Don't Be Surprised by the Difficulties of the World [Hikam 24] | Mufti Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf
Summary
TLDRThe video discusses how to deal with life's difficulties and sorrows by shaping our perspectives. It emphasizes that viewing challenges as manageable tasks can make them easier to confront. The speaker highlights the inevitability of problems in life and the importance of expecting and accepting them as part of the world's nature. By recognizing that life is a test from Allah, one can develop patience and trust in Him to navigate through challenges. The talk encourages a mindset of resilience, understanding, and faith in facing life's trials.
Takeaways
- 😊 Perspective shapes how we handle difficulties: Seeing something as manageable makes us more likely to tackle it.
- 💡 Breaking down tasks can make overwhelming challenges more manageable.
- 🤝 Believing in divine support can provide comfort during hardships.
- 🌍 Difficulties are an inevitable part of life, including in relationships and daily challenges.
- 📜 The world is a place of trials and tests; understanding this can help us cope with difficulties.
- 🧠 Expecting problems in life makes them less surprising and easier to handle.
- 🎁 Adding surprise elements to routine actions, like giving gifts, can enhance their impact.
- ⚖️ Patience and trust in a higher power are essential in dealing with life's unexpected challenges.
- 🔄 Familiarity with difficulties helps us respond better over time, reducing shock and surprise.
- 💪 The goal is not to avoid difficulties but to handle them with patience and resilience.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the transcript?
-The main theme of the transcript is how to deal with sorrows, difficulties, losses, and calamities by forming the right perspective and relying on Allah's assistance.
How does perspective influence how humans deal with challenges?
-Perspective influences how humans deal with challenges by shaping their perception of the difficulty of a task. If something is perceived as easy, people are more likely to attempt it with confidence. Conversely, if something seems difficult, it can lead to hesitation and fear.
What example from the Quran is mentioned to illustrate the impact of perspective?
-The example mentioned from the Quran is when Allah made the enemies look less significant in the eyes of the Muslims and made the Muslims appear larger in the eyes of their enemies, illustrating how perspective can change one’s approach to challenges.
What strategy is suggested for managing large tasks?
-The suggested strategy for managing large tasks is to break them down into smaller, more manageable parts. This approach makes the overall task seem less daunting and easier to accomplish.
Why is it important for Muslims to believe in Allah's assistance during difficulties?
-It is important for Muslims to believe in Allah's assistance during difficulties because it provides reassurance that Allah has the best intentions for them and helps them to navigate challenges with faith and trust in divine support.
What is the significance of knowing that the world will inevitably have difficulties?
-Knowing that the world will inevitably have difficulties prepares individuals to face challenges without being overly surprised or distressed, allowing them to handle problems more effectively and with patience.
What lesson can be learned from the Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) experience with his spouses?
-The lesson from the Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) experience with his spouses is that even the best of people face difficulties in relationships, and it is important to learn how to deal with such issues patiently and constructively.
What advice does the commentator Sheikh Abdullah Ganguhi give about dealing with difficulties?
-Sheikh Abdullah Ganguhi advises that as long as one remains in this world, they should not be surprised by the existence of sorrows and difficulties, as these are natural and inevitable aspects of worldly life.
Why should one not be surprised by misfortunes and calamities in this world?
-One should not be surprised by misfortunes and calamities because they are natural manifestations of the world's attributes. Understanding this helps individuals to cope better with challenges by recognizing them as part of life’s inherent nature.
What is the role of patience in dealing with the trials of this world?
-Patience plays a crucial role in dealing with the trials of this world. It involves trusting in Allah, remaining steadfast, and not allowing challenges to destabilize one’s faith and composure.
Outlines
💡 The Power of Perspective in Facing Challenges
This paragraph discusses how human perception influences the way we handle difficulties and challenges. It highlights that viewing tasks as manageable or insurmountable can shape our actions. The speaker uses Quranic references to illustrate how Allah changes perspectives to make challenges seem less daunting, emphasizing that a positive outlook can make tasks easier to tackle. Additionally, the importance of knowing that Allah is always there to help believers is underlined, especially when facing the inevitable challenges of life, such as marital issues, workplace conflicts, and other worldly difficulties.
🌍 Understanding the Nature of the World and Its Challenges
This paragraph explores the inherent challenges and sorrows of life in this world, emphasizing that they are natural and inevitable. The speaker advises that one should not be surprised by these difficulties, as they are part of the world's character. By accepting this reality, one can better cope with losses, inconveniences, and unexpected problems. The idea is to balance the recognition of challenges with the appreciation of unexpected blessings, understanding that both are part of the world's nature. The speaker also mentions how the surprise factor in life events diminishes as one becomes accustomed to the world's trials.
