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Summary
TLDRThe video discusses strategies for transitioning a conversation after approaching someone, especially in dating scenarios. It emphasizes the importance of assuming the burden of the conversation, giving compliments, elaborating on them, and adding personal input to keep the interaction flowing. The goal is to make the other person comfortable, avoid awkward silences, and gradually build rapport. The speaker breaks down an infield example, highlighting key points like using playful assumptions, flirting, and asking engaging questions to create a meaningful connection. The video also promotes a coaching program for improving social skills and confidence.
Takeaways
- 😀 Compliment and elaborate: Start by giving a simple compliment, then elaborate on it to transition smoothly into a conversation.
- 😎 Assume the burden of conversation: It's on you to carry the conversation in the beginning, making it easy for her to engage without pressure.
- 🗣️ Carry the first 10-20 seconds: Keep talking and ask questions to display confidence, friendliness, and social ease.
- 💬 Use personal input: Share something about your own day or experiences to make the interaction more personal and engaging.
- 👀 Look for positive signals: Notice her response—if she maintains eye contact, smiles, and responds positively, continue the conversation.
- 😉 Sprinkle in intent: Gradually add light flirting or playful comments to build rapport once the conversation is flowing well.
- ❓ Mix questions and observations: Ask questions and make assumptions or observations to keep the dialogue going smoothly.
- ✍️ Avoid awkward silence: Don't fall into the trap of question-answer loops; continue elaborating or adding input between questions.
- 👍 End on a high note: Aim to leave the conversation positively, especially when getting a phone number or setting up a date.
- 📞 Coaching offer: The video closes by promoting a coaching program aimed at improving social confidence, discipline, and mindset.
Q & A
What is the primary focus of the video?
-The primary focus of the video is to explain how to continue a conversation after approaching a woman, starting from a compliment and transitioning into a full interaction that could lead to getting a phone number or a date.
What is the first step after approaching a woman, according to the speaker?
-The first step after approaching a woman is to give a compliment, followed by elaborating on the compliment to keep the conversation going.
Why is it important to 'assume the burden of the conversation'?
-It’s important because the woman is a stranger and might not immediately engage in conversation. By carrying the conversation, you show confidence, social skills, and help make the interaction more comfortable for her.
What does the speaker suggest doing after giving a compliment?
-After giving a compliment, the speaker suggests elaborating on the compliment and making an observation or asking a follow-up question to keep the conversation flowing.
How does the speaker handle slight responses from the woman?
-The speaker advises not to get awkward after a slight response. Instead, you should continue talking and ask a question or provide personal input to keep the conversation alive.
What does 'sprinkling in some intent' mean, and when should it be done?
-'Sprinkling in some intent' means subtly expressing romantic interest. It should be done after you've established some rapport and the woman is responding positively.
What is the speaker’s advice for avoiding awkward pauses?
-To avoid awkward pauses, the speaker recommends asking questions, switching topics, making playful assumptions about the woman, and giving personal input to keep the conversation dynamic.
Why is it crucial to extend the conversation after asking a question?
-It’s crucial because most people, especially strangers, may initially give short responses. By extending the conversation, you show you’re social, confident, and provide more opportunities for the woman to engage.
What are some common mistakes men make during an interaction according to the speaker?
-Common mistakes include becoming awkward after receiving a small response, asking too many consecutive questions without adding personal input, and failing to carry the conversation by elaborating or making observations.
What does the speaker offer at the end of the video?
-The speaker offers a coaching program that includes a one-on-one onboarding call, daily live coaching, access to a community, and self-development content aimed at improving social confidence and discipline.
Outlines
🗣️ How to Transition After the Approach
This paragraph discusses how to navigate a conversation after approaching a woman. The speaker explains the importance of carrying the conversation after offering a greeting or compliment, highlighting that it's the responsibility of the man to drive the first 10-20 seconds. This allows the woman to feel comfortable and avoid awkwardness. The speaker shares a real-life example, showing how he opened with a compliment about the woman's outfit and then elaborated on it to keep the conversation flowing. He emphasizes making observations, asking questions, and continuing to talk in order to display confidence and make the interaction smooth and natural.
