Watch This Before Talking To Another Girl
Summary
TLDRThis video offers a five-step guide to boost confidence and improve communication with women. It starts by challenging self-perception, using a study and sketch artist to show men are more attractive than they think. The script then covers recognizing signs of a woman's interest, choosing the right facial hair style, and grooming below the belt. Finally, it suggests associating with dogs to appear caring and desensitizing to rejection by approaching multiple women to reduce nervousness, culminating in the ability to confidently talk to any girl.
Takeaways
- 🧠 Rewire your brain: Understand that you are more attractive than you think, based on a study showing people rate themselves 20% less attractive than others rate them.
- 🎨 Perception difference: A sketch artist demonstrates the difference between how a person perceives themselves and how others perceive them, highlighting self-perceived flaws versus actual attractiveness.
- 💡 Indicators of interest: Learn and memorize the 10 subconscious signs that girls display when they find a man attractive to gauge their interest during conversations.
- 🧔 Facial hair matters: Experiments show that the right facial hair style can significantly impact attractiveness, with different styles preferred in different eras.
- 📈 Beard style experiment: A study was conducted to find the most attractive beard style, using dating profiles and swiping to measure matches and preferences.
- 🐾 Caring man appeal: Being seen as a caring man, such as owning a dog, can make flaws seem less significant and increase attractiveness, as shown by a University of Michigan study.
- 📸 Social media presence: Incorporate dogs into social media or dating profiles to appear more caring and attractive, even if it's a borrowed dog or dog-walking service.
- 💇♂️ Grooming below the belt: A meta-analysis reveals preferences for grooming styles, with the majority of women preferring a trimmed look for body hair.
- 🛍️ Grooming tools: A good beard trimmer and body hair trimmer are essential for maintaining attractive grooming styles, with a combo deal offered for both.
- 💓 Normalize rejection: To overcome nervousness when talking to girls, repeatedly approach women to desensitize the anxiety response and build confidence.
- 📊 Heart rate monitor: Using a heart rate monitor, the video shows that with practice, the physiological response to rejection diminishes, leading to a more relaxed interaction.
Q & A
What is the main goal of the video?
-The main goal of the video is to guide viewers through a five-step process to prepare them to be able to confidently talk to any girl they are interested in.
What does the video claim about how people perceive their own attractiveness compared to how others perceive them?
-The video claims that people tend to rate themselves as 20% less attractive than what others rate them, based on a study conducted in Scandinavia.
How does the video demonstrate the difference in self-perception and how others perceive you?
-The video uses a sketch artist who draws a person based on their self-description and then draws the same person based on how a girl who just met them describes them, highlighting the discrepancy.
Outlines
😎 Rewiring Self-Perception for Confidence
The video introduces a five-step process to help men feel confident in talking to women. The first step emphasizes the importance of reprogramming one's self-perception to recognize personal attractiveness. A study from Scandinavia reveals that people tend to rate themselves 20% less attractive than others rate them. The video demonstrates this with a sketch artist who draws a man named Ben based on his self-description and then a woman's description of him after a blind date, showing a stark contrast in perception. This step aims to boost self-confidence by understanding that one is more attractive than they think.
🔍 Mastering the 10 Indicators of Interest
The second step in the process is learning to identify the '10 Indicators of Interest' that women display when attracted to a man. The video tests these indicators by having Ben interact with five different women during a supposed fragrance test, while the host steps out to observe natural interactions. The results are analyzed to determine which indicators were displayed. The video concludes that if a woman shows three or more of these signs during an interaction, there is a high likelihood that she is genuinely interested, thus equipping men with the knowledge to gauge a woman's interest accurately.
🧔 The Impact of Facial Hair on Attractiveness
The third step investigates the influence of facial hair on attractiveness. The video conducts an experiment with a man named Zayn, who tries out five different beard styles from different decades to determine which is the most attractive. The experiment uses dating profiles with each beard style as the main picture and tracks the number of matches received. The results show a preference for the full beard style from the 2010s, indicating its popularity among women. The video also promotes a beard trimmer from Manscaped as an essential grooming tool for achieving the desired facial hair style.
🐾 Leveraging Caring Imagery to Overcome Flaws
The fourth step discusses how to make a woman overlook one's flaws by portraying oneself as a caring man. A study from the University of Michigan is cited, which found that women found a man described as a cheater but with a dog more desirable than a kind, hardworking man without a dog. The video suggests three tactics: including dogs in social media, walking dogs in public spaces, and bringing dogs on dates to enhance attractiveness. It emphasizes the importance of caring imagery in making a positive impression on women.
