It’s actually pretty easy to get girls
Summary
TLDRThis video script delves into the psychology of attraction, debunking common myths about needing a strong body, money, or seduction techniques. It emphasizes the importance of mindset over superficial traits, asserting that genuine confidence and self-assurance are key to attracting women. The speaker shares insights on avoiding approval-seeking behaviors and not settling for less than one desires in a partner. The message is clear: value yourself highly, maintain your principles, and understand that there's an abundance of potential partners out there.
Takeaways
- 🧠 Attraction is a state of mind, not dependent on physical attributes or wealth.
- 🌟 Women judge men based on the feelings they project, not their appearance or money.
- 😌 Confidence and a relaxed demeanor are more attractive than trying too hard to impress.
- 🙅♂️ Avoid pandering to a woman's every whim; it can signal a lack of self-worth.
- 🤔 Don't seek validation from women; it can be a sign of low self-esteem and deter attraction.
- 🚫 Don't modify your behavior to align with a woman's preferences out of fear of rejection.
- 🤷♂️ Embrace rejection as a normal part of dating and don't let it affect your self-worth.
- 💡 Be indifferent to the outcome of interactions to maintain a sense of mystery and intrigue.
- 👑 Maintain high standards and don't settle for less than what you truly desire in a partner.
- 🔄 Show interest and then disinterest to provoke a strong emotional reaction and curiosity.
- 🛡 A high-value man stands by his principles and doesn't compromise them for a relationship.
Q & A
What is the main message of the video regarding attracting women?
-The main message is that attracting women is about forgetting superficial tips and returning to basic principles of attraction, focusing on mindset and genuine self-confidence rather than physical appearance or wealth.
What does the video suggest is the most important factor in attracting women?
-The video suggests that the most important factor is the state of mind, as what is in your mind will reflect in your actions and affect how women perceive you.
Why do some men fail to attract women despite trying hard?
-Some men fail because they seek validation and approval from women, which can come off as desperate and unattractive, rather than being confident and self-assured.
What is the 'character of the day' described in the video?
-The 'character of the day' is a man who tries to win a girl over by pandering to her every whim, which is seen as a sign of inner inadequacy and can be unappealing.
How does the video suggest men should approach women instead of trying to impress them?
-The video suggests that men should approach women without trying to impress them, by being themselves and not seeking approval, which can pique a woman's interest due to its unexpected nature.
What is the psychological effect on a woman when a man does not seek her approval?
-When a man does not seek a woman's approval, it can make her curious and intrigued, as she is not used to such behavior and may start to strive for his attention and validation.
Why should men not modify their behavior or lifestyle to align with a woman's preferences?
-Men should not modify their behavior or lifestyle because it sends a message that they view the woman as higher value and need to change to match that value, which can lead to a loss of self-respect and authenticity.
What is the difference between a man who seeks approval and a man who does not, according to the video?
-A man who seeks approval is often unsure and engages in actions to avert potential rejection, while a man who does not seek approval is indifferent to the outcome and focuses on enjoying the interaction, which is more attractive.
How does the video define a 'high value man' in the context of dating?
-A 'high value man' is defined as someone who does not compromise his principles, is not overly concerned with others' opinions, and understands that there is an abundance of opportunities and does not fixate on one woman.
What should a man do if a woman he is interested in rejects him, according to the video?
-If a woman rejects him, a man should understand that rejection is a part of the dating landscape and not be perturbed by it. He should remain confident in his worth and be open to other opportunities.
Why is it important for a man to not settle for less when it comes to choosing a partner?
-It is important because settling for less can lead to dissatisfaction and a lack of fulfillment in the relationship. A man should have high standards and choose a partner that he truly wants to be with.
Outlines
🧠 Overcoming Insecurities in Attraction
The first paragraph emphasizes the misconceptions about attracting women, such as the need for physical strength, wealth, or seduction skills. It argues that these are not prerequisites for healthy relationships. The speaker shares a personal experience from university, where failure led to enlightenment through a book that changed his approach to attraction. The key takeaway is that a positive mindset and genuine self-confidence are more important than superficial tactics. Women are attracted to men who are not desperate for validation and who exude a sense of self-assuredness.
