"Fear Will Kill Your Dreams"
Summary
TLDRThis video script offers seven strategies to overcome the fear of rejection and build confidence in social interactions. It emphasizes that rejection is not a reflection of self-worth but a chance to improve presentation skills. The script encourages embracing rejection as inevitable and using it as feedback for growth. It suggests concrete motivational techniques, like the 'money method,' to spur action. The video also highlights the importance of charisma development for creating a life with options and reducing fear of rejection.
Takeaways
- 🛑 Fear can be the ultimate killer of dreams, leading to inaction and missed opportunities.
- 🔄 Rejection is not a reflection of your worth but an opportunity to improve your presentation and skills.
- 💡 Replace the thought of 'I got rejected' with 'that conversation didn't go well' to empower yourself with a growth mindset.
- 📈 Success often requires multiple attempts and learning from each rejection to get better.
- 🎯 Recognize that rejection is a common experience, even among the most successful individuals.
- 💰 Use the 'money method' to increase the cost of not trying, which can motivate you to take action despite fear.
- 🚀 Embrace the idea that facing rejection repeatedly builds confidence and mental resilience.
- 🏋️♂️ Speedrunning rejection, or facing it in a short period, can rapidly transform your confidence level.
- 🤝 Develop charisma and other social skills to increase your options and reduce the fear of rejection.
- 🌟 Focus on personal growth and happiness to create a life where rejection is less impactful, as you have multiple options and sources of joy.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video script?
-The main theme of the video script is overcoming the fear of rejection and building confidence through various strategies and mindset shifts.
Why does fear have the potential to kill one's dreams according to the script?
-Fear has the potential to kill one's dreams because it often leads to inaction, preventing individuals from pursuing their goals and aspirations.
What is the first step to becoming fearless in conversation as suggested in the script?
-The first step is realizing that you are not defined by your first impression and reframing the thought of rejection as an opportunity to improve your presentation skills.
How does the script suggest we should view rejections in various aspects of life such as auditions, interviews, and dating?
-The script suggests viewing rejections as a skill that can be improved with experience and feedback, rather than as a personal failure.
What is the significance of the statement 'rejection is inevitable, shame is optional' in the context of the script?
-This statement emphasizes that while rejection is a common part of life, the emotional response of shame is a choice, and one should not internalize rejection as a personal flaw.
According to the script, how can one use the 'money method' to overcome the fear of taking action?
-The 'money method' involves giving money to a trusted friend with the condition that it will only be returned if the person takes the action they fear. This increases the cost of not trying and motivates action.
What does the script suggest about the relationship between rejection and building confidence?
-The script suggests that repeatedly facing and risking rejection can be a form of exposure therapy, leading to the development of mental resilience and increased confidence.
How does the script relate the idea of 'speedrunning rejection' to building courage?
-The script proposes that by facing rejection in a concentrated period, such as asking out 100 women in one day, one can quickly transform from being paralyzed by fear to becoming courageous.
What is the 'Navy SEAL DAV gagin' method mentioned in the script, and how does it contribute to success?
-The 'Navy SEAL DAV gagin' method refers to the habit of repeatedly doing what scares you until it no longer affects you. This habit is said to be key to building mental armor and achieving success.
How does the script propose changing one's mindset towards rejection after working on oneself and building confidence?
-After building confidence and self-improvement, the script suggests that rejection should be seen as a sign of not being a good match, rather than a personal failure, sparing one from potential future heartbreak or disappointment.
What is the final advice given in the script for building a life with options and reducing fear of rejection?
-The script advises focusing on becoming a person with multiple options and developing charisma, as it is a skill that can significantly improve one's life within a short period and make one less dependent on any single outcome.
Outlines
🤯 Overcoming Fear of Rejection
This paragraph discusses the impact of fear on personal dreams and introduces seven strategies to silence the fear of rejection. The speaker emphasizes that one's first impression isn't everything and encourages replacing the fear of rejection with the understanding that it's a skill that can be improved over time. The paragraph highlights the inevitability of rejection and suggests viewing it as a learning opportunity rather than a personal failure. It also touches on the importance of mindset shifts and the idea of using 'carrot and stick' motivation to push oneself towards action despite fear.
