7 Things You Should Never Tell Anyone (become a real man)
Summary
TLDRThis video script explores the advantages of being a 'loner,' debunking the myth that it leads to unhappiness. It posits that loners are more likely to be successful in various life areas due to their focus on quality relationships, less reliance on social media, and the ability to engage in deep thought. The script outlines seven benefits, including increased happiness, attractiveness, intelligence, financial success, health, and leadership potential, all stemming from a loner's independence and self-assuredness.
Takeaways
- 😀 Being a loner can lead to greater happiness by focusing on developing high-quality relationships with a few people instead of trying to maintain many superficial friendships.
- 🤔 Taking a break from social media and communication can help identify who genuinely cares about you by seeing who reaches out during your absence.
- 💬 Speaking less can make you seem more attractive, particularly to women, as it is associated with being mysterious and masculine, which are qualities linked to confidence and self-assurance.
- 🧠 Loners tend to be smarter as they engage in deeper thoughts and have more time for problem-solving and abstract thinking, which is supported by having more gray matter in the brain.
- 🏆 Being a loner can contribute to success in a specific field by spending more time honing skills rather than focusing on social skills, as seen in many successful individuals.
- 💼 As loners, you are less likely to conform to the majority opinion and more likely to stick to your own moral values, even if they are not popular.
- 💰 Loners already possess one of the three traits needed to become rich according to 'The Triple Package': a deep insecurity, which can be a motivator for developing the other two traits, a superiority complex and impulse control.
- 🚶♂️ Partying less as a loner can contribute to better health by reducing the reliance on alcohol as a stress reliever and avoiding the negative decisions often made while intoxicated.
- 🏋️♂️ Building an amazing physique is easier for loners as they have more control over their decisions and can focus on health without being swayed by peer pressure.
- 🎯 Keeping goals to oneself can increase the likelihood of achieving them, as sharing goals prematurely can lead to a false sense of satisfaction and reduced motivation.
- 🔝 Loners have the potential to become top 1% men due to their independence, ability to work alone, and lack of need for external validation.
Q & A
What is the main advantage of being a loner according to the video script?
-The main advantage of being a loner, as mentioned in the script, is that it can lead to greater success in various areas of life, including happiness, attractiveness, intelligence, financial success, health, and leadership.
How does having fewer friends contribute to one's happiness according to the script?
-Having fewer friends can contribute to happiness because it encourages the development of high-quality relationships, which are more fulfilling and lead to a more genuine social experience rather than focusing on the quantity of friends.
What is the 'quick little trick' suggested in the script to identify quality friends?
-The trick is to go off social media for about a week or two and refrain from messaging any friends. Then observe who goes out of their way to check up on you, as those are the ones who truly value the friendship.
Why does speaking less make a person more attractive, particularly to women, as per the script?
-Speaking less can make a person seem more attractive because it is associated with being mysterious and masculine. This perception is linked to the 'less is more' effect, where women fill in the blanks with positive attributes, finding the person more confident and self-assured.
How does being a loner potentially make someone smarter?
-Being a loner can make someone smarter because it allows for more time spent in deep thought and problem-solving. Loners often engage in more abstract thinking and decision-making processes, which are facilitated by having more 'gray matter' in the brain.
What are the three traits mentioned in the book 'The Triple Package' that make people extremely successful?
-The three traits are a superiority complex, a deep insecurity, and impulse control. Loners are said to already possess the trait of deep insecurity, and by developing the other two, they can become extremely successful.
How does being a loner relate to financial success according to the script?
-Being a loner can lead to financial success because loners often have the trait of deep insecurity, which can be a motivator. Additionally, they are less likely to be influenced by peer pressure and can focus more on their goals and personal development.
What is the benefit of not relying on alcohol as a stress reliever as a loner?
-Not relying on alcohol as a stress reliever can lead to better health. It reduces the likelihood of using alcohol as a coping mechanism and helps avoid the negative decisions and regrets associated with intoxication.
Why are loners more likely to be successful at achieving their goals?
-Loners are more likely to be successful at achieving their goals because they keep their goals to themselves, which prevents the premature sense of satisfaction that can reduce motivation. They also avoid external influences and distractions that can sway them from their objectives.
How do loners become good leaders according to the script?