💓 Normalizing Rejection to Reduce Anxiety
The final step focuses on reducing the anxiety associated with approaching women by normalizing rejection. The video demonstrates this by having Ben wear a heart rate monitor and participate in activities that increase his heart rate, such as riding a crowded subway and walking on a high building. After establishing a baseline, Ben approaches women to ask for their numbers, and it's observed that with each approach, his heart rate decreases, indicating reduced nervousness. The video concludes that approaching around 10 women can significantly diminish anxiety and build confidence in talking to any girl.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Rewire your brain
💡Indicators of Interest
💡Facial Hair
💡Beard Trimmer
💡Manscaped
💡Attraction
💡Self-Perception
💡Blind Date
💡Confidence
💡Normalization of Rejection
💡Heart Rate Monitor
Highlights
A five-step process is introduced to prepare men for conversing with women.
The video aims to demonstrate proven methods for effective communication with women.
A study from Scandinavia reveals people perceive themselves as 20% less attractive than others perceive them.
A sketch artist's demonstration shows the discrepancy between self-perception and how others see you.
Real-time testing with men and women to evaluate communication effectiveness.
The importance of rewiring the brain to understand one's own attractiveness is emphasized.
A meta-analysis from 2020 discusses preferences in male grooming and body hair management.
Different beard styles from various eras are tested for attractiveness through a dating profile experiment.
The full beard style from the 2010s is found to be the most attractive in the dating profile experiment.
The role of facial hair in overall attractiveness and how to manipulate it for better first impressions.
A University of Michigan study shows that caring attributes can overshadow negative traits.
The impact of owning a dog on perceived attractiveness and relationship potential.
Techniques to hide flaws by projecting a caring image to potential romantic interests.
The physiological response to rejection and how to normalize it to reduce anxiety.
A heart rate monitor experiment demonstrates the desensitization to rejection over time.
Approaching around 10 women can significantly reduce nervousness and increase confidence.
Practical applications of the five-step process for men to improve their interactions with women.
Transcripts
if you clicked on this video there's
probably a girl you're interested in
talking to but you're un sure how to do
it good because in today's video I'm
going to walk you through a five-step
process that's going to prepare you to
be able to talk to any girl you come
across now the goal of this video is for
you not to just know how to talk to a
girl I'm going to show you how each step
is proven to help you talk to a girl by
bringing in guys and testing the results
in real time starting with number one
completely rewire your brain you see
before you even go out and talk to a
girl I need you to rewire your brain to
understand you're more attractive than
you think and I'm going to demonstrate
that the way that you see yourself and
the way that your crush sees you it's
completely different using my buddy here
my sketch artist friend you see you are
20% more attractive than you think you
are and no I'm not just saying that to
be a nice guy like I'm your mom that's a
scientific fact it was based in a study
at of Scandinavia conducted on 131 women
and 62 men during the study researchers
asked participants to rate themselves on
a scale from negative 5 to plus 5 then
they had large groups of people assess
each participant's attractiveness what
the finding showed is that participants
ended up rating themselves 20% less
attractive than what other people rated
them that's what you're doing to
yourself so that's why I brought out a
sketch artist we had Ben sit down with a
sketch artist who has not seen what he
looks like then proceeded to answer
questions to describe himself uh what's
your name uh my name is Ben Ben I'm
Brian how old are you just turned 27 27
nice how would you describe your facial
structure is it thin it's uh very wide
cheekbones so if you're at a little bit
higher body fat even just uh you know
let's say 12 13 14% which would be good
for most people because of my face
structure I look like I have chumpy
Cheeks is it something you're insecure
about maybe you're a bit more yeah yeah
I mean if I'm at like a higher body fat
yeah I don't want to be like you know
perceived as having chubby cheeks can
you describe a bit about your nose
probably a little bit wide tip I guess
is uh a little bit what they say like
bulbous it tends to be red and have some
black EDS cuz I have a little bit of
rosacea oh okay uh tell me one
insecurity you have about your your face
if there's something anything you would
want to change yeah yeah I mean
definitely want to continue improving my
skin quality but yeah it's more just
kind of like the redness due to the
rosacea I feel like my pores are kind of
enlarged a lot of people probably just
do not care about this stuff which I
totally get now to show you how powerful
this is I also brought and a girl to go
on a blind date with Ben and they spent
some time before they met up with the
sketch artist then we had the same woman
that met James an hour ago sit down with
the sketch artist and do the exact same
thing that Ben did the sketch artist
asked her questions about how Ben looked
and she would respond so can you tell me
about the guy you just saw yeah
good-looking dude very goodlooking dude
nice jawline very nice eyes nice smile
okay can you describe to me a bit more
about his eyes yeah they had like a very
I want to say like intense look almost
um just like very like strong eyes a
little bit on the smaller side kind of
like dark bluish almost like stormy
would you say it was definitely a
prominent feature of his face or was
there something else probably yeah his
eyes and eyebrows definitely like his
