How A Man Processes His Feelings And Realizes You're The One (Or Pulls Away).
Summary
TLDRDating coach Elliot Scott debunks the myth that men pull away to process their feelings when they like someone. He explains that emotionally available men who desire a relationship won't retreat but will communicate openly. Pulling away is often a sign of emotional unavailability or fear of commitment. Scott advises that if a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he will avoid risking losing her and will invest in the relationship rather than playing games.
Takeaways
- 😀 Attraction is crucial in relationships; without it, a man might not commit or invest in the relationship.
- 🔗 The link to an ebook is provided for maximizing attraction, which is essential for a man's commitment.
- 🚫 Contrary to a common myth, emotionally available men who want a relationship won't pull away to process their feelings.
- 🧠 It's counterintuitive for a man to pull away when he's emotionally available and wants a relationship; it's a risk to the connection.
- 🤔 Men are risk-averse, and pulling away when things are going well can create uncertainty and jeopardize the relationship.
- 🚷 When a man pulls away, it's often due to emotional unavailability rather than a lack of attraction.
- 💭 Men who are unsure about a relationship might pull away to avoid the risk of commitment.
- 🗣️ Communication is key; a man who is emotionally available and wants a relationship will communicate his intentions.
- 🚨 Pulling away can be a sign of uncertainty about the relationship, not necessarily about the person.
- 💔 If a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he won't risk losing her by pulling away.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video transcript?
-The main topic of the video transcript is how men process their feelings when they like someone and the relationship is potentially becoming more serious.
What does Elliot Scott, the dating coach, believe about men pulling away to process their feelings?
-Elliot Scott believes that emotionally available men who want a relationship will not pull away to process their feelings. He suggests that it's counterintuitive for a man to pull away when he wants a relationship.
According to the transcript, what is the role of attraction in a relationship?
-Attraction is described as the foundation of a relationship. Without enough attraction, a man might not invest, initiate, or maintain contact.
What does the dating coach suggest is the real reason men pull away in relationships?
-The dating coach suggests that men pull away due to a lack of attraction or emotional unavailability rather than to process their feelings.
What does the term 'context' refer to in the transcript?
-In the transcript, 'context' refers to the things a couple does and says over time that creates an atmosphere of seriousness or a relationship vibe.
Why does the dating coach say it's risky for a man to pull away when things are going well?
-The dating coach says it's risky because the masculine energy is about providing, satisfying, and protecting. Pulling away can risk all of that and create uncertainty.
What does the dating coach mean when he says men are 'risk-averse'?
-The dating coach means that men typically avoid situations that could lead to loss or harm, such as pulling away from a relationship that is progressing well.
What advice does Elliot Scott give for women who think a man is pulling away to process his feelings?
-Elliot Scott advises that if a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he won't put himself in a position to lose her. He suggests that women should consider that he might not want the relationship rather than assuming he is processing his feelings.
What does the dating coach suggest is the key to understanding a man's behavior in a relationship?
-The dating coach suggests that communication is key to understanding a man's behavior in a relationship. If a man is emotionally available and wants a relationship, he will communicate his intentions.
What does the dating coach imply about high-value men and their approach to relationships?
-The dating coach implies that high-value men are more likely to communicate openly and invest reciprocally in a relationship without playing games or pulling away unnecessarily.
What is the final message from the dating coach to women in the transcript?
-The final message is that if a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he will not put himself in a position to lose her. Women should be cautious of making excuses for men who pull away and consider that they might not want a relationship.
Outlines
💭 Understanding Men's Emotional Processing
Elliot Scott, a dating coach, discusses how men process their feelings when they like someone and consider a relationship. He refutes the common myth that men pull away to process their feelings, explaining that emotionally available men who want a relationship will not retreat. Instead, they will communicate openly. The coach emphasizes the importance of attraction and how it impacts a man's willingness to commit. He suggests that if a man pulls away, it's often due to a lack of attraction or emotional unavailability, not because he needs time to process his feelings. The key takeaway is that men who are certain about their feelings and desire a relationship will not create distance but will engage and communicate their intentions.
