How to NEVER run out of things to say

TheSingleGuy
13 May 201917:09

Summary

TLDRIn this video, Lloyd, a dating coach, shares actionable tips on how to never run out of things to say when talking to women. He emphasizes the importance of not over-filtering yourself, elaborating on your responses, and being expressive rather than sticking to facts. Lloyd suggests storytelling and using descriptive details to engage conversations, offering five key questions to ask. He also highlights strategies like using silence effectively and encouraging the other person to contribute more. His ultimate goal is to help viewers build engaging, natural conversations and create deeper connections.

Takeaways

  • 😀 Stop filtering yourself too much. The key is to express your thoughts and emotions freely, as you would with a close friend.
  • 🙂 It's not what you say, but how you say it. You can get away with saying a lot if it's said in a playful and relaxed manner.
  • 😄 Give longer, more descriptive answers. Short, one-word responses kill conversations.
  • 😎 Practice storytelling by describing your feelings, environment, and experiences. This keeps the conversation engaging.
  • 🤔 Use five basic questions when in doubt: What's your name? Where are you from? What do you do? Who are you with? What's your plan for tonight?
  • 😏 Try the chain of association drill. Pick key words from what the other person says and build new topics from them to keep the conversation going.
  • 😜 It's okay to backtrack when you make a mistake. Apologize or explain, and then move on confidently.
  • 😊 If you run out of things to say, ask her to tell you more about herself. It's a high-value move and keeps the conversation flowing.
  • 😇 Be okay with silence. Awkward pauses can build tension and attraction. Let them sit instead of constantly talking.
  • 🤩 Focus on taking action and practicing these skills in real-life interactions. Execution is the key to mastering these techniques.

Q & A

  • What is the main focus of the video?

    -The main focus of the video is teaching men how to never run out of things to say when talking to women, especially in dating scenarios, and how to keep conversations engaging and meaningful.

  • What is the first tip the speaker provides for not running out of things to say?

    -The first tip is to stop filtering what you say. The speaker advises being more natural and open in conversations, as people often filter themselves too much when talking to an attractive woman, which leads to awkward silences.

  • Why does the speaker emphasize how you say things rather than what you say?

    -The speaker believes that the delivery and tone of what is said are more important than the actual content. Even potentially controversial statements can be received positively if said in a playful or confident manner.

  • What mistake do many men make when talking to women according to the speaker?

    -Many men give short, one-word answers during conversations, which makes it difficult to keep the conversation going and leads to disengagement from both parties.

  • How can men become better at keeping conversations going, according to the speaker?

    -Men can become better at keeping conversations going by learning to elaborate on their answers, telling stories, and painting vivid pictures using emotions and descriptions. Being a good storyteller helps to keep people engaged.

  • What is the purpose of the five questions the speaker suggests asking during conversations?

    -The five questions are designed to keep conversations going smoothly and gather important information about the woman, such as her background and what she's doing that night, which can help determine if further interaction is worthwhile.

  • Can you explain the 'Chain of Association' drill?

    -The 'Chain of Association' drill helps maintain a flowing conversation by using key words or phrases from the other person’s statement to form new related topics. This allows the conversation to continuously evolve and introduces fresh topics.

  • Why does the speaker suggest being okay with silence during conversations?

    -The speaker suggests being okay with silence because awkward silences can create tension, which is a natural part of attraction. Silence also gives the other person an opportunity to contribute to the conversation.

  • What does the speaker mean by 'telling her to talk' and why is it important?

    -The speaker encourages men to ask the woman to talk about herself if they feel the conversation is dying out. This helps to shift the focus onto her and allows her to qualify herself, which is an important dynamic in dating.

  • How does the speaker propose handling situations where something offensive is said?

    -The speaker advises acknowledging the mistake, apologizing quickly, and moving on. Most people are forgiving if they sense that the mistake was unintentional and addressed immediately.

