An ALTER EGO could change your life.

Jillz Guerin
26 Mar 202318:52

Summary

TLDRIn this inspiring video, Jillian introduces the concept of an alter ego as a powerful tool for personal transformation. She explains that instead of changing habits to alter identity, one can change identity to naturally shift habits and behaviors. Jillian shares stories of successful individuals like Halsey and Kobe Bryant who have used alter egos to overcome self-doubt and achieve their goals. She emphasizes that an alter ego is not about being fake but about embracing one's true potential and provides practical steps to create and embody one's alter ego for personal growth and success.

Takeaways

  • 🌟 Alter egos can transform your life by changing your identity and self-image.
  • 📚 The concept of alter egos is explored in Todd Hermann's book 'The Alter Ego Effect'.
  • 🔄 Change can happen by altering habits or by shifting your identity first, which can be more effective.
  • 🏃‍♀️ Identity shifts can occur over time with consistent habits, but altering identity can lead to quicker changes.
  • 🚫 Struggling with self-image can prevent new habits from sticking, leading to a cycle of failure.
  • 🌈 Alter egos allow you to step into a new identity, which can help you break free from old patterns and limitations.
  • 💪 They provide psychological distance, helping you to persist and overcome challenges more effectively.
  • 🎭 Successful individuals like Halsey, Kobe Bryant, and Beyonce have used alter egos to enhance their success.
  • 🤹 Alter egos are not about being fake; they can represent the truest, most vibrant version of yourself.
  • 🔍 To create an alter ego, clarify what you want to change, then imagine how your alter ego would behave and present themselves.
  • 🎨 Practice embodying your alter ego in small, everyday situations to gradually integrate the new identity.

Q & A

  • What is the main concept discussed in the video?

    -The main concept discussed in the video is the Alter Ego, a method for changing one's identity and self-image to achieve personal transformation and success.

  • How does the speaker, Jills, help women?

    -Jills helps women step into their power, embrace their womanhood, and transform their lives by teaching them about concepts like the Alter Ego.

  • What is the first way change happens in a person's life according to the video?

    -The first way change happens is by changing one's habits, behaviors, and actions, which eventually leads to a shift in identity and self-image.

  • What is the second way change can occur, as mentioned in the video?

    -The second way change can occur is by shifting one's identity first and then allowing the new identity to influence behavior and habits from the inside out.

  • What book does Jills reference for more information on Alter Egos?

    -Jills references the book 'The Alter Ego Effect' by Todd Hermann for more information on the concept of Alter Egos.

  • How does the speaker use the example of Halsey to illustrate the power of an Alter Ego?

    -The speaker uses the example of Halsey, who changed her stage name from Ashley, to show how altering one's identity can lead to a significant change in life trajectory and success.

  • What are some other famous people who have used Alter Egos?

    -Other famous people who have used Alter Egos include Kobe Bryant (The Black Mamba), Beyonce (Sasha Fierce), and Marilyn Monroe (Norma Jean).

  • What are the five reasons Alter Egos are powerful, as outlined in the video?

    -The five reasons are: 1) They help move past old blocks and limiting beliefs. 2) They give the belief that one can achieve desired outcomes. 3) They create psychological distance, enhancing resilience. 4) They make one more intentional with how they show up in life. 5) They provide a creative and fun way to shift identity.

  • How does the video address the concern that an Alter Ego might be fake?

    -The video argues that an Alter Ego is not fake but rather the truest version of oneself, unencumbered by limiting beliefs and stories that hold one back.

  • What is the first step in creating an Alter Ego according to the video?

    -The first step is to get clear on what is frustrating in one's life, what one is capable of, what is holding them back, and what needs to change.

  • What does the video suggest as a method to practice embodying an Alter Ego?

    -The video suggests practicing in small ways, like going for a walk or visiting a coffee shop as the Alter Ego, to get used to the new identity.

Outlines

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🌟 Embracing Alter Ego for Life Transformation

The video introduces the concept of an alter ego as a powerful tool for personal change. The speaker, Jills, explains that while the idea may seem unconventional, it can significantly impact one's life. She emphasizes the importance of identity and self-image, suggesting that altering these can lead to real change. Jills references the book 'The Alter Ego Effect' by Todd Hermann as a key resource for understanding alter egos. She contrasts the common approach of changing habits to change identity with the alternative of shifting identity first, which can lead to a more profound and lasting change.

