Violent Boy EXPELLED from pre-school! | The Beck Family | FULL EPISODE
Summary
TLDRThe Beck family from Orange County, California, faces challenges with parenting their three children, including a son with ADHD and a younger child with speech difficulties. Super Nanny Joe Frost steps in to help establish discipline, improve communication, and create a safe environment. Through implementing house rules, effective timeout techniques, and encouraging speech development, the family begins to see positive changes, reducing aggression and enhancing cooperation among the children.
Takeaways
- 👨👩👧👦 The Beck family from Orange County, California, is struggling with parenting and discipline issues involving their three young children.
- 👶 Bronson, the youngest at three years old, has been expelled from preschool for aggressive behavior and has speech difficulties, which may contribute to his frustration and outbursts.
- 👦 Hunter, aged nine, has been diagnosed with ADHD, making it challenging for him to focus and complete homework, leading to tension with his parents.
- 👧 Pearson, the middle child at five years old, is described as stubborn, resisting instructions and showing reluctance to do homework.
- 🏠 The family's living situation is chaotic, with a messy home environment and children's artwork on the walls, which reflects their current state of disarray.
- 👩🏫 Nicole, the mother, is overwhelmed balancing full-time studies in fashion design, part-time work, and parenting responsibilities.
- 👨 Nate, the father, works as a home theater installer and shares parenting duties in a 'tag team' approach with Nicole, which sometimes leads to inconsistent discipline.
- ⏰ The family's discipline method, involving a 'Penalty Box' timeout area, is inconsistently applied and not effectively communicating the consequences to the children.
- 🚸 Safety concerns are highlighted, especially with Bronson's tendency to run towards traffic, indicating a need for clear boundaries and immediate action.
- 📝 The script emphasizes the importance of clear communication, patience, and consistent discipline in managing the children's behavior and addressing their individual needs.
- 🌟 The family seeks help from a professional, 'Super Nanny' Joe Frost, who provides guidance and strategies to improve their parenting and home environment.
Q & A
Where is the family in the script located?
-The family is located in Orange County, California.
What are the names and ages of the Beck family's children?
-The Beck family has three children: Hunter, who is nine; Pearson, who is five; and Bronson, who is three.
What are the occupations of Nicole and Nate Beck?
-Nicole is a full-time fashion design student and works part-time in the evenings at a local coffee house. Nate is a home theater installer.
What challenges does the Beck family face in terms of parenting?
-The Beck family faces challenges such as overwhelming responsibilities, dealing with a child diagnosed with ADHD, stubbornness in one of their children, and aggressive behavior from their youngest child, Bronson.
What is the issue with Bronson's behavior that led to his expulsion from his nursery school?
-Bronson displayed aggressive behavior towards a staff member at his nursery school, including threats to throw a small children's chair, which led to his expulsion.
How does the family's discipline approach involve the 'Penalty Box'?
-The family uses the 'Penalty Box' as a timeout area for the children when they misbehave. However, the method is inconsistent and ineffective, leading to escalation of situations rather than resolution.
What is the main concern regarding the safety of the children, especially Bronson?
-The main safety concern is Bronson's tendency to run out towards the street and near traffic, nearly getting hit by cars, which poses a significant risk.
What is the role of 'Super Nanny' in helping the Beck family?
-Super Nanny is brought in to observe the family's situation, provide guidance, and help implement new strategies for discipline, communication, and safety to improve the family dynamics and well-being.
How does the script address the issue of Hunter's ADHD and homework struggles?
-The script shows the challenges Hunter faces in focusing on homework due to his ADHD and the frustration it causes between him and his parents. Super Nanny suggests patience, clear communication, and the use of homework tips to assist Hunter.
What is the significance of the 'house rules' and 'perks' introduced by Super Nanny?
-The 'house rules' and 'perks' are introduced to establish clear expectations for behavior and to motivate the children with positive reinforcement. Following the rules earns them perks, such as going to the park or getting ice cream.
How does the script highlight the importance of effective communication with Bronson?
-The script emphasizes the importance of understanding Bronson's speech difficulties and giving him the opportunity to express himself. This helps reduce his frustration and aggression, as he feels heard and understood.
