Mind Become Mind-blowing | Motivational | Dawa Tamang #video
Summary
TLDRThe speaker explores the existential question of life's purpose, urging individuals to seek fulfillment beyond material success. They discuss the pressures of corporate life, the importance of aligning work with passion, and the balance between professional achievements and personal well-being. Emphasizing the significance of process over goal, continuous learning, and timing, the talk encourages embracing challenges with commitment and finding inner peace through control, connection, and spirituality.
Takeaways
- 😀 The importance of finding one's purpose in life, as highlighted by Mark Twain's quote about the two most important days in life.
- 🤔 The existential question of why we were born, emphasizing that life is not solely about material success or climbing the corporate ladder.
- 📅 The concept of 'deadlines' as a metaphor for life's pressures, suggesting that the term 'Lifeline' might be more appropriate.
- 🐓 A humorous story about a rooster mistaken for a hen to illustrate the absurdity of performance pressure and the need to do what one is passionate about.
- 💼 The reality that many professionals are successful but not fulfilled in their work, suggesting a disconnect between career and personal satisfaction.
- 🕒 The significant amount of time spent at work in one's life, questioning whether it should be spent in misery or doing something one loves.
- 💡 The advice to get paid for what one is great at while also adding what one loves to life, even if it's on the side, due to the practicalities of financial responsibilities.
- 👥 The difference between managers and leaders, with the latter creating a sense of importance and care for individuals, as exemplified by Richard Branson's quote.
- 💡 The importance of being process-focused rather than goal-focused to achieve success, using the example of gym-goers focusing on the wrong aspects of their workouts.
- 📚 The value of continuous learning and the humility it requires, suggesting that being a learner is a key aspect of success.
- 🕒 The significance of timing in achieving success, noting that doing the right thing at the wrong time may not yield the desired results.
- 💔 The changing attitudes towards marriage among the younger generation, influenced by witnessing failed relationships and a desire for perfection.
- 🔗 The necessity of commitment in relationships, including going through ups and downs and investing time to understand and work with a partner.
- 🧘 The three ways to find peace and calm in a chaotic world: focusing on what's within control, seeking help and connections, and finding a spiritual or inner connection.
Q & A
What is the existential question Mark Twain refers to in the script?
-The existential question Mark Twain refers to is 'Why were you born?', which is about finding one's purpose in life.
Why does the speaker suggest that many people feel unfulfilled despite their professional achievements?
-The speaker suggests that many people feel unfulfilled because they believe there is more to life than just professional success, such as paying taxes, mortgages, or climbing the corporate ladder.
What is the speaker's view on the relationship between work and life fulfillment?
-The speaker believes that while work can provide financial security, it should also be a source of personal fulfillment and passion, not just a means to an end.
What is the significance of the 'deadlines' and 'Lifeline' analogy in the script?
-The analogy highlights the pressure and stress associated with deadlines, suggesting that they can be a source of life's challenges and, in some cases, a metaphor for life's end.
What is the story of the poultry farm owner and the hens meant to illustrate?
-The story illustrates the absurdity of performance pressure, where even those not capable (like a rooster) are expected to meet unrealistic expectations.
What does the speaker mean by 'get paid for what you're great at and add what you love to your life'?
-The speaker encourages individuals to earn a living from their strengths while also incorporating their passions into their lives, even if they don't immediately pay the bills.
What is the speaker's perspective on the importance of leadership in creating a sense of importance for individuals?
-The speaker believes that true leadership is about making each individual feel valued and cared for, which in turn fosters loyalty and a positive work environment.
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of being process-focused rather than goal-focused?
-The speaker emphasizes being process-focused because it increases the likelihood of achieving goals by focusing on the journey and the steps taken to reach them, rather than just the end result.
What are the three crucial aspects of success mentioned in the script?
-The three crucial aspects of success mentioned are being process-focused, constantly learning, and timing.
How does the speaker describe the importance of commitment in relationships?
-The speaker describes commitment in relationships as essential, requiring time and investment through ups and downs, with the exception of toxic situations where one should move on.
