How to Manipulate the Narcissist

Summary

The video script 'Malignancy Flower Narcissism Revisited' by Sun Bikini explores three manipulative strategies towards narcissists: withholding narcissistic supply, positioning oneself as a reliable source to foster dependence, and supporting their grandiose fantasies. It highlights the irony that narcissists, despite appearing shrewd, are gullible due to their false self and reality. The script delves into their vulnerability to magical thinking, reckless behavior, and susceptibility to scams, as well as their reaction to abuse, which includes denial, rage, and eventual acceptance, often without self-awareness or empathy.

Takeaways

• 😶 Narcissists can be manipulated through three main techniques: withholding narcissistic supply, becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply, and supporting their grandiose fantasies.
• 🔒 Withholding narcissistic supply involves not giving the narcissist the attention they crave until they are willing to meet certain conditions, thus gaining leverage over them.
• 🌟 Becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply means consistently providing the narcissist with the admiration and validation they need, which can lead to their dependence on the provider.
• 🎭 Supporting a narcissist's grandiose fantasy involves playing along with their inflated sense of self-importance, making them more amenable to the manipulator's wishes.
• 🤔 Despite their outward appearance of being shrewd and cunning, narcissists are actually more gullible than the average person due to their tendency towards magical thinking and a false sense of self.
• 🚫 Narcissists often consider themselves beyond the consequences of their actions, leading to reckless behavior and a susceptibility to scams and risky ventures.
• 💰 Narcissists feel entitled to wealth, power, and honors, often without the accomplishments or contributions to justify such entitlements.
• 😡 The lack of empathy and interpersonal skills in narcissists can provoke anger, resentment, and even hatred in others, leading to a higher likelihood of attracting abuse.
• 🔮 Narcissists' grandiosity and paranoia can be exploited to deceive and manipulate them, as they are prone to trust those who affirm their inflated self-image and delusions.
• 😤 When faced with abuse, narcissists experience trauma similar to other victims, going through stages of denial, helplessness, rage, and depression, but their reactions are amplified by their shattered sense of omnipotence.
• 😖 The narcissist's inability to acknowledge their own faults or the need for help, due to their self-image as infallible and superior, can exacerbate the effects of abuse and lead to further psychological distress.

Q & A

What are the three ways to manipulate a narcissist as mentioned in the script?

The three ways to manipulate a narcissist are: 1) Withholding narcissistic supply until they beg for more, 2) Constituting oneself as a reliable source of high-grade supply to foster the narcissist's dependence, and 3) Actively participating in buttressing the narcissist's grandiose fantasy to make them amenable to your wishes.

Why are narcissists considered more gullible than the average person?

Narcissists are considered more gullible because their self and reality are based on a false narrative. They live in a fantasy where they are the center of the universe, admired and respected, which makes them prone to magical thinking and easily persuaded.

How do narcissists perceive themselves in relation to the consequences of their actions?

Narcissists often consider themselves beyond punishment and the laws of man due to their grandiosity and magical thinking. They do not see themselves as being subject to the consequences of their actions or inaction.

What kind of behavior is a narcissist likely to exhibit when they feel entitled?

Narcissists who feel entitled may exhibit reckless behavior, assume risks, and expect miracles. They often find themselves on the receiving end of scams due to their belief in easy success and entitlement.

How do narcissists react when they are penalized for their misconduct?

Narcissists are rudely shocked when penalized for their misconduct because they believe they are entitled to a trouble-free, exalted, luxurious existence. They struggle with the reality that their actions have consequences.

What are the typical characteristics of a successful narcissist?

Successful narcissists are often targeted by stalkers and erotomaniacs, usually mentally unstable people who develop a fixation on them. They may also attract abuse due to their grandiosity and lack of empathy.

How do less prominent or less successful narcissists typically end up in relationships?

Less prominent or less successful narcissists often end up sharing life with codependents and with inverted narcissists, exacerbating their narcissistic tendencies.

What is the typical reaction of a narcissist when they find themselves on the receiving end of abuse?

A narcissist, when abused, goes through phases of denial, helplessness, rage, depression, and finally acceptance. Abuse breeds humiliation, which is a novel experience for them, leading to a shattered sense of omnipotence.

How do narcissists handle the emotional strain caused by conflicting needs during abuse?

Narcissists struggle to handle the emotional strain caused by conflicting needs during abuse. They try to preserve the integrity of their grandiose false self while seeking support, which can lead to acting out, temper tantrums, and loss of control.

What are the typical defense mechanisms used by narcissists and how do they fail in the face of determined abuse?

Narcissists typically use defense mechanisms such as idealization and devaluation, exploitation, and manipulation. However, these are useless when confronted with a determined, vindictive, or delusional stalker, as they cannot come to terms with their need for help or admit any faults.

Why is empathy largely absent in narcissists, even when they are victims of abuse?

Empathy is largely absent in narcissists because their self-image as infallible and superior prevents them from admitting any shortfalls, mistakes, or needs. This self-image also hinders their ability to feel remorse or develop self-awareness, even when they are victims of abuse.