Outlines
👨👩👧👦 Family in Distress: Seeking Help
The Beck family from Orange County, California, is struggling with parenting challenges and seeks assistance. Parents Nicole and Nate, with their three children Hunter (9), Pearson (5), and Bronson (3), are depicted as overwhelmed by their daily responsibilities. Nicole is a full-time fashion design student working part-time, while Nate installs home theaters. The family faces issues with discipline, particularly with Bronson's aggression and Pearson's stubbornness. Hunter's ADHD adds to the complexity, making homework time a struggle. The family's living conditions are messy, reflecting their chaotic life, and they are desperate for help to improve their situation.
🤬 Aggression and Communication Issues
The script delves into Bronson's aggressive behavior, which includes threats and expulsion from nursery school due to his actions. His speech difficulties, characterized by slurred speech and mispronunciation, are suspected to contribute to his frustration and aggression. The family's discipline methods, including timeouts, are not effectively managing the children's behavior, leading to further tension and stress within the household.
👀 Observations and Family Dynamics
The narrative continues with an observer, possibly a 'Super Nanny' figure, who notes the family's dynamics and the children's behavioral issues. The observer highlights the parents' inconsistent disciplinary actions and the lack of effective communication with the children. The observer also points out safety concerns as Bronson repeatedly runs towards traffic, nearly getting hit by cars, which underscores the urgency of the family's situation.
🏠 Establishing Boundaries and Rules
The family is guided towards establishing house rules and 'perks' for good behavior. The observer introduces a structured approach to discipline, including a 'Penalty Box' for transgressions. The parents are encouraged to be consistent and assertive, not aggressive, when enforcing rules. The observer also addresses the importance of safety, especially with the younger children, by implementing boundaries for play areas.
🎨 Redirecting Creativity and Addressing ADHD
The script discusses strategies to redirect the children's creativity away from destructive behaviors, such as drawing on walls, by providing an artistic space. It also focuses on Hunter's ADHD and the challenges it presents during homework time. The observer provides tips for the parents to help Hunter concentrate and complete his homework, emphasizing patience and positive reinforcement.
🗣️ Improving Communication and Understanding
The family learns the importance of understanding and responding to Bronson's speech difficulties to prevent his frustration from escalating into aggression. The observer models how to interact with Bronson, using patience and clear communication to help him express himself. The parents are encouraged to spend quality time with Bronson to enhance his speech and reduce his aggressive outbursts.
🔄 Consistency and Patience in Discipline
The script emphasizes the need for the parents to be consistent and patient in their disciplinary approach. They are taught to give clear instructions to the children and to allow them time to respond before issuing warnings or penalties. The observer uses a 'hot air balloon' exercise to illustrate the importance of not overwhelming the children with repetitive commands.
👋 Progress and Continued Challenges
Despite improvements in the family's dynamic, the parents still face challenges, particularly with Bronson's speech and aggression. The observer works with the family to refine their disciplinary techniques and to encourage more effective communication with Bronson. The parents are shown how to handle conflicts between the children and to ensure that each child's voice is heard.
👋 Bittersweet Farewell and Hope for the Future
As the observer departs, the family reflects on the progress they've made and the challenges that still lie ahead. The parents express gratitude for the guidance received and a renewed sense of hope for their family's future. They acknowledge the hard work that lies ahead but are now equipped with the tools to manage their children's behavior and to foster a more harmonious home environment.
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Keywords
💡Orange County California
💡Home Theater Installer
💡Full-time Fashion Design Student
💡Tag Team Parenting
💡ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)
💡Stubbornness
💡Penalty Box
💡Super Nanny
💡Speech Difficulties
💡Safety Measures
💡Homework Tips
Highlights
The Beck family from Orange County, California, seeks help for parenting challenges with their three children.
Nicole, a full-time fashion design student and part-time barista, finds parenting overwhelming.
Nate, a home theater installer, struggles with 'tag team parenting' and discipline.
Bronson, the youngest at three, exhibits aggressive behavior and speech difficulties.
Hunter, diagnosed with ADHD, has trouble with homework and sitting still.
The family's discipline method, the 'Penalty Box', is deemed ineffective and potentially dangerous.
Super Nanny Joe Frost introduces house rules and 'perks' for good behavior.
The family implements a safety boundary using ribbon to prevent accidents near traffic.
Joe emphasizes the importance of patience and clear communication for children's development.
The family learns to give warnings before discipline and to be consistent with consequences.
Hunter's homework struggles are addressed with a focus on parental patience and support.
Bronson's speech improvement is linked to a decrease in his aggression.
The family sees a marked difference in their dynamic after implementing Joe's strategies.
Nicole and Nate express gratitude for the transformation in their family's approach to parenting.
