Free Yourself from Tyranny of Your Ego Ideal (Boredom, Culture)

Summary

The video explores the concept of socialization and the formation of the ego ideal, emphasizing how external influences like family, peers, and societal norms shape our values, behaviors, and identity. It critiques the ego ideal as a construct that imposes unrealistic expectations, leading to shame and self-defeat when we fall short. The speaker encourages individuals to break free from these constraints, focus on self-awareness, and embrace who they truly are, rather than conforming to societal pressures. Authenticity is positioned as the key to avoiding internal conflict and achieving personal fulfillment.

Takeaways

• 😀 We absorb and internalize values, norms, and beliefs from external socialization agents such as parents, peers, and role models.
• 🧐 Social learning theory explains that we model our behavior based on those we admire or emulate, leading to the assimilation of their values and personality traits.
• 🤔 An attribution error occurs when we mistake these external influences as part of our own identity, believing they represent our true selves.
• 😮 The ego ideal is an internalized image of who we think we should be, often unrealistic and based on societal or external expectations.
• 😓 Conflict with the ego ideal results in shame, while conflict with the superego leads to guilt. Both emotions regulate behavior.
• 🚫 The ego ideal is not inherently ours; it’s shaped by external factors such as family, society, and culture, often creating internal conflict and dissatisfaction.
• 😤 The ego ideal can be tyrannical, pushing us to meet unrealistic expectations, which can lead to failure, shame, and internal struggle.
• 🎯 To live authentically, one should focus on who they truly are rather than conforming to societal or external ideals of who they should be.
• 🔄 Instead of trying to change oneself to meet the demands of the ego ideal, it’s more effective to modify the ego ideal to reflect one's authentic self.
• 💡 Boredom can indicate that one is not living authentically. When you are true to yourself, life feels more exciting and fulfilling.

Q & A

What are the two main points made about the assimilation of values, norms, and morals?

The two main points are: 1) After assimilating these values, beliefs, and norms, individuals tend to think of them as their own, which is called an attribution error. 2) There is a confusion between what is external and internal to oneself, which is related to the initial phase of narcissism in early childhood.

Who are considered socialization agents according to the script?

Socialization agents include parental figures, influential peers, role models, teachers, and other family members.

What is the ego ideal as described in the script?

The ego ideal is a container of all the values, norms, and beliefs that an individual has absorbed from their environment. It is the self's conception of how the self wishes to be and has an idealized, unrealistic nature.

How does the ego ideal relate to the super ego?

While the ego ideal is sometimes used synonymously with the super ego, there is a distinction. The super ego is more aligned with one's conscience, and conflict with it results in guilt. In contrast, conflict with the ego ideal results in shame.

What are the potential negative outcomes of having an ego ideal that does not align with one's true self?

The potential negative outcomes include internal conflict, constant feelings of failure, shame, depression, anxiety, and a compromise of one's true values and core identity.

What advice does the author give for dealing with an ego ideal that is not aligned with one's true self?

The author advises modifying the ego ideal to align with one's true self rather than trying to change who one is to satisfy the ego ideal.

How does the ego ideal influence consumer behavior?

The ego ideal motivates individuals to acquire possessions, material objects, relationships, and status as a way to measure up to societal expectations and standards.

What is the role of boredom according to the script?

Boredom is a major indicator of inauthenticity and a sign that one is not challenging themselves or being true to their own interests and identity.

What does the author suggest doing when one's ego ideal is causing harm or pushing towards self-destructive behavior?

The author suggests cutting off the ego ideal, reframing it, and rewriting it to align with one's true self and authentic identity.

How does the script define authenticity?

Authenticity is defined as being true to oneself, resonating with one's environment, and not betraying oneself due to external pressures or expectations.

What is the significance of the ego ideal in the development of personality disorders according to the script?

The ego ideal can contribute to the development of personality disorders if it imposes unrealistic demands and expectations that lead to self-abuse, self-defeat, and self-destructive behavior.

Outlines

00:00

🔍 Understanding Socialization and the Ego Ideal

This paragraph explores how individuals absorb societal norms, values, and beliefs through agents of socialization like parents, peers, and role models. These external values are internalized, leading to a confusion between what is learned from others and one's authentic self, referred to as an attribution error. This initial phase of self-identity is tied to early childhood narcissism, and the speaker introduces the ego ideal, a set of expectations imposed by society, which influences our lives, behaviors, and relationships.