Outlines

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🎯 Introduction and the Common Struggle of Running Out of Things to Say

The speaker, Lloyd, introduces himself as a dating coach and addresses the issue many face: running out of things to say during conversations with attractive women. He relates this to personal and student experiences of awkward silences. Lloyd promises practical tips on maintaining conversations, progressing toward desired outcomes, and being captivating while encouraging the other person to contribute more.

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🗣️ Stop Over-Filtering Your Thoughts

Lloyd explains that filtering thoughts too much is a major reason why people struggle in conversations, especially with someone they find attractive. He contrasts how freely people talk to close friends versus someone new. He encourages expressing thoughts more openly, stressing that it’s not always about what you say but how you say it, even if it might seem inappropriate at times. He advises to embrace mistakes, backtrack if necessary, and keep pushing forward, rather than over-filtering.

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💬 Give Detailed Responses, Not Short Answers

Lloyd discusses the importance of avoiding short, one-word responses. He encourages elaboration, sharing stories, and tapping into emotions. This helps create a better conversation flow and builds a stronger connection. He advises practicing storytelling skills and using descriptive language to paint a vivid picture, making the conversation more engaging and preventing it from drying up.

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❓ Use the Five Simple Questions to Keep Conversations Going

Lloyd introduces five simple questions to ask when stuck in a conversation: 'Who are you?' (name), 'Where are you from?' (location), 'What do you do?' (occupation), 'Who are you with?' (companions), and 'What are your plans?' (for the night or day). These basic questions maintain a normal conversation flow and can lead to deeper connections. He reassures that even 'boring' conversations can be successful, emphasizing that it’s how you ask, not what you ask.

🔗 Master the Chain of Association

Lloyd introduces a conversation technique called the 'Chain of Association,' where you pick keywords from a statement and expand on them to keep the conversation flowing. He provides an example of how to continuously link topics, showing how this method can prevent running out of things to say. He advises practicing this drill alone to become more comfortable and spontaneous in conversations.

🙋‍♀️ Encourage Her to Talk About Herself

Lloyd suggests directly asking the other person to share more about themselves if you run out of things to say. This tactic shifts the focus and puts the conversational burden on them, creating a more balanced dialogue. He emphasizes this approach as a high-value move that shows confidence and positions you as someone who isn’t just trying to impress, but is genuinely curious about the other person.

🤐 Be Comfortable with Silence

Lloyd advises that silence is not always a bad thing and should not be feared. He points out that many people, especially beginners, panic when there’s a lull in conversation, but awkward silences can actually build tension and attraction. He suggests embracing these moments as opportunities for reflection and letting the other person fill the gap, which can lead to deeper conversations.

🚀 Take Action and Keep Practicing

In his concluding remarks, Lloyd stresses the importance of action. He notes that many people fail to develop effective conversational habits because they don’t practice. He encourages viewers to reach out for consultation to improve their skills and reminds them that consistent effort is key to success. He closes by inviting comments, likes, and subscriptions to his channel.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Filtering

Filtering refers to the act of censoring or holding back thoughts before speaking. In the video, the coach advises against filtering too much when talking to someone, especially an attractive girl. The concept is central to the idea of being more authentic and confident in conversations, allowing one's natural thoughts and emotions to be expressed without excessive self-monitoring.

💡Elaboration

Elaboration involves providing more detailed responses instead of short, one-word answers. The coach highlights that most men give short, unengaging replies like 'fine' or 'here,' which kill conversations quickly. By elaborating, such as telling stories and describing emotions, the speaker can keep the conversation flowing and more engaging.

💡Storytelling

Storytelling is the practice of sharing personal experiences and crafting narratives in conversation. The coach emphasizes its importance in making a conversation more captivating. By painting pictures with words, describing emotions, and delving into details, the speaker can connect better with the listener and avoid running out of things to say.