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🚀 Shifting Identity: The Power of Alter Ego

Jills delves into the two ways change occurs in individuals: through habit formation or by altering identity. She highlights the limitations of the former and advocates for the latter, which involves adopting an alter ego. The video shares the story of Ashley, who became the pop star Halsey by changing her stage name and identity, illustrating the transformative power of an alter ego. Jills mentions other successful individuals like Kobe Bryant and Beyonce who have used alter egos to achieve success, emphasizing that this approach is not just for entertainers but can be applied by anyone seeking change.

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🎭 The Five Reasons Alter Ego Works

Jills outlines five reasons why alter egos are effective: they help overcome limiting beliefs, provide the belief in one's abilities, offer psychological distance for resilience (the 'Batman effect'), encourage intentionality in life, and make the process of identity shift more creative and enjoyable. She explains that alter egos are not about being fake but about embracing one's true potential without the constraints of fear and anxiety. Jills shares her personal experience with adopting the alter ego 'Jills' to step into her true self.

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📚 How to Create and Embody Your Alter Ego

The video concludes with practical advice on how to create and embody an alter ego. Jills suggests starting with clarity on what one wants to change and then envisioning how the alter ego would behave, look, and think. She recommends using a totem, such as a pair of glasses, to help embody the alter ego's energy. Jills advises practicing with the alter ego in small, everyday situations before applying it to more significant challenges. She emphasizes that the goal is not to pretend but to bring forth the most authentic and highest version of oneself.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Alter Ego

An alter ego is a secondary identity or persona that a person may adopt, often to help overcome personal challenges or to express different aspects of their personality. In the video, the concept is used to illustrate how adopting a new identity can lead to significant life changes and personal growth. For example, the pop star Halsey created an alter ego to separate herself from her previous identity of Ashley, which lacked confidence and self-belief.

💡Identity

Identity refers to the characteristics, beliefs, and personality traits that define who a person is. The video emphasizes the importance of identity in shaping one's behavior and self-image. It suggests that by changing one's identity, one can change their habits and actions, as seen in the story of Ashley becoming Halsey, which allowed her to step into her power and achieve her dreams.

💡Self-Image

Self-image is the mental picture a person has of themselves, which includes their perceived abilities, worth, and how they see themselves in relation to others. The video argues that altering one's self-image can lead to a transformation in their life. For instance, if someone identifies as insecure, they may behave in ways that reinforce this belief, but by changing their self-image, they can change their behavior and outcomes.

💡Habits

Habits are regular patterns of behavior that are often hard to change. The video discusses two ways of change: one is by changing habits to eventually shift identity, and the other is by changing identity first to naturally alter habits. The latter approach is exemplified by the concept of an alter ego, which can help individuals adopt new behaviors that align with their desired identity.

💡Confidence

Confidence is the belief in one's own abilities and self-assurance. In the context of the video, confidence is crucial for personal transformation. The speaker, Jillian, uses her own experience of adopting the nickname 'Jills' to illustrate how embracing an alter ego can boost confidence and help one step into their power.

💡Transformation

Transformation refers to a profound change in form, appearance, or character. The video's main theme is about personal transformation through the adoption of an alter ego. This process involves shifting one's identity and self-image to achieve desired outcomes, as demonstrated by the stories of Halsey and other successful individuals who have used alter egos.

💡Psychological Distance

Psychological distance is the mental space between our current self and the self we aspire to be. The video suggests that creating an alter ego can provide this distance, allowing individuals to overcome limiting beliefs and persist through challenges. The 'Batman effect' study mentioned in the video illustrates how pretending to be a different character can enhance resilience and problem-solving abilities.

💡Intentionality

Intentionality refers to the deliberate and purposeful actions one takes to achieve a specific goal. The video highlights that adopting an alter ego can lead to more intentional behavior, as it helps individuals be more purposeful in how they present themselves and interact with the world.

💡Creativity

Creativity is the use of imagination or original ideas to create something new. The video promotes the use of creativity in personal development by suggesting that an alter ego can be a fun and empowering way to explore and express one's highest self. It allows for a playful approach to identity change, making the process more enjoyable and accessible.

💡Totem

A totem is an object or symbol that represents or embodies a particular identity or belief. In the video, the author uses non-prescription glasses as a totem to help him embody his alter ego, feeling more intelligent and capable. This concept suggests that physical objects can serve as reminders or catalysts for adopting a new identity or mindset.

Highlights

Alter ego can change your life by transforming your identity and self-image.

Changing habits can lead to a shift in identity, but it's often a slow and painful process.

Shifting your identity first can lead to a more natural and effective change in behavior.

