How to deal with bullies and haters

Summary

In this empowering video, Liz shares her insights on dealing with haters and bullies, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and not engaging with negativity. She advises to avoid giving power to detractors by not reacting, to show no empathy for bullies, and to mirror their energy without stooping to their level. Liz encourages viewers to focus on self-improvement and healing, asserting that the strongest among us rise above bullying, and that haters can often be the most devoted fans in disguise.

Takeaways

• 🚫 Avoid engaging with haters and bullies by not reading comments or giving them your energy.
• 💪 Recognize that haters and bullies only have power if you give them a reaction; remove this power by not responding.
• 🧐 Understand that successful, confident people do not engage in bullying or spreading negativity.
• 🤔 Reflect on the motivations behind bullying, often rooted in jealousy and envy.
• 😄 Embrace the idea that haters are a form of 'super obsessed fans' who give attention to your work.
• 🔒 Do not share personal information with bullies, as it can be used against you.
• 🤐 Mirror the energy of bullies without escalating the situation; be distant and do not engage.
• 🙅‍♀️ Stop trying to be nice to bullies, as it often backfires and can lead to more aggression.
• 👮‍♂️ Report incidents of bullying to authorities when they become physical or threatening.
• 🏠 Change your environment if it is negative or harmful to your well-being.
• 💆‍♀️ Focus on healing and self-improvement to overcome the effects of bullying and build self-worth.

Q & A

How does Liz handle haters and bullies now?

Liz does not deal with haters anymore. She avoids reading comments and getting involved in what is being said about her, focusing on her own life and the people she loves.

What power do haters and bullies have over individuals according to Liz?

Haters and bullies only have the power that individuals give them through their reactions. If individuals do not give them a reaction, they have no power.

What does Liz suggest about the nature of people who spread negativity about others?

Liz suggests that people who spread negativity, such as creating rumors or writing nasty comments, are often miserable and envious, rather than successful and self-confident individuals.

How does Liz view haters in relation to her success?

Liz considers haters as her 'super obsessed fans' because they pay so much attention to her, even if it's to find something to criticize.

What advice does Liz give about dealing with bullies and haters at school or work?

Liz advises not to have empathy for bullies, to stop trying to be nice to them, and to mirror their behavior without engaging or getting closer to them.

Why does Liz believe that being nice to bullies might not work?

Liz believes that being nice to bullies might not work because they do not understand kindness and may see it as a threat, which could make them more upset.

What should one do if they are being physically bullied, according to Liz?

Liz suggests making a big deal out of it, such as yelling, seeking help, or involving authorities, to ensure the bullying does not continue.

How does Liz feel about sharing personal information with bullies?

Liz advises against sharing personal information with bullies, as they will use it against you. She emphasizes having no fear and not giving them any power through your fear.

What does Liz recommend doing if the bullying becomes unbearable?

Liz recommends changing environments, such as schools or jobs, or even moving to a different city or country, to find peace and healing.

How does Liz view the transformation of haters into fans?

Liz believes that haters can become fans, as she has experienced people who once hated her now becoming fans, showing that emotions can be manipulated.

What is Liz's final advice for dealing with haters and bullies?

Liz's final advice is to focus on oneself, heal from the trauma caused by bullying, and build self-worth and confidence. She emphasizes that the strongest individuals are those who have been bullied and have overcome it.

Outlines

00:00

🚫 Dealing with Haters and Bullies: The Power of Disinterest

Liz discusses her personal approach to dealing with haters and bullies, emphasizing that she no longer engages with them by reading comments or allowing their negativity to affect her. She believes that the only power such individuals have is the reaction they elicit from others. Liz suggests that successful and self-confident people do not engage in hateful behavior, and that most haters act out of jealousy or envy. She also shares an anecdote about a friend who dismissed false rumors about Liz, highlighting that she does not let haters bother her and views them as her 'super obsessed fans.'

05:03

💔 Lack of Empathy for Bullies: Choosing Not to Continue the Cycle

In this paragraph, Liz explains her shift from empathy to a lack of empathy for bullies, drawing from her own experiences of being bullied and abused. She argues that people who have suffered should not perpetuate the cycle of abuse. Liz believes that showing kindness to bullies is ineffective and can even provoke them further. Instead, she advises to mirror the energy that bullies put out, without engaging or trying to befriend them. She also stresses the importance of self-empathizing and focusing on personal healing rather than on the bullies' issues.

