Give me 15 Minutes and I'll Make you Dangerously Confident

Summary

In this video, Ila shares her journey of building confidence through action, not just affirmations. She emphasizes that confidence is an output, not an input, and comes from consistent effort, tracking progress, and embracing fear. She highlights the importance of taking small steps, tracking wins, and using fear as a companion to push forward. Ila explains that success and confidence do not discriminate and can be achieved by anyone willing to put in the work, illustrating her points with personal examples of overcoming self-doubt and tackling challenges head-on.

Takeaways

• 😀 Confidence is about taking action, not feeling ready. Confidence comes from doing things, even when you're scared.
• 😀 Building confidence requires putting in the work and not relying on affirmations or wishful thinking.
• 😀 Confidence is the output of consistent actions, not a state of mind you wait to 'feel'.
• 😀 Start small when building confidence; small, consistent steps lead to bigger achievements.
• 😀 Fear is a natural reaction, but it doesn’t need to stop you. Confidence grows through confronting your fears.
• 😀 Track your progress, not just your feelings, to see real growth and build your self-belief over time.
• 😀 The fastest way to build confidence is by breaking tasks into tiny, manageable steps that lead to small wins.
• 😀 Your brain builds confidence by gathering evidence of your success, not by avoiding fear or failure.
• 😀 Success and confidence don’t discriminate based on your background. They come from putting in the effort.
• 😀 Emotions follow actions. If you act despite fear, your feelings will follow suit and you will feel more confident.
• 😀 The key to lasting confidence is to take action even when you’re scared, accepting fear as a part of the process.

Q & A

What is the main idea behind building confidence according to the script?

Confidence is not about feeling ready, but about taking action despite fear. It is an output, not an input. Confidence grows through consistent effort and following through on promises to yourself.

Why doesn't writing affirmations on the mirror lead to real confidence?

Affirmations alone don't change anything because confidence is built through action, not just words or thoughts. Doing the work and seeing progress is what builds true confidence.

What example does the speaker give to explain how confidence is built?

The speaker talks about moving across the country at 21 with no money or job. She took action by working at 24-hour fitness, learning new skills, and pushing through fear, which ultimately built her confidence.

How does the speaker describe the importance of tracking progress?

Tracking progress provides evidence to build confidence. When you can see your improvements over time, it helps override negative emotional narratives and reinforces your sense of achievement.

What is the relationship between fear and confidence?

Fear is a natural response, but it doesn't prevent you from building confidence. Confidence comes from facing fear and taking action despite it. The fear will diminish once you push through it.

How does the speaker recommend breaking down goals to build confidence?

Start with small, manageable steps. Breaking down large tasks into tiny, achievable actions helps create momentum and avoids overwhelm. This leads to a sense of accomplishment and builds confidence incrementally.

What is the 'tiny tweaks' methodology mentioned in the script?

The 'tiny tweaks' methodology involves making small, consistent changes or improvements each day. By focusing on minor, actionable steps, you build confidence and avoid the frustration of taking on too much at once.

Why does the speaker suggest focusing on one small step per day towards a goal?

Focusing on one small step at a time prevents overwhelm and allows for consistent progress. Completing small tasks daily helps build confidence and avoids the negative cycle of feeling like a failure when trying to accomplish too much too quickly.

How does fear affect our behavior according to the script?

Fear causes our brain to avoid the unfamiliar in order to protect us. However, once we face our fears and take action, our brain recognizes that we are safe, which helps reduce the fear and build confidence over time.

What is the speaker’s view on public speaking and fear?

The speaker emphasizes that fear is a part of public speaking and that everyone feels nervous before speaking. However, by taking small steps and confronting the fear, confidence in public speaking can be developed over time.