The book 'The Alter Ego Effect' by Todd Hermann provides insights into using alter egos for personal transformation.

There are two ways change happens: changing habits to shift identity, or shifting identity to change habits.

Identity shift leads to a change in self-image and how one shows up in the world.

Behavior inconsistent with self-identity will not last, as people subconsciously seek to validate their current identity.

Ashley, who lacked confidence, became the successful pop star Halsey by adopting an alter ego.

Many successful people, including athletes and entertainers, have used alter egos to achieve success.

Alter egos help move past limiting beliefs and old stories, creating psychological distance from past identities.

The 'Batman effect' study shows that adopting a character identity can increase resilience and persistence.

Alter egos allow for more intentional and purposeful behavior in life.

Using an alter ego is a creative and fun way to shift identity and release personal blocks.

An alter ego is not about being fake but about embodying the truest, most vibrant self without limitations.

The author, Jillian, uses the nickname 'jills' as her alter ego to embody confidence and creativity.

To use an alter ego, clarify what you want to change and how your alter ego would behave.

Consider what your alter ego would wear, their posture, and their values to fully embody the new identity.

Use a totem or object to help embody your alter ego's energy and identity.

Practice embodying your alter ego in small, everyday situations before taking on bigger challenges.

Remember, adopting an alter ego is about bringing forth your highest self, not pretending to be someone else.

Transcripts

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I know the idea of an alter ego might

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seem a little crazy trust me I get it I

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know it sounds a little bit weird but

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hear me out on this because it could

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quite literally change your entire life

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Hello friends and welcome back if you're

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new here my name is jills and I help

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women step into their power Embrace

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their Womanhood and transform their

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lives so if that's something you want to

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do you should subscribe and stick around

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also a special thank you to short form

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for sponsoring this video but I'll get

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into that later so in Alter Ego really

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in Alter Ego yes really and it sounds a

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little bit extreme but it's actually not

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as weird as it seems and it's going to

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make more sense in a little bit so I've

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talked about this topic very briefly in

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the past but it deserves its own video

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because once you understand the

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importance of this concept not just of

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like an alter ego but the importance of

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identity and self-image it changes

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everything also I just finished reading

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this book in only two days the alter ego

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effect by Todd Hermann so a lot of the

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stuffs that I touch on specifically

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about alter egos comes from this book so

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if you want to dive deeper into this

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topic then this is a great read and I'll

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link it below for you okay so there are

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two ways that change happens in a

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person's life the first way is the most

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common way and most people think this is

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the only way to make real change and

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that is by changing your habits your

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behavior behaviors your actions and of

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course this can totally work there's no

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doubt about that habit changes can be

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very valuable but the reason why this

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works is because if you stick to a habit

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for a long enough time not just like a

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few days not even really a few weeks but

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like a long time eventually your

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identity will start to shift your

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self-image will start to shift you know

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if you force yourself to run five times

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a week for a long time eventually you

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will start to identify as a runner but

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there's also another way it's actually

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possible to do it in the reverse so

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instead of changing your habits and your

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behaviors in hopes that one day your

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identity will change that you will see

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yourself differently which can

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oftentimes be a really slow and painful

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process and where you can keep failing

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and falling short what if you shifted

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your identity first instead of going

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from the outside in you can go from the

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inside out and that is the major key

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here in this video if you keep trying to

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reinvent yourself level up your life

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become a new person and you keep failing

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and falling back into Old Habits it's

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because yourself image has stayed

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exactly the same if you're going to take

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away anything from this video I hope

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it's that sentence your identity has

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stayed exactly the same and that's why

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those new habits that new lifestyle it

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never sticks you identify as someone who

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is insecure but trying to be confident

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not just someone who's confident you

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identify as someone who lives an

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unhealthy lifestyle but wants to live a

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healthy lifestyle wants to start working

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out or wants to start eating better not

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just someone who lives a healthy

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lifestyle in the book Atomic Habits by

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James Clear another great read highly

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recommended he gives an example of a man

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who's trying to quit smoking when

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someone asks if he wants a cigarette he

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doesn't say oh no thanks I'm trying not

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to smoke he says no thanks I'm not a

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smoker a very small but also very big

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difference he's not just trying to shift

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his habits he's trying to shift his

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identity which then naturally shifts how

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he shows up in the world in his book he

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says that behavior that is incongruent

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with the self will never last if you

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want to change your life the most

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powerful way to do this is to actually

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start focusing on the self first not

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necessarily on the behavior you have to