🤔 The Pitfalls of Seeking Validation
This paragraph delves into the psychology behind seeking validation from women and how it can be detrimental to forming genuine connections. It describes the behavior of men who try too hard to impress women, often out of a sense of inadequacy. The speaker contrasts two scenarios to illustrate the difference between trying too hard and being indifferent to the outcome. The focus is on not modifying one's behavior to win approval but rather being authentic and self-assured. The paragraph concludes with the idea that men who do not seek validation are more likely to attract women naturally.
💡 The Art of Nonchalance in Dating
The third paragraph discusses the importance of being indifferent to the outcome of dating interactions. It uses the analogy of ordering soup in a restaurant to illustrate the point of not settling for less than what one truly wants. The speaker advises against changing one's behavior or lifestyle to suit a woman's preferences, emphasizing the need to maintain one's principles and standards. The paragraph highlights the value of being a 'high value man' who is not overly concerned with others' opinions and who understands the abundance of opportunities available, rather than fixating on a single person.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Attraction
💡Seduction
💡Confidence
💡Validation
💡Pandering
💡Indifference
💡Principles
💡Settling
💡Scarcity vs. Abundance
💡High Value Man
Highlights
Attracting women is easier than commonly believed and doesn't require superficial tips.
Success with women is a state of mind, reflecting in one's actions and feelings.
Women judge men based on the feelings circulating inside them, not just looks or wealth.
Confidence and a calm approach are more attractive than nervousness or desperation.
Avoid pandering to a woman's every whim to win her over; it can signal a sense of inadequacy.
The best way to impress a woman is often by not trying to impress her at all.
Seeking validation from women can indicate low self-esteem and deter attraction.
Men who attract women effortlessly do not seek approval and are indifferent to the outcome.
Rejection is a normal part of dating and should not be a source of distress.
Avoid placing a woman on a pedestal based solely on her physical attractiveness.
A high-value man does not compromise his principles, even in the face of potential rejection.
Men should not settle for less than their ideal partner but instead seek the best match.
A high-value man is not overly concerned with others' opinions and follows his own path.
Showing interest and then disinterest can provoke a strong emotional reaction from a woman.
Do not change your behavior or lifestyle to align with a woman's preferences.
A high-value man sees abundance, not scarcity, when it comes to potential partners.
The psychological playbook for dating involves a mindset shift, not just advice.
Transcripts
if you search for how to make a girl
like you you'll find some people say you
need to have a strong body others say
you need money and some say you need to
learn seduction but when we look at
reality most people who enter healthy
relationships and attract girls don't
have any of these things this is because
attracting women is very easy and easier
than you think all you need to do is
forget all those superficial tips and
return to the basic principles of
Attraction I will walk you through step
by step and explain everything you need
to know to make any go no matter who she
is like you and desire
you when I was in university like any
other guy I tried my best to make girls
like me and get their attention however
all my attempts ended in failure until a
friend gave me a book I finished it in a
week and when I did it felt like a fog
had lifted from my eyes believe me
attracting women is incredibly easy all
you need to do is learn this formula and
apply it please listen to me carefully
because I'm going to change your life by
the way if this video reaches 1K likes I
will put the name of the book in the
first
comment success with women is a state of
mind and nothing else because what is in
your mind will reflect in your actions
which is why when a great majority of
men don't even feel they deserve the
company of an attractive woman they
don't get any the most important
statement you must remember is she feels
what you feel women will never judge
judge you based on your looks words or
even how much money you have they will
always judge you based on what sort of
feelings are circulating inside of you
what you feel will reflect on your
personality and this is the reason why
when you are nervous you have a very
high chance of being rejected because
the girl senses that you aren't
confident enough around her but at the
same time if you were to make your
approach seeming very confident calm and
relaxed she will respond to you more
positively consequentially you have to
demonstrate that you consider yourself
as a man who women naturally desire our
character of the day is the chap who