🚫 Debunking the Myth of 'Pulling Away'
In this paragraph, Elliot Scott continues to explain the behavior of men who are emotionally available and interested in a relationship. He argues that these men will not pull away because it's counterintuitive to their desires. They would rather process their thoughts during personal time rather than creating distance in a budding relationship. The coach also touches on the idea of 'context' and how it can lead to uncertainty for men who are unsure about commitment. He advises that if a man pulls away, it's a sign of risk avoidance regarding the relationship, not an attempt to process feelings. The summary highlights the importance of communication and the notion that a man who truly wants a relationship will not risk losing a high-value woman by creating uncertainty.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Dating Coach
💡Attraction
💡Emotional Availability
💡Commitment
💡Risk Avoidance
💡Emotional Unavailability
💡Context
💡High Value Woman
💡Processing Feelings
💡Reciprocal Investment
Highlights
Men who are emotionally available and want a relationship will not pull away to process their feelings.
Attraction is key in relationships; without it, a man may not commit or invest in the relationship.
The idea that a man pulls away to process feelings is a misconception.
Men are risk-averse and pulling away when things are going well can create uncertainty and risk losing the relationship.
Men who are unsure about a relationship may pull away due to emotional unavailability, not necessarily a lack of attraction.
When a man pulls away, it's often a sign of uncertainty about the relationship, not just processing feelings.
Context, including actions and conversations over time, can lead a man to pull away if he's unsure about the relationship's future.
Men avoid risk and pulling away can be a way to avoid the risk of committing to a relationship.
If a man truly wants a relationship, he will not pull away as he is risk-averse and wants to maintain the connection.
Communication is key; an emotionally available man who wants a relationship will communicate his intentions.
Playing games is not beneficial with a high-value woman, as she is less likely to tolerate uncertainty.
A high-value man will communicate and invest reciprocally rather than pulling away.
If a man likes you but pulls away, it may be because he's uncertain about the cost or commitment of a relationship.
If a man could maintain a casual, no-strings-attached relationship, he would have no reason to pull away.
Men who truly like a woman and want a relationship will continue to pursue it without pulling away unnecessarily.
Transcripts
what's going on everybody it's your fave
dating coach elliot scott and as you can
see by the title below we're going to
talk about how a man processes his
feelings when he likes you and it's
going towards something a little more
serious now if you want to just avoid a
man processing his feelings and he
really likes you and wants to commit to
you long term because he sees you as a
high value woman and you know how to
maximize attraction link is down below
to my 275 page ebook
uh that's going to show you how to
maximize attraction attraction is
everything if you don't have enough
attraction your friends have benefits if
you don't have enough attraction a guy
pulls away he doesn't reach out he does
initiate he doesn't invest his resources
that's all based on attraction so if you
want to get a guy to do all that and see
you long term link is down in the
description so
this is coming from a comment i just
commented on
and she basically said this from my last
video or a couple videos ago she
basically said i heard that if a guy
starts to like you he pulls away to
process his feelings something along the
lines of that pulling away and
processing
okay and i told her no that's not how it
works where did where in hell did you
hear that from so i wanted to make a
video on kind of how it works with men
emotionally available men who want a
relationship will not pull away to
process their feelings there is no
reason to it is counterintuitive
right if i'm invest okay think like this
as a species think of it always as a
species think of it always as advantages
what is the advantage of me pulling away
when i have you right there i want that
relationship we both want the same thing
it's right there it's moving towards it
what's the point of me pulling away i
could process that [ __ ] when i'm sitting
on the toilet no pun intended i could
process that stuff when you're working
or i'm working or i'm at home or i'm in
bed or on my own my alone time like i
can process that and it's not hard to
process because i know what i want as an
emotionally available man right he will
want
um if he likes you and he wants a
relationship and it's going towards that
he wants a relationship with you there's
just no reason to pull away again it's
counterintuitive
men are risk avoided it would actually
be risky for him to when things are
going well okay things are going well
between you two oh my hair there and um
and and everything's going you know
again going well for maybe
weeks or months and then all of a sudden
he starts to pull away that's going to
leave you uncertain and that's going to
cause a lot of [ __ ] because the
masculine energy
is a provider a satisfier a protector he
leaves a woman certain he gives her
validation he makes her feel wanted and
beautiful when he pulls away he is
risking all that he is risking all that
it's not a good thing okay so when guys
do pull away
it is due to a lack of attraction to an