What are the three things the speaker suggests for maintaining peace and calm in a chaotic world?
-The three things suggested are focusing on what is within one's control, using all available strength including help from others, and finding a spiritual or inner connection through moments of disconnection from the world.
Outlines
🤔 The Quest for Life's Purpose and Overcoming Workplace Pressure
The speaker delves into the existential question of life's purpose, referencing Mark Twain's famous quote about the importance of discovering why we were born. The discussion highlights the common struggles of individuals in the corporate world, such as dealing with high taxes, mortgages, and the pressure to climb the corporate ladder. The speaker uses humor to illustrate the absurdity of performance pressure, telling a story about a rooster forced to lay eggs, and emphasizes the importance of finding fulfillment in one's work. The summary also touches on the significant amount of time spent at work and the speaker's personal decision to leave the corporate world to pursue passion.
💼 Balancing Passion and Professionalism in the Modern Workplace
This paragraph focuses on the balance between doing what one loves and the practicalities of life, such as paying bills and mortgages. The speaker advocates for maintaining a professional career while also nurturing one's passions, even if they don't immediately provide financial security. The concept of leadership is explored, with the idea that true leaders make others feel important and cared for. The speaker also discusses the importance of treating employees well, as emphasized by Richard Branson's quote, and the impact of social media on raising awareness about workplace issues. The paragraph concludes with a broader view of success that includes not just achievements and money, but also emotional, mental, social, and spiritual health.
🏋️♂️ Embracing the Process and Learning for True Success
The speaker emphasizes the importance of being process-focused rather than solely goal-oriented, using the example of young men at the gym who focus on appearance over the actual process of working out. The paragraph discusses the value of continuous learning and the humility that comes with acknowledging what one does not know. The speaker also highlights the significance of timing in achieving success, using the example of social media growth during specific years. Additionally, the speaker touches on societal changes, such as the reluctance of younger generations to get married due to perceived failures in the institution of marriage, and the importance of commitment in relationships.
🧘♂️ Finding Inner Peace and Calm Amidst Life's Disturbances
In this paragraph, the speaker discusses strategies for maintaining peace and calm in the face of life's inevitable disturbances. The focus is on identifying what is within one's control and directing energy towards those aspects of life. The speaker shares a story about a father and daughter attempting to move a tree to illustrate the importance of seeking help and support from others. The paragraph concludes with the idea of establishing a spiritual or inner connection, even if just for a few minutes a day, as a means to achieve a centered and peaceful state of mind.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Purpose
💡Existential Question
💡Deadlines
💡Performance Pressure
💡Fulfillment
💡Passion
💡Leadership
💡Success
💡Process Focus
💡Learning
💡Commitment
💡Mental Health
💡Inner Connection
Highlights
The existential question of finding one's purpose in life, as suggested by Mark Twain's quote about the two most important days.
The common misconception that life's purpose is solely tied to material success or career achievements.
The metaphor of 'deadlines' as 'Lifelines' to illustrate the pressure of meeting expectations and the potential misinterpretation of these terms.
Workplace politics and the pressure to perform, leading to stress and dissatisfaction among employees.
A humorous poultry farm anecdote to demonstrate the absurdity of performance pressure and its impact on identity and well-being.
The statistic that over 80% of professionals are not fulfilled by their high-paying jobs, indicating a disconnect between income and happiness.
The importance of pursuing both financial stability and passion in life to achieve a balanced sense of fulfillment.
Leadership defined as making others feel important and cared for, contrasting with mere managerial importance.
Richard Branson's quote on training employees so well that they can leave, but treating them so well they don't want to.
The idea that success is not solely about achievements but also includes mental, emotional, social, and spiritual health.
The concept of being process-focused rather than goal-focused to increase the likelihood of achieving one's goals.
The necessity of continuous learning and the importance of humility and vulnerability in the pursuit of success.
The significance of timing in achieving success, with examples of how social media platforms' growth opportunities have shifted over time.
