8 Macam Perbuatan Durhaka Kepada Orang Tua | Penting ! Ini Penjelasannya
Summary
TLDRThis video discusses the various forms of disobedience and disrespect towards parents in Islam, highlighting behaviors such as speaking harshly, showing disdain, or failing to care for them properly. It emphasizes the significant consequences of such actions, both in this world and the hereafter. The script draws on Quranic verses and Hadiths to stress the importance of honoring parents, avoiding actions that cause them pain or humiliation, and seeking their forgiveness if harm has been done. The video encourages viewers to reflect and change any disrespectful behavior toward their parents.
Takeaways
- 🙌 Respecting parents is a key virtue in Islam, and hurting them, either through words or actions, is considered sinful.
- 😔 Speaking harshly or saying 'ah' to parents is forbidden in Islam and is considered a form of disobedience.
- 🙏 Children should repent and seek forgiveness from their parents if they have hurt them, as parental approval is crucial for spiritual success.
- 📖 The Quran emphasizes kindness and respect towards parents, especially when they are old and in need of care.
- 🤐 Even minor disrespect towards parents, like showing frustration, is discouraged in Islam and is viewed as a serious sin.
- 💼 Neglecting to care for one's parents, especially prioritizing others over them, is another form of disobedience to parents.
- 🗣 Criticizing or belittling parents, considering them backward or old-fashioned, is condemned in Islam.
- 😠 Children who display anger or negativity, such as frowning or sulking in front of their parents, are committing a sin.
- 👨👩👧👦 Forcing elderly parents to work or treat them as servants is wrong, especially if they are physically unable to manage the tasks.
- 👎 Dishonoring or shaming parents, either publicly or privately, is a grave sin in Islam, leading to both worldly and spiritual consequences.
Q & A
What is considered disobedience towards parents according to the video?
-Disobedience towards parents includes behaviors such as causing them distress, speaking harshly, or neglecting their needs, which may lead to making them cry or hurt emotionally.
What does the Quran say about how children should treat their parents?
-The Quran emphasizes that children should not even say 'ah' to their parents, should not raise their voices, and must speak to them with respect and kindness, especially when they reach old age (Surah Al-Isra, Ayah 23).
Why is making parents cry considered a form of disobedience?
-Making parents cry, whether through actions or words, is seen as an act of disobedience because it brings emotional pain to those who have cared for and nurtured their children. Islam teaches that children should honor and respect their parents.
What did Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) say about a child's wealth and their father?
-Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) mentioned in a hadith that 'You and your wealth are your father's.' This emphasizes the importance of a child's duty to their parents and suggests that children should not refuse their parents' requests regarding financial support.
What is the significance of avoiding harsh language towards parents?
-Harsh language, even as small as saying 'ah,' is prohibited in Islam because it shows disrespect. Using offensive words or a dismissive tone hurts parents emotionally and is considered sinful.
What does it mean when children feel superior to their parents?
-Children feeling superior to their parents, thinking they are smarter or more modern, is viewed as disrespectful and a form of disobedience. It diminishes the parents' dignity and disregards their wisdom.
How is a frown or scornful expression towards parents viewed in Islam?
-Showing a frown or a scornful expression towards parents is considered a form of disrespect and disobedience. Islam encourages children to meet their parents with a smiling and respectful demeanor, as a harsh attitude disrupts family harmony.
Is it permissible for children to assign household chores to their elderly parents?
-It is not permissible for children to burden their elderly parents with tasks that the children themselves can do, unless the parents volunteer out of their own willingness. Making parents work when they are weak is seen as disrespectful.
What is the consequence of tarnishing a parent's reputation?
-Tarnishing a parent's reputation by revealing their flaws or speaking ill of them in public is considered a major sin in Islam. This behavior disrespects the parents and dishonors the family.
Why might children be hesitant to acknowledge their parents in modern society?
-In modern society, children might feel ashamed of their parents if they perceive them as outdated, less educated, or from a lower social class. This attitude stems from pride and leads to disobedience, which is severely condemned in Islam.
Outlines
😔 Respecting Parents: Avoiding Hurtful Words and Actions
This paragraph addresses the importance of respecting parents and the various ways in which children might unintentionally hurt them, including through disrespectful words, actions, or attitudes. It highlights that even when a child believes they are in the right, hurting their parents is considered a sin, and they must seek forgiveness. The paragraph also references a Quranic verse (Surah Al-Isra 23) that emphasizes the gravity of even saying 'ah' to parents, let alone treating them harshly. Children must repent and seek the approval (ridha) of their parents.
