiness for debate or competition.
High-status individuals take up more space, as shown through various body language cues like expanded posture.
The steeple gesture, which can be coupled with the figure-four sitting position, reinforces a high-status image.
Weak body language, such as slouching or avoiding eye contact, signals insecurity and can undermine one's competence.
Visual stimuli like body language and facial expressions play a significant role in how others perceive status and confidence.
True high-status behavior should be backed by genuine confidence, not just external body language cues.
Touching can be a subtle but powerful body language cue used to convey dominance or create tension.
The arms akimbo gesture can be used effectively in gym settings to show readiness for action.
To appear high-status while standing or sitting without external support, flaring the elbows and using the legs to push off is essential.
Crossing legs is not inherently bad, but the posture needs to be offset properly to maintain a confident appearance.
Transcripts
this video is sponsored by short form
more on them later by sitting like this
you're exposing your vulnerable body
parts unlike people who feel insecure
shy anxious or threatened who then
contract themselves and appear smaller
just like animals I showed earlier you
see his territorial display expanding
himself as much as possible High status
and confident people expand and enlarge
themselves they claim space they feel
comfortable doing
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it if you want to be seen as a high
status individual your entrance matters
your facial expressions your posture and
how you carry yourselves are of crucial
importance now if you think just
adopting these gestures makes you high
status you watching until the end
because I got something to say about
that but for now we're focusing on
sitting what is the first step Master
the art of sitting down and standing up
with confidence and do it the high
status way before we dive into media
examples I recorded a clip in core for
grease to show you this simple yet
powerful High status gesture the very
first thing you want to do is learn how
to sit down and how to stand back up so
here's simple way to do this when you
sit down spread your arms apart then you
you move back that's a great way to sit
down there is more recorded there so
we'll jump back to the scene so stick
around now here are some media
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examples it's an easy gestures that you
can also use to stand up although there
might be a limitation that you could
think of here's how you can use this
gesture to stand up but when you stand
back up that's when you again lean on
move forward and go on here's what you
could be thinking well what if there's
nothing to sit down on let's say you
have to go down but there is nothing
here later on in the video I'm going to
show you the go-to always available
option that you have and we'll do that
right here look around there is nothing
here to grab on to if I go to sit down
in all the examples we've covered so far
people had some kind of object to lean
on so what can you do here I'll show it
later in the video and you will never
you'll never have an excuse to not use
this gesture let's look at some other
media
examples you are an ill-made spiteful
little
creature after I cover the two other
remaining gestures I'll show you what
you can do when there is nothing to lean
off against so stick around for that
listen there are three critical things
for you to avoid when using this gesture
don't bow your head down like this keep
it up else it would look like this not
ideal second make sure you don't stay
leaned in like this unless it's because
you want to convey empathy or some other
deliberate reason three always keep your
back erect now that you've seen this
High status standing and sitting gesture
try spotting them in your own day-to-day
life and make this a staple in your own
body language however once you have set
down what do you do after this this is
my go-to my most cherished most
comfortable position put the steeple in
here if you want to or just late relax
another one the partial arms of Kimbo
it's all about expansion guys when you
sit down you can do this with the
Catapult as they call it but be very
careful with this one this one is a bit
more nuanced another one the arm drape
we've covered this in a previous body
language video
I would advise you to think very
carefully before you use that tone with
me ever
again there are many of them to do yeah
there are many of them to choose from
but let's build forth on the partial
seated arms of
Kimbo what the hell is this that's our
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charge as I mentioned in the previous
video of this series the arms of Kimbo
is a display of dominance and
territoriality similar to behavior seen
in animals I also delved into the
Dominus hierarchy of wolves in that
video just like those animals we as
human beings have multiple of these
territorial displays one of which is the
arms of Kimbo using the arms a Kimbo
make makes your appearer larger and is a
high dominance High status Q in general
High status individuals take up more
space than those of lower status hence
why we see high status individuals use
this gesture a lot like here and here
also people in positions of authority
like police and military personnel use
it often this arms a Kimbo is an easy
one to use you commented this on the
community pool where I ask you if you
had any questions regarding this video
Susan H 3818 com wanted the following
maybe body language cues on gym settings
when standing specifically or waiting
etc for standing the arms of Kimbo is an
easy one to use as for the gym I often
use a partial arms of Kimbo in between
sets it shows Readiness for action and
frankly I like how it looks this partial
arms of Kimbo gesture isn't just for the
gym here's what I challenge you to do go
out somewhere today and you'll spot it
almost everywhere before I move to one
of my favorite sitting gestures and then
the key to always be able to use the
high status sit down or high status