The Beck family demonstrates improved communication and a reduction in child behavior issues.
Joe's departure prompts the family to reflect on the progress they've made and the work still ahead.
Transcripts
[Music]
[Applause]
so guys I'm in Orange County California
waiting to help a family who desperately
needs my help let's take a look hi we're
the Beck family from Orange California
I'm Nicole and I'm Nate we have three
kids Hunter who's nine Pearson who's
five and Bronson who's
three shut
up I'm a home theater installer I'm a
full-time fashion design student be good
for Daddy okay and I work part-time in
the evenings at a local coffee house
going to school fulltime and being a mom
fulltime and working all be good okay
sometimes feels just really overwhelming
for me I'll basically get home from work
and I have the kids to
myself ah I get it tag team parenting
would you like orange juice or milk
no Bronson is the most difficult child
for our family sit down please he
doesn't get his way he's looking to hit
you shout out a bad
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word look at me no no put your hand down
you don't want Pearson's biggest issue
is his stubbornness hey stop I mean stop
no if you're asking him to do something
that is not what he wants to do you want
to sit down and get it done do your
homework he will not do it ready to do
your
homework take out your homework so I can
check it 100 was 8 he was diagnosed with
uh ADHD have you done 350 it's difficult
for him to sit still and get his
homework done you only had math homework
today yeah saying that he's completed
everything for the day which isn't
always true so if I talk to your teacher
she's going to say yes I already have
hunters completed math homework so it's
been really
difficult the discipline will range from
yelling you cannot play with him you
understand Penalty Box penalty you're
going to be in Penalty Box after your
penalty our penalty box is our timeout
area you cannot cry stop yelling sit
here quietly it's not effective and it
seems to be a waste of time and really
escalate the
situation I mean I can see that they're
trying with their discipline you can sit
in there 5 minutes or we can go for 6
minutes but they're not getting it right
and that's why it's not working thank
you for sitting
down I
won't
I who I don't want to feel like oh I'd
much rather be at work than home park it
now I need to park it I'm always anxious
I'm always waiting for the next fight to
break out and it just wears me down
mentally and physically and
emotionally please come help us Super
Nanny we're at our Woods End and don't
know what else to do and who to turn to
and we really need help to save our
family okay Mom and Dad I know you're at
your wit end but if you just hang on a
little bit longer I'll be there
soon
hello Hi how are you very well please to
meet you jff frost ni Beck having Joe in
my house feels surreal I felt a little
vulnerable so what's your name B brost
hi pleased to meet you pleased to meet
you Joe Frost pi and be how you doing
Hunter after greeting the family I took
a tour around the house I saw that the
master bedroom is a true reflection of
where this family are at a messy place
is this where you sleep
yes right oh dear go got some Tiding UPS
do you oh lots of it yeah it's in like
the last room on the list who did all
the artwork on the wall there Bronson
was that some of your handiwork down
here that's Bronson's is it come and
show me your artwork what did you do
which one did you do like like there is
that pink one yours is it what about you
Hunter where's your Picasso they then
started to br about their own artwork
well I did that one with the red pen and
um yeah it was me that did the one with
the blue pen what are these parents
thinking allowing their kids to draw on
the walls and the
furniture hey the bats for hitting a
ball not your brother nobody's for
hitting the ball is ring okay as I
continued to observe this family I saw
that the younger son Bronson is quite
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aggressive I wonder if there was more to
it so I questioned mom about it he had
um a few incidences one week at school
where he was aggressive toward a staff
member and threatened to pick up like a
small children's chair and throw it and
so at that point he was asked to leave
the program how long has you been
suspended for um and definitely from
that particular preschool Bronson's
Nursery School has expelled him it's a
real shame but I know that I can help
him and then mom went on to tell me
about Bronson's speech difficulties s
like just with um a slurring sound and
he'll put the sh sound on a lot of words
just as of recently I wonder if
Bronson's aggression comes from not
being able to communicate clearly with
his parents although later on he was
very clear in his
communication you stupid ass oh you
don't talk to Mommy like that and those
words are yucky dirty words mom put
Bronson into a py box their time out and
not getting up but then he got
up
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okay super you need to
sit back and forth back and forth and
then we saw Bronson run out of the
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door
the street is right there you're not to
go this way that is not safe look at all
these cars okay he came so close to that
main road that it was
frightening quite frankly I'm not taking
No chances I'm taking my shoes off in
case I've got to run out
myself my arm let me see your arm my
stupid having Bronson call Super Nanny
and and and other SAR words I felt
mortified milk or water and just when we
