Stop Worrying About Being Judged: The only way that works

Summary

In this video, Julia Kristina explores the concept of judgment, focusing on how we fear being judged by others. She explains that judgments are often projections of others' own insecurities, not reflections of who we are. The real issue is not others’ opinions, but our own internal struggles with self-worth. Julia offers practical advice on overcoming this fear by healing insecurities, accepting ourselves, and focusing on inner growth. The key to overcoming judgment lies within—by improving our relationship with ourselves, we can stop fearing judgment from others.

Takeaways

• 😀 Judgment is not about you; it reflects the insecurities and repressed parts of the other person.
• 😀 People's judgments are projections of their own self-doubt, not a reflection of your worth or character.
• 😀 Fear of judgment stems not from others' opinions, but from what we fear those judgments mean about ourselves.
• 😀 The things we fear being judged for are usually the areas where we have unresolved insecurities.
• 😀 If we feel confident in an area, we don't fear judgment about it because we don't doubt it ourselves.
• 😀 The key to overcoming judgment is not changing how others see you, but working on your relationship with yourself.
• 😀 Self-acceptance and self-love are the solutions to the fear of judgment, not perfectionism or controlling others' perceptions.
• 😀 Perfectionism makes us constantly anxious about others' opinions, as we're trying to manage their thoughts for our own comfort.
• 😀 Focusing on self-healing and embracing imperfections is essential for overcoming judgment and its hold on us.
• 😀 Judgment, both from others and ourselves, is an inside job that requires healing our own insecurities and self-doubt.
• 😀 By accepting ourselves for who we are, including our flaws, judgment from others loses its power over us.

Q & A

What is the main concept discussed in the video?

The main concept discussed is judgment and how it affects us. The video explores how judgment, both from others and ourselves, is tied to our own insecurities and inner struggles. It provides insights into how understanding judgment in this way can help reduce its power over us.

How does judgment from others relate to their own insecurities?

Judgment from others is often a projection of their own repressed or rejected parts of themselves. When someone judges you, it is actually about their own struggles and insecurities, not about you as a person.

What is the 'shadow self' in Jungian psychology?

The 'shadow self' is a concept in Jungian psychology that refers to the parts of ourselves that we try to keep hidden, often because they are associated with feelings of shame or insecurity. These repressed aspects can manifest in judgment towards others.

Why do we fear judgment from others?

We fear judgment because it reflects our own insecurities. The judgments we fear from others are often about things we are already struggling with in ourselves, such as not feeling good enough or competent.

What is the difference between fearing judgment from others and fearing what we make it mean?

The fear is not about others' judgments themselves, but about the meaning we attach to those judgments. We fear how their opinions might confirm our own doubts or insecurities about ourselves.

How can understanding judgment change the way we react to it?

By understanding that judgment is about the other person's inner struggles, and not about us, we can stop internalizing it. This understanding helps reduce the emotional impact of judgment and frees us from being controlled by the opinions of others.

What role does self-acceptance play in overcoming the fear of judgment?

Self-acceptance is key to overcoming the fear of judgment. When we accept ourselves fully, including our flaws, we stop fearing judgment because we no longer feel insecure about those aspects of ourselves.

Why is perfectionism a problem in relation to judgment?

Perfectionism leads to constant worry about what others think because we're trying to control their perceptions. This reliance on others’ approval traps us in a cycle of seeking validation, making judgment an ongoing source of anxiety.

What does Julia Kristina recommend as a way to deal with judgment?

Kristina recommends focusing on building a healthy relationship with ourselves, healing insecurities, and practicing self-love and acceptance. By doing so, we stop fearing judgment because we no longer feel vulnerable in the areas others might criticize.

What is the 'Committed Self Journal' and how can it help?

The 'Committed Self Journal' is a free resource offered by Julia Kristina that guides individuals through a process of self-reflection and personal growth. It helps users focus on their internal struggles, set goals, and work through insecurities to improve their self-concept.