The changing attitudes of younger generations towards marriage and the importance of commitment in relationships.
Three strategies for finding peace and calm in a chaotic world: focusing on controllable factors, seeking help, and establishing a spiritual connection.
Transcripts
but what does that purpose and
connection mean to the generation today
or for any generation for that matter
Mark Twain he said something very
interesting he said there are two most
important days in your
life the first is the day when you were
born and the second is the day when you
find out
why now loads of us do know when we were
born but to be able to figure out why we
were born is an existential question
and when we talk about purpose there's a
lot of people who are trying to figure
out what is the answer to this question
why was I born I surely wasn't born to
just pay 30% income
taxes I surely wasn't born just to pay
mortgages
liabilities I surely wasn't born just to
escalate myself to the highest rungs of
the corporate ladder and feel that
achievement and put my chest out and say
hey I made it I surely wasn't born just
to do that there's probably something
more that I was born for I must give you
a simple how many of you guys have
deadlines to meet
with oh brilliant what a word isn't it
deadlines has ever has anybody ever
called it a Lifeline you know by the
time you cross that line what happens
dead have has anybody here been a victim
of workplace politics
please okay thank you some guys are
saying
[Laughter]
sir I'm so sorry about
that uh has anybody here been under
tremendous pressure and
stress performance pressure and
stress brilliant thank you for being so
honest showing your hands right up there
there was a poultry farm once and the
owner of the Poultry Farm came to the
poultry farm and started speaking to all
the hen saying look I'm giving you so
many grains and you're only laying two
eggs a
day next Monday on I want you to lay 10
eggs a day that's called performance
pressures you want the Box lay the eggs
guys all the hen came together and they
started talking one of the hen said to
the other last week I just secured an
admission for my little check at
Yale and I need to pay the fees in the
scholarship so I need the the grains the
other one said I just purchased a little
house in
Malabar mortgagees to be paid so no
choice I need to lay 10 eggs the next
Monday the Poultry Farm owner came in he
saw every hen there laying 10 eggs
except one he looked at the fellow and
said look at all your colleagues they
lay 10 eggs you laying only one the
fellow said Thank God I'm laying at
least one otherwise I'm a rooster
I'll tell you what I'll tell you what
guys under performance pressure even
roosters have to lay eggs bloody eggs
and what do I mean by laying eggs under
performance pressure doing something
that I don't love doing something that
I'm not cut for doing something that I'm
absolutely not passionate about I
traveled the world speaking to Big
corporate
houses and it's not an exaggerated
number over
80% of the professionals who are working
out there are getting a thick fat
paycheck because they're so absolutely
phenomenally great at what they do but
they're not fulfilled with what they do
they're not satisfied with what they do
I was I was sharing with ABA in equation
that if you're working for about 8 hours
a day average and if you have a 5 days
work week you've spent 40 hours a week
at your
workplace if you have 2 weeks a holiday
in a
year which you spend about which is 50
weeks 50 weeks you're working for you
spend about 2,000 hours at your
workplace and if you're working for an
average of about 45 years you spend a
bloody 90,000 hours at your workplace
and that's a daunting
number 990,000 hours account to about 10
years of your life
and I have a simple
question am I going to be spending
990,000 hours in misery doing something
that I'm paid for but I'm not fulfilled
with I I I took that leap I jumped out
of the corporate world I left heet
Packard to chase something that I love
to do but I definitely do not Advocate
that my principle that I talk to people
about
is get paid for what you're great
at and also side by side add to your
life what you love your passion even if
it is by the side because passion
doesn't pay your bills immediately
passion doesn't pay your mortgages and
financial liabilities immediately so
it's easy to say that I need to be
satisfied with what I do but there we
live in the real world so love what you
do and do what you love I think that
definitely like I speak at a of
corporate events so the very fact that
they're inviting me to speak at these
corporate events means there is some
space for thoughts like these but at the
same time I really do not think it's a
priority as of
now because only when something is a
priority that's when you take it
seriously where attention goes energy
flows right and when we're talking about
leadership I've always felt it's it's
something like this like I say when you
talk to managers you get a feeling that
they are important and when you speak to
leaders you get a feeling that you are