thought it was over he took a break for
it again and grabbed a
scooter stop on your scooter
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now once again Bronson broke out of his
timeout and he was heading towards the
traffic but this time he was on a
scooter giving his mom a challenge to
catch up with him
you are not to come out of the house
okay you're to sit down and penalty and
have how many times is this child going
to run out of the house and are we going
to be lucky because he's not been hit by
a car I mean at that point you realize
there can't be any more time outs so I'm
actually going to make a decision here
on observation you're going to forget
about timeout with him today because
I've seen how you handle time out when
Joe had me stop putting Bronson in The
Penalty Box I felt like a failure
but let's take away this situation right
now because too dangerous far too
dangerous later on Mom sat down with
Hunter to do homework he is a boy who
has attention deficit hyperactivity
disorder so I was very interested to see
exactly how she would handle the
situation I'm asking you what's the
first question it doesn't say what does
it
need I said read me what the first
question is what do we need to find out
a first bit of information what do you
need to list first Hunter I don't know
am I acting like that with you I'm
sitting here offering help okay mom felt
like she was listening to him but he was
like I need help and she's like I'm
helping you what's it asking you to do
first not so really they weren't
achieving anything nothing productive
was being done what are we doing it's
not
it I could see that Mom's life right now
is completely exhausting for her I did
have a chance to talk to her on the
front lawn and she's paying a high
emotional price for this so you go to
school all day then you come back and
then you go to work or evening of course
there's a house to be run so who does
that right um when I'm not here um it's
my husband Nate and significantly have
you seen change in the children's
Behavior absolutely and yourself since
you took on more yes at first I thought
it would be really manageable and that I
could do it and do it well but as time's
gone on little things have started to
give it's frustrating it's I don't feel
like myself and you know with the kids
it's like it's just a lot so and
personally just that bring on mood
swings and IR ability and um that's hard
you know it's like you have to be the
best person for yourself in order to be
the best for them and like this is the
most important job I have is their mom
and right now I feel like I'm just
setting them up for failure mom's
dealing with work family school we so
many commitments she's hanging on the
edge it's not going to be long before
she ends up ping off as we finished our
talk dad arrived home this is my husband
n yeah this is hi n pleas to meet you
nice to meet you and just like millions
of other American Homes it was time for
a shift change with Mom heading off to
work dad started to get dinner
ready that yeah you know what this one
will work uh yeah but Bronson started
again well am I going to eat in the air
yeah am I going to eat in the air oh
who' you hit
yeah are we allowed to what's the rule
what's the rule is
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exactly ahe of
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time stop
talking every time Bronson opened his
mouth he had another 3 minutes another 3
minutes I mean we were watching The
Penalty Box with Bronson in it for over
45 minutes which was absurd really I
mean this is a boy who's 3 years old
should have taken 3
minutes after Bronson's time out dad was
just able to enjoy the
evening M and dad are a decent couple
they've just got some serious challenges
at the moment they've got a boy who's
got learning difficulties another one
who doesn't listen and a three-year-old
who's just been expelled from school and
they need a little bit of help it's been
great actually to watch you tonight with
the boys what I am looking for for to
tomorrow is actually sitting down and
having a family meeting I'm really
looking forward to it I'm definitely you
know anxious for you know to hear what
Joe has to say both nervousness and
[Music]
excitement I love the fact that you guys
are very enthusiastic with your family
you certainly want the best the problem
is it's all out of balance very much so
let's talk about something very pressing
and that's safety yesterday I told you
let's not do timeout right for me to say
that that's pretty big because time
out's necessary right if you know me you
know you need consequences and
discipline but when I was faced with
little Bronson running out and yesterday
he was extremely close to that Main Road
out there that was seriously dangerous
isn't an excuse but in Bronson TI he
hasn't gone that way and then you know
he'll get a smack on his bottom and I'll
tell him you cannot in a big voice you
know you cannot cross you know there a
bigger RIS it's how you're saying it you
don't have to be aggressive you have to
be assertive you have to recognize that
that's a danger zone and by no means is
that acceptable they need to be able to
listen to you but they don't and the
reason they don't is
discipline it's a bit of a muck up isn't
it discipline yes I'm here to set the
record straight of why your Penalty Box
isn't working you guys do not give your
children a warning so you never allow
them to think for themselves and to make
choices for themselves that then allow
them to be accountable for their
consequences yeah that's yeah that makes
a lot better sense the second situation