10:04

🔒 Protecting Yourself from Bullies: No Fear, No Personal Sharing

Liz advises against sharing personal information with bullies, as it can be used against you. She encourages taking back power by not fearing the bullies, as their strength lies in the fear they instill in others. Liz shares her experience with an abusive parent and how speaking up and defending oneself can diminish the bully's power. She also suggests being dramatic if a bully becomes physically aggressive to ensure the incident is taken seriously and to avoid any future occurrences.

15:05

🏠 Changing Your Environment to Escape Bullying

In the final paragraph, Liz talks about the importance of changing one's environment to escape bullying, whether it's changing schools, jobs, or even relocating to a different city or country. She emphasizes that it's not weak to seek a better environment for mental peace and healing. Liz encourages focusing on self-improvement and healing from the trauma of bullying. She concludes by stating that haters and bullies often become fans over time and that strength comes from overcoming these challenges.

Keywords

💡Haters

Haters in the context of the video refers to individuals who express dislike or contempt for someone, often without a valid reason. They are depicted as having no power over the speaker unless the speaker reacts to their negativity. An example from the script is when the speaker mentions not giving haters her energy by not reading comments about herself.

💡Bullies

Bullies are individuals who use force or coercion to dominate or intimidate others. In the video, the speaker discusses her experiences with bullies and offers advice on dealing with them, emphasizing that the power they have is only what is given to them through reactions.

💡Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. The speaker initially had empathy for her bullies, considering their difficult backgrounds, but later decided not to, as she realized that her empathy was not changing their behavior and she needed to focus on her own well-being.

💡Self-worth

Self-worth is the value and respect a person holds for themselves. The video suggests that people with high self-worth and self-confidence are less likely to engage in hateful behavior, and the speaker encourages viewers to focus on building their self-worth to deal with haters and bullies.

💡Jealousy

Jealousy is the feeling of envy and resentment aroused by someone else's advantages or success. The speaker mentions that haters are often driven by jealousy, implying that their negative actions stem from their own insecurities and desire for what others have.

💡Fear

Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. The video emphasizes that bullies and haters feed off the fear of their targets, and overcoming this fear by not being afraid of them can take away their power.

💡Mirroring

Mirroring, in the context of the video, refers to the strategy of reflecting the same behavior or energy back to the person who is bullying or being negative. It is suggested as a way to deal with bullies without escalating the situation or giving them more power.

💡Confidence

Confidence is a feeling or belief in one's abilities and judgments. The speaker talks about the importance of having self-confidence, as it can help individuals deal with haters and bullies by not letting their negative opinions affect them.

💡Manipulation

Manipulation is the act of influencing someone or something in a clever or unscrupulous way. The speaker humorously mentions that haters are easy to manipulate, as their strong emotions can be used against them, turning hate into admiration.

💡Healing

Healing refers to the process of recovering or becoming healthy again, both physically and emotionally. The video encourages viewers to focus on healing from the trauma caused by bullying and to seek help through therapy, journaling, or other means of self-care.

💡Self-improvement

Self-improvement is the process of enhancing one's knowledge, skills, or character. The speaker advises viewers to focus on self-improvement as a way to build resilience against the negative effects of haters and bullies, and to create a better life for oneself.

Highlights

Liz no longer engages with haters and focuses on her own life and well-being.

She emphasizes that haters only have power if you give them a reaction.

Successful and confident people don't engage in bullying or spreading rumors.

Liz views haters as her 'super obsessed fans' who pay close attention to her.

She advises not to be bothered by what people say and to live in silence.

Liz suggests that bullying is often a result of jealousy and envy.

She recounts a story where a friend dismissed false rumors about Liz.

Liz believes that haters can be turned into fans through strength and self-confidence.

She shares her personal experiences of being bullied and abused, and how she overcame it.

Liz advises not to have empathy for bullies, as they choose to act negatively.

She suggests mirroring the energy of bullies without engaging or provoking them.