important and I think leadership is
about creating that sense of importance
leadership is about creating that sense
of care because every individual out
there is saying I don't care how much
you know until I know how much you
care and Richard Branson he said
something incredible he said train your
people so well that they can leave
you but treat your people so well that
they don't want to leave
you people are going to stay be loyal
and going to be around only when they're
treated well nobody wants to be treated
like a door matat I don't think anybody
has hatred that you grow but people have
a visceral
hatred when your growth comes at their
cost like I often say there was this
gentleman he came in his new
Mercedes and his subordinate opened the
door for him he said what a fantastic
car sir incredible
fascinating uh the guy said well if you
work hard if you work like 18 hours a
day 7 days a week you don't take any
leaves any holidays next year I'll have
a better car than this so I really do
not think people have a problem with
your car but when you have a car and I'm
still a b car that's where the problem
is and which is why when we talking
about leadership it's in principle of
care it's a principle of concern and I
think there is definitely increased
awareness and today is the world of
social
media people don't keep
quiet we are in a time with unlimited
possibilities we are in a time with
unlimited scope to express ourselves
people don't keep quiet so in a time in
an age where expression of
opinions is at it zeni I think the
awareness is increasing and probably
slowly we're looking
at maybe a slow change but a change
three steps to success number one Let's
Get the facts right success is not just
about
achievements this is narrative that the
more you have the more successful you
are but I know people who have a lot and
have serious mental health issues I
consider that a
failure I know about we we we left we we
we just lost Mr raak junjun Wala and we
remember what he said remember his words
he said I have about5 billion do worth
and he said I only wish God Gave Me
Better Health if I have all the money in
the world and my mental health is at
stake my emotional health is at stake my
physical health is at stake my spiritual
health is at stake my social health is
at stake am I
successful so let's not make one element
of success as success yes achievements
and financial success is a very crucial
element but not the element you know a
balance and having paid attention to all
of these aspects is when we can truly
call ourselves successful like one
gentleman asked someone you know uh what
is the difference between the word
complete and finished he said well if
you find a right partner in your life to
get married to your life is
complete if you get the wrong
one your life is
finished but if the right one catches
you with the wrong one your life is
completely
finished sorry about that sorry but I
think I think when we looking at we want
to complete everything isn't it and
which is precisely why it's important we
complete our definition of success too
by including those elements that are
important for our life not just for our
lifestyle achievements and money is
about lifestyle emotional mental social
spiritual health is about our life and
lifestyle and life must go hand in hand
that's when success is completed and if
you're looking at three elements which
we really must look at whatever aspect
of success if you want to be successful
number one is we shouldn't be goal
focused we should be process focused I
see a lot of guys go to the gym you know
uh uh any of you guys go to the
gym okay brilliant any of you want to
reduce your weight a little bit oh God
my God
[Music]
that guy needed a whack trust me you
know now when you go to a gym I see
these younger guys going to a gym and
doing bicep curls that's the only
exercise they focus on because that's
the way to girls show your guns so
you'll see them go to the gym I'm going
to put the microphone down for a second
even if you don't hear me it's fine guys
they'll do this and they'll
swing the biceps don't lift the weight
at all it's the body that's lifting the
weight and in the mirror they're saying
a
here they should be isolating their
biceps and just picking their weight
with the biceps right so when your goal
focused you don't get the goal when your
process focused Le you reach there so
whatever it is in your life that you
want to achieve focus on the process the
more consumed You Are by the process
there's greater chances you reach the
goal than just focus on on the goal and
not on the process the second aspect of
reaching that
success is to constantly be on the
learning curve the so much out there in
the world to learn imagine I'm a monk I
attended eight of your sessions since
yesterday today I attended eight of your
sessions which have nothing to do with
my
space because I'm a learner right you
know that lady who made lady who became
a billionaire by writing
books JK Riley a guy who became a
billionaire by selling
books Jeff
BOS Amazon and a guy who became a
billionaire by reading books Warren