here is that when they're in the Penalty
Box if they just move an inch out of the
little square that you give them you
place them back so of course the time
escalates again and escalates again so
you guys go around in
circles to the point that you then
become inconsistent and when you're
inconsistent the message the boys get
today you may stick to your guns
tomorrow you might
not so we do need to tweak the
discipline and we'll do that with your
Penalty Box because it's there and it's
in place but we'll use it properly so
let's talk about
homework because homework is like a big
black cloud in this house it rains every
day when it comes to homework we're
dealing with Hunter who you've told me
has been diagnosed with ADHD so you know
that but you get agitated you get
frustrated he needs a mature parent
around I mean yesterday listening to you
at the table and I do help you what do
you mean I don't help you you know I
this not about that it's about what can
I do to help I'm all about getting busy
and doing some work but obviously I
can't do it by myself I need two parents
who are willing to put that work in so
do I have two guys on
board all right because you got three
children that desperately need it
definitely okay thank you very much
thank
[Music]
you first thing that this family needs
is some house rules so I'm going to
bring that in to put everybody on the
same page rules and perks what are house
rules perks are the things you're going
to get to do when you behave and you
show what good boys you are these kids
know what they shouldn't be doing but
when you don't have parents that hold
that pick it line in place they kick it
down so what could be some rules what
are some things that need to be rules
listen
Listening
Room no hitting no that's a good one
right there I like that one there's
never been really a set of rules in a
house if you can't you sit so doing that
together was really I think meaningful
for the kids what are things that you'd
love you guys would like to do go to the
park go to the park it's a great one I I
think all three boys definitely
understood that you follow all the rules
you do get a perk but I didn't get ice
cream jaob B great to get ice cream I
think that's a good idea ride and an ice
cream I think it was a good idea because
we get more
treats dad put the rules up on the wall
so everybody could see them and of
course we got a chance to test it
quickly no
no we do not hit we do not hit can you
read this for me I want you to read this
for me right here I hate the house of R
cuz I don't like listening what's the
very first one pear are we allowed to
hit we do not hit it seemed like
everybody was making good use of that
board so whilst dad went off to work I
got on with the next technique now they
now he just hit me so correct okay and
you will say to him that if he wants to
sit up there and watch what you're doing
he can okay or he can go and play
but you don't want the hitting okay if
you would like to sit on the counter
next to Mommy and Jojo and watch then
you can or you can go play Play-Doh in
the other room but Bronson had his own
agenda for us once in a while they'll
buy lunch but typically they bring their
lunch to school
do he's going through the motions with
you cuz he wants to see what you're
going to do next you give him a warning
for his behavior stop spitting at mommy
or you will go into the Penalty Box
right stand up I don't like penal what
you're going to do is to place him into
the Penalty Box okay and you're going to
tell him why he's there you're then
going to ignore him completely and
you're going to set the alarm for 3
minutes okay you're sitting in here for
hitting and spitting at Mommy and you're
going to sit down oh that voice is not
good enough oh no this is what I'm
talking about this voice you're sitting
in Penalty Box for spitting and hitting
Mommy and that's not acceptable and
you're going to sit down three minutes
and not get up ignore the profanity
don't even worry about that it's all for
reaction kids use bad language to get a
rise out of the parents so the quickest
way to eliminate that is to ignore
it he got up from that penalty box over
25
times I hate you stupid D Bron's most
challenging with timeouts because he's
continuously getting up and running in
all different directions and he can
Outlast me
yeah you're responding to his naughty
Behavior but you're not reacting to his
out burst of profanity okay it wouldn't
be the first time that I've heard
children swear at me and call me every
name under the sun and I'm sure it won't
be the last either Bronson felt very
threatened having Joe in the house and
helping me with the Penalty Box it was
challenging but she followed through and
eventually she got to the bottom of it
where he had to do his time
mommy put you in penalty time for
hitting and spitting at mommy you need
to tell Mommy you're sorry I'm
sorry I love you it was really a
challenge for me but when it was all
said and done it was a big
relief come outside when Dad got home I
wanted to discuss a very serious
situation with him and Mom me when
you've got kids running near a road you
need to look out and so I need to put
safety measures into this house every
day when you come out to play mom and
dad are going to show you where you can
go up to by using this ribbon know this
boys if you go past the ribbon you will
do time out these kids have got to
recognize that there are certain
boundaries in which they can play in so
you have to stay but anything beyond
that is going to be unsafe for them and
it's the parents responsibility to make
sure these kids understand that you're