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change the way you see yourself the way

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you view yourself and the stories you

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tell yourself at a core level if you

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identify as someone who's always broke

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who's always unhealthy who's always shy

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and insecure who can never find a good

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man even though they desperately want

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Partnership if these are the stories you

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tell yourself constantly if this is what

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you believe about yourself then that is

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what will happen you will show up in the

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world you will behave in a way that

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makes those stories true that keeps your

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identity intact and this is the second

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most important thing I'm going to say in

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this entire video right here we are

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always always in a subconscious way

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looking for things experiences and

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people to validate our current identity

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even when we don't like that identity

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think about the girl who always gets

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with guys who treat her like crap not

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just like one bad guy but just like a

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solid rotation of really crappy dudes at

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a certain point it's not just a

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coincidence it's a pattern because at a

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deep level she identifies as someone who

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is not worthy who is not deserving of

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Love who is not good enough and there

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were probably situations in her early

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life that created certain stories in her

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head that taught her this and those

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stories created an identity and once you

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create an identity that stuff sticks and

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everything in your life revolves around

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that identity and validating that

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identity so therefore if you want to

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change your life like truly truly change

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your life you have to change your

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identity and that's where an alter ego

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comes in so let me start off by telling

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you about a girl named Ashley so Ashley

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was an artsy girl she loved music and

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she played a ton of different

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instruments and eventually she got into

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singing and making her own music and

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music was her biggest passion and she

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was pretty good at it and she had this

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dream that one day she would be a famous

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artist and pop star but she doubted

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herself she didn't have confidence in

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herself she didn't think that she was

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good enough she didn't felt like she

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deserved to be seen and truthfully she

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didn't feel like she had a chance to

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make this dream come come true and of

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course this held her back she was just a

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girl from a random town in New Jersey

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she had no money she was kicked out by

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her parents she was basically living on

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all of her friends couches and honestly

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she was a little bit of a Stoner so in

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her head she was like why would Ashley

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become famous she had no confidence or

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belief in herself so she decided to

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change her stage name not because she

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thought she needed some you know catchy

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name to become famous but to reinvent

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herself and change the way she viewed

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herself and Ashley went on to become a

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mega pop star known today as Halsey she

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just rearranged the letters in her name

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when she was asked about the name Halsey

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and why that's her name she said I had

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to become somebody completely different

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at the time I felt that Ashley didn't

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deserve to be famous and successful

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because she wasn't that special but if I

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made Halsey maybe she could be so to her

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Ashley couldn't do it Ashley wasn't good

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enough Ashley was afraid to be seen But

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Halsey she had a chance she didn't

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believe in Ashley but she did believe in

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Halsey it wasn't just a change in her

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name it was a change in her identity and

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she said Halsey is kind of like a

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manifestation of all the exaggerated

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parts of me so it's like an alter ego

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this shift in her identity and this

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Alter Ego changed the trajectory of her

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life and there have been many people

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more than you might think who have used

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alter egos to create success and they're

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like Kobe Bryant had the alter ego of

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the Black Mamba when he was on the court

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a ton of successful athletes have used

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Alter Egos and he actually talks about

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this in his book because he works with a

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lot of athletes Beyonce created the

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alter ego Sasha Fierce when Beyonce was

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younger she actually sang gospel at her

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family's church and she was actually a

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lot more shy and reserved and the alter

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ego of Sasha Fierce helped her to

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separate herself from that shy identity

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and become more sexy and fearless and

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eventually she killed the whole Sasha

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Fierce thing because she didn't need it

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anymore Marilyn Monroe whose real name

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was Norma Jean definitely used this

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approach as well there were so many

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people who use this approach you can see

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a lot of entertainers because they're

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usually more like vocal about it you

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know Eminem Slim Shady David Bowie Ziggy

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Stardust there's a ton of them but

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there's also a lot of people who use

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this a lot of successful people who use

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this behind the scenes because it works

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sometimes the best way to truly shift

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your identity in the way that you want

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is by being a little bit more creative

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with it and creating an alter ego for

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yourself it's a more playful fun and

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empowering approach to changing your

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life and becoming who you are and

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stepping into your highest self now

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before I move on and dive deep into

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alter egos I first want to give a quick

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here's the thing in life we have many

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different roles that we play Todd Herman

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in his book he says we're showing up as

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different versions of ourselves all the

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time it's natural and it's a part of

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Being Human for example I am a wife a

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YouTuber a dog Mom I don't know if you

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can see her down there she's a cute