tries to win a girl over by pandering to
her every whim don't put a girl on a
pedestal as though she's your future
spouse if you catch yourself saying
things you shouldn't or going out of
your way to make an impression you're
probably trying to mask an inner sense
of inadequacy it's this hidden
deficiency that makes you pull out all
the stops to impress the girl the best
way to wow a girl is actually by not
trying to wow her when you're making a
song and dance about getting her
attention she's not going to be
impressed the moment you stop seeking
her approval that's when she'll
genuinely be wowed why you wonder it's
because she's seen so many men trying to
woo her that when someone doesn't it
gets her attention consider these two
instances situation one guy hi can I get
you a drink go I'm good thanks Guy
speechless situation two guy hey what's
the best drink here go it's the XYZ guy
great fancy buying me one spot the
difference the second approach gets a
stronger reaction because it's not a
clear-cut pick pickup attempt the guy
isn't trying to win her over most women
are so used to men trying to impress
them that when they come across
something unexpected it Peaks their
interest the Quest for validation is
deeply rooted in our self-perception and
self-esteem it's a story unfolding in
your mind revolving around how you
perceive yourself men who constantly
seek approval often struggle with low
self-esteem surrendering their own power
in exchange for acceptance or validation
from women this implies an underlying
fear of losing the girl even before the
dialogue has initiated as a result they
engage in any action that might avert
potential rejection such a man is often
unsure about the appropriateness of his
actions prompting him to seek validation
from the woman merely to confirm he's on
the right path in essence here's the
mental Journey an approval Seeker takes
upon seeing an attractive woman a strong
interest in her ensues she's strikingly
beautiful I hope everything unfolds well
this mindset leads him to try too hard
sacrificing his own power for a smidgen
of approval but what impact does this
have on the woman here's a glimpse into
her thoughts gosh he's really pulling
out all the stops to get my attention
yet he's unexciting when will this night
be over the instant a woman senses
you're craving her approval she could
lose interest almost immediately bear in
mind that attraction isn't a switch she
can consciously flip the desperate need
for approval is a major attraction
deterrent as long as you're seeking her
approval she's unlikely to exhibit
genuine interest in you
men who effortlessly attract women do
not tie themselves to the outcome
picture this you approach a woman and
get rejected or even Graver you get
rejected in front of your bodies how
would that make you feel for many
there's nothing more devastating than
facing rejection however those who excel
at attracting women grasp that rejection
is insignificant it's merely a component
of the dating landscape and they aren't
perturbed by the woman's reaction their
primary concern is to enjoy the
experience and nothing more consider
these two scenarios hello how are you
girl go away jerk guy oh I'm sorry and
leaves guy hello how are you girl go
away jerk guy ouch seems like a rough
day for you my mom warned me about Angry
Birds I'm scared goodbye now who do you
think had a better time no competition
there when you're indifferent to the
outcome you don't fret about the girl's
response your focus remains on how to
make the most out of every
interaction one tendency among men that
irks me is the propensity to lose all
sense of control at the sight of an
attractive woman I fail to understand
why a woman should be awarded extra
points merely for her looks physical
attractiveness is something she didn't
necessarily work for so why Place her on
a Divine pedestal when you start
behaving on usually jittery around an
attractive woman you're bound to fumble
and ruin things however if you avoid
doing out extra nicity solely based on
her looks an intriguing phenomenon
occurs for example Envision a scenario
where a man is engaging in a
conversation with a stunning woman man
my buddy believes it's hard to come
across smart women woman why does he
think so man well I share the same
belief I mean beauty is pretty
commonplace nowadays but most beautiful
women don't quite cut it in the
intelligence Department how does the
woman process this she's unaccustomed to
such reactions her thoughts might go
like wait is he insinuating that I'm not
attractive enough for him what's with
the smart women are hard to find remark
am I projecting myself as dimwitted and
just like that she begins to see your
validation since you didn't readily hand
it over like the average guy would
around an attractive woman now she'll
strive to prove her worth to you because
indirectly she's been led to believe
that she might not measure up this
immediately categorizes you as that
different and unique guy a woman would
be genuinely interested in essentially