taking ownership now of this thank you
it's going to be tough at first so let's
do this but I think it'll work out well
all right come on my side Bronson come
back over here the biggest concern I
have with Bronson is that he would be
hit by a car ready so I was really
excited to have the safety boundary
started this afternoon with the kids so
where do you guys get to play let's look
at the ribb I don't like the orange
ribbons cuz if we Pat some we go and pen
and that
dum as it works out Hunter and Pearson
were very very Cooperative but that left
Bronson
Bronson as soon as the ribbons were
placed on the trees Bronson got in his
little tricycle and went totally over
the
ribbon you're going to penalty because
you went past that marker I think he was
a little bit shocked that he was pulled
off his bike and marched into the house
for Penalty Box Bronson we just set up
those markers Bronson's going to
disrespect every new thing that's put in
place but it's also quite natural for a
child of his age to do that
com if he gets up from the dishwasher
door because that's what the Penalty Box
is you'll Place him back without talking
to him okay this was the first time that
I'd done a timeout with Dad so I wanted
to make sure that he got the steps
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right if you are going to just see if
he's still in the same space don't look
at him but just walk past him so you can
see whether he's there or not okay okay
now another thing would be being that
he's sitting there and he's he's still
talking all that just just ignore it
that's what add you in the first place
okay Bronson did his time and dad did
the final steps do you know why you're
in here I pass the ribon exactly you
passed the ribbon what do you
say kind like kiss that did a fantastic
fantastic time out and then he took
Bronson outside to try all over again
look look you see the ribbon where's the
other ribbon over there we have to stay
in between the two I think it's teaching
him that it's not a game you know this
is for his safety give me high five
let's go have
fun you know you're not listening you
could get
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killed on my second day with his family
I wanted to to address the boys drawing
all over the
walls you see this table here so I've
created this space for them to be
artistic and stop the
vandalism and then it was time for me to
move on to more important
factors next what I really want to do is
concentrate on Hunter's homework he has
ADHD attention deficit hyperactivity
disorder and it can be very challenging
for him to focus at any length of time
which creates a lot of frustration
between himself and his
parents right Hunter this is what I've
got here okay homework tips guess who
they're for no Mom and
Dad listen and be patient ask what you
can do to help lot of praise for what a
good job what do you think about those
Hunter you think Mom and Dad need
them all right HRA was so excited that
you know we had homework tips too so
whilst I went into the living room to
play with Bronson dad said down to do a
math assignment with Hunter I actually
thought it would go pretty easy
considering the tips were right in front
of him which one's higher 2.6 or
2.5 this one is higher
2.5 seven is wrong and I want you to
tell me why after redo this seven is
wrong is wrong Eight's wrong pay
attention to me please cuz this is this
is this is what you don't understand yes
I do dad was already forgetting the
first tip to be patient and he and
Hunter we getting more and more
frustrated I didn't know about that H
now you're arguing would you like to sit
in time out this is your final warning
this is your final warning this is no
I'm going to correct you're ripping my
paper no I'm not moving your paper
you're moving it I'm not moving my hand
you're trying to grab there see that's
what you did come on let's go yes let's
go let's go let me do my homework let's
go not only did Dad lose his patience
but he escalated the problem by placing
Hunter into a penalty box dad really
needs to understand how difficult it is
for Hunter because he's got ADHD and
quite frankly I think he overreacted I
do need to step back
in in this particular circumstance this
would have been about giving him space
to just call off okay cuz at this stage
you both are feeling agitated this is a
no- win situation here we want a win-win
always after our little chat in the
kitchen I saw a marked difference in dad
and a different response from Hunter let
me have you tell me what I'm supposed to
do V the homework tips definitely help
you with with a child with ADHD be
patient that's the number one thing okay
we got 2.3 and then 2.9 is the next one
now dad was concentrating on the tips it
was helping Hunter to stay focused on
his homework 3.2 3.5 and 3.5 everything
is perfect on that one right there okay
first my dad didn't listen when I was
doing my homework and then he wouldn't
be patient zero that's a zero
that's perfect I show him what to do so
then he was listening and being patient
s dude done done well done a pair of you
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seriously later on in the afternoon
Bronson started to play up again his
inability to Comm Comm unicate with his
parents to the point where they
understand him is creating these
meltdowns and really mom needs to
understand
that a
minute hold on a minute cuz he's talking
to you okay come down when he's shouting
just come down listen to him okay when
you don't understand what he's saying
just tell him say I don't understand you
I can hear you that way we can get him
