How To Develop Self-Awareness

Dan Lok
30 May 201906:22

Summary

TLDRThe video emphasizes the importance of self-awareness for personal and professional growth. It outlines two primary methods for developing self-awareness: experiencing hardships to reveal one's true nature and seeking guidance from mentors for clarity and direction. The speaker shares personal anecdotes and insights, stressing that understanding one's strengths, weaknesses, and passions is crucial for unlocking potential and achieving success in any endeavor.

Takeaways

  • 🧠 Developing self-awareness is essential for success and personal growth.
  • 🔄 Self-awareness helps answer questions about career paths, business choices, and personal direction.
  • 🎯 There are two main ways to develop self-awareness: through hardship and mentorship.
  • đŸ’Ș Hardship and stress reveal your true self and allow you to learn about your strengths and weaknesses.
  • 🔍 Knowing your strengths, weaknesses, and passions is key to understanding yourself better.
  • âšœ Trying different things, like sports or career paths, helps you identify what you are good at.
  • 👂 Listening to others' advice might not work for you; it's crucial to find your own path through self-awareness.
  • đŸ‘šâ€đŸ« Mentors provide clarity and direction, helping develop self-awareness faster.
  • đŸ—ïž Self-awareness unlocks your potential and breaks down barriers holding you back.
  • 📚 Self-awareness is a foundation for success, enabling growth in any business or personal venture.

Q & A

  • What is the main reason people ask questions like 'What business should I invest in?' or 'Am I on the right path?'

    -These types of questions stem from a lack of self-awareness. People are unsure of their strengths, weaknesses, and personal inclinations, which leads them to seek external validation or guidance.

  • How does experiencing hardships help in developing self-awareness?

    -Hardships and struggles reveal a person's true character. When under stress, individuals are forced to confront their personality, strengths, and weaknesses, helping them understand who they really are.

  • Why is trying different things important for self-awareness?

    -By trying a variety of experiences, you gain insights into your strengths, weaknesses, and passions. Just as you wouldn't know which sport you're good at without trying several, you can't know the right career path without exploring various options.

  • How does knowing yourself help in making career or business decisions?

    -When you have self-awareness, you understand your capabilities and limitations. This helps you make informed decisions about which career or business aligns with your strengths and passions, rather than just following advice that might not suit you.

  • What role do mentors play in developing self-awareness?

    -Mentors provide guidance and clarity, helping individuals reflect on their actions and choices. Over time, this reflection leads to greater self-awareness and a deeper understanding of one's path.

  • How does self-awareness impact personal and professional success?

    -Self-awareness acts as a foundation for success, enabling you to leverage your strengths, overcome weaknesses, and make better decisions. It also helps in personal growth by identifying what's holding you back and breaking through those barriers.

  • What does the speaker mean by 'internal communication' in the context of self-awareness?

    -Internal communication refers to the process of reflecting on your thoughts, actions, and behaviors. It involves asking yourself meaningful questions and honestly assessing your motivations and emotions, which leads to self-awareness.

  • How does the 'High Ticket Closer Program' emphasize self-awareness?

    -The program spends the first three weeks focusing on self-awareness. The speaker believes that understanding oneself is crucial for success in closing deals, as it helps individuals identify and overcome the internal barriers that hold them back.

  • Why does the speaker argue that self-awareness is more important than just following advice?

    -The speaker emphasizes that just because a strategy works for someone else doesn't mean it will work for you. Self-awareness helps you recognize whether a given approach aligns with your strengths and personality, leading to better outcomes.

  • How does self-awareness create a solid foundation for future growth?

    -Self-awareness helps you understand your core strengths, passions, and values. Once you have this foundation, you can confidently build on it, applying your understanding to any career or business pursuit, ensuring long-term success.

Outlines

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đŸ€” Developing Self-Awareness Through Experience and Guidance

In this segment, the speaker explores the importance of self-awareness as a foundation for personal and professional growth. They observe that many questions people ask, especially about business or career direction, stem from a lack of self-awareness. The speaker suggests two key ways to develop self-awareness: through hardships and experience, and by reflecting on one’s strengths, weaknesses, and passions. The analogy of playing sports highlights that without trying different things, one can’t know their true potential. Furthermore, the speaker emphasizes the role of mentors in providing guidance and clarity, which aids in the development of self-awareness. Ultimately, self-awareness leads to better decision-making and personal growth.