😠 The Dangers of Insulting and Devaluing Parents
This section discusses how some children disrespect their parents by devaluing their wisdom, calling them old-fashioned or ignorant. The Prophet Muhammad warned that it is a major sin to insult one's parents, and even indirectly causing others to insult them can lead to great wrongdoing. The example of someone insulting another's parents, causing reciprocal insults, is used to illustrate this point. Additionally, maintaining a sour expression or acting cold toward parents, even over trivial issues, is another form of disrespect that can damage the relationship.
👨👩👧👦 The Duty to Care for Aging Parents
This paragraph highlights the common issue of children expecting their elderly parents to continue working or helping around the house, despite their frailty. It condemns this practice unless the parents willingly and happily engage in such tasks. Children should be grateful if parents assist, but they must not impose labor on them, particularly when they are no longer capable of supporting themselves financially.
💔 The Sin of Shaming and Disowning Parents
Here, the script emphasizes the sin of publicly humiliating or disowning parents. Examples include exposing their flaws, reprimanding them in front of others, or allowing negative influences into the family home. Children may become ashamed of their parents due to their backgrounds, but this behavior is sinful, and severe consequences, such as worldly punishment or torment in the afterlife, are warned. The paragraph closes with a reminder to avoid such actions and repent from such hurtful tendencies.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Durhaka
💡Orang Tua
💡Berkata Kasar
💡Quran Surah al-Isra Ayat 23
💡Rasulullah Shallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
💡Menyesalkan Orang Tua
💡Menghardik
💡Mencela Orang Tua
💡Muka Cemberut
💡Mencemarkan Nama Baik
Highlights
Misunderstandings between children and parents can lead to disobedience, which is considered a serious offense in Islam.
Speaking harshly or showing disrespect to parents, such as saying 'ah', is explicitly forbidden in Islam.
Disobedient actions, including making parents sad or upset through words or behavior, are considered sinful.
If a child causes pain or sorrow to their parents, even if they believe they are in the right, they must repent and seek their parents' forgiveness.
Islam commands that children should speak kindly to their parents, especially when they are elderly and in need of care.
The Quran, in Surah Al-Isra, verse 23, explicitly forbids saying even a word of displeasure, like 'ah', to one's parents.
Prioritizing others, including spouses, over one’s parents is considered disobedient and goes against Islamic teachings.
Children should not consider their parents as outdated or ignorant, as this attitude shows great disrespect and is a serious sin.
The Prophet Muhammad stated that disrespecting or cursing one's own parents, even indirectly, is a major sin.
Displaying a sullen or hostile face towards parents, especially over trivial worldly matters, harms the relationship and is considered disobedience.
Forcing parents, who may already be weak or elderly, to perform tasks that are more suited for younger people is a form of disobedience unless the parents willingly choose to help.
Cursing or tarnishing the reputation of one's parents, such as by exposing their flaws in public, is a grave sin.
Some children feel ashamed of their parents, especially when they feel superior in terms of education or social status, which is a form of neglect.
Neglecting one’s parents due to being absorbed in worldly distractions can lead to punishment both in this life and the afterlife.
Islam teaches that disobedience to parents can bring immediate worldly consequences as well as severe punishment in the hereafter.
Transcripts
Hai Duh sungguh hamil bro hehehe muah
muah
Hai assalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh sahabat yang dimuliakan
Allah tanpa kita sadari dalam perkara
yang ada kesalahpahaman antara seorang
anak dengan orangtuanya terkadang anak
berolah melampaui batas dan bersikap
kasar yang dapat mengganggu orang tuanya
yang ternyata sikap tersebut adalah
bentuk durhaka kepada orang tua dan
inilah 8 bentuk durhaka kepada orang tua
yang perlu dihindari menyusahkan
orangtua menyesalkan kedua orangtua
dapat saja berupa perkataan maupun
perbuatan yang membuat kedua orang tua
sangat sedih dan sakit hati bahkan
membuatnya menangis panjang hidup
apabila hal itu terjadi maka anak yang
bersangkutan telah durhaka kepada kedua
orang tuanya dia berdosa meskipun di
pihak yang benar ia harus bertaubat
Ya Allah dan meminta maaf kepada kedua