to start talking more Eng him that
conversation yeah because when he feels
like he's ignored it freaks him out okay
I really wanted mom to recognize the
importance of spending time with him did
he do that and really doing all the
things that are key to his early
development this little one needs time
okay and just sitting down and having a
conversation and having him watch your
mouth I believe that a lot of Bronson's
aggression comes from the fact that his
parents don't understand what he's
saying and he gets frustrated JoJo's
t-shirt is what color wow it's red his
speech is slightly delayed his
pronunciation
is not as good as what it could be and
your t-shirt is what color blue
blue eye contact and being repetitive
with your
vocabulary that's the only way really
that we see children enhance in their
vocabulary and speech
mdal a w oh Old McDonald oh Old McDonald
you said old Old McDonald what show's
mouth old you say
old it was really interesting when Joe
and Bronson were working together that
he placed his hand over her mouth old
good boy Mac ma Donald don't
one that moment for me was was very
special oh you need to be doing this you
know you see what this young boy is
capable of doing if the parents only
just just put that time in that's that's
precious watch Jo's math three Joe made
a correlation between Bronson's
aggression and his speech development so
that's been you know a big eye opener
for us three you say three we could
understand what he was trying to say it
made me feel really good I know it did
to him too five five give me five right
on I'm going for several days I'm
leaving you guys to remember the
techniques that have been put in place
they've had me around supporting them
but this is about them supporting each
other now and doing it on their own
follow through with a penalty box
boundaries outside homework tips are a
must I think I'm most nervous um having
Joe gone with Bronson and having to deal
with him bye
Joe bye seeing Joe walk out the door was
a little bit scary and I unsure of you
know the next few
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days hi Hi how are you very well thank
you I've been away from the Beck family
now for several days I really hope that
they kept themselves on
track okay so are we ready to take a
look at this DVD think
yeah what's up
I the build
my no oh we don't hit and then say sorry
Bronson you need to come
here you're past your
boundary no that is not acceptable ever
you're going to the Penalty
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Box
let's just go back a bit when he dropped
the grapes you could actually say we
don't have to hit it's not necessary to
hit okay if you're angry because that's
happened we don't have to it okay just
apologize please okay so then he doesn't
feel like oh you're going to tell him
off what you're going to do and then he
goes off and then he runs off and then
you're having to chase him Hunter's
homework doing math first okay so we
already know what that decimal is right
so what is this decimal
1.9 okay write it down I want to keep
them a little bit more spaced apart okay
four five six yeah there you
go don't get down on yourself okay it
was a mistake it's
fine and the man we Hunter was
who was that you it was it was it was
seriously when you decided I'm going to
read and take in those tips look at the
difference we go through them every
every day I'll you know we set those
rules up there and Hunter brings them to
the table materal and he sets it right
up where we sit I just kind of go
through them every time I he's like Dad
I need you to read these and stick to
them because that's how you help me
right yeah beautiful see Bronson's
speech one say it one and then
two
three what is this a fork fork good job
what is this a spon spoon
what color is this one yellow yellow no
dude oh here's some tricky ones doing
well going to well I love it so good to
see good what was different about
yourself when doing speech with Bronson
well I took the the time to you know
uninterrupted with patience you didn't
get angry with him you can't teach that
way and so you were more composed your
whole attitude was very very different
wonderful piece of footage it really
is those are couch pillows and they
don't BL on Mommy's bed out of my room
and get the pillows off put these on the
couch you can do that off the bed put
these back on the couch Pearson you can
come here and put these back on the
couch like I asked you need to put those
pillows back on the
couch pillows okay I asked you to put
them back on the couch got you need to
put those pill I this is your
warning you we need to put the pillars
back on the
couch okay so you're asking py to put
the pillars on the couch you're giving
these kids instruction to do certain
things you're not giving them a chance
to do it okay couple of times you ask
step back and then comes the warning and
okay there are things that we do need to
knuckle down and do this afternoon mom
needs more work on clearly giving these
kids instruction rather than snapping
commands and certainly Bronson needs
help with learning to talk more so that
he doesn't become so aggressive they're
not out the woods
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yet there's a section on the DVD that
shows mom repetitively asking the
children to do the same thing over and
over again put these on the couch put
these back on the couch put those
pillows back on the couch she doesn't
actually leave any time for them to get
the job done no more hot air good so
today I went in with an exercise shaped
like a hot air balloon to show her that