-Loners become good leaders because they are comfortable in their own company, which fosters independence. Independent people are more confident in their abilities and better at working alone, which are key traits of effective leadership.
What is the final message of the video script regarding the advantages of being a loner?
-The final message is that being a loner is a superpower that provides a natural competitive advantage. It allows individuals to be more likely to reach their goals, be smart, become rich, spend more time on health and fitness, and ultimately become top 1% men.
Outlines
🚀 Embracing Loneliness as a Path to Success
The script begins by challenging the negative perception of being alone, particularly on a Friday night, and posits that solitude can be advantageous. It argues that 'loners' tend to be more successful across various life domains, based on studies. The speaker introduces a list of seven benefits of being a loner, starting with the idea that having fewer friends can lead to greater happiness. This is attributed to the superficiality of social media-driven friendships and the loneliness paradox in the modern world. The speaker suggests an experiment to identify quality friendships by temporarily withdrawing from social media and observing who initiates contact. The paragraph sets the stage for a discussion on the overlooked strengths of being a loner.
🤔 The Cognitive and Social Benefits of Solitude
This paragraph delves into the cognitive and social advantages of being a 'loner.' It suggests that loners, by speaking less, are perceived as more attractive, particularly to women, due to the 'less is more' effect. The speaker references a study that found men who talk less are seen as more mysterious and masculine. The paragraph also discusses the intellectual benefits of solitude, such as enhanced decision-making and abstract thinking, as loners have more 'gray matter' in the brain. The speaker provides personal anecdotes about optimizing work processes and using technology, like the Opera browser, to improve efficiency and focus. Additionally, it touches on the idea that loners are more likely to be original thinkers and less susceptible to peer pressure.
💰 The Financial and Health Benefits of Being a Loner
The script continues by outlining the financial benefits of being a loner, linking it to the 'Triple Package' theory of success, which includes a superiority complex, deep insecurity, and impulse control. It suggests that loners already possess one of these traits— insecurity— and can leverage it to develop the other two. The speaker provides examples of successful billionaires who are introverts and encourages the audience to use this as motivation. Furthermore, the paragraph discusses the health benefits of not frequenting parties, such as reduced reliance on alcohol as a stress reliever and the ability to make healthier life choices without peer influence.
🏋️♂️ The Path to Personal and Professional Achievement
The final paragraph emphasizes the personal and professional success that comes from being a loner. It discusses the tendency of loners to keep their goals to themselves, which can lead to higher achievement, as opposed to those who prematurely share their goals and risk losing motivation. The speaker cites research that sharing goals can give a false sense of accomplishment, reducing the drive to actually achieve them. The paragraph concludes by reinforcing the idea that being a loner is not a disadvantage but a superpower that can lead to becoming a top 1% man, highlighting the independence, confidence, and leadership potential inherent in those who are comfortable being alone.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Loners
💡Social Media
💡Quality Relationships
💡Attraction
💡Intelligence
💡Insecurity
💡Impulse Control
💡Health
💡Goal Achievement
💡Leadership
💡Independence
Highlights
Loners are more successful in every area of life according to studies.
Fewer friends can lead to greater happiness by focusing on high-quality relationships.
Social media's influence on the quantity of friends over quality can lead to loneliness.
A week off social media can reveal who your quality friends are.
Loners are perceived as more attractive due to speaking less.
Loners are often smarter due to engaging in deeper thoughts and having more gray matter.
Loners are more likely to be successful in their field due to focusing on honing specific skills.
Loners tend to stick to their moral and values even if it's not the popular opinion.
Loners possess one of the three traits needed to become rich: a sense of insecurity.
Loners are healthier due to being less likely to rely on alcohol as a stress reliever.
Loners build better relationships, are happier, more attractive, smarter, and possess traits to become rich.
Loners are more successful at achieving goals by keeping them to themselves.
Loners are less influenced by peer pressure and external opinions.
Loners have a natural competitive advantage that can turn them into top 1% men.
Loners become good leaders due to their independence and comfort in their own company.
Independence is a key strength for loners, making them highly confident in their abilities.