💡Chain of Association

The Chain of Association is a technique to keep conversations going by linking topics. The idea is to take a word or concept mentioned in a conversation and explore it in more depth, finding new things to talk about. For example, if someone mentions 'running,' the coach suggests expanding on that by talking about personal experiences related to running, competition, or fitness.

💡Silence

In the video, silence refers to moments of pause in conversation, which many people fear as awkward. The coach argues that silence can be a positive and even necessary part of building tension and attraction. Embracing silence gives space for reflection and lets the other person contribute to the conversation.

💡Captivating

Being captivating means holding someone’s attention through engaging conversation or behavior. The coach suggests that by sharing personal experiences, expressing emotions, and telling stories, you can become more captivating. This is important in making conversations memorable and preventing awkward silences.

💡Questions

The coach introduces 'five key questions' that can be used to keep a conversation going when at a loss for topics. These questions are basic but effective, such as asking about someone's name, where they're from, and what they do. This strategy simplifies starting and sustaining a conversation by focusing on easy, direct questions.

💡Vibe

Vibe refers to the emotional atmosphere or connection between two people in a conversation. The coach stresses that the vibe is often more important than the content of what is being said. A good vibe can make even mundane topics interesting, while a bad vibe can make it hard to keep the conversation flowing.

💡Intent

Intent refers to the underlying purpose or motivation behind what is said in a conversation. The coach explains that conversations should aim to create a good connection or vibe, and that intent should guide what you say. Being mindful of your intent helps steer the conversation toward positive outcomes, such as building rapport or progressing toward a goal like getting a phone number.

💡Tension

Tension, in the context of this video, is the subtle, often playful discomfort or anticipation that arises during interactions. The coach advises that healthy tension is a key element in attraction, and avoiding it by constantly talking can ruin a conversation. Allowing tension to build, through silence or pauses, can enhance chemistry between two people.

Highlights

The speaker introduces himself as Lloyd, a dating coach, offering practical and actionable advice for dating and building connections.

The main topic of the video is how to never run out of things to say during conversations, particularly with attractive women.

Lloyd emphasizes the importance of not filtering your speech too much, explaining that self-filtering often leads to awkward silences and stifles conversation.

The concept of 'how you say something' being more important than 'what you say' is highlighted as a crucial factor in successful conversations.

Storytelling and being descriptive with emotions and experiences are emphasized as key to captivating conversations.

Lloyd discusses the common mistake of giving short answers, which shuts down the conversation. Instead, he advises providing more detailed responses.

To enhance conversations, Lloyd suggests developing storytelling skills, such as painting a picture by talking about sights, sounds, feelings, and environment.

He introduces the concept of the 'five questions,' which can serve as conversation starters and help assess logistical compatibility with someone.

Lloyd introduces the 'Chain of Association' drill, a method to keep conversations flowing by branching off from a single statement or idea into related topics.

The importance of being okay with making mistakes and offending someone is mentioned, as Lloyd advises how to backtrack from awkward or offensive remarks.

Lloyd stresses the importance of not just trying to impress someone but also seeing if they are a good fit for your life.

He suggests putting the responsibility of conversation on the other person by asking them to share more about themselves, which shifts the dynamic in a positive way.

Lloyd encourages being comfortable with silence, explaining that awkward silences can actually build tension and enhance attraction.

He advises men to allow space for women to contribute to the conversation, as constant talking might prevent the other person from engaging.

The speaker ends by inviting viewers to take action, suggesting a consultation for those who want to further develop their conversational skills.