💪 Building Courage and Confidence
The second paragraph delves into the concept of building courage and confidence by continually facing and overcoming the fear of rejection. It suggests that repeated exposure to rejection can lead to a significant boost in self-confidence, akin to 'exposure therapy.' The speaker shares anecdotes of successful individuals who have faced numerous rejections, emphasizing that rejection is a common stepping stone to success. The paragraph also introduces the idea of 'speedrunning rejection' as a method to quickly transform one's perspective on rejection. It concludes by advocating for the development of charisma as a means to create a life with multiple options and to approach situations such as job interviews and dating with confidence.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Fear
💡Rejection
💡Confidence
💡First Impression
💡Feedback
💡Inevitability of Rejection
💡Action
💡Charisma
💡Courage
💡Fit
💡Options
Highlights
Failure might delay dreams, but fear can kill them due to inaction.
Seven tricks will be taught to silence the fear of rejection in your head.
Rejection is not a reflection of your worth but a skill to improve.
Replace thoughts of rejection with the idea that it's a skill to be honed.
Rejection is inevitable, and shame is optional; everyone gets rejected.
Successful people have often faced more rejections than others.
Rejection is a normal part of the path to success.
The average working actor needs 64 auditions before booking a job.
Use the formula of trying, failing, reflecting, improving, and repeating to achieve success.
Increase the cost of not trying to motivate action against fear.
Rejections are good for building confidence through exposure therapy.
One day of action can permanently boost your confidence.
Speedrunning rejection can transform you from fearful to courageous.
Building courage can also be achieved through cold calling or door-to-door sales.
Continual encounters with rejection are the fastest way to build courage.
Rejection becomes about fit rather than presentation as you grow in confidence.
Developing charisma can quickly improve your life options and reduce fear of rejection.
Charisma University offers a step-by-step program to enhance charisma.
Transcripts
failure might delay your dreams but fear
will kill them because fear leads to in
action so in today's video you'll learn
seven tricks to help silence that voice
in your head that fears rejection that
way you can go into any conversation
with confidence knowing you'll feel
completely unfaced if you do get
rejected well I don't think we should
see each other anymore oh that's
okay what no it's fine no problem I'll
meet somebody else the first step to
becoming Fearless in conversation is
realizing that you are not your first
impression when you think I got rejected
it makes you feel like you aren't good
enough that's why you're scared of
rejection so replace the thought I got
rejected with something more accurate
and more empowering like that
conversation didn't go well because
someone can't possibly reject you they
can't see your soul they don't know you
to your core someone can only reject how
you've presented yourself and how you
present yourself is a skill you can
improve as you get more gain more
experience auditioning you get better at
it and you start really to get feedback
the same idea applies to interviews
sales dating apps and approaching
someone attractive they're all skills
you can learn to be incredibly good at
any of them so anytime you get rejected
simply think of it as feedback that
there's a skill you need to improve the
second trick to stop fearing rejection
is to realize that rejection is
inevitable shame is optional everyone
gets rejected and often the most
successful people in the world have
failed more and been rejected more than
anyone else the auditioning process is
basically a process of being rejected
over and over and over and over and over
again until you either give up or
something breaks and you get you get an
opportunity when I raised money for
Amazon 40 people told me no so I had to
take 60 meetings to get 20 yeses she
asked me to be her prom date and then
the day before she told me she was only
joking and she went with Sebastian lipat
instead the next time you're feeling
Shame about being rejected remind
yourself that everyone you admire has
been rejected at some point rejection
doesn't mean there's something wrong
with you internalize that and you'll
stop fearing it not only is it normal
rejection often paves the road to to
success it doesn't matter whether your
goal is to find an amazing person to
date get your dream job or start a
successful business exceptional results
often require multiple tries so instead
of avoiding rejection recognize that
life is a numbers game maximize your
shots on goal do you know how many
auditions the average working actor
needs to go on typically before booking
a job one in 64 auditions and I promised