Transcripts
you probably see friends going out to
parties all the time but on a Friday
night you're alone most would feel bad
about this but I'm here to tell you this
is an advantage Studies have shown that
loners are more successful in every area
of Life today I'm going to show you
seven of them one you have few friends
this makes you happier you see social
media has created a culture where the
number of followers you have overshadows
the quality of in real life friendships
and relationships and here's where it
gets interesting this bite social media
giving us more access to people than
ever before for whatever reason people
around the world feel lonely and are
reporting less friendships than ever
before like I said right this might make
most people sad like you can't fit in
like you don't have friends you see
everybody else having fun but here's
where being a loner becomes your primary
advantage you see by you focusing on
developing highquality relationships
with a few people rather than trying to
keep relationships with a lot of people
you are more likely to be happier and be
fulfilled so here's a quick little trick
you can do to see who your quality
friends are I want you to go off of
social media for about a week or two I
also don't want you to message DM or
text any of your friends first then I
want you to see who goes out of their
way to check up on you what you're going
to notice is that those that you thought
were your friends won't even reach out
this will give you perspective so you
focus on the meaningful friendships
think about it despite being a loner
this is going to make you happier but
this is not the best fact of all as a
matter of fact there are six advantages
that are basically superpowers reasons 2
to six will give you a competitive
Advantage you never realized you had and
tip number seven will show you how to
use all of this to your advantage number
two you speak less which makes you more
attractive you see when you're a loner
it'll also make you talk less which in
turn when you're around women will make
you seem more attractive so I'm going to
show you how to use this to your
advantage you see this p PhD scientist
ran a study and he found that those men
who talked less were perceived as more
mysterious and masculine by women this
is optimal for dating because this
perception is linked to the less is more
effect when you talk less women will F
in those blanks with positive attributes
and so this is why the guy that speaks a
bit less in a group is seen as more
confident more self- assured qualities
that are highly attractive to women so
when you're in a group setting I want
you to embrace the power of of being the
loner now this doesn't mean that you're
going to sit there in a little corner
all quiet no it's about actively
listening your body language is still
active right while you're assessing the
Personalities in the room then when you
do speak up your words will carry more
weight and because you've been listening
and not dominating the conversation
people will be more inclined to pay
attention every time you have something
to say three less friends make you
smarter you see research shows that
loners possess skills and qualities that
make them smarter hard than their peers
now some might think no way this has to
be made up but think about it if you're
a loner it's hard for you to compare
yourself to other people to see how
truly smart you are I'm going to break
down three ways you are smarter as a
loner and how to use it effectively
first because loners are more often
alone they usually engage in deeper
thoughts research shows that loners have
more gray matter in the brain which is
what's responsible for decision making
and abstract thinking in other words as
a loner you have more alone time to
problem solve smarter I'll give you an
example with myself look when I'm
researching to make videos for you guys
I'm locked in I got a 100 tabs open from
research papers articles surveys stats
you name it I got it open and keep in
mind I'll give you guys 16 videos a
month in other words I spend a lot of
time in front of the computer which
means in those alone times I had to
think about how to optimize and I
optimize everything even something as
simple as my web browser for example I
upgraded mine to Opera which is free but
now when I'm switching between tabs I
minimize time wasted this browser has a
feature called Arya which allows me to
highlight the text that I want to know
more about I then click explain briefly
and then I found out exactly what I need
to know from that tab so I can apply it
to these videos for you guys that level
of optimization you do when you are
alone when you're thinking abstractly
second introverts are more successful in
their particular field one study found
that 70% of gifted individuals are often
loners a result that comes from loners
spending more time honing specific
skills or diving into a specific skill
over developing their social skills I'm
going to be honest with you I know this
all too well too all of my time is spent
in video Creation in YouTube I've done
this for the last 10 years just honing
that craft which is what I was just
showing you right like everything gets
optimized it it could result in hundreds
of tabs being open as I'm researching so
to not get distracted and think and
operate like a loner another reason I
love Opera is that I can can separate my
tabs based on what I'm focusing on
whether it that's work Leisure or
entertainment that way when I'm working
and I'm researching I'm not distracted
by social media and other stuff this
makes it much easier to operate
effectively and third as a loner you're
usually better people you see a study
from 2013 found that extroverts are more
likely to conform to the majority
opinion even if that opinion is wrong in
contrast loners tend to stick to their
opinion moral and values even if it's
not the popular one four as a loner you
already have one of three skills that