eyes definitely stood out to me and can
you tell me a bit about his nose shape a
little bit on the larger side but not in
a bad way very angular very like nice
nose is it a feature you think that may
have been a bit unattractive in his face
or was it something that kind of gave
him more character probably more
character is definitely very um like he
had nice facial Symmetry and fit his
face well and how would you describe his
skin clear any pimples acne you picked
up on by chance um fair skin but not
like pale like definitely it like gets
outside um not like any like noticeable
acne or anything mhm and I think you
mentioned he had a nice smile can you go
a bit more into detail about that yeah
uh it didn't show any teeth but just it
looked very like warm and biting mhm and
what would you say was the most attract
the future of him definitely his eyes
like that's like instantly like what
kind of uh stood out to me for sure bro
look at the difference between how Ben
perceives himself and how a woman
perceives Ben that's what most of you
are doing to yourselves you guys are
studs man and the reason we're doing
this as men is that our brains have
evolved to pay extra attention to any
threats including threats to our social
status every time you and I feel
insecure about something like a pimple
or a scar our brain reacts strongly to
that threat forcing us to think a lot
about it so this was your initial
description you mentioned a bit about
your nose kind of your hair you had some
I remember you mentioning not like Cay
skin so this was kind of my initial and
then reys the girl was describing you
after uh was a lot more descriptive in
your facial features and kind of
recognized some of the more aesthetic
more attractive qu of these you yeah
yeah no definitely they look pretty
different yeah I guess uh I I emphasize
kind of just my flaws with like my
uneven skin tone and redness and pores
and stuff just cuz that's what I see
when I get like up close in front of the
camera like raw unedited but then uh
yeah I mean the way that people see me
in real life tends to be more more
positive now with just step one I've
already primed your mind to change how
you think about yourself to understand
that you are more attractive but that's
not going to be enough for you to talk
to a girl I need you to follow all the
other five steps I'm going to have laid
out so you can go from feeling great to
doing great with women it stes us to
step number two you will study the 10
indicators of interest you see the 10
indicators of Interest are the things
girls subconsciously do when they find a
man attractive and you need to learn
them before you talk to a girl you like
now one indicator of interest on its own
it doesn't say much but when she does
multiple of them in a single
conversation this is a good sign now to
test these 10 indicators I plays in Ben
in a separate room with five different
women I wanted to see how these women
interacted with Ben all right um hi I'm
Ben Christina hey I'm Ben nice to meet
you Ben nice to meet you now the women
had no idea that we were testing
indicators of Interest instead I placed
five fragrances in front of them and I
had all the women believe that they were
coming in to just do a smell test for
one of my Brands then in the middle of
the smell test while I was interacting
with the girls I would act as if I had
an important phone call give me one
second guys forgot I had a call and I
would step out of the room and I would
leave them in the room room between 15
and 20 minutes actually wait I might be
wrong this might have been the one that
I
hated now yes at times things got
awkward without me being in
there but as time progressed they were
forced to interact leaning Ben's natural
confidence to come out and making it a
perfect opportunity to pick up on any of
these indicators of interest from women
how you like
getting uh not as good as here but
here's where it got even better at the
end of each interaction we would review
the clips and look at how many of the 10
indicators of interest each girl
displayed with Ben so once I would come
back I would tell the girls that the
test was over and they could leave all
right thank you then I would have James
run to catch up to the girl meet her at
the entrance ask for her number what we
found was interesting we found the girls
that displayed the most indicators of
interest from the list that I've already
showed you had the highest chance of
them being actually interested in giving
spend their number awesome it was nice
to meet you great meeting you yeah
seeing another job yeah definitely okay
all right have a good rest of your day
bye what does this mean for you is that
when you learn these 10 indicators of
Interest the next time that you're with
a girl if you see her do three or more
of any of these indicators of interest
you have a 90% chance of her actually
liking you so before you talk to a girl
I want you to study these indicators of
interest you have to memorize them that
way every time you talk to a girl you'll
know exactly if she likes you or not
step three use the right facial hair see
a lot of men believe that going to the
gym and getting big is what makes them
attractive but multiple Studies have
shown that attractiveness all boils down
to the face and the one area you can
manipulate is your facial hair so during
this experiment I wanted to see just how
much beard styles have changed and if
old styles are actually more attractive
than what we have today so I called up
my buddy this dude has a magnificent
beard and is the best guy for this
experiment and I had him try out five
different beard styles from five
different eras this led me to wonder
what is the most attractive facial
hairstyle in the last 100 years so I'm
decided to run an experiment with my boy
Zayn to prepare not only him but you to
be able to have the most attractive
facial hairstyle yet for the 70s decade
the disconnected goe came out for the '
80s we opted for the Chevron style
mustache for the '90s we chose the clean