🔄 Embracing Life's Inevitable Challenges with Patience
This paragraph reinforces the idea that the difficulties we face in life are inevitable and should not be surprising. It stresses that understanding this can help us deal with challenges more effectively. The speaker highlights the importance of patience and resilience, pointing out that the world is a test designed to distinguish between those who are patient and those who are not. The paragraph also touches on the concept that life in this world, or 'dunya,' is inherently filled with trials, and one should not expect it to be free of problems. Instead, one should focus on enduring these challenges with faith and patience.
🛡️ Facing Life's Uncontrollable Situations with Faith
This paragraph emphasizes the importance of relying on faith and patience when facing situations beyond our control. It explains that while we can choose our actions in certain situations, there are times when we have no control, and these are the moments when patience and trust in Allah are crucial. The speaker encourages the listener to focus on doing the right thing in such situations, as guided by faith, and to remember that everything we need to cope with life's challenges is already provided by Allah. The message is one of empowerment through faith, even in the face of uncontrollable events.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Perspective
💡Calamities
💡Patience (Sabr)
💡Optimism
💡Inevitable Nature of the World
💡Test and Trial
💡Gratitude
💡Contamination
💡Surprise
💡Spiritual Path
Highlights
Understanding perspective is crucial in dealing with difficulties; how we perceive a challenge affects our response to it.
Breaking down large tasks into smaller, manageable parts can make overwhelming situations seem more approachable.
Knowing that Allah is always there to help provides comfort and assurance during hardships.
The inevitability of difficulties in life, including in marriage, is a reality we must accept.
Even the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) faced challenges in his relationships, highlighting that problems are a natural part of life.
Expecting challenges and being mentally prepared for them can reduce the shock and stress when they occur.
The world naturally manifests sorrows and difficulties, which are inherent to its character.
Surprising events lose their shock factor when we anticipate that difficulties are part of life.
Dealing with unexpected challenges by recognizing them as part of the world's nature can ease the emotional burden.
The dunya (world) is an abode of tests and trials, designed to distinguish between the patient and impatient, the grateful and ungrateful.
Patience (sabr) is the appropriate response to trials; it should be practiced immediately, not after prolonged distress.
When faced with unavoidable challenges, our responsibility is to put our trust in Allah and respond with patience and correct actions.
In situations where we have no control, the best course of action is to rely on the guidance provided by Allah.
Understanding that the dunya is not paradise helps manage expectations and reduces disappointment when faced with difficulties.
Gifts and gestures are most appreciated when they come as surprises, highlighting the value of thoughtfulness and spontaneity.
Transcripts
hamdulillahi rabbil aalameen salatu
was-salam ala sayyidal mursaleen why he
was sorry he is my name I'm not bad how
to deal with sorrows how to deal with
difficulties how to deal with losses and
calamities a lot of the way the human
works in dealing with different things
is that you form a perspective you look
at a thing in a particular way and that
will actually help us to that will
affect the way you deal with something
if you think something is easy then
you're more likely that you're gonna try
to do it
for example allah subhanho wa taala says
in the quran that we made them look less
in your eyes and we made you look larger
in quantity in their eyes that obviously
means that the perspective is changed
now if I think that I'm against somebody
that is much stronger much larger the
task is much more difficult then the
reaction is going to be according and if
I think that something is very easy to
overcome then I'm willing to become more
brave and do it
so that's human beings that's the way
human beings are if we think something
is too far we're not gonna try if if
it's made out to seem closer we say okay
let's go
have you noticed that sometimes when
you're going somewhere when you're going
there seems to take longer than when
you're coming back the journey there
seems to take longer a lot to do humans
have a lot to do with perspective that's
why probably some of the best of those
who manage their life well is those who
have the best way of looking at things
who look at things very optimistically
who look at things in a way that they
can sometimes break it down so another
another strategy that they provide is
that if you look at it as a big task
then it's gonna seem too much but if you
break it down say ok if I do this part
first if you break it down into its
constituents I need to do this then I
need to do is then I need to buy this
then I
to bring this that I need to add this
then suddenly it starts becoming
manageable but when you look at it as a
whole owner how am I going to do this so
one of the several things that really
help in dealing with life is that when
you know that somebody is assisting you
so clearly with for the Muslims for
anybody who believes in Allah the fact
that you know that Allah is there to
help you he has the best NIA for for us
he has the best in that the the best in
store for us and the other thing we have