05:01

🤔 The Distinction Between the Ego Ideal and the Superego

Here, the distinction between the ego ideal and the superego is clarified. While the superego governs behavior through guilt, the ego ideal leads to shame when one diverges from their idealized self-image. This paragraph emphasizes that the ego ideal, often formed from external influences like parents or society, imposes unrealistic expectations on an individual, leading to feelings of failure and inadequacy. It highlights how societal pressures and personal aspirations create internal conflict, pushing individuals to conform to an unattainable standard.

10:03

⚖️ The Burden of the Ego Ideal and Internal Conflict

This paragraph dives deeper into the conflict created by the ego ideal. It explains how the ego ideal can motivate people but also sets them up for failure by imposing unrealistic standards. It discusses how society's consumerist nature exploits the ego ideal, driving people to acquire material possessions and status. The ego ideal creates internal tension by constantly pushing individuals to meet impossible standards, making it an internal engine of dissatisfaction and conflict.

15:07

🛑 Breaking Free from the Ego Ideal

This section advises on letting go of the unrealistic expectations imposed by the ego ideal. Instead of striving to meet societal or external expectations, individuals are encouraged to focus on who they truly are. The author recommends embracing personal limitations and being honest with oneself, rejecting societal pressures that lead to self-betrayal. This paragraph emphasizes that modifying one's ego ideal, rather than oneself, is the key to authentic living.

20:07

💡 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Acceptance

The fifth paragraph advocates for self-awareness and authenticity. It stresses that instead of changing oneself to meet external expectations, individuals should focus on who they are and what suits them. The speaker encourages self-honesty and highlights the importance of rejecting the ego ideal that imposes unrealistic standards. By accepting personal strengths and weaknesses, people can live more authentically and avoid the harmful effects of trying to conform to societal ideals.

25:11

🌍 Culture, Society, and Self-Authenticity

The sixth paragraph warns against using culture or societal norms as an excuse for self-harm or self-abuse. It argues that one must reject harmful aspects of the ego ideal and any societal pressures that lead to self-destructive behavior. The speaker emphasizes that authenticity and self-awareness are the only ways to live a fulfilling and meaningful life. They advocate for rejecting any external expectations that don’t align with one's true self.

Keywords

💡Socialization

Socialization is the process through which individuals learn and absorb the values, norms, and behaviors of their culture and society. In the video, it is emphasized that through socialization agents like parents, teachers, and peers, people assimilate external values and integrate them into their identity, often mistaking them as intrinsic to who they are.

💡Ego Ideal

The ego ideal is a person's internalized image of how they believe they should be. It contains societal values, norms, and beliefs absorbed from the environment, shaping one’s aspirations and sense of self. The video discusses how the ego ideal can become tyrannical, leading individuals to set unrealistic standards for themselves, resulting in internal conflict and shame when they fail to meet those expectations.

💡Superego

The superego is the part of the psyche that serves as a moral conscience, internalizing societal rules and causing feelings of guilt when one violates them. The video differentiates the superego from the ego ideal, explaining that the superego deals with guilt, while the ego ideal deals with shame when one's behavior diverges from their idealized self-image.

💡Attribution Error

Attribution error refers to the mistaken belief that the values, beliefs, and norms a person has adopted from society are their own. The video explains how individuals often internalize external influences and identify them as part of their core identity, which can create confusion between what is genuinely self-originated and what is socially imposed.

💡Shame

Shame is the emotional response triggered when one's behavior contradicts the ego ideal. In the video, shame is contrasted with guilt, as shame arises from failing to meet the unrealistic standards set by the ego ideal, leading to feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism.

💡Social Learning Theory

Social Learning Theory suggests that people learn behaviors, norms, and values by observing and modeling others in their environment, such as parental figures and role models. The video refers to this theory to explain how individuals absorb external behaviors and make them part of their identity through socialization.

💡Narcissism

Narcissism is characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance and a need for admiration, often driven by the ego ideal. In the video, narcissism is linked to the confusion between external values and one’s true identity, leading to the pursuit of unrealistic ideals, which can result in internal conflict and psychological harm.

💡Internal Conflict

Internal conflict arises when there is a discrepancy between a person's true self and their ego ideal. The video highlights how striving to meet the unrealistic standards of the ego ideal creates ongoing inner turmoil, as individuals are constantly comparing themselves to an idealized version of who they think they should be.