Liz warns against trying to be nice to bullies, as it often backfires.

She emphasizes the importance of not sharing personal information with bullies.

Liz encourages taking action against physical bullying and reporting it to authorities.

She advises changing environments if they are negative or toxic.

Liz stresses the importance of healing from bullying and seeking professional help.

She concludes by stating that haters are easy to manipulate and that strength comes from self-confidence.

Liz ends with a message of hope, stating that those who have been bullied often become successful.

Transcripts

these days everyone has been asking me

Liz how do you deal with your haters how

do you deal with bullies

okay listen to me first of all I do not

deal with haters anymore I think I used

to be very much like more involved but

as if right now I do not read my

comments I don't know what is being said

about me I mean sometimes I hear it but

I'm not really involved with them why

because I don't want to give them my

energy I don't want to hear it I don't

want to see it I'm in my own little

bubble with my just the people I love

with my cats I'm good you know I'm good

I'm minding my own business I'm doing my

own stuff I'm upgrading my live in

silence I'm not bothering anyone so why

should I allow someone to bother me no

okay the only Power haters have over you

or bullies have over you is the power

you give them by you giving them a

reaction but if you take that away they

do not have any power over you it can

only make you feel bad if you allow them

to make you feel bad top of that with

haters I realize you know someone in

somebody that's successful somebody

that's beautiful somebody that has a lot

of self-confidence self-worth will never

go and like write something nasty or

like create rumors or do like very nasty

stuff nobody who's actually living a

successful and happy life does that it's

always the miserable

ugly looking Gremlins that want to talk

but baby instead of worrying about other

people's faces about other people's life

look at your own most of the time is

jealousy it's Envy everything that's

involved but at the end of the day I do

not care for them

no recently I went to visit my family in

the country where I grew up and I met up

with a friend that I hadn't seen in a

long time and she basically told me

um about like a girl who reached out to

her again who knew that me and her were

friends uh she basically told my friend

like all these stuff about me that

people were saying and then my friend

told her she was like but why are you

telling me all this you know like it's

all obviously a lie and then why are you

telling me this and then she goes like

yeah just so you just so you can tell

Liz what people say about her

and what will I do now will I Cry

like I like the fact that I talked about

do you guys not get it I want to be

talked about I think haters are my

biggest fans you have my regular fans

and then you have my super obsessed fans

AKA haters because they will watch a

video and they will constantly watch it

until they find something that they can

take out of context and they can run for

like years and years and say oh my God

she said that she said this but like my

other fans were just normal they'll just

watch it think whatever they want and

they'll leave like chilly like what will

I do now oh my God no people are talking

about me why am I on social media to not

be talked about are you insane that's so

dumb I saw a painting that said uh

there's one thing worse than being

talked about and that is not being

talked about and that made me really

realize how true that is because imagine

nobody talked about me nobody even cared

for who I was or what I did like I would

not be successful in this video I will

show you how you can deal with bullies

haters bullies you can have in school

you can have uh at your job this is

literally a very good video for anyone I

have been bullied uh in my own home by

abusive parents and always in school

like I was always bullied so I can give

you the best advice hi guys my name is

this and welcome back to my channel okay

let's get right into it first things

first do not have empathy for them

listen I really I am a very empathic

person so I am the kind of person I

would always put myself in other

people's shoes right so I had this girl

she used to bully me uh when I was in

high school and constantly she was

bullying me she would make fun of my

looks everything

and I always felt bad for her because

everyone was saying like yeah it's

because her dad like left them she's

very traumatized because of that then

I'm thinking oh that's so sad for her

but now I'm thinking like I literally

the same at the same time I was growing

up with an abusive parent that was

abusing me every single day and I did

not act like that towards anyone so at

the end of the day I do not have empathy

for them anymore because you can

literally decide what you do with what

happened with to you yes life is unfair

things happen uh you did not deserve it

but how can I just because I was abused

as a child and all these things go on to

grow up to do that to someone else I

would never because I know how it feels

I know how damaging that is even saying

something to someone I do not feel good

if I made someone upset because of my

words because of anything I literally

would not be able to sleep at night

these are the type of people they feel

comfortable in this you know like people

say like yeah but it's hard for them you

know they grew up like very harsh