shaven look for the 2000s we chose the
Five O Shadow and for the 2010s we went
for the full beard now to make each
beard style look perfect I'm only going
to trust my boy Zayn's beard with my own
beard trim which is a manscaped beard
hedger which comes with an adjustable
head that gives you 20 different sizes
giving you ultimate control to be able
to have any beard style you want now to
truly understand which beard style was
best we figured we would create five
different dating profile using each
beard style as the main picture we then
swipe a 100 times on each dating profile
and let it sit for 24 hours zann is
going through several beard
Transformations as we speak and
manscaped beard hedger flowed seamlessly
through each beard style allowing us to
get what we needed for instance
everything from trimming up a full beard
all the way to getting a clean shaven
look a trimmer like this is what every
guy needs in their bathroom I'm going to
be honest with you these results are
incredible all the matches with the
women revealed some interesting results
from previous Trends some of the old
Styles like the clean shaven look from
the 9s they actually rated pretty high
and here are the complete results for
each beer for the 1970s disconnect go we
had matches for the 1980s Chevron style
mustache we had matches for the 1990s
clean shaven look we had matches for the
2000 5:00 shadow look we had matches and
for the 20110 full-on beard look we had
matches meaning this was ultimately the
most attractive beard style look in the
end our experiment is Flawless it's
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guys now while we understand that facial
hair is important there's other hair on
your body like the one below your waist
that's equally as important so to make
sure that you're fully prepared we ran
another study with our company manscape
there was a meta analysis done in 2020
to show you one of the most attractive
trim styles for below the belt only 6%
of women preferred some sort of creative
pattern 16% of women preferred zero hair
downstairs 20% of women preferred
everything just natural no shaving but
the remaining 58% of women preferred
some type of trim down look this means
that if you want to look your best
before you talk to a girl you need to
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out step number four you will hide your
flaws with this technique all women want
a caring man it's no secret we all have
flaws but there is one trick you can do
to make a woman Overlook all of your bad
flaws and that is make her believe that
you you are a caring man you see this is
so powerful in a study done in the
University of Michigan they offered 100
women two types of men the first type of
man was described as a cheater who would
always get into fights the second type
of man was described as kind and
hardworking interestingly enough when
both stories were told randomly and
mentioned that one man had a dog the bad
guy that owned a dog was rated as more
desirable and attractive over the good
guy that had no dog so here are three
ways that you're going to use this
finding for yourself first you need to
start adding a dog in your social media
pictures or dating profiles and if you
don't have one ask a buddy to let you
borrow one or go to a shelter second you
will start walking this dog as much as
possible especially to dog parks this
will dramatically increase your chances
of talking to women if you don't have a
friend that has a dog you can even use
dog walking apps where you'll actually
make money for walking somebody else's
dog and third if you finally have a dog
and you're going to take a girl on a
date remember I've always told you take
it to a coffee date make sure that
coffee bar allows pets if you pull up
with some cute dog to a coffee date bro
I promise you you're going to get that
second date but don't stop here yet cuz
this final step step number five will
seal everything you will lower your
heart rate by normalizing rejection when
I was younger I was terrified to talk to
girls and that's because every time you
get close to a girl your heart rate
spikes that's why you get nervous but I
realized this the more you did it the
easier it became so now that I've
prepared you with the four previous
steps this final step will prepare you
to talk to any girl and never get
nervous again to start I brought Ben
back and I strapped him with a heart
rate monitor and then I had him
participate in three activities that
would spike his heart rate just to try
to get a basine I had him ride a crowded
subway car then I had him dance in a
corner of a street and finally the dude
is petrified of heights I made him walk
on the highest building in New York City
let's just say his hary was out the roof
but now we had a Baseline as soon as we
were done with all of that I immediately
asked James to just approach the most
attractive women he could find in the
streets of New York City and then ask
for their number excuse me you know how
to get to the Oculus from
here now unsurprisingly of course his
heart rate spiked but what was the most
surprising thing for me now is that when
he approached his first girl his heart
rate was so elevated that it was equal
to him walking on the tallest building
in New York City while having a fear of
heights do you understand how
mindblowing that is now his heart R
spiked to a level that I didn't think it
was going to be that high so I had him
repeat the process multiple times
interestingly every time we did the test
with Ben the heart rate would spike less
and less by the time we did the final
approaches his heart rate was lower than
when he got into the subway car when it
was all crowded it was so impressive
that by the 10th woman he approached his
heart rate barely changed my dude was no
longer nervous which means that all you
got to do is approach around 10 women to
get rid of that anxiety and get to a
point that you're confident to talk to
any girl now go talk to your crush
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