orang tua hingga menggapai Ridhonya
berkata kasar adalah berkata ah
membentak menghardik dan tidak memenuhi
panggilan orangtuanya Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala berfirman Dan Tuhanmu telah
memerintahkan supaya kamu Jangan
menyembah selain Dia dan hendaklah kamu
berbuat baik kepada Ibu Bapakmu dengan
sebaik-baiknya jika salah seorang
diantara keduanya atau kedua-duanya
sampai berumur lanjut dalam
pemeliharaanmu maka sekali-kali
janganlah kamu mengatakan kepada
keduanya perkataan ah dan janganlah kamu
membentak mereka dan ucapkanlah kepada
mereka perkataan yang mulia Quran surah
al-isra ayat 23 mengucapkan kata ah
kepada kedua orang tua tidak dibenarkan
dalam Islam apalagi mengucapkan
kata-kata atau memperlakukan mereka
dengan lebih kasar daripada itu tentu
kekuatan itu termasuk perbuatan
terlarang dan menjadikan pelakunya
berdosa tahlil anak yang baik terhadap
kedua orang tua dan tidak mau
mengurusinya make dia telah berlaku
durhaka kepada orang tua apalagi jika
anak lebih mementingkan orang lain
termasuk istrinya daripada orangtuanya
sendiri Rasulullah Shallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam pernah bersabda kepada seorang
laki-laki yang mengadukan perihal
ayahnya Orang itu berkata Ayahku ingin
mengambil hartaku Nabi Shallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam bersabda kamu dan
hartamu adalah milik ayahmu hadis
riwayat Ahmad Abu Dawud dan Ibnu Majah
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menjelang dan merendahkan anak zaman
sekarang ada yang memiliki kecenderungan
merasa lebih hebat dan pintar dari orang
tuanya mereka menganggap dan mengatakan
bahwa orangtuanya bodoh kolot
ketinggalan zaman dan lain sebagainya
Hai sikap ini jelas sangat mencela dan
pelakunya berdosa besar Rasulullah
Shallallahu Alaihi Wasallam bersabda
termasuk dosa besar adalah seseorang
mencela kedua orangtuanya para sahabat
bertanya ya Rasulullah Apakah ada orang
yang mencela orang tuanya beliau
menjawab ada dia mencela Ayah orang lain
kemudian orang itu membalas mencela
ayahnya dia mencela Ibu orang lain
kemudian orang itu membalas mencela
ibunya Hadits Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim
bermuka masam dan cemberut tidak ada
seorangpun yang ingin melihat orang yang
bermuka masam penuh dengan Angkara Murka
dan cemberut terlebih orang tua terhadap
anaknya hati orang tua Pasti teriris
melihat wajah buah hatinya yang tidak
bersahabat hanya disebabkan karena
persoalan-persoalan sepele yang bersifat
duniawi wajah yang tidak bersahabat
hanya akan mengganggu keharmonisan
hubungan
jika hal itu terjadi antara anak dan
orang tuanya tentu saja termasuk
perbuatan durhaka pada keduanya
Rasulullah Shallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
mengajarkan kepada kita untuk tampil
berseri saat bertemu dengan saudara kita
Bagaimana jika bertemu dengan orang tua
bermuka cemberut menyuruh orang tua
bekerja Padahal mereka sudah lemah tidak
jarang kita jumpai pemandangan di
masyarakat kita seorang anak yang sampai
hati menjadikan orang tua sebagai
pembantu rumah tangga untuk
menyelesaikan tugas-tugas yang
sebenarnya lebih layak dilakukan oleh
yang mudah terutama sekali Jika orangtua
sudah tidak memiliki harta kekayaan yang
dapat menopang hidupnya sikap seperti
ini Tentu saja tidak dibenarkan oleh
syara' kecuali jika orang tua
melakukannya karena kemauannya sendiri
dan dengan sukarela maka anak harus
berterima kasih kepada mereka
mencemarkan nama baik mencemarkan nama
orangtua juga tindakan sikap durhaka
kepada orangtua yang memiliki nilai dosa
besar di sisi Allah contoh dari sikap
ini diantaranya adalah menyebarkan aib
menegur dihadapan umum memasukkan
kemungkaran kedalam rumahnya dan lain
sebagainya malu mengakui orangtuanya
dunia yang melenakan tidak jarang
membuat seseorang lupa diri dari mana
dia kenapa dia ada siapa yang berjasa
dalam hidupnya ironis memang tetapi
itulah kenyataan hidup yang terjadi hari
ini Mengapa anak bisa lupa pada
orangtuanya karena dia merasa lebih
unggul dan memandang orang tuanya bodoh
kolot orang desa cacat dan lain
sebagainya dampak negatif dari perilaku
durhaka kepada orang tua ini tidak
jarang berbentuk disegerakannya azab di
dunia sekaligus siksa sangat pedih di
akhirat yang siap menanti
nauzubillahminzalik demikianlah sekilas
tentang
kita durhaka kepada orang tua yang perlu
dihindari Semoga dengan adanya video ini
bisa kita jadikan pelajaran dan
secepatnya Kita merubah sifat-sifat
tercela yang tersebut diatas karena itu
sudah menjadi kewajiban kita wallahu
aklam semoga bermanfaat wassalamualaikum
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
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