Transcripts

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what's going on you guys my name is

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Lloyd your pickup and dating coach here

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with the single guy we're giving you

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practical and actionable advice that

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really works not some mainstream be

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yourself [ __ ] today were to be

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talking about a subject that a lot of

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people ask me and that's how to never

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run out of things to say especially with

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an attractive girl so if you clicked on

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this video you've probably been in that

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situation where you're talking to a girl

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and you just can't think of what to say

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next and then there's like a really

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awkward silence and then you just both

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leave with like a bad taste in your

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mouth okay so this has probably happened

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to you and to happen to a lot of my

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students and it used to happen to me a

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lot too but ironically it never happens

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to me anymore because I go by the tips

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that I'm going to give you in this video

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in this video I'm gonna show you how to

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never run out of things to say I'm gonna

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show you how to say things that are

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actually gonna progress it in the

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direction that you want like get a phone

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number get around in a daze or have sex

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with her you know moving into positive

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direction and then I'm also gonna show

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you how to be captivating and help her

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contribute to the conversation more okay

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so let's get right into it

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the first tip that I'm gonna give you is

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first of all stop filtering what you say

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so much stop filtering what you say so

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much you guys most of you watching this

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video I guarantee you you probably have

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a best friend or someone that you can

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talk to you for just hours on end like

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you kind of lose track of time

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you'd never run out of things to talk

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about with this person why is this well

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it's because you're not filtering what

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you say whatever your thoughts and

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feelings are you're you feel free to

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express them with this person because

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you trust them but when it's with a hot

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girl you start filtering you start

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saying ah don't say that that's not cool

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or that's lame she's not gonna like that

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or you know they don't say that you know

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if you're thinking about like I don't

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allow this girl is like really nice too

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it's obviously you probably don't want

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to say something like that but guys go

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too far when they filter a lot of what

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they say so in this I want you guys to

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stop filtering what you say so much

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remember it's not what you say it's how

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you say it even what I just said where I

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was to saying all this girl is really

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nice tits I probably shouldn't say that

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I can actually get away with saying that

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sometimes because it's the way you say

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it especially if you say things in a

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very playful manner you can get away

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with saying a lot of stuff and you have

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to

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be conscious of the intent okay if

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you're intending to try and have a vibe

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between two people if you're trying to

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like have a good connection well then it

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helps to not filter yourself so much not

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stifle the thoughts that you have inside

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a lot of guys they're self-conscious

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because they feel like the thoughts that

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they have to express just aren't cool or

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people don't want to hear about them you

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know I used to be one of these people

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when I was in college and majoring in

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physics and I didn't think that anybody

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would really want to talk about that and

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the truth is they don't want to talk

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about the math equations but they are

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curious to hear my experience if you're

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able to capture your experience you're

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able to delve into the emotions behind

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it whatever subject you're talking to I

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guarantee you people are gonna enjoy

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hearing it okay they don't really care

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so much about the facts the figures they

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care about your experience they care

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about the emotions and the vibe of the

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conversation is gonna have as a result

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of that okay now when you start talking

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more without filtering yourself

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obviously there are times where you're

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gonna make a mistake we're gonna say

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something that might offend her maybe

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something's too rude or something like

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that and you have to backtrack a little

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bit okay so what I'm really good at and

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guys I mess up all the time when I'm

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talking to people sometimes I make a

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joke nobody laughs sometimes I say

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things that I like to inappropriate

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somebody gets offended it's fine I just

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backtrack I just say hey sorry I didn't

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mean to offend you and then we move on

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or hey that joke kills around my mom you

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know just whatever okay so you just be

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able to backtrack recognize when you've

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made a mistake and then keep pushing for

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people are usually quick to forgive if

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you recognize the fact that it might

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have upset somebody or it might have

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offended somebody and hey look you're

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not gonna make friends with everyone so

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if even if you rub some people the wrong

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way that's okay what's not okay is never

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attempting and never expressing yourself

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because you're not going to get any

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results from that tip number two is stop

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giving such short answers okay most guys

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when I hear them talk to women they'll

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at the girl will ask them a question

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they'll be like hey how was your day and

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they'll just be like fine and the bike

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oh cool where are you from here oh nice

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where your friends at they're around

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it's like dude like this girl is trying

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to talk to you man and you're being like

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like no wonder you're running out of

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stuff to talk about because you keep

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giving these short one-word answers and

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as a result when you ask her a question

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what is she gonna do she's gonna give

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one

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defensive answers as well so that