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shayon in this image in the back you can
see another one of my favorite sitting
gestures the figure four which is one of
my favorites especially if you couple
this with the steeple which we also
covered in the previous video that I'm
going to link in just a couple of
seconds however it has limitations for
example you cannot sit like this when
you're wearing very tight clothing or
perhaps you may have gained some weight
after the bulk that you did right so
what can you do figure four I can't
always do when it's even tighter than
this or I got fat for whatever reason
after a bulk so what do you do then FR
your legs as far apart as possible
spreading your feet apart like that is
also a double-edged sword but I'll cover
that in another video so what is the
meaning of this figure 4 men who adopt
the sitting posture are not just seen as
more dominant they also exude a Rel
relaxed and Youthful Vibe indicating a
Readiness for debate or competition it
is a genital display according to the
definite book of body language monkeys
and chimps also use genital displays
when they are being aggressive because a
good display can avoid the damage that
could be inflicted from a physical fight
with all primates the mill with the most
impressive display is seen by others as
the winner in that book is also written
that studies show people typically make
final decisions when both feet are on
the ground therefore the figure four or
isn't conducive for decision making
listen before I show you how you can
always use the high status stand up or
sit down and another important gesture
why should you even care about adopting
these high status gestures that is a
question you ask as well and the answer
is you don't have to do it at all your
life your decision it doesn't come
naturally to you because you ear High
status weak body language can undermine
your credibility and limit your success
even and this bugs me guys if you're
highly competent why is that because
weak body language signals insecurity or
lack of confidence imagine this someone
enters a room with slou shoulders avoids
eye contacts and speaks softly almost
apologetically this person might give
off an impression of insecurity or lack
of confidence contrast that with someone
who walks with your headheld high looks
you in the eye and speaks with
conviction and certainty which one of
those two are you more likely to do
business with if that is all the
information you are given whether you
like it or not as humans we rely heavily
on our senses of sight to interpret and
understand the world around us we use
shortcuts to make up our minds visual
stimuli including body language facial
expressions and overall appearance
provide immediate and often subconscious
signals that shape our perceptions
attitudes and behaviors but that's not
all I don't want you to adopt these
gestures to try to fool the world
remember this isn't just about
appearances it's about embodying TR true
confidence and genuine High status this
is not a substitute for True confidence
and attaining true High status in your
life you don't want to just portray High
status body language and be an empty
shell on the inside with nothing going
on in your life become a person of
character integrity and honor serve your
community become an ethical and
charismatic individual that is bettering
the lives of everyone around them get
your mindset routines and principles in
check keep striving for excellence and
supplement all those internal traits
with the external traits like body
language true confidence is built with
the internal work and only supplemented
with the external now let's go to what
you've been waiting for how can you
stand up the high status way when you
don't have these
seats here we have no table no chair no
armrest to use to sit down or to stand
up so what is the one way you can always
use this gesture and you will never have
an excuse again all right before I show
you that and also a very d dangerous
gesture that's probably been used
against you to establish some kind of
dominance over you by some ill-minded
people this video is not only been
recorded but also scripted and edited in
less than one and a half days because I
promis you guys this would be coming out
now my priorities in life YouTube is
still not at the top so me giving out
and pumping out these videos in less
than two weeks is for sure possible but
I'm not going to make the promise guys
and I'm sorry that I did another thing
just because people are high status it
doesn't mean that they don't show low
status Behavior I didn't go into the
nuances for a solid reason this video
had to go out very very soon I had to
cut out a lot of stuff and I don't want
to sacrifice quality in that sense and
also I appreciate your support how can
you now sit or stand up in the high
status way if you had paid close
attention to how I sat down after the
intro you would have already known the
answer
let's Replay that I took the seat elbows
flared out and leaned back if I want to
get up now I place my hands on my legs I
flare the elbows out and use my legs to
push myself away from so let me put this
mic away and you can see how it is
done and if I go sit
down that's the way we go
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to this in that video I'll also debunk a
common misconception which many many
people have and that is crossing your
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back to Corfu so to recap the partial
arms of Kimbo when you're sitting it
adds that width we spoke about
figure four standing and sitting up and
here's another very important one guys
this is the touching and there's a
difference between touching as a sign of
dominance like
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here you need to step away why shouldn't
the guy let off a little steam I want
you to notice how this touch of
dominance sets or better put adds to the
rising tension between them Ste you know
damn well why back off and touching for
example as a sign of
like that video will come soon for now I
want you to watch this video and I'm
another body language video is over here
I'll see you right there keep striving
for excellence
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