to know is that this world is going to
inevitably have difficulties so when we
talk about marriage even there's gonna
be difficulties in marriage I doubt
you'll come across anybody who has never
had any more even a small issue in
marriage with their spouse even the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had
issues with his spouse's though there
was a wonderful relationship and the
prophet sallallaahu seldom was obviously
the best of us in character but there
was an occasion where he left the wives
and went and stayed in loft for
approximately 29 days or so so they
extend their omadi allahu anhu was
wondering if he had divorced his wives
and likewise once he went to fatima
radiyaallahu anhu his daughter's house
to look for a leader in the allah on her
and who his husband and father and said
oh that we've just had a problem we had
a bit of a problem he's in the Masjid so
people have problems it's about then how
you learn to deal with those problems so
if you know that you're gonna have
problems when you get into marriage
you're not going to be very surprised
you're not gonna be out of water like a
fish out of water when a problem does
arise which inevitably if you know that
you're gonna have with your co-workers
you could run into some complications
some challenges they don't have to be
major as long as you know that then it's
easy so this is what if not Allah Allah
is saying for to make it easy for us to
basically tell us the reality of the
world really he's just explaining the
reality of how things
occur in this world that's all he's
saying so he's saying let us tell him
cuckoo akka dari madam toffee hobby hit
down let us tell him a canary madam
toffee had him be happy hid our for in
her abroad in Mahua must the hawk kun in
Lama who musta Huck who wuz feeha what
why jiwoo naughty huh say that again man
a brother in Lama who a musta Haku was
we huh
what was even a tea huh this is what he
says he says so long as you are in this
world be not surprised at the existence
of sorrows as long as you remain in this
world don't be surprised that there will
be sorrows that you'll have to confront
you'll have to confront others have to
confront them it's just the nature of
this world for truly the world it the
world manifests nothing but but what is
in keeping with its character or its
inevitable nature whatever happens in
the world happens because that is the
nature and the character of the world
you can't expect it to be anything else
the only thing you can probably make go
out for is o Allah minimize my problems
give me a fear and allow me to deal with
them but give me a few give me
well-being but when they come you have
to do look at the Madani life and the
Mucky life of the prophet sallallaahu
are yourself the difficulties so the
commentator of this one of the
commentator sheikh abdullah Gangu he he
says as long as you are in the world do
not be surprised that difficulties
misfortunes and sorrows you're going to
lose something your key may break you
may lose your keys you may lose your bus
pass you may lose your travel card you
may lose your bank card you may lose
your wallet I mean if you start talking
about that you may have a leak you may
have a disease you may have an illness
you may have relationship problems you
may not be able to get in a school you
want to get into you may not be able to
your clothing may shrink mundane things
went into the wash in your clothing
shrink UN outside you thought it wasn't
gonna rain and then suddenly just poured
down you you you became soaked and so on
and so forth but just as many of those
things happen I mean just as so many of
those things happen there are so many
positives that happen you weren't
expecting to gain something and suddenly
you got something you weren't expecting
to get this particular job in you got it
you weren't expecting to get a promotion
and you got it you didn't you never
thought that you'd be able to get
married to a such a person and you did
there are so many different things like
that that's just the nature of the world
so that's what he's saying Oh traveler
because at the end of the day that's
that's what he calls us we're travelers
travelers especially to the spiritual
path because those people think more
that while you are in this earthly abode
do not feel surprised surprised if
clouds of contamination sets all over
you
contamination basically things not going
the right way when it's pure there's
nothing wrong with it it's contaminated
life is contaminated with difficulties
an amazing and surprising event is
something that is not expected to
transpire an amazing and surprising
event is something that is not expected
to transpire if something has to be
surprising or amazing
you're not going to expect it because
when you expect something it's no longer
surprising or astonishing or amazing so
for example they suggest that if you're
gonna give your spouse or anybody gifts
if it's something ritualistic you're
giving that every week I have to get
flowers or every week I have to buy him
a box of chocolates then suddenly it
becomes boring because there's no
surprise element left unless you go out
of your way to find new chocolates every
week or new flowers every week
there's a surprise there because there's
an expectation when you have an
expectation there's no surprise in these
things so that's why gifts a gift is
made even better when there's an element
of surprise with it oh I get the same
thing from all the time that's and then
somebody saying oh he or she brings me
different things there's a there's a
consider there's a there's a thought
process behind it as a surprise element
behind it so an amazing and surprising