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doesn't make for a very good

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conversation those conversations die out

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super quick nothing's gonna happen from

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what you should start doing is get good

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at be elaborating get good at expressing

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hey what really happened in your day

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okay

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again delve into the emotions here women

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do not care about the logical facts

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figures in fact most people don't care

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about that in you know your stories okay

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sure that gets the information across if

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you're in a business meeting very

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effectively but when you're in a

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conversation with somebody you're not

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trying to pass off information you're

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trying to experience you're trying to

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feel you're trying to be a part of the

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conversation and hang out with that

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person and it doesn't really matter so

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much about the facts and figures I mean

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if you listen to like you know the way

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women talk on the phone or the way they

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talk to each other it that like the

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content doesn't matter it's the fact

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that they're hanging out and there's

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like a vibe between the two of them

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that's the real important thing here so

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get good at giving longer answers maybe

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you could say instead of saying oh my

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date was good just tell a little story

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tell like you know I was walking back

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home the other day and I was feeling

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kind of weird like I don't know why I

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was feeling weird like I feel like I had

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a good day at work I felt like

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everything was going good and about half

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an hour later I realized I was hungry

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and as soon as I ate I felt better now

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that seems like a lame silly story but

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the fact that I was expressive the fact

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that I kind of delved into the emotions

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a little bit I guarantee you that's

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actually not a bad story to tell a woman

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you know especially if you guys are

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talking flirting with each other you

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know we should probably oh my god yes

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the other day like I thought I was

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hungry too it sounds silly but you guys

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have to realize that it's not about the

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content of what you're saying it's how

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you're saying it and the relatability of

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it and that too and the fact that you're

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experiencing with another person okay so

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stop giving such short answers one thing

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that really helps with this to become a

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good storyteller I've you know you can

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check out a video I actually have a

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video on this subject or how to be a

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better storyteller and I tell about you

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have to paint pictures when you're

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talking to someone you have to talk

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about what you saw what you heard maybe

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what you felt maybe if you tasted some

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things who get really good at being

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descriptive of the environment you're

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right not only you're gonna be more of a

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captivating speaker but you're also

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gonna have more to talk about you're

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gonna be able to keep the conversation

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going and people are gonna be really

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entranced in what you're saying when I

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was telling that story I was kind of

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talking about my feelings when I was

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feeling

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hungry a little bit it was a short story

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but you can see how descriptive I am

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when I tell stories and that's why

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there's so much more engaging and that's

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why I can talk for a lot longer than a

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lot of most people tip number three are

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the five questions that I go by so if

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you haven't seen my video on five

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questions I ask every girl when I'm out

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watch that video right now basically

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these are oshit questions these just

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like if you can't think of anything to

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say you can't think of anything to ask

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her you go for these five questions

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they're really simple the first three or

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small talk the last two are logistical

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so it's basically who are you this is

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kind of like what's your name

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where are you from what do you do like

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your occupation and the last two are who

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are you here with and what's your plan

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for tonight or what are you up to today

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you know the last two are gonna tell you

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if it makes sense for you to keep

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talking to her like if she's at a

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bachelorette party and she leaves the

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next day or if she actually lives in the

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area and she's gonna be hanging out

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there that night okay so these are

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really important for to see if you're

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gonna make progress with this girl but

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they're also like just easy questions

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that she knows the answer to and she's

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gonna tell you it's not like a really

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complicated question that's gonna like

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lead to something crazy these are normal

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questions that everybody asks and it's a

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normal part of the conversation and so a

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lot what a lot of guys try and do is

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they're they emphasize too much they

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think because there's because they're

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filtering what they say they think that

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normal questions are boring and that

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they shouldn't ask them well I have

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normal boring conversations all the time

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and a lot of times they can lead to sex

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it's remember it's not what you say it's

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how you say it okay so these questions

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are totally fine if you just want to

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keep the conversation going in a normal

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fashion and sometimes the conversation