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💡 The Power of Self-Awareness in Personal and Professional Success

This section focuses on the broader importance of self-awareness as a tool for success, regardless of the field. The speaker contrasts mere technical skills with the deeper understanding that self-awareness brings, which is key to unlocking one’s full potential. They argue that this understanding is the foundation upon which all other skills are built. By developing self-awareness, individuals gain clarity about their strengths, weaknesses, and the best career paths for them. The speaker encourages listeners to explore more about this self-awareness journey and how it can transform not only one’s business endeavors but also life in general.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Self-awareness

Self-awareness refers to the understanding and recognition of one's own personality, strengths, weaknesses, emotions, and motivations. In the video, this is the central theme, as the speaker emphasizes that most personal and career-related questions arise from a lack of self-awareness. The speaker suggests that self-awareness can be developed through hardship and mentorship, allowing individuals to align their actions with their true selves.

💡Hardships

Hardships represent challenging life experiences that help reveal one's true nature. In the video, the speaker suggests that under stress, people’s real personalities emerge, and they get a better understanding of themselves. These experiences force self-reflection, leading to the development of self-awareness as individuals discover their strengths and weaknesses.

💡Personality type

Personality type refers to the distinct characteristics and traits that define how a person thinks, feels, and behaves. The speaker mentions understanding one’s personality type as crucial for developing self-awareness, encouraging individuals to learn their strengths and weaknesses. This knowledge helps in making better life and career decisions.

💡Strengths and weaknesses

Strengths and weaknesses are the areas where an individual excels or struggles. In the video, the speaker advocates for identifying these traits as part of self-awareness, as they provide guidance for making decisions about careers, relationships, and personal growth. Knowing these aspects of oneself helps in choosing the right path or business.

💡Mentorship

Mentorship refers to the guidance provided by an experienced person to help someone grow and gain clarity. In the video, the speaker credits mentorship as a key factor in developing self-awareness, noting how his mentor provided direction when he was lost, which in turn helped him reflect and understand himself better.

💡Clarity

Clarity is the clear understanding of a situation or oneself, leading to focused actions. The speaker highlights that clarity is power, as it enables individuals to make informed decisions and take decisive action. Mentors can help provide this clarity, which is essential in developing self-awareness and pursuing the right path.

💡Internal communication

Internal communication is the dialogue a person has with themselves, reflecting on their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The speaker emphasizes that self-awareness is essentially about effective internal communication—asking oneself the right questions to understand personal motivations and barriers.

💡Experience

Experience refers to the practical contact with and observation of facts or events that shape a person’s knowledge and self-awareness. The speaker notes that trying different things in life and career allows individuals to discover what they are good at, which is essential for gaining self-awareness. Without experience, it’s impossible to know one’s true potential or path.

💡Empowerment

Empowerment is the process of gaining the strength and confidence to take control of one's life and decisions. The speaker mentions that clarity leads to empowerment, which then enables action. Once individuals have self-awareness, they feel empowered to make decisions aligned with their true selves, leading to personal and professional success.

💡Unlock

Unlock is a metaphor used to describe the process of overcoming personal barriers or limitations. The speaker explains that once individuals develop self-awareness, it’s as if they unlock their potential, allowing them to apply their knowledge and skills more effectively in life and business. The speaker also references his book 'Unlock It,' which focuses on this concept.

Highlights

Developing self-awareness is crucial for success.

Many questions about life direction come from a lack of self-awareness.

Self-awareness helps in understanding personal strengths and weaknesses.

You can develop self-awareness through hardships and struggles.

Stress can reveal your true nature and help you understand yourself better.

To know yourself, you need to try different things.

Learning from personal experiences helps in choosing the right career path.

Advice from others may not always work for you as individuals are different.

Mentorship can provide direction and clarity, helping to develop self-awareness.

Clarity gives power, and power enables action.

Self-awareness grows over time through reflection and asking good questions.

Self-awareness is like internal communication with yourself.

The first part of success in sales or closing is self-awareness.

Understanding what holds you back is key to unlocking potential.

With self-awareness, everything you learn takes on new significance.

Self-awareness forms a foundation you can build upon in any career or business.

Transcripts

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- How do you develop self-awareness?

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Knowing yourself.

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Ultimately all knowledge means self-knowledge.

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Understanding yourself.

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I notice a lot of questions,

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I see on social media that

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what it boils down to

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from the questions that type of questions

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that I get is lack of self-awareness.

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Example.

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Hey Dan, what business should I invest in?

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How should i get started?

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What investments should I make?

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What direction I should what path I should focus on?

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Am I on the right path?

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All these questions boils down to lack of self-awareness.

