Don't Give Women Extra Validation!

Summary

The speaker addresses concerns about the ethics of cold approaching women, emphasizing that extra validation is not a significant issue. He advises against overthinking societal implications and instead focuses on personal growth in social skills. The video script clarifies misconceptions about double texting and stresses the importance of taking action to overcome fear and develop courage, dismissing the idea that such actions inflate women's egos or affect society negatively.

Takeaways

• 🤔 Overthinking about giving 'extra validation' to girls is unnecessary; focus on the specific situation at hand rather than societal implications.
• 📱 In the context of dating apps, there's no harm in double or multiple texting if it increases the chances of getting a response, especially if there's no ongoing relationship.
• 🔄 Don't worry about what others think; societal perceptions and the actions of others are beyond your control and should not dictate your actions.
• 💭 The fear of inflating a girl's ego by cold approaching is irrational; it's more important to focus on personal growth and overcoming social anxiety.
• 👥 Avoid using societal norms as an excuse to avoid cold approaching; it's a personal skill that can be developed regardless of external factors.
• 🚫 Don't let the fear of appearing 'needy' prevent you from taking a second chance in communication, especially in low-stakes situations like dating apps.
• 🔄 The idea of not double texting can be context-dependent; it's not a universal rule and should be adapted based on the situation.
• 📈 Cold approaching is a skill that can improve your social interactions with women and should be learned for personal development, not for external validation.
• 🌐 Worry less about the impact of your actions on society or individuals you may never interact with again; focus on what benefits you directly.
• 💪 Develop courage and overcome excuses; there's no perfect time to start, so take action when you feel ready.
• 🚀 The goal of cold approaching is to improve oneself, not to worry about the potential impact on others or to seek validation from them.

Q & A

What is the main concern expressed by the person in the video script?

The main concern is the fear of giving extra validation to girls when cold approaching, especially if they were in a relationship and wouldn't want others doing the same to their partner.

What is the speaker's advice regarding the concern of giving extra validation to girls?

The speaker advises not to worry about giving extra validation, as the focus should be on the specific situation at hand rather than the broader societal implications.

Why does the speaker suggest that the concern about validation might be misplaced?

The speaker suggests that the concern is misplaced because it is based on a large scope of society and women in general, rather than the specific interaction one is trying to have.

What is the example given by the speaker about double texting in the context of dating apps?

The example given is that on dating apps, if a girl doesn't respond to the first message, there's no harm in double texting as it might bump the message back to the top and increase the chances of a response.

What is the speaker's stance on the idea that double texting might make one appear needy?

The speaker argues that the idea of appearing needy is not as important as taking the second shot, especially if there's nothing to lose in the situation.

What is the speaker's opinion on the impact of cold approaching on a girl's self-esteem?

The speaker believes that the impact of cold approaching on a girl's self-esteem is negligible and should not be a concern for the person trying to cold approach.

How does the speaker address the concern about what other people might think?

The speaker advises not to worry about what other people think or societal opinions, as these are things one cannot control and should not affect one's actions.

What is the speaker's view on the importance of learning to cold approach?

The speaker views learning to cold approach as crucial for overcoming personal fears and excuses, and for developing courage in life.

Why does the speaker suggest that the concern about validation is an excuse?

The speaker suggests that the concern is an excuse because it prevents individuals from taking action and learning the necessary skills of cold approaching.

What is the speaker's advice on dealing with the fear of cold approaching?

The speaker advises to simply go out and do it, as there is no perfect time to develop courage and one must take action despite the fear.

How does the speaker relate the topic of cold approaching to broader life skills?

The speaker relates cold approaching to broader life skills by emphasizing the importance of overcoming personal barriers and developing courage, which are valuable in various aspects of life.