💡Consumer Society

A consumer society encourages individuals to define themselves by their acquisitions and status. The video explains that the ego ideal fuels this behavior by pushing people to compare themselves to others, leading to a constant drive for consumption and accumulation as a way to meet the idealized self-image imposed by society.

💡Authenticity

Authenticity refers to being true to oneself rather than conforming to external expectations. The video advocates for discarding the ego ideal and embracing one's authentic self, arguing that authenticity leads to fulfillment and freedom from societal pressures, as opposed to living in accordance with a constructed, unrealistic version of the self.

Highlights

In the twin processes of socialization and enculturation, we absorb and assimilate values, norms, and morals from our culture and society.

We adopt behavioral scripts from socialization agents like parental figures, peers, role models, and teachers, which is the essence of social learning theory.

An attribution error occurs when we assimilate external values, beliefs, and norms, and think of them as our own, leading to a confusion between external influences and our authentic identity.

The ego ideal is a container of values, norms, and beliefs we absorb from the environment and internalize, making it difficult to distinguish between external influences and our authentic voice.

The ego ideal pushes us to act according to socially approved norms, which is beneficial for society but may not always be beneficial for our individual well-being.

The ego ideal is an idealized, often unrealistic image of what we should be, contributing to internal conflict when we fall short of these expectations.

The ego ideal differs from the superego; guilt is the result of conflicting with the superego, while shame results from failing to meet the ego ideal.

The ego ideal can become tyrannical and cause internal conflict by imposing unrealistic standards and expectations, often leading to feelings of failure.

The ego ideal is a significant driver of ambition and acquisition in consumer society, pushing individuals to acquire status, possessions, and relationships.

The ego ideal is not inherently you but a collection of external influences; to live authentically, one must modify their ego ideal rather than trying to change themselves to fit its demands.

Boredom is a key indicator of inauthenticity; when you're authentic and true to yourself, you feel alive, and boredom disappears.

Authenticity and true self-expression can prevent mental health pathologies, as they help bridge the gap between who you are and the world around you.

Culture and society should not be used as an excuse for self-abuse or self-betrayal; rather, people should seek to be their true selves, even if it means rejecting societal norms.

Inauthenticity, driven by the ego ideal, can lead to negative outcomes like paranoia, self-destructive behavior, and self-negation.

To truly live in harmony with yourself, you must reject the unrealistic and externally imposed ideals, instead embracing who you truly are.

Being authentic is the ultimate path to self-acceptance and fulfillment, as it allows you to align your inner self with your actions and choices in life.