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Not knowing yourself.

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So how do you actually develop self-awareness?

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I believe there are two main ways to do it.

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Number one.

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You could do it in a way where

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when you've gone through a lot of hardships, a lot

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of struggles you get to learn about who you truly are.

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You've heard about this before.

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They're under stress people reveal the true color,

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and the same thing I believe under stress,

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you also get to know more about your self.

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So knowing yourself in terms of your personality type.

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And there are a lot of different personality case

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out there, right?

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Even like strength finders.

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What are your strengths?

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What are you good at?

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What are your weaknesses?

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What are you not good at, all right?

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What are you passionate about?

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Once you have some basic understanding of

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your personality type and your strengths and weaknesses,

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and then once you have done enough things,

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you have a pretty good idea of,

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I could focus on this area or I should focus on that area.

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It's like this question, right?

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It's like I asked you what sports do you play?

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Well, I don't know.

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If you have not played a lot of sports you wouldn't know.

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Are you good?

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Are you tall?

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Are you good at basketball?

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Are you good at tennis?

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Are you good golf?

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Your patience?

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Are you good at ping-pong, right?

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Are you good with football because you're you're strong?

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Like if you haven't tried enough things,

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well how do you know what would you be good at?

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It's the same insert with self-awareness.

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If you have not tried enough things,

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then you really don't know.

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Well, am I on the right path?

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Is this the right thing for me?

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Is it the right career for me?

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Is it the right vehicle, a business vehicle for me?

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'cause you haven't tried enough things

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versus just hearing someone saying this and saying that,

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or you should do this you should do that.

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No, you have to understand something here,

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just because it works for somebody else,

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it doesn't mean it work for you.

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It might work for you but it might not work for you,

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but it starts with that self-awareness.

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The second thing is when I had no self-awareness

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when sometimes in my career

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when I was younger that I was lost,

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one fortunate thing that I have was being able

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to talk to my mentor.

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Then my mentor would give me a lot of directions,

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and clarity, right?

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And clarity is, is power, right?

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And empower is the ability to take action.

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So my mentor would tell me.

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"Hey Dan, you should focus on this,

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you shouldn't focus on that"

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That gives me more awareness,

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and once I think about it,

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I reflect and I ponder,

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then I naturally given enough time,

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naturally develop that self-awareness.

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Does that make sense?

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So really skew hard knocks through time, through experience,

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you would develop something.

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If you also know how to ask yourself like good questions

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'cause you need to think about self-awareness

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it's nothing more than internal communication,

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and communicating with yourself, right?

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And that's why with what I do,

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even through my High Ticket Closer Program

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the first three weeks of the program

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really is all about self-awareness.

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- This is Brandon.

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I'm coming to you from Ottawa Canada,

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and I just wanted to share in my double boom.

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In the past 24 hours that had two calls.

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I closed both of them,

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and because of that I'm now gonna have $1,400

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in my bank account Friday of next week,

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but the thing is two days ago I had $5 to manage.

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- People think that I just teach closing.

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It's not about closing,

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it is about developing that self-awareness,

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so that you could close.

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It's not about a script,

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it's not about any of that.

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It's about knowing yourself.

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What has been holding you back, right?

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What's the wall that's in front of you?

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And how do break through all of that?

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Then from there once you kinda find yourself,

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and you know what's been holding you back,

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it's almost like you find that lock and you unlock it.

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Kinda like my new book you Unlock It.

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Then everything that you learn

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it takes to a whole new level.

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You cannot do that until you first have that self-awareness.

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That's the key difference, right?

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And that's what makes it work.

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Anyone can sells I mean the gazillion sells books out there.

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Why are we able to produce so many success stories?

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Because I'm giving them a skill.

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I'm giving you, I'm giving my students a skill,

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and I'm giving them self-awareness.

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Not because I'm so phenomenal and so great.

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It's not because of that.

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It's because the methodology,

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the systems that we have it works.

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It just works.

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If you wanna know more click on the link

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in the description or somewhere here and find out more.

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Give yourself that self awareness.

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Once you have it,

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it doesn't matter what you do,

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it doesn't matter what career you wanna pursue.

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Doesn't matter you wanna be a closer or not.

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If you want your business,

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you wanna start another business,

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you want to do something else,

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you wanna start a side hustle,

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it would give you that self-awareness.

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From now on you will know oh, that's who you are.

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That's what you are good at.

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That's what you are made of, right?

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And that you can take it anywhere.

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Anywhere and that would become a solid foundation,

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and then you can build from there.

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