myself I wasn't going to get upset if I
didn't book some
um before 64 auditions because that
would be diluted thinking because the
reality is is that's the average here's
the formula to living your dream life
try if you fail reflect on why you
failed improve try again repeat that
process and your success is inevitable
if these mindset shifts aren't enough to
get you to take action there's a more
concrete trick you can use amp up your
carrot Stick Motivation if you aren't
taking action on something it means the
reward you think you'll get by doing it
doesn't outweigh the pain you imagine
you'll feel if you fail so to get
yourself to take action increase the
cost of not trying one way is the money
method go to a friend you trust give
them $20 and tell them you only get it
back if you do the thing that scares you
if that doesn't get you to take action
simply increase the amount of money
eventually you will take action just to
get your money back once you do start
trying you'll experience something
amazing rejections are good for you
repeatedly risking rejection is one of
the fastest ways to build extreme
confidence it's exposure therapy you do
what scares you over and over until it
doesn't phase you Navy SEAL DAV gagin
says this habit is the key to all of his
success and that's the key thing through
repetition of things you don't want to
do you develop mental like like an armor
for your mind sometimes all it takes is
one day of action to permanently level
up your confidence for example the guy
in this next video has never gone out on
a date in his life so he decides that to
get over his fear of rejection he's
going to ask out 100 women in one day
Watch What Happens no no no
realistically no I probably wouldn't now
at this point Point Sam started to lose
what little confidence he had coming in
but his whole life he'd always heard the
phrase eighth times the charm so he
decided to give it one more try would
you go on a date with me yeah I mean you
seem very
straightforward yes I like how you
approached
me my God now hold up hold up hold up
she may be laughing it's not a no h what
about somewhere in UCSD would you say
yes if I said somewhere in UCSD sure why
not told you there is power in
speedrunning rejection in a very short
period of time you can transform from
someone who's Paralyzed by fear and one
of the most courageous people you know
just make sure you do this in a way
that's fun and light-hearted don't be
rude or hostile and if you live in a
super small town or School consider
taking a trip somewhere before you try
this just so you don't build a
reputation asking people out isn't the
only way to build your courage muscle
you can do cold calling or door to door
sales or you can try something like Noah
Kagan Starbucks challenge go to a
different coffee shop each day and ask
for your coffee for free in Jordan
Peterson's clinical experience exercises
like these are the fastest way to build
courage get over your fear of rejection
and how do you do that by encountering
it continually and continually and
continually so that you're no longer
paralyzed once you've done everything in
this video enough times you'll find
yourself a changed person you'll have a
ton of confidence and you'll have grown
so much from reflecting on what didn't
go well at that point the meaning of
rejection shifts rejection becomes a
sign that you aren't a good match once
you've worked on yourself and your
confidence and you're happy with who you
are it stops being about presentation
now rejection is about fit rejection is
actually sparing you from a future
breakup or a firing this mindset becomes
way easier to have if you zoom out if
you obsess over getting one specific job
or one specific person you get desperate
and you're going to be afraid of
rejection instead focus on becoming the
type of person who has options so if you
get nervous during job interviews focus
on building the Charisma skills to
interview well and the work rated skills
that you know will make you a great
applicant then interviews become
something you actually look forward to
cuz you know you'll crush them or if
dating makes you nervous don't worry
about getting one particular person to
like you instead focus on becoming
someone that a lot of people would love
to be with and even beyond that
purposely create a life you really enjoy
even when you aren't dating anyone
suddenly you won't care nearly as much
if you get rejected because you don't
feel like you need them in order to be
happy life is a lot more fun when you
have multiple options you're happy with
the fastest way I know of to build a
life with options is to develop your
charisma because achieving mastery most
skills can take years and even decades
but you can see massive Improvement in
your charisma in just a month or two
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way I hope this video has helped you and
I look forward to seeing you in the next
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