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doggie a daughter a sister a friend an

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aunt maybe you play the roles of Yogi a

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writer a painter a runner a mother and

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employee an alter ego is just choosing

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who you want to be in certain areas of

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your life so let me share why this works

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and why it's so powerful there's five

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really big reasons first of all and this

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is a major one it helps us to move past

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old blocks and old stories it helps us

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to move past those limiting beliefs

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because when you create a new identity

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for yourself when you create an alter

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ego you are now separating yourself from

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that person in those stories those

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stories those blocks those beliefs they

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are no longer yours you have all of a

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sudden created distance from who you

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want to be and all the things that are

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holding you back you know if you talk to

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yourself all the time like I can't do

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this all these people are better than me

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I'm not good enough it makes it nearly

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impossible to show up as the person you

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want to be and become the person you

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want to become but an alter ego changes

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all that it separates us from that

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things that you would normally get

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affected by your Alter Ego doesn't now

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second it can give us the belief that we

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can do it whatever it is that you can

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become who you want to be and Achieve

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what you want to achieve because at the

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end of the day if you don't actually

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believe that those things are going to

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happen for you then let's be real it's

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probably not going to happen I mean

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there's a tiny chance but it's not going

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to happen again that's why Ashley

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changed her name to Halsey because she

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didn't believe in Ashley anymore once

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you lose that belief you lose everything

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now third there is something called the

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Batman effect so there's a study where a

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big group of four-year-old children and

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six-year-old children were split into

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three groups and in all the groups the

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researchers they put a toy in a glass

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box in front of them and gave them a

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ring of keys and told them that one of

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the keys would open it however no keys

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worked they weren't getting in there and

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the purpose of the study was to see how

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long they would try to get that toy or

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when would they give up the question was

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how long would these kids persist and in

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the three different groups the kids were

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actually guided to use three different

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strategies but the first strategy was to

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guide the kids to pretend to be Batman

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or some other character like Dora the

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Explorer or something and they even gave

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them a cape and everything the kids who

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persisted the longest were the kids who

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pretended the kids who pretended to be

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Batman or whatever character they chose

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the second longest were kids who were

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just encouraged to see themselves as a

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third person and the kids who were the

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least resilient were the ones who just

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identified as their normal selves and

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the study showed the value of what's

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called psychological distance creating

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space and time between our identities

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especially in moments of hardship the

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kids who pretended to be Batman were

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able to regulate their emotions better

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think more clearly and persist way

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longer it has proven that Alter Ego is

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not just in kids but in adults as well

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can help us to have more resilience and

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persevere there will inevitably be

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moments throughout our life where we

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will need to persist and persevere

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through difficult moments if every time

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something becomes a little bit

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challenging you just give up then you're

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not going to get very far in life now

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fourth reason alter egos can be helpful

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because they make it so you are much

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more intentional with how you show up in

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life you know sometimes we just kind of

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start going through the motions and we

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fall into Old patterns that we don't

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really like but an alter ego helps us be

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much more purposeful and intentional

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with how we live our life and how we

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behave and last fifth reason an alter

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ego is a much more creative and fun way

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to shift our identity and release things

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that are holding us back by having that

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playful element to it it just becomes

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easier for us you know if someone asked

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you to shift your identity right now

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it's possible you can do it but it's a

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little bit challenging but if someone

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told you to embody a certain Alter Ego

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it becomes a lot easier and a lot more

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fun I know some people are thinking

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isn't an alter ego just being fake and I

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understand that but let me give you

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something to think about think about if

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you are a quiet or more shy person maybe

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you know someone like that or maybe you

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feel like that's you so you'll relate to

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this oftentimes so many shy people will

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say yes I'm shy but once I'm around the

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people who I really really know who I'm

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really comfortable with I am loud I am

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goofy I'm funny I'm weird you know like

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I'm quiet until I'm really comfortable

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with you but in that case are you really

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a shy and quiet person or or is that

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just you hiding who you naturally are at

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first is that just your fear and anxiety

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getting the best of you let's say a

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woman uses an alter ego to be more

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confident is it really fake or is it

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just giving her permission to be her

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truest most vibrant self Todd Herman the

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author of this book argues that often

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times our Alter Ego is the realest

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version of ourselves because it's us

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without being held back by stories and

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limiting beliefs that are keeping us

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stuck he says that many of the people

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he's worked with have first said that an

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alter ego feels a little bit weird kind

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of like a mask something that's

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protecting them only to realize later

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that their alter ego was actually who

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they always were and always wanted to be