enough of that now say whatever it is
that you need okay walk away now the
chance to be able to do it if you see
it's not done then put technique in play
If the child decides to ignore Mom then
she can give a warning and ultimately a
discipline if necessary if you have to
repeat yourself know that it's more
Direction and if it's where you need to
put a technique in play trust me it'll
probably be a warning right I didn't
realize how often I ask the kids to do
something and that the kids aren't even
listening at all no more 8 n 10 times
right so thought there's a lot of
changes need to be made on my part to
ensure that you know they actually
listen actively you need to take your
cup and your spoon over there and take
it to the kitchen sink and put it in the
room for me please when you do step back
you basically give your kids a chance to
do what they've been asked I'd like for
you to go in the kitchen and put the
step stool over by the dryer for me
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please hey Bronson you need to put this
in the kitchen on the table for me cuz I
need to clean it later no it was going
pretty smoothly until Bronson decided to
reell I got it Pearson stepped in to
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help okay so take it back out again and
I needed to remind mom who she'd ask to
help Bronson Mommy asked you to put this
in the kitchen so that I could clean it
this is your warning I'm going to just
make it like my Mantra say walk away and
put the technique and play I'm looking
forward to just keeping that in mind and
making a lot of progress high five good
job I love
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you I can't hear you when you're
shouting I can't understand you when
you're
shouting fine sure I can help you stand
at pippy fine okay a lot of Bronson's
aggression comes from from his inability
to communicate clearly and when Bronson
and Pearson started to fight over the
drinking cups I got a chance to show Mom
and Dad how to deal with
that whoa whoa whoa whoa who whoa what's
going on I I got blue and then he just
takes it who got him out me now ask
Bronson what happened Bronson what
happened can use words got him out I got
him out you got him out and then you're
telling me you got him out huh are you
sure you got them out I Bron go them out
I say I want blue then he takes blue
what's normally the rule on who gets him
out they get a pick look at the
difference Pierce would have been the
first to talk and you'd have been all
ears and nobody would have given Bronson
a chance because you know what Bronson
w't really talking much and we just
thought well we'll leave him there we
won't even ask see now you're giving
Bronson a chance to talk and so there's
not this anger and you hear both sides
which is what you're supposed to be
doing there you go with Bronson has
shown improvement with his anger and
aggression and really with his verbal
communication he can talk things through
and he doesn't have to always you know
feel like he has to hit somebody or
throw something or have this big
meltdown I told you it's time to come in
so we're going to come go inside or
you're going to go into the timeout
Bronson may still act out every now and
then but if he continues to communicate
clearly Bronson's going to be more
receptive to discipline and his parents
got a good chance to see that I put you
in penalty because you went outside your
your area where you allowed to go your
visual boundaries you're now going to be
in here for 3
minutes Bronson got up once which is
absolutely brilliant I mean we have seen
Bronson get up so many times I've lost
count so to see him go back once and
then actually do his time was a big deal
today I put you in the Penalty Box
because you went outside your visual
boundary and I told you to come inside
and you continue to run off when we
first started the our timeouts of Joe
there last you know upwards of 40
minutes and to have you know today's
timeout you know be under 6 minutes it's
awesome tell Daddy you're sorry now give
me some kisses and hugs with the
improvements that I've seen with Bronson
I look forward to the next few months
really getting him prepared and his
aggression under control so that when
fall rolls around he'll be ready to go
into a preschool that's a great fit for
him and he can really shine there as
well as he's going to do at home
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come over here cuz Jud wants to give you
all a big hug because I'm going home now
a the Beck family have an older child
who's got ADHD a younger child who
certainly had delay speech development
I'd like to give you one too and also a
middle child who just wasn't doing as he
was told Nicole and Nate worked
extremely hard and look what we've seen
in a short space of time there been no
picnic as it but look at the results
right let's face it I can see that it's
going to work out and we're going to do
it and have the life that we want to
have as a family when you're not
frustrated we see a whole different
night I'm definitely not the dad that
dreads coming home from work anymore I'm
you know the dad that's going to be
looking forward to coming home is this a
present for Jojo yes thank you so much
thank you so much for everything before
Joe came I was at the end of my rope I
didn't feel comfortable being really a
mom at that point you very much care
mate Joe's giv us so much and it's
almost like a piece of your family's
leaving Bo say bye byebye thank you Joe
for helping
us I
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love
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