whatever no you know it's actually hard

get growing up that way growing up in an

abusive household or like being trumped

as whatever and then choosing to not be

like that because that's the only thing

you know but if you choose to be like

you know what I am not gonna do this I

am not going to continue this that is

actual strength doing the same thing

that you have been taught because that's

the only thing you know at all victim

mindset so sorry that this happened to

me yeah actually nobody cares what

happened to you true you should take

responsibility for what happened and you

should deal with that and you should not

go out and Bully other people or hate on

other people because you have issues

that is not my issue or anyone's else

issue that is for you to fix do not have

empathy for them have that empathy for

yourself they are putting you through

something that is not okay they are

putting into something that is not nice

regardless of their situation I could

not care less about their situation

I do not care

you should look at yourself and be like

am I being treated badly have empathy

with yourself another thing is stop

trying to be nice to them this is a

mistake we make because we think oh if

they're bullying us like we should be

nice to them maybe they'll be nicer to

us kill them with kindness this never

works this does not work why these

people do not know what it means to be

kind these people do not know what

niceness is I actually tried this once

with my abusive parent

um I grew up and

I was sitting down uh with this person

at the table and I was like okay maybe

you know what like I should just be

nicer to this person because then this

person will like me more

so then I remember we were having a

conversation and stuff and I was just

being normal and whatever and then I

said something nice to this person which

I hadn't tried before I swear I never

got scolded more in my life the reaction

was insane like literally and I I

literally left the table crying like

this person completely turned because I

was nice to them these people do not

know what nice is to them it's a threat

so if you're trying to be nice to them

that will actually make them even more

angry and make them even more upset but

what do you do instead instead every

single person whether it's a bully

whether it's a guy whether it's whoever

you mirror them the same energy they

give to you you give to them

same with bullies like they're called to

you they're they're distant they they're

mean to you whatever I'm not saying go

provoke them and be mean back but keep

your distance then do not try to get

closer to them okay you keep your

distance you do not engage with them you

you just be on your own whatever but

mirror them do whatever they do to you

if you're texting a guy right and this

guy's being cold and dry to you whatever

and you're trying to be nice and then

like I have conversation going no you

are cold and dry as well you give them

exactly what they give you this works

like gold like gold I had this one

friend of mine he has like issues at his

job whatever and this one guy who was

working with him his co-worker he

constantly was like uh digging at him

and throwing dicks at him whatever and

he would like he would let it slide

slide and he was just trying to be nice

to him so he would like him right but

then I told him you should start

mirroring him do exactly what he does to

you give him the same energy right so uh

with that I meant like if he's being

passive aggressive so he makes like

comments that are like not nice but he

says it in a way where you can't really

say hey that was not nice you know being

past Progressive you are being passive

aggressive back to him you give him the

same way he's treating you in a cold

manner you treat him in a cold matter

when people start to mirror them that's

when actually the person also starts to

see what he is doing wrong now this

thing is don't tell them anything about

you do not share anything personal do

not share anything pictures nothing do

not do not try to befriend your bullies

or whatever do not do not go there like

I said in my last video about friends

and all these things these people are

nobody's friends these people don't like

themselves

when somebody doesn't like themselves

they will not like you it doesn't matter

they will betray you they will do

whatever you will be in so much trouble

do not share anything personal with this

person because anything you say will be

used against you imagine you shared

something or or you already have already

know something about you or they want to

expose something about you or a picture

they have or a video or whatever

have no fear tell them lick it do it

you take your power back by having no

fear

when somebody is not scared of anything

they have nothing nothing on you because

at the end of the day the only thing

they feel powerful of is your fear the

only thing they're feeding off right now

is your fear

I had I learned this with my abusive

parent uh when I was younger all of my

siblings and we would all get abused we

were so scared of this person everything

but then when we grew up we started to

really like uh speak up for ourselves

and we started to defend ourselves and

defend our other siblings when anything

happened and that's why and that's when

it really showed how small this person

was like he was not powerful at all we

made him powerful because we gave him

constant like oh we're scared of you

we're scared of you we gave him like

that constant fear so he was feeding off

