MEN'S greatest ENEMY: moving past the fear

Summary

In this talk, Dr. Orion Taban explores the concept of men's greatest enemy in the sexual marketplace—cowardice. He outlines three main ways men let fear hinder their success with women: fear of approaching, yielding to female emotionality, and avoiding leadership in relationships. Dr. Taban argues that overcoming these fears is essential for men to attain the relationships they desire. He emphasizes the importance of courage in approaching women, standing firm against emotional manipulation, and confidently leading in relationships for long-term fulfillment.

Takeaways

• 💪 Men's greatest enemy in the sexual marketplace is cowardice, which prevents them from achieving desired relationships.
• 😨 Fear of approaching women, rejection, or being called creepy paralyzes men and prevents them from expressing their true intentions.
• 🚫 Allowing fear to guide behavior leads to men ending up in the friend zone and avoiding sexual advancement.
• 💔 Men struggle to hold firm in the face of female emotionality, often folding when a woman is angry, upset, or uses manipulation tactics.
• 😢 Emotional manipulation can lead men into unfulfilling relationships as they try to please women out of fear of being alone.
• 👊 It's important for men to overcome their fear of female emotional responses and stand their ground to maintain self-respect and alignment with their goals.
• ⚔️ Men are expected to lead and initiate in relationships, and cowardice in taking on leadership roles hinders their success.
• 👫 Many women prefer a dominant, successful partner rather than an equal, contrary to the societal push for egalitarian relationships.
• 🎯 Men should confidently state their desires and lead the relationship, allowing women to choose if they want to follow.
• 👍 By resolving issues related to fear and cowardice, men can build better, more fulfilling relationships.

Q & A

What does Dr. Orion Taban identify as men's greatest enemy in the sexual marketplace?

Dr. Orion Taban identifies cowardice as men's greatest enemy in the sexual marketplace, stating that fear prevents men from getting the relationships they desire.

What are the three main ways that cowardice obstructs men's success in relationships, according to Dr. Taban?

The three main ways are: fear of approaching women, inability to handle female emotionality, and absconding from leadership in relationships.

How does cowardice manifest in men when it comes to approaching women?

Men fear rejection, being labeled as creepy, or leading interactions towards sexuality, which causes them to avoid approaching women they're attracted to.

What is Dr. Taban’s advice for men who are afraid of approaching women?

He advises men to become more afraid of not getting what they want, rather than fearing potential rejection, and to overcome their fear by taking action.

How does Dr. Taban explain men’s tendency to fold in the face of female emotionality?

Dr. Taban explains that men often give in to female emotional displays (anger, crying, shaming tactics) because they fear the emotional pain, loneliness, or guilt that might result from standing firm.

Why does Dr. Taban argue that men should not give in to female emotionality?

He argues that giving in to female emotionality is a form of cowardice and can lead to relationships that don't serve men well, ultimately causing both the relationship and the woman to be lost.

What is Dr. Taban’s take on egalitarian relationships in the context of men leading in relationships?

Dr. Taban argues that egalitarian relationships are often misunderstood, and while men and women are equal in value, they are not the same. He believes most women prefer a man who leads, rather than a peer or equal.

What does Dr. Taban say about hypergamy and its influence on relationships?

Dr. Taban claims that hypergamy drives women to date and mate up status hierarchies, meaning they generally prefer older, more successful, and dominant men who can improve their quality of life.

How did Dr. Taban's own approach to relationships change when he embraced leadership?

Dr. Taban's relationships became more peaceful, respectful, and loving when he took a more dominant role and unapologetically communicated what he wanted, instead of offering egalitarian dynamics.

What is Dr. Taban’s overarching message for men struggling in the sexual marketplace?

Dr. Taban encourages men to overcome cowardice by confronting their fears, holding the line against female emotionality, and stepping into leadership roles in relationships to achieve the relationships they desire.