it's about understanding that no matter
how strikingly beautiful a woman is with
the right approach to attraction any
woman can be captivated imagine you're a
man who knows how to attract women
you're not rushing to get married
instead you choose the women you date
rather than accepting whoever comes
along imagine this situation you're at a
restaurant and you order chicken soup
the waiter says sorry we don't have
chicken soup today you ask for vegetable
soup instead but they don't have that
either you ask what do you have then the
waiter replies we only have tomato soup
you settle and order the tomato soup do
you see what happened there you wanted
chicken soup but settle for tomato
because it's what was available what you
should have done was look for another
restaurant that that has what you really
want a lot of guys do the same thing
with women they have an idea of the
perfect woman they'd like to be with but
when they face reality and see that
their ideal woman seems unattainable
they start to settle a guy who really
understands attraction never settles he
always goes for the best and chooses the
kind of women he truly wants to date he
doesn't just accept any woman he has
high standards and sticks to them a man
of value puts his principles above all
else even the woman he's with he's not
afraid to step back if his principles
are being violated let's say you're
having a heated discussion with your
girlfriend and she threatens to leave
you what do you do the average guy would
immediately apologize worried that he's
upset her he might even do things he
doesn't want to or agree to things he
actually disagrees with just to prevent
her from leaving him but a high value
man reacts differently the woman says
I'm going to leave you his response it
seems we're not really compatible anyway
Charlie might be a better match for you
then he calmly walks away a high value
man won't compromise his principles he
knows there are plenty of other options
out there he's confident in his worth
and is not afraid to stand alone we
often Overlook the things that come too
easily to us there's a significant
difference in the worth we attach to
things we're given effortlessly and
things we strive hard to obtain the same
principle applies to relationships women
tend to Value men they have to put
effort into understanding when you don't
react like the average man would she
starts to think there must be something
special about you that's why it's
crucial to learn how to make a woman
strive for your attention don't be an
open book she can read in one go one
strategy involves showing interest and
then quickly showing disinterest for
example an average man might simply
compliment her hey you're really pretty
he'd then wait for her reaction and
she'd probably see him as just another
guy but a high value man might say
something like you're pretty sure but
I'm not convinced we get along you seem
like too much of a goody two shoes for
me can you see the difference the second
statement will provoke a strong
emotional reaction she will be left
wondering he said I'm pretty but why
doesn't he think we'd get along this guy
is different I need to find out more
about him so when a woman has to work
for your attention she becomes
incredibly curious about you because
you're not afraid to challenge her a
common mistake many men make is to
modify their behavior or lifestyle to
align with the preferences of the woman
there with this usually stems from the
fear of not meeting her expectations
adapting to a woman's preferences can be
likened to a dead fish in the Stream you
have no control over where you're going
and ultimately when decides to end
things you're left with no control At
All by reshaping your life to suit hers
you're sending a message that you view
her as higher value and you need to
change to match that value ultimately
you shouldn't alter who you are just to
make a woman feel at ease the truth is
simple if she doesn't appreciate certain
aspects about you she doesn't deserve
you if she can't accept you as you are
then she's the one who needs to change
you don't need to change anything to
cater to her needs but if she wants to
be with you she definitely needs to
adapt to your reality remember a high
value man isn't overly concerned with
other people's opinions or judgments he
shapes his own reality and follows his
own course a high value man understands
that there's no shortage of attractive
women out there he doesn't fixate on one
woman putting all his hopes in her if
one woman rejects him he knows that
there are plenty of other opportunities
he sees the abundance not scarcity when
it comes to women and there you have it
the untold psychological Playbook to
level up your dat game this isn't just
advice it's a mindset shift as always
remember to put these strategies into
action because Theory without practice
is futile this is the dark needle thanks
for watching and don't forget to
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you in the next one
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