👔 Structuring the Interaction and Personal Input
In this part, the speaker further explains the flow of conversation by breaking down his own interaction. After giving a compliment, he elaborates on it, asks a question, and shares something personal about his day. This builds rapport and gives the woman space to respond comfortably. The speaker stresses the importance of keeping the conversation going by mixing personal input with observations. As the woman reacts positively and engages, he begins to inject some playful teasing and intent, showing interest in her beyond small talk, while continuing to ask questions and make lighthearted assumptions.
🔄 The Importance of Carrying the Conversation
This paragraph highlights the speaker's main strategy of 'carrying the conversation,' meaning that the man should talk for 10-15 seconds after asking a question, instead of relying on the woman to keep the conversation going. This not only reduces awkwardness but also helps reveal personality and social skills. The speaker advises against making the interaction feel like an interrogation with back-to-back questions, and instead suggests elaborating on observations to give the other person more opportunities to engage naturally.
📱 Taking the Interaction to the Next Level
The speaker wraps up by summarizing how to lead the interaction from an initial approach to a meaningful conversation that can result in a phone number or a date. He outlines a typical progression: compliment, small talk, teasing/flirting, setting up plans, and exchanging contact details. The key is to leave the interaction on a high note, ensuring it’s light and enjoyable. He concludes by inviting viewers to join his coaching program, which offers personal guidance, daily live coaching, and a supportive community to help men improve their social confidence and personal development.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Approach
💡Compliment
💡Elaboration
💡Burden of conversation
💡Personal input
💡Intent
💡Flirting
💡Small talk
💡Questioning
💡Interaction structure
Highlights
Transitioning the conversation after an initial compliment is crucial for maintaining flow and avoiding awkwardness.
It's the responsibility of the person approaching to carry the first 10-20 seconds of the conversation to ease the other person into it.
A well-delivered compliment can be elaborated on to naturally extend the interaction.
Making an observation about the person's appearance or situation can be an easy way to follow up on a compliment.
Asking questions after the compliment keeps the conversation going and allows the person to share more about themselves.
Sharing personal input about your own day or experience helps the conversation feel more balanced and less one-sided.
Recognizing positive responses such as eye contact or warm tone of voice indicates it's safe to sprinkle in some intent and escalate.
Introducing light humor or playful assumptions, like calling someone a 'cute leopard girl,' can make the interaction more memorable and engaging.
Switching topics frequently and asking questions keeps the conversation dynamic and prevents awkward silences.
Observing the person’s responses allows you to gauge their comfort level and adjust your approach accordingly.
Avoid relying solely on question after question. Providing personal input helps the other person feel more comfortable.
The goal is to help the other person feel at ease and build a sense of familiarity by offering insights into your own thoughts and day.
Using compliments, elaboration, questions, and personal input leads to more natural conversations and the opportunity to deepen the connection.
An interaction doesn’t have to be long to be effective. In just a few minutes, it's possible to go from a compliment to phone numbers and potential future plans.
Consistency in practicing these social skills can improve confidence, mindset, and overall interactions.