Transcripts

in the Twin processes of socialization

and

culturation we absorb and assimilate the

values the norms and the morals of our

culture and the society we live in we

adopt behavioral scripts but where do we

get all these from we get all these via

socialization agents

socialization agents include parental

figures influential peers Role Models

teachers other members of the family

anyone whom we can model and this is the

essence of social learning

theory there are two points to make

number one having assimilated these

values beliefs

Norms we tend to think of them as our

own this is called an attribution error

we attribute these things which have

come from the outside from other people

we appropriate them we identify with

them and we come to erroneously believe

that they represent us they are they

become the core identity our core

identity but the truth is that we absorb

all these things from the outside

they're external not internal and this

confusion between external and internal

has a lot to do with the initial phase

of narcissism in early childhood we'll

come to it in a few

minutes like everything Jewish this

video is divided in two parts first part

is tips and advice and the second part

is the academic background for these

tips and advice but who am I to give you

advice to start with my name is sakin

I'm the author of malignant self-love

narcissism Revisited I'm currently a

professor of Clinical Psychology and a

professor of business management cups in

Cambridge United Kingdom Ontario Canada

and Lagos

Nigeria and today's topic is the ego

ideal the tyranny of the ego ideal over

you over your lives over your behavior

over your choices over your decisions

and above all over your

relationships what on Earth is ego

ideal you could think of the ego ideal

is a container a container of all these

values and norms and beliefs that you

have absorbed from the environment that

you have appropriated and annexed from

other people

when you listen to your mother or father

or grandmother or grandfather or teacher

or influential peer or someone in the

media or someone in Show Business

someone you identify with someone you

admire someone you agulate someone you

wish to emulate and imitate when you

listen to these

people you tend to

absorb you tend to identify with a part

of their personality and it becomes

yours you're unable to tell the

difference between what came from the

outside and your own authentic voice is

this a good thing as far as Society is

concerned it is because it keeps you in

check it imbues you with inhibitions it

teaches you to behave appropriately in a

socially condoned

manner you become less antisocial

definitely not criminal more productive

you cooperate and collabor at you

produce and consume that's good for

society but is it good for you the

answer is less than

clear the ego ideal is the way you think

you should

be the way you think you should

become the way you think you ought to be

what you ought to be and what you should

be and what you should

become so the ego ideal is the self's

conception of how the self wishes to be

the ego ideal therefore has many

affinities with wishes with

fantasies and that's why we call it ego

ideal because it it has an idealized

unrealistic

nature the ego ideal is sometimes

synonymously used with the word super

ego but that's not entirely true

it was Freud who suggested that the ego

ideal be subsumed into the super ego but

he may have gone too

far there is a distinction between the

ego ideal and the super ego when you

behave in a way which conflicts with

your super ego you feel guilt because

your super ego is your

conscience but when you conflict when

you behave in a way which conflicts with

your ego ideal the outcome is shame not

guilt so guilt and shame the two

emotions that regulate your behavior

that dictate your choices and decisions

that provide you with internal

regulation that somehow keep you in

balance and in check and in control of

yourself and of your interpersonal

relationships and

interactions the ego

ideal the way you see yourself as a good

person is perfect is accomplished is

capable as skillful as talented as

lovable as worthy these are all elements

of the ego

ideal but the problem is when you

deviate and diverge from your view of

yourself as an ideal object when you

contradict your ego ideal when you

conflict with it when you behave in a

way which the ego ideal finds

unacceptable you're punished and you're

punished with

shame the fact is that your ego ideal is

not you it's definitely not your ego

it's someone else's ego it's your

mother's ego it's your father's ego it's

society's ego it's your teacher's ego

it's anyone's ego except for yours it's

not yours like

has dealt with it extensively in his

work as we shall see in the second part

of this video so because this ego ideal

is not yours it's an

imposition it's a

constraint it's a kind of

self-imposed self appropriated prison

it's a prison you inhabit throughout

your life for example the ego ideal

might tell you that you need to

socialize but not everyone is built to

social socialize the ego ideal might

tell you that you need to have academic

accomplishments but not everyone is

built to learn not everyone is built to

have relationships not everyone is built

to conform not everyone is built to work

hard some people are lazy I mean the ego

ideal is an engine of internal conflict

you measure yourself all the time

according to the standards and

expectations and demands of the ego IDE

and you inevitably and invariably come

short you are setting yourself up for

constant

failure and so what is the ego ideal

good for it's a source of motivation it

may even create ambition which is a

malignant form of

motivation it pushes you it pushes you

to do it pushes you to work it pushes

you to procreate it pushes you to

accomplish pushes you to accumulate

things it pushes you

ego ideal is used extensively in our

consumer

Society we compare ourselves to other

people and through this mechanism of

relative positioning we are motivated to

acquire to acquire possessions and

material objects to acquire people as if

