Why Cold Approach is a Superpower in 2023

Summary

This video script advocates for the lost art of cold approaching as a superpower in modern dating. It argues that in a world saturated with dating apps, the ability to confidently approach women in real life is rare and can significantly increase one's chances of success. The speaker contends that cold approaches create memorable, spontaneous connections that apps can't replicate, positioning men who can do this well ahead of the dating game. The script challenges men to overcome their fears and social conditioning to master this skill, promising not only dating success but also personal growth and empowerment.

Takeaways

• 🚀 Cold approach is considered a superpower in the dating world, especially in 2023, due to the rise of dating apps and decreased in-person interactions.
• 💻 The reliance on dating apps has made men less likely to approach women in person, positioning those who do as unique and attractive to potential partners.
• 👫 Spontaneity is key in cold approaches, creating a memorable and unique story for the woman that can't be replicated by online interactions.
• 🌟 Approaching women in public places like coffee shops or grocery stores can lead to high-quality connections that stand out against the generic nature of dating apps.
• 📱 The ease of swiping on dating apps reduces the value of individual connections, whereas a real-life interaction can be more memorable and meaningful.
• 👤 The fear of rejection and lack of confidence hold most men back from cold approaching, despite it being a simple and effective way to meet women.
• 🌈 Cold approaches can be done respectfully and confidently, making it a preferred method for many women who are tired of the superficial nature of dating apps.
• 🌆 Daytime is the best time for cold approaches, as it allows for a more genuine interaction with higher quality women who are not typically found in nightclubs.
• 📉 The trend of decreased in-person approaches has lowered the bar for success, making it easier for men who do approach to stand out and succeed.
• 💪 Overcoming internal limiting beliefs and fears is crucial for mastering the art of cold approaches and can lead to increased confidence and success in dating and life.

Q & A

What is considered the biggest superpower for men in the dating world according to the script?

Cold approach is considered the biggest superpower for men in the dating world, as it allows them to stand out in a sea of men using dating apps and can lead to more meaningful connections.

Why are dating apps described as more competitive than ever in the script?

Dating apps are described as more competitive than ever because of the increase in usage due to lockdowns and people being online 24/7, which has led to a technological comfort zone making in-person approaches seem daunting.

What is the significance of spontaneity when cold approaching a woman as mentioned in the script?

Spontaneity is significant in cold approaching because it creates a unique and memorable story in the woman's mind that cannot be replicated by a dating app interaction, making the man more likely to stand out and be valued.

Why does the script suggest that women value a man who approaches them in person more than one they meet on a dating app?

Women are suggested to value a man who approaches them in person more because such an encounter is less common and feels more genuine and exciting compared to the replaceable nature of dating app matches.

What is the 'blue ocean' concept as it relates to dating mentioned in the script?

The 'blue ocean' concept in dating refers to pursuing an opportunity where there is little to no competition, like cold approaching women, which allows one to stand out and be more successful because they are playing a different game than the majority.

How does the script argue that cold approaching affects a man's psyche and confidence?

The script argues that successfully cold approaching a woman can greatly boost a man's confidence and psyche by demonstrating his ability to bend reality to his will, overcome fears, and achieve what he desires in real time.

What is the main reason the script gives for men not approaching women, even when they have the means to do so?

The main reason given in the script for men not approaching women is the presence of limiting beliefs and 'mind viruses' that hold them back, despite having the financial means or success.

Why does the script suggest that the bar for success in cold approaching is lower than ever?

The script suggests the bar for success is lower because men are less likely to approach women due to fear and lack of confidence, leaving less competition and a higher chance for those who do approach.

What are the two main skills the script identifies as necessary for successful cold approaching?

The two main skills identified for successful cold approaching are having the courage to initiate the approach and the ability to make good enough small talk to obtain the woman's phone number.

How does the script compare the complexity of dating apps to the simplicity of cold approaching?

The script compares dating apps to cold approaching by stating that dating apps require mastery of multiple skills such as photo selection, bio writing, and text game, while cold approaching primarily requires overcoming fear and engaging in basic conversation.