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gets a little too crazy like we're

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talking about something really obscure

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constantly bantering and then I'll bring

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it down to a normal level just so I show

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or that hey I'm a normal person and I'm

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trying to get to know you and it just

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kept you've built up a little bit of

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comfort too tip number four is the chain

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of Association drill so this is

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basically how you keep the conversation

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going how you keep finding new topics of

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conversation to talk about you never

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really run out of topics of conversation

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and you can practice this by yourself

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basically the drill is this if you're

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talking to someone and she says

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yesterday I ran a mile okay so you have

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three things that you can talk about

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there I know I was honest about two

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before but

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you have three things you have yesterday

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ran mile any three of those things you

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can come up with a news and new

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statement so let's do ran okay so when I

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was in in middle school I did a lot of

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track if I ran a lot of track and field

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so there's a new statement right there

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you can talk about middle school you can

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talk about track and field and you can

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talk about competing

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so let's key in on that's key and on

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competing I compete a lot whenever it

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comes to sports I'm a very competitive

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person so right now I'm doing jujitsu

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and so I compete a lot when I'm doing

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jujitsu and although it's kind of new

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and exciting for me and I'm not very

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good at it I'm still able to to go

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against guys that I feel like I'm making

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progress against ok so now we have a new

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statement now we have jujitsu now we

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have well we had competition but that's

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what we were talking about before and

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then we have getting better and

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improving so let's say you wanted to

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talk about a new statement so getting

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better improvements a big part of life

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so if you are trying to be a happy

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person I would say that you should be

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constantly improving on things

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improvement is one of the biggest

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antidotes for depression in my opinion

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ok so now we have new statement talking

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about depression happiness and talk

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about quality of life let's talk about

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depression a lot of people are depressed

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these days you know it runs through my

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family I've dealt with a little bit of

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my life but I think the key thing about

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here is to not focus on it too much and

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just concentrate on moving and working

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ahead because I've my opinion action

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improving those are the types of things

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they're gonna make you a better person

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and they're gonna keep you happy overall

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in the long term and I think going for

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happiness actually is one of the biggest

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mistakes that people make because when

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they're going for happiness they put too

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much expectation on it I think we should

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really go for his satisfaction ok cool

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so you can see how we went from we went

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from I ran a mile to two track-and-field

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to competing and improving to depression

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to quality of life so you saw how like

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with a bunch of these topics they kind

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of linked together ok and we're able to

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just talk non-stop about different

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things ok

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practice doing this where you focus on

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the

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individual words these individual topics

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and then link them all together and you

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can rant you can talk forever for ages

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okay now this might seem like a weird

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thing to do and it might not seem like a

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good conversation but again it's not

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what you say it's how you say it like I

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said if you hear way girls talk on the

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phone it sounds nonsensical it's a lot

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of times it sounds very confusing but

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again it's not about the content of what

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they're talking about it's the fact that

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they're bonding with each other it's the

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fact that they're actually just hanging

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out and experiencing stuff with each

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other the words yeah sure they can make

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it get a little bit of a difference but

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that's not why they're doing in the

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first place

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and once you're able to tap into this

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you're able to actually free yourself

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and have that million-dollar mouthpiece

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that everybody talks about where you

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just have endless stuff to talk about

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and you're able to move it in a

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direction that people want to keep it

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exciting

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I remember what while you're doing this

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we should want to do is you what you

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should want to link it with the tips

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that I gave before which is tap into the

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emotions get descriptive start telling

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stories paint pictures if you're good at

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doing both of these things in tandem

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that's what give you that's what gives

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you the million dollar mouthpiece

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basically this is a person that can move

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conversations in a direction that he

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wants you can talk endlessly and you can

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talk with anyone so this is not just

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good for picking up women this is good

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for life tip number six is if you really

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can't think of anything to say there's a

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lonely conversation you feel like you've

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been talking for a while tell her to

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start talking okay one of the things

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that I use the align that I use all the