of that but when we started to speak up

for ourselves he totally lost his power

is there was no more fear and that's

also when he left only thing they have

over you is your fear of them

fear nothing the thing is take nothing

lightly listen when uh bullies when they

become physical with you right and even

if it's like a little push or whatever I

had

um this one friend of mine and she

basically nobody would ever bully her

because this girl one time we were in

class and this one of this guy like he

pushed her but playfully this girl went

down on the floor and started yelling ah

he hurts me Miss he heard me I'm in so

much pain I'm a heart patient and like a

whole like I've never seen something

like this before by the way this girl is

still my best friend like I love her so

much but it was insane and after that

nobody ever dared to touch her because

she made it so big and even though like

the principal came everyone was like oh

my God is she okay like everyone was so

stressed because she made it so big and

I for example I would like that common

slide I would like like even them

hitting me I would slide oh yeah it just

jokes it just jokes it's not jokes okay

you are the joke you are a joke

literally they're making fun of you so

now if I would be in high school again

and I would do it all over oh I would be

the biggest drama queen ever anything

they say to me I'll go to the principal

and be sit there for like 10 hours I

don't care like complaining all day I

will get police involved I would do

anything literally like I have no shame

literally if you feel uncomfortable

about something I don't care if you go

on onto the floor cry your eyes I'll

start yelling whatever you do anything

that is so dramatic that it will not

ever happen again and don't think it's

like weak to appear like that in front

of other people or oh like you lost the

fight honey I'll lose your fight any

single day because I do not fight I

literally don't fight with who am I

gonna fight why why should I fight I'll

fight you in court yes but I don't have

physical with anyone imagine they do

something to my face or something or

they break something that's disgusting

tell people in Authority tell your boss

tell your principal tell the police I do

not care hair go to people in Authority

don't think that is weak don't think

that it's snitching no people lose their

lives over this this is your life your

life is important okay you can actually

do something about this when you tell

people in authority and you should

bother these people because sometimes

even people in Authority will not help

you they're like oh yeah whatever it's

not that big of a deal no bother them

bother them bother them until you

actually get what you want change

schools change your working environment

change your city your environment your

country

anything where you feel like you're

being treated in a negative way anything

where you feel is a negative environment

for you where you cannot drive where

you're being bullied you change that

place it is not weird to like go to a

different country where you feel better

it is not weird to change schools no

whatever you need to do to have mental

peace and to have peace in your life and

to actually start healing from the

things they put you through

that is amazing and you should actually

actually do that because that's what's

best for you do not think that it's weak

or that you're running awake or or that

they will think you're weak or whatever

the weakest human beings are the ones

that bully others they're so weak

they're so pathetic they're so ugly come

on focus on upgrading yourself Focus On

Healing yourself

um a lot of times we don't understand

what kind of trauma and bullying brings

we just uh shrug it off oh whatever it

was in high school whatever no those

things actually leave an imprint on you

even uh in your adult years and whatever

happens so Focus On Healing that focus

on talking to people talking to a

therapist writing it down journaling

um and focus on really creating a higher

sense of self-worth of self-confidence

upgrading yourself in every single way

possible

focus on anything that you feel like is

best for you and at the end of the day

haters and Bullies will become fans

literally the people that have believed

me literally the people that have hated

me are literally fans now and it's just

embarrassing like you know what haters I

love haters they're so easy to

manipulate if you can make someone hate

you for no reason you know how strong of

an emotion hate is like I can make them

love them love me as well like so quick

I'm just like I love to manipulate these

people like I can say anything and

they're mad and triggered and then they

send all their energy to me just because

I made them mad but they're so easy to

make mad I think any day is a good day

when I hate a cries anyways guys don't

let yourself get discouraged like make

yourself feel bad about these

ugly low-life people like genuinely

um just focus on yourself focus on doing

every single possible to keep your

safety because that's the most important

thing you are actually the strongest one

out there and all the people that were

bullied before are successful now it's

always like that because God really

blesses you and he did that with me and

he will do that with you so do not worry

it will all be okay and do not fear them

because of your fear you're giving them

power okay guys thank you so much I love

you guys so much I hope you guys learned

something and yeah I love you I see you

in the next video bye-bye