event is something that is not expected
to transpire regarding the misfortunes
and calamities of the of this world
nothing so then he's basically this is
just building up her premise he's he's
saying that if you're expecting
something you won't be surprising if
you're expecting something it won't be
shocking that's what he's saying
that once you get used to expecting
something it's not going to shock you
anymore it's not gonna surprise you it
should not destabilize you so regarding
the misfortunes and calamities of this
world if you look at their essential
nature nothing surprising is happening
that's what he's trying to say by this
because whatever is happening in this
world is inevitable so it's not
surprising anymore and think about that
the next time something hits us Allah
give us a feared when next time anything
happens that's out of the ordinary just
think of it that's not a surprise it's
the world it's inevitable it'll just
make it that much more easier for us to
deal with such events are merely the
natural manifestation of the attributes
of the world you're in the duniya that's
when I get what's going to happen
otherwise you're looking for paradise
but as long as we're here it's not
paradise contamination pollution etc are
the natural and necessary
characteristics of this world since
Allah Most High has created it as a
trial and a test to distinguish between
the patients
impatient ones another name for the
dunya is what the reason is called dunya
is a intuitive name in the sense that it
just means closer and our hero means the
next one so dunya is closer to us than
our Kela that's why it's a relative term
dunya it's also the lower lower world
compared to the hereafter but another
name for the dunya is darrell Abdullah
daro Abdullah in the abode of tests and
it's also called darrell as bob the
abode of means because things don't
happen by magic key you need means so
you need a means to be able to deal with
surprising events so that their surprise
factor comes out of it that's the means
where that's what we're doing right now
we're employing a means here by saying
that whenever something happens slowly
slowly first time it still seemed it's
still going to seem like a surprise but
every time that happens and we make our
approach and our reaction to it that oh
that's not a surprise just the dunya
you'll soon get used to that nothing
will surprise you anymore for example
when we're dealing with a lot of
people's issues we pretty pretty much
heard of everything generally so nothing
generally surprises anymore but to be
honest sometimes once in a while
something comes up so recently somebody
called me a few weeks ago and he said oh
I've got an issue with this and other
husband-and-wife issue and okay I
probably heard it I didn't say that I
didn't obviously say that but you know
generally that's that you've generally
heard it it's generically something with
other he says get ready for it so I was
about to say and I don't know even I
don't know even if I said I can't
remember if I actually said that but I
was about to say I've probably heard it
before it's probably all gonna surprise
me I'm not sure if I said that or not
and then what he actually told me was
the level higher than what I'd heard
before so it was a bit surprising right
shocking rather you know that somebody
can stoop so low we don't want to become
desensitized of course but at the end of
this is a coping mechanism and it's so
important the coping mechanism as we'll
see from the
of it is that that's what Allah wants us
to do that if you freak out and you
don't know what to do in that situation
he's not saying that you must make it
you must just know it's coming and then
just not do anything about it
no we supposed to do something about it
but what I supposed to do is sovereign
patience not freak out and then two
three days later when we can't do
anything can't get anywhere there says
oh I should be with allah subhanaw taala
that subber aspect should kick in right
from the beginning and i guess the way
to do that is when something in Orillia
when I do you ruin immediately remember
allah subhanaw taala
so that's why he's saying that these are
this world is a trial a test to
distinguish between the patient and the
impatient one and between the grateful
and the ungrateful one so our job then
is that you know we have two different
types of tasks in the world some are
what you call FD re they're optional
right pray you don't pray by default you
we're not praying by default so pray
avoid avoid Xena avoid stealing so again
if we don't do anything wrong we're
we're by default not not committing
fornication or not stealing so our job
when it comes to optional acts is to do
as much as possible of what we've been
commanded and stay away from as much as
we've been prohibited from that's
essentially what our job is
however there are other cases in which
there's no option for us we get thrown
into something or something gets thrown
to us on to us a difficulty a challenge
there al are just there what Allah wants
from us is that they were stuck right
Allah wants us to basically do the best
thing in that situation which is to be
patient put your trust in Allah subhana
WA Ta'ala and do the right thing that's
our responsibility so we can't control
everything in our life but we've been
told what to do that
if you have an option then you know what
to do and if you don't have an option
meaning if it's thrown at you and you've
been forced into a situation you still
been told what to do
so Allah guided us there's nothing that
we should there's basically nothing that
we we need to seek from outside it's all
there
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