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your anxious self your fearful self your

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insecure self is oftentimes who people

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think they are that's who they identify

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as but it's not you and an alter ego can

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help you get out of that rut and I have

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honestly used this approach as well you

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know my name my first name is Jillian

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but I go by jills but I didn't really

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get that nickname until much later in

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life but most of my friends just call me

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jills now and I am jills on social media

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media and Jillian you know much younger

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Jillian she used to be very shy and

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reserved she used to be very anxious and

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fearful Jill's Jill's it's not Jill's is

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confident Jill's is creative Jill's puts

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herself out there Jill's makes videos

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for the internet but the real truth is

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that Jill's is the truest version of me

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these traits were there all along I

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always had them but I used this new

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version of me jills to fully step into

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them becoming Jill's as cheesy as it

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sounds helped me tap into the identity

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of the woman I always wanted to be and

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the woman I always knew I could be and

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now it doesn't matter if you call me

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jills Jillian Jill Jelly Bean Jilly I

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don't care because my identity has

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already shifted to jills and what that

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represents for me if you want to use the

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power of an alter ego you don't

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necessarily have to make up this

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entirely new name for yourself but it

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can be a little helpful and a little fun

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to create like a fictitious name or even

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a nickname of yourself in your head for

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that person that you're aspiring to be

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you don't have to tell anyone but this

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can dramatically shift your identity in

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the way you view yourself in the way you

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show up in the world so let's talk about

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out how to do it so the book goes into

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way more detail on how to do this so if

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you really want to dive into this

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definitely get the book but I'll cover

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the basics so first of all you need to

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get very very clear on what is

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frustrating you in your life what do you

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think that you're capable of doing that

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you're not doing what is holding you

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back and What needs to change Clarity is

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super important however make sure that

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you are actually aligned with that

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version of yourself that version you're

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trying to be if you're just making up

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some person in your head because you

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think that's what would make a cool

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person but doesn't actually resonate

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with you it's probably not going to work

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and then once you have that Clarity then

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think about how would your Alter Ego

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behave how would they show up in the

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world what would their posture look like

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you know would they hunch or would they

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pull their shoulders back how would they

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walk what would their facial expressions

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look like also what would they look like

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how would they dress there was a study

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that showed that people who were given a

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white coat to wear like a doctor's white

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coat during certain tasks they became

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much more attentive of a person that's

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because what we wear means something to

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us it is symbolic to us and it affects

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us at a deep level now go even deeper

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into this Alter Ego what does that

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person believe what do they value what

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are their thoughts he also talks about

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how it can be helpful when you want to

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embody your Alter Ego self to have a

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certain object or totem as he calls it

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to help you embody that energy so for

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example on the front of the book there's

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a pair of glasses and that's because the

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author actually uses a pair of glasses

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to transform himself into his alter ego

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self he doesn't actually need glasses

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but he wears and puts on these

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non-prescription glasses to make him

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feel more intelligent more capable to

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help him get rid of that imposter

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syndrome and when he's done he takes

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them off actually Martin Luther King Jr

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did something very similar as well he

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actually wore fake glasses in public

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because he thought that it made him look

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more distinguished and more intelligent

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and more of a leader so this totem can

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be something you wear something you just

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carry with you or something that's just

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relevant to you in some way you know it

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could be as simple as just like putting

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on some lips sticker lip balm now when

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you want to start doing this when you

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want to try embodying your Alter Ego he

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recommends that you don't just try to do

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it for the first time in like these big

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scary situations like if you're giving a

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speech in front of 500 people that's not

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like the first time to try it try it in

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tiny ways first to practice when you go

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on a walk go for a walk as your Alter

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Ego how does she walk what pace does she

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walk at how does she swing her hips when

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she walks how does she carry herself and

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just see how you feel another good idea

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is to go to a coffee shop or a

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restaurant as this Alter Ego just start

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going out in little ways as her and get

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used to it you know it might feel weird

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at first but it should feel good and the

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most important thing to remember is that

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you are not pretending to be someone

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else you are not pretending to be your

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Alter Ego you are embodying your Alter

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Ego again it's not about being fake or

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childish it's about using the power of

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creativity to bring forth the most

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natural and highest version of yourself

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out to bring forth that new identity the

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easiest way possible and he says in the

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book it's incredible how quickly we can

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change our concepts of what's possible

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when we adopt a new identity so when

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Alter Ego is not really as crazy as it

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seems and it's actually been done by way

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more people way more people than you

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think so let me know your comments below

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