Transcripts
let's exchange numbers okay cool okay I
like the tattoos thank you so much in
this video I want to discuss with you
guys what to say after you've approached
the girl what to do once you've already
either opened you gave a compliment you
gave some sort of greeting how do we
transition the conversation to go from
that to actually running a full-blown
interaction that could lead to a phone
number that could lead to a date I'm
going to be breaking down an infield
clip of me going out giving a compliment
and then carrying the conversation
understand guys if you are going up and
approaching a woman it is going to be on
you to assume the burden of the
conversation she's a stranger who has no
idea who you are and most people out
there are just weird so it's on you to
carry the first 10 to 20 seconds of the
conversation for a variety of different
reasons number one you don't want to put
pressure on them you want to make it as
easy for them to listen in and have
multiple opportunities to respond to you
and you also need to carry the
conversation so that way you can subtly
display that you're confident you're
cool you're friendly you're social and
you're not a threat so the very first
thing you'll see is I just see this girl
standing on the street corner I don't
know exactly how attractive she is I I
don't really know too much I don't
overthink it just in passing I throw out
a compliment to her which is I like your
outfit I like your outfit thank you
looks very nice is that like tigers and
lions or what is it Tigers yeah so I
technically open with a compliment she
looks says thank you with a smile and
then as I'm walking past I make an
observation and I elaborate on what I
notice about her so if you give out a
compliment all you need to really do is
elaborate on it I said I really like the
tiger or the leopard print and you got
the belt what is that exactly yeah and
you got the The Little Leopard belt
thingy too beautiful swag thank you
how's your day going so she gave a
slightly warm response but here's where
most dudes would go wrong is they would
give the compliment and then they get
weird notice how I gave the compliment
and then I elaborate ated on it I I then
asked her a question and I'm carrying
the conversation here so I am
continuously talking to assume the
burden of the conversation great it's
amazing and yours it's good I've been
I've been in the apartment all day
actually so I was just busy working I
needed to get out the house at least for
a little bit you know okay so I I told
myself I was going to at least walk
around the block one time just to get a
get a little bit going and then I saw a
cute leopard girl
thank you I really like I like the
Tigers you like the Tigers and leops so
if we were to look at this structure I
gave the compliment I then elaborated on
it I asked her a question she responded
positively I then gave personal input I
didn't really have too much to say so I
just started talking about what's going
on in my day so far I said I've been
cooped up in the apartment was working
all day and I told myself I'm going to
go out at least for a little bit just so
I could walk around get some steps and
at this point point she's responding
positively she's holding eye contact
with me she hasn't been cold she has a
good vocal tonality when she's
responding to me so it's okay for me to
now sprinkle in some intent so at that
point I said and I was walking by and
then I saw this cute leopard girl and I
just wanted to come over and say what's
up tigers and lepers are are you must be
a pet lover what you must love animals
and pets I love I love I love kids yeah
oh okay you love cat yeah that makes
more sense so you have like three you
have like three cats or five cats or
something not me my friend you're not
the crazy lady though go there are you
going to this I was going to go that
where you headed uh I'm going to the
bank you're going to the bank yes okay
well I was actually going to do a lap
who are you what what's your
name yeah pleasure to meet you nice to
meet you and you I'm Kyle Kyle Kyle yeah
so you do you live out here or and then
notice what I'm doing here I just don't
let the interaction and she says I was
actually head to the bank I said I was
actually going to walk around around
here but who are you now she's actually
foreign so she doesn't understand who
are you most most foreign women are
actually confused with that sentence so
I then correct myself and I just say who
are you like what's your name and then
so she tells me her name she asks me my
name and then I just ask another
question so you want to utilize asking
questions switching topic making playful
assumptions about the girl and
periodically you can sprinkle in a tiny
bit of intent to carry the conversation
I think the the biggest mistakes I see
men making is that when they open they
get a very small response from the girl
and then they're sitting there awkwardly
and they just go into question question
question the main thing you want to do
guys is develop the skill set of
assuming the burden of the conversation
and utilizing asking a question or
making an observation or elaborating on
what you notice that just means talking
you're giving personal input into the
topic at hand to then carry the the
conversation most people if you ask them
a question they're only going to respond
this much at least in the beginning it's
on you to then extend the conversation
by talking for the next 10 to 15 seconds
it shows the person you're not a threat
you're cool you can display some of your
personality in your answers and it gives
them more things that they could then
respond to and as we go further and
further the other person will start to
feel more comfortable with you you
become less of a stranger and they start
to then give more lengthy answers
altogether this interaction was about 7
minutes long give or take and this is a
very simple standard cookie cutter
interaction going from compliment to
small talk to teasing flirting setting
up a plan getting a phone number vibing
and getting to know her on a deeper
level and then leaving the interaction
on a high point so that's how it's done
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