will make you rich you see as a loner
you're 33% there already to become
financially successful according to a
book called The Triple package there are
three unlikely traits that make people
extremely successful you have
superiority complex you have a deep
insecurity and you have impulse control
and as a loner you already have one of
these loners are usually a bit insecure
that they don't fit in or they don't
have enough friends but that that is
your superpower do a thought exercise
with me take a look at the billionaires
list look at all the top guys they are
all introverts you name it Elon Musk
Warren Buffett Jeff Bezos Bill Gates
Mark Zuckerberg the list goes on and on
so use this as motivation because that
means you only need to develop two other
traits the first one is that you need a
superiority complex you have to
understand that you're that guy you are
the guy that you're waiting for to come
and save you because no one else will
and the other trait is impulse control
which you need to develop to stay
committed and disciplined on your goal
I'm going to give you another example
remember how I showed you my my
workstation with the Opera browser sorry
I keep bringing this up but it's so
imperative to my success that tab
feature trick that I do I do that on
purpose to develop my impulse control
because when I separate things by
categories between entertainment and
social media and work research and stuff
that I know I have to do now I can
visually see the difference between
leisure and work I'll then prioritize
and build up that impulse control during
my workflow you can do the same you can
download Opera for free and use it while
you're doing your schoolwork or you're
building your business but you need that
impulse control you get all three you're
going to be rich number five you party
less which makes you healthier one of
the biggest perks of being a loner is
that you are less likely to rely on
alcohol as a stress reliever why because
as a loner you're not hitting up parties
every weekend where alcohol is used as a
confidence booster in fact one study
found that when they started analyzing
drinking behaviors of 781 participants
what they found is that those who began
drinking at a young age were more likely
to use alcohol as a coping mechanism or
a stress reliever and then another
survey found that 66% of people regret
their decisions while they're
intoxicated both of those results are
heavily influenced by a Social Circle as
a loner you don't have to worry about
that because you you're free from what
others think you have full control over
your decisions and you can deal with
life without needing an external boost
so I want you to embrace the fact that
you're not partying all the time wasting
your life and no I'm not saying that you
should never party it just means that
you're not a slave to it you as a loner
have full control and you can use that
extra time to focus on your health and
build an amazing physique despite you
being a loner you get to build better
relationships which make you happier you
speak less which makes you more
attractive you have less friends which
make you smarter you possess one of
three traits needed to become rich and
you're not influenced by peer pressure
so you don't waste your time partying
all the time this allows you to build an
amazing Physique in the gym do you
understand being a loner is a superpower
and there's two last attributes that you
still haven't even tapped into six being
a loner will make you successful at
anything think about it most men that
have a wife circle of friends it leads
them to just talk about their goals all
the time oh we should start a YouTube
channel oh we should start this business
oh we're going to do this we're going to
build a great body we're going to get a
sixpack by summer loners keep their
goals close to their chest which makes
it more likely they'll be successful at
it research from Ohio State University
found that when you tell somebody your
goal your brain gets a premature sense
of satisfaction almost as if you've
already achieved the goal we're going to
call these people goal yappers these are
the guys that are always talking about
what they're going to do but never do
this satisfaction they get then reduces
their motivation of actually
accomplishing that goal as a loner you
tell nobody which means that motivation
is reserved which is needed to put in
the hard work to achieve the goal and
not only that when you are alone with
your goals you are free from external
influences or distractions you're not
going to be swayed by others opinions
and doubts telling you oh you shouldn't
do that and it is that tunnel vision
that allows you to plan strategize and
remain consistent over others that
aren't loners so next time you feel a
little bit down that you're a loner or
you're alone think about how this is an
advantage for every goal you have set
for yourself this takes me to number
seven loners become top 1% men do you
realize what just happened here
everything we have covered in this video
is a natural competitive Advantage you
have as a laner that will turn you into
a top 1% man you reach your goals you're
smart you're more likely to become rich
you have more time to spend on your
health and your body and although this
might not make sense to you just yet
Studies have shown that loners are the
ones that end up becoming leaders and
the reason why loners become such good
leaders is because they are comfortable
in their own company which makes them
highly independent and according to
Harvard independent people are more
confident in their abilities and they
are better at working alone which means
you don't need a external validation or
a pad in the back to get the job done
the key takeaway here is you do not need
to be extroverted a larger than life
character or have a bunch of friends
because being a loner who is independent
is your greatest strength to
win
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