Buffet Reading learning the Dal Lama
once said if I'm only speaking I'm
repeating what I know but if I'm
listening I'm always learning something
new but the second aspect of success is
constantly being a learner which means
humility which means vulnerability that
I don't know and I need to understand
and number three very crucial aspect of
success as mentioned in the book outli
this
timing if you're doing the right thing
but at the wrong timing you don't get it
social media anyone who was there
between 2014 and 17 shot up that was the
time now you try to put so much effort
it's so difficult to grow there so you
focus on the process learn
invest and keep going I think in the
modern world today so many
youngsters if I ask them they just don't
want to get married and the reason why
they don't want to get married is
twofold number one is seeing the
failures in the institution of
marriage when you see marriage as a
failed
institution you lose the drive to do
what others did back then and probably
they're seeing examples which didn't
work and trust me most all of you have
been in a relationship are married or
not married are in a relationship and
you all know that nothing's perfect out
there no human beings perfect right
imagination of the mind you don't get
such people right so when we are talking
about marriage as a failed institution
if we looked at it with expectation of
perfection you're never going to find
that now whether you're in a living
relationship you're in a married
relationship whatever the relationship
is I feel every relationship needs
commitment you need commitment to a
relationship and when you say commitment
to a relationship it means going through
all the ups and the Downs there are
going to be times when we hit the rock
bottom and still we need to keep making
that investment to make that
relationship work the exception
obviously would be when it comes to a
very toxic level when it comes to such
levels of of toxicity that it geopod
ises our very existence we need to move
away and move on but in every other case
I feel it's commitment and I think
commitment means time if you just spend
6 months and say oh we not meant for
each other well six months is such a
short time to be even able to understand
somebody it takes a little while it
takes a little bit of commitment it
takes a little bit of spending time and
that's when we probably even understand
I was walking at Oxford Street in London
one once and I saw a gentleman who was
wearing a t-shirt and the T-shirt said
Do Not Disturb and underneath in large
font was written already
Disturbed right like what more are you
going to disturb me so I see that each
one of our Lives is going to have a
stimulus a trigger a cause a reason for
disturbance will there ever be a single
day in our life that there's no stimulus
for being disturbed the stimulus could
be of a massive magnitude or a smaller
one but there is always going to be
something that ruins our peace that
ruins our day that ruins our state of
calm that affects our mental health in
severely negative ways what do we do to
find that peace and that calm three
things right I think there's three
things that we should look at number one
we should be looking at what are those
things that are within our control
it's what we feed that grows stronger if
I feed my anxiety it grows stronger if I
feed my peace it grows stronger whatever
you feed is going to grow stronger and
how do I feed my anxieties by constantly
focusing on things that are not in my
control things outside you know when it
comes to the the the global economic
turmoil today I can do what I can do but
there are factors just completely Beyond
My Control individuals at workplace and
personal relationships can you change
their Natures no they're outside of my
control
rather shifting our attention to things
that I can do to feed that means to find
that Center number two is to use all
your strength to deal with your issues
there was a man and his daughter 7year
old they were walking on the street and
there's a massive tree just fallen on
their path and the little girl said can
I move this tree dad he said of course
if you use all your strength
she tried she couldn't she turned to her
father said use all your strength she
tried she couldn't he said use all your
strength she still couldn't he said Dad
I'm using all my
strength the man said darling you're not
using all your strength you're only
using your strength I'm your strength
too right so if you're only using your
own strength you're going to be in a
piece of pace of disturbance we need
help we need connections we need those
people who can help us push what we're
going through together and that's when
we can come into a space of calm and the
last one of course we all need to find
that connection that spiritual
connection that inner connection which
can kind of every single day 10 minutes
5 minutes 2 minutes 30 seconds can help
us just enter into that Inner
Space disconnected from the world of
stimulation that is the way to stay
centered and peaceful in a chaotic
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