they were Commodities to acquire

relationships to acquire status etc etc

acquisition the AC acquisitive Drive the

drive to consume is absolutely a

derivative of the ego ideal so as you

can see the ego ideal is very

tyrannical very

dictatorial if you wish to live in a way

that is authentic loyal to yourself you

need to throw off the shackles of the

ego ideal you have an image of how and

what you should be your ego

ideal and as I said your ideal ego sets

you up for failure because it imposes on

you expectations and standards and

demands that you find difficult to

meet rather than try to change who you

are in order to gratify or satisfy the

ego

ideal you would do much better to modify

your ego ideal don't change who you are

change your ego ideal rather than

attempt to motivate or incentive I or

coers other people to conform to your

unrealistic ego ideal change your ego

ideal the core advice here is do not

attempt to change your environment do

not try to change yourself instead

change the way you conceive of yourself

within your environment a way that is

highly narcissistic because it's highly

ideal highly perfect you're not perfect

you're not ideal and you're never likely

to be so so why don't you give up on

this internalized fantasy which emanated

from and came from its source was not

you but other people if you can't be

humble about your

shortcomings at least be realistic as to

your

limitations except that you cannot

control or even motivate other people

you you cannot sh change life in any

meaningful way you can you have a very

limited purview over your circumstances

the environment let alone the

future if you accept all these

limitations then you become

humble to believe otherwise is the

intoxicating manic phase of grandiosity

which is an integral part of the ego

ideal I think you should focus on who

you are rather than on who you should be

who you ought to be who you want to be

who you hope to be who you aspire to be

and who you try to be focus on who you

are you have strong suits you have

shortcomings you have possibilities and

potentials you have

limitations ask

yourself is socializing my strong suit

are relationships my strong suit

are academic accomplishments and studies

my strong point what are my strengths

and what are my weaknesses a SWAT

analysis strength

weaknesses and opportunities and threats

ask yourself of this question repeatedly

and when you discover a

discrepancy between what your ego ideal

is telling you and who you really are

choose who you really

are get rid of your ego ideal it's not

helpful exactly like the super ego it

imposes on you sometimes unrealistic

demands and expectations and it makes

you feel bad it could easily become an

internal enemy for example in the case

of pathological

narcissism always choose who you are

answer your questions with honesty

integrity and

perspicacity are you built to socialize

no I hate people don't

socialize are you built for academic

studies no I can't learn I can't focus I

don't have enough attention I'd rather

make money I'd rather be with beautiful

girls on the beach I don't want to study

don't

study relationships can you be in a

relationship no I dread intimacy I hate

proximity I need to be alone I need my

space I then don't have relationships

no one has a monopoly on how you should

behave no one has the secret code of the

universe these are all options and

potentials and it's a menu and you can

choose when you enter a restaurant you

don't choose every single item on the

menu that's preposterous and it would

set you up for failure because you would

not be able to eat everything same with

the ego ideal the ego ideal is a men of

a restaurant choose the items that cater

to your appetites your needs your urges

your desires and above all to your

essence to your quiddity to who you are

when you emphasize your relative

shortcomings rather than your relative

advantages it ends in Failure it ends in

paranoid ideation it ends in dejection

it ends in depression and anxiety why do

that to yourself

accept yourself as you are tell yourself

I am the best version of who I can be

how do I know that because I

am

ultimately we all make

choices we all make

decisions and we all become the way we

are because that's how we know best we

know no other way given the information

we have given our innate

capacities given our

limitations given our potentials this is

who we are this is what we become and

this is these are the decisions and

choices we can make no other so be

forgiving to yourself the ego ideal is

not forgiving it's harsh it's a harsh in

a Critic it's

punitive it's an internalized bed of

object in effect it's what used to be

called in psychoanalysis A Primitive

super ego get rid of it it's not helpful

it's not realistic it leads you nowhere

except to

heartbreak when you keep placing

yourself in impossible situations with

the wrong people just in order to meet

some criteria or satisfy some

expectations or realize some fantasies

this leads you to hyper vigilance this

leads you to defeat this leads you to a

compromise of your True

Values this leads you to the negation of

your core identity and ultimately to

paranoid ideation because you fully

expect failure and

Punishment one major sign if you're

authentic if you're true to yourself is

boredom if you you're bored you're not

being authentic you're not being true to

yourself you're trying to be someone

you're not you're trying to be someone

you can never be boredom is a major

indicator of mental health pathologies

such as narcissism such as psychopathy

such as borderline personality disorder

schizoid personality disorder literally

all personality disorders paranoid etc

etc bordom is a major

feature and bordom is a divorce between

your

authenticity and the world because when

you're authentic in the world you feel

alive and when you feel alive everything

around you is a

miracle your environment is a Wonder in

the making you can never be bored when

you are

yourself can never be bored when you are

yourself because there's a lot to

explore inwardly inside you and there's

even more to explore out outside you and