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time is if I can't you know I've meet a

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girl at the bar and then we kind of go

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sit down someplace else I'll be like hey

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tell me more about yourself okay

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so in these scenarios you're putting it

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back on her kind of like my previous

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example but this is more direct and this

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is a high-value thing to do man this is

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like hey tell me more about yourself

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let's see if you know I like you you're

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getting her to qualify rather than you

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just talking the whole time a big

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problem that I see a lot of beginner

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guys have is they're constantly trying

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to speak of constantly trying to impress

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the girl that they're talking to let her

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impress you for a little bit okay

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that's what a guy who's got a lot of

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options does you know he's not seeing if

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this if oh can I delete get this girl to

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like me he's saying hey is this girl

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good for me in my life that's what he's

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going for and that's what I want you

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guys to go for more as well too now

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sometimes when you say hey tell me more

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about

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yourself she's gonna be like oh well

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where do you what do you mean by that or

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I'll say like you know tell me more

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about yourself and then she'll be like

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oh like what do you want to know and

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I'll be like well I'll start I'm Lloyd

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my favorite colors blue I like to do Jiu

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Jitsu and on the weekends I walk my dog

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so then she'll go and she'll say

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something silly and then you have a

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bunch of stuff to work with maybe she

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walks her dog too maybe she does she

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works out a bunch of topics that you can

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talk about there and now you're you have

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stuff to talk about

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tip number tip number seven this is the

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final tip that I'm gonna give you be

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okay with silence be okay with silence a

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lot of beginner guys and students that I

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have they want to keep talking and if

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they feel like there's any lull in the

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conversation any sort of awkward silence

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all the attractions killed it's over the

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set done okay that's not true a lot of

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times awkward silences are the best

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things to have I will actually

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intentionally put in awkward silences

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sometimes the reason why I do this is

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because if you don't if you're

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constantly talking all the time you

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don't let any any time for things to sit

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you don't let any time for tension to

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arise tension is that little bit of you

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know playful discomfort that you get

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especially with two people who like each

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other that should be happening there

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should be a healthy amount of like a

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little bit awkward silences a little bit

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of tension to it and if you hide away

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from that

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well you just killed a major part of the

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attraction process or a major part of

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the the you know the relationship okay

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what you need to do is you need to be

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okay with awkward silences give yourself

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a little bit of time to think of

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something new but think of something to

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ask her or think hey you know what

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there's something I don't know about

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this person I'd like to know more about

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her you know those are the types of

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things that I want you guys to start

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doing where rather than you're

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constantly thing you hey how can i

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impress this person how can I look good

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you know what can this girl do for me

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and once you're okay with awkward

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silences you'll see a lot of times if

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you've been talking for a while you let

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the conversation the silence sit a

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little bit should be like so where are

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you from or like you have any siblings

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or like you have a girlfriend she asks

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you that obviously she's probably

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interested in you you know but you never

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gave her the opportunity to do that cuz

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you were constantly talking okay so a

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lot of times I'll see you guys fall into

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that trap so don't be scared of awkward

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silence don't be scared of silence in

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general man give yourself a minute or

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two

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and then come back to it or not a minute

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or two your resolves a few seconds and

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then come back into the conversation all

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right so that's all I have to say about

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this subject if you guys have any more

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tips that I didn't think of please put

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in the comment section below we'd love

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to hear them if you guys are wondering

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how to do this in your everyday life I

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would say 99% of the people that are

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watching this video are not going to

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develop the actual habits that are that

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it takes to be able to talk non-stop and

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never run out of things to say and the

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reason why is because they don't go out

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and execute or they don't execute

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properly they're not taking action the

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best way to start taking action is shoot

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me an email let's hop on a consultation

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call we'll talk about your goals and

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we'll see if we can help you reach them

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if you're going out this is a good idea

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for you to do and something that it will

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definitely get those results that you're

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looking for so you guys have any

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questions put in the comment section

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