extent but i would argue that it's
mostly
emotional unavailability and that
doesn't mean a guy can't like you that
doesn't mean a guy can't have a
relationship it's a lot harder to have
that with those type of guys but it
means like there's a roadblock in the
guy's head there's something that's
preventing it from just hap things
the way he thinks the way he processes
things the way he acts reacts or just
goes about
it it just doesn't happen it's naturally
or the way it should be um
so when men do pull away
it's context it doesn't mean i don't
like you it means i'm unsure about a
relationship a relationship is a
lifestyle so yes when a guy does pull
away i would actually you know to
process his feelings i would actually
say
it's not a good sign i know this kind of
sounds like well yeah then a guy is
pulling away to process his feelings i
wouldn't say so much feelings because
it's obvious a guy might like you
and you know he might think i do like
the girl it's him processed again he's
mostly unavailable there's something in
his mind that just isn't working
correctly doesn't mean he's messed up
just because the guy doesn't want a
relationship doesn't mean he's
emotionally unavailable i'm saying when
a guy does like a girl and he keeps on
getting in his own way for whatever
reason um that's the problem and usually
guys will pull away when the context
starts to layer so for you guys who
don't know what context is it's the
things you guys do and say over a period
of time usually the period of time you
guys are talking that creates this
atmosphere of seriousness of this vibe
that feels more like a relationship so
the more you're talking texting the
consistency the hanging out the hooking
up
the uh meeting friendship family the
future talking the cut like all that
kind of stuff when
a guy's unsure about a relationship or
you guys did talk about what this is
going to be in the beginning you know so
there's uncertainty
and then you start doing all that stuff
it starts to paint this picture of a
little more
seri of a serious vibe and if he's
unsure about you
um he's going to think well
not unsure about you but
of a relationship because he can like
you but if he's unsure about a
relationship he's going to think well if
i keep on going along with this it's
telling her i'm on the same page when
i'm not so i'm pulling away and you can
see going back to the risk assessment
thing i said like men are risk avoidance
this is actually the opposite in he's
avoiding the risk of the relationship i
hate to say it like that but some guys
just don't see a relationship
especially when they're not ready for
one or they don't feel like you're the
right girl or they have the you know
fomo fear of missing out or
whatever it is um
you know they see jumping into a
relationship as a liability that's why i
say he's not really processing his
feelings he's just kind of looking for
more of a
um
not not an out but you like do you try
to justify what's going on not his
feelings but it's like do i actually
want a relationship and if he's if again
if he has to pull back and process it
it's probably the answer is probably no
because a guy who truly wants a
relationship i always say this is a guy
who truly likes you or if a guy truly
likes you won't put himself in a
position to lose you you know so if he
wants a relationship with you he's risk
avoidance there's no benefit for him to
pull back and you know by pull back for
i mean like days where it's like very
obvious something has changed um because
that's gonna leave uncertainty in your
mind and if you're a high value woman
you might walk away from that high value
men know that because high value woman
women who he can actually attract and
keep um don't put up with it so
communication is key he will communicate
it if he likes you he's emotionally
available and he wants a relationship he
will follow through there's no reason
for him to pull away he's not going to
play [ __ ] games everyone's like well
what if he's playing games it's not
beneficial to play games with a high
value woman if you're a high value man
and you guys are on the same page
looking for the same thing
that is not a thing
it's reciprocal investment with a a good
amount of pacing like the pace is normal
it's not too fast it's not too slow um
and things like that but i think a high
value man would probably communicate
this kind of stuff with you instead of
pulling away and stuff like that because
again when he's pulling away it's
because of avoidance i'm not saying
avoidant personality types you know none
of those attachment types i just mean
avoiding like he's avoiding something
it's a risk he's avoiding risk whatever
that is in his head okay ladies so that
being said if a guy truly likes you he
won't put himself in a position to lose
you especially if he wants a
relationship he's going to continue it
if he's uncertain and you are making
these excuses like he's pulling away
because he's trying to process things no
no no
he likes you he just doesn't want to pay
the cost of the of the benefits he
doesn't want to pay the cost of the
relationship if he could keep it think
of it like this if he could keep it the
way it is right now where you're just
like hey i just want to get banged and i
don't want a relationship i don't want
any strings attached um it's just
you and i having fun don't worry about
me ever wanting a relationship why would
he pull away it's a win-win for him
think of it like that okay um so that
being said ladies i love you all take
care and peace
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