above all there's the exploration of the

interactions between who you are and

what the world is this is such an

infinite field of

possibilities and

eventualities and events and occurrences

that it leaves no place for

authenticity for I'm sorry for boredom

it's easy to understand imagine that I

force you to watch a movie the topic of

which is of no interest to you a movie

movie about something that you don't

care about you don't know anything about

and you never find interesting for

example imagine that you forced me to

watch a movie about sports I hate Sports

so of course I would be bored I would be

bored because watching a movie about

sports and Athletics is a betrayal of

who I am a betrayal of my authenticity

so I'm

bored but imagine that you forced me you

asked me to watch a movie about multiple

personality disorder of course I would

be

riveted I would be thrilled and excited

I would not feel boredom for a single

second why because there's a

correspondence between the world the

movie I'm watching and between who I

am so when your authentic self resonates

with the world when you are loyal to

yourself when you don't betray yourself

because of something your mother said

something your father expects or

something that Society imposes on you

when you are you and only you you know

the famous thing the truth the whole

truth and nothing but the truth you the

whole you and nothing but you when you

are this when you have sworn in the

court in your inner Court when you have

sworn to be you the whole you and

nothing but you at that point you will

never be bored again

because everything in the world around

you in your environment will resonate

with who you are and these resonances so

colorful so kaleidoscopic so

unpredictable so thrilling and so

exciting that they leave no place for

bordom bordom is a major indicator that

you're doing something wrong it's a sign

that you're not challenging yourself

enough that you don't know yourself at

all that you have no long-term plan or

vision of yourself which corresponds to

reality or that you are highly insecure

about who you are you don't trust

yourself to be able to accomplish your

goals for example you don't believe that

you could be

self-efficacious the minute you aboard

the minute you aboard you should embark

on soul searching should get to know

yourself better and then you should

throw away all the artificial and

superficial constraints restraints

demands

expectations edicts laws regulations

rules that don't apply to you be

yourself and do not use your culture or

your

Society its moral and Norms don't use

these as an excuse to abuse

yourself culture is no excuse for

abuse one's culture and one's Society in

one's period in history in one's

location and more generally one's

external circumstances are

never never excuses for the abuse of

others or for

self-abuse anyone abuses you you cut

them off don't you if your ego ideal

abuses you cut it off no contact ignore

it reframe it rewrite it tell yourself

my ego ideal tells me that I should be

married and have a family but that's not

me so I'm going to revise my ego ideal

and my new ego ideal the ego the new ego

ideal that is that is coherent and

cohesive and resonates with me in my new

ego ideal the ideal would be to live

alone and to be single because that's

who I truly

am the need for a relationship to get

married to have a family that's not me

that's my mother that's my father that's

my Society that's my culture that's not

me who am

I I am a lone wolf I'm skitso I hate

people I hate relationship I love my

space I love my time if this is who you

are modify your ego ideal make this your

IDE ideal state if on the other hand you

find that there is a correspondence

between your ego ideal and who you truly

are then of course do not revise and do

not modify the ego ideal maybe getting

married and having a family would make

you very happy because that's who you

truly are go for it pursue it accomplish

it lucky other people whose ego

ideal reflects perfectly who they are

lucky other people whose view of

themselves in the future corresponds

perfectly to their capacities and

actions in the present these are the

lucky few but in the overwhelming vast

majority of people as Jean Paul SRA and

prior to him kod had observed in the

overwhelming majority of people there is

self-

betrayal self- betrayal people sacrifice

themselves just to satisfy the

expectations of society as mediated via

parental figures teachers and Role

Models this is social learning

theory so anyone manipulates or coerces

you into doing something anyone

manipulates or coerces you into being

someone you obviously walk away you undo

what you have done you become

you but rest assure

no one can manipulate you worse than you

can manipulate

yourself no one can harm you more than

you can harm

yourself no one can coer you into

dysfunctional self-defeating

self-destructive Behavior more than you

can do you are your worst enemy but

you're also your best friend choose your

best friend over your worst

enemy sometimes your worst enemy is

society itself and its

agents not in the sense that you have to

be antisocial or of course not criminal

because to be antisocial and to be

criminal is a form of

self-destructiveness it's a form of

self-defeat actually we could have an

ego

ideal which says I am

self-sufficient I am an enemy of people

I am going to hurt people I'm going to

be abusive I'm going to ex power of the

people you could have an ego ideal Adolf

Hitler had such an ego ideal for

example

so when in your quest for

authenticity you exclude

options that harm other people and you

exclude options that lead to self harm

to self mtil mutilation to self-

negation to self-defeat and to self

destructiveness these masquerade as

authenticity they're not they're

masochistic punitive internal objects

that hate your guts and want you dead

this is known as the Primitive super ego

the internalized bad

object never use your culture or your

society as an alibi as an excuse to not

do the right thing and there is only one

right thing to do in life

how simple is it be yourself