Parenting Styles Examples (4 Types of Parenting Styles)

Summary

This video explores four parenting styles: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved/Neglectful. It uses humorous TV and movie examples to illustrate each style's characteristics and outcomes. Authoritarian parents demand obedience without explanation, Authoritative parents set boundaries and reason with their children, Permissive parents are lenient and avoid rules, while Uninvolved parents neglect their children's needs. The video encourages viewers to reflect on their parenting style and offers a free checklist to help become more Authoritative.

Takeaways

• 😀 Parenting styles can significantly impact a child's development, with four main types identified: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved/Neglectful.
• 🏫 Authoritarian parents demand strict obedience without explaining the reasons, often using punishment rather than rewards.
• 📚 Authoritative parents also have high expectations but are responsive to their child's emotional needs, setting clear boundaries and using reasoning over blind obedience.
• 🎓 Studies suggest Authoritative parenting can lead to better problem-solving skills and resilience in children, and is less likely to result in delinquent behavior.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Permissive parents are responsive to their child's feelings but do not set expectations or enforce rules, often leading to a more 'friend-like' relationship.
• 🚫 Uninvolved/Neglectful parents provide little guidance or emotional support, sometimes failing to meet even basic needs.
• 👀 The video provides humorous examples from TV and movies to illustrate each parenting style, making the concepts relatable and engaging.
• 📈 Research by Diana Baumrind in 1967 and Macoby and Martin in 1983 laid the groundwork for understanding parenting styles.
• 🔗 The video encourages viewers to reflect on their own parenting by asking about their experiences with their parents and suggesting a checklist for becoming more Authoritative.
• 💌 The presenter, Iftikhar, shares personal insights as a product of Authoritarian parenting and offers resources to help parents improve their approach.
• 🌟 The video concludes with a call to action for viewers to engage with the content, like, share, and join a community for support in parenting.

Q & A

What are the four parenting styles discussed in the video?

The four parenting styles discussed are Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved & Neglectful.

Who first defined the parenting styles?

The science behind parenting styles was first defined by Diana Baumrind in 1967. Later, in 1983, Macoby and Martin proposed additional changes.

What are the characteristics of Authoritarian Parents?

Authoritarian Parents have high expectations for discipline and obedience, expect total obedience without explaining reasons, and often use punishment rather than rewards.

What are the potential positive outcomes for children of Authoritarian Parents?

Children of Authoritarian Parents may have higher school achievement and exhibit well-behaved manners.

What are the potential negative outcomes for children of Authoritarian Parents?

Children may suffer from lower school grades, less sociability, emotional problems like low self-esteem and depression.

How does Authoritative Parenting differ from Authoritarian Parenting?

Authoritative Parents also have high expectations but are highly responsive to their child's emotional needs, encourage their children to have a point of view, and use rewards rather than punishments.

What are the benefits of Authoritative Parenting?

Children of Authoritative Parents are less likely to engage in drugs, alcohol, and delinquent behavior, and they tend to have better problem-solving skills and higher resilience.

What are the challenges of implementing Authoritative Parenting?

It requires patience and perseverance to reason with children, and it can be difficult to maintain consistency in discipline.

What is Permissive Parenting and how does it differ from Authoritative Parenting?

Permissive Parents are highly attuned to their child's emotional needs but do not set expectations or enforce rules. They allow their children great freedom and may use bribes or give in to tantrums.

What is Uninvolved & Neglectful Parenting?

Uninvolved & Neglectful Parents neither enforce rules nor maintain a close relationship with their child, often only providing for basic survival needs.

What is the recommended parenting style according to the video?

The video suggests that Authoritative Parenting is the most effective style in raising successful children, although it is also the hardest to implement.

How can viewers become better Authoritative Parents?

Viewers are encouraged to download the checklist 'Keys to be an Authoritative Parent' and join the seed2stem Facebook group for support and resources.

Outlines

00:00

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Introduction to Parenting Styles

The video introduces the concept of parenting styles and their impact on children. It promises to explore four distinct parenting styles using examples from TV and movies. The host, Iftikhar, editor of seed2stem.com, a parenting blog, provides a brief history of parenting styles, which were first defined by Diana Baumrind in 1967 and later expanded by Macoby and Martin in 1983. The four styles are Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved/Neglectful Parents. The video aims to help viewers identify their parenting style and understand the outcomes associated with each.

05:00

📚 Authoritarian and Authoritative Parenting

The video delves into Authoritarian Parenting, characterized by high expectations for discipline and obedience without explanation. It contrasts this with Authoritative Parenting, which also has high expectations but is responsive to the child's emotional needs, encourages opinions, and uses reasoning over punishment. The video discusses the potential benefits and drawbacks of each style, including higher school achievement and potential behavioral issues with Authoritarian Parenting, and better problem-solving skills with Authoritative Parenting. It also addresses the challenges of implementing Authoritative Parenting and offers a free checklist to help viewers become more Authoritative Parents.

10:03

🤔 Permissive and Uninvolved/Neglectful Parenting

The video discusses Permissive Parenting, which is similar to Authoritative Parenting in being attuned to a child's emotional needs but differs by not setting expectations or enforcing rules. It also touches on Uninvolved/Neglectful Parenting, which is characterized by a lack of rule enforcement and a cold, distant relationship with the child. The video concludes by inviting viewers to download a checklist on becoming an Authoritative Parent and join a community of parents for support. It encourages viewers to like, subscribe, share, and comment if the video was helpful.

Keywords

💡Parenting Styles

Parenting styles refer to the various approaches parents use to raise their children. In the video, the presenter discusses four distinct parenting styles: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved/Neglectful. Each style has different implications for a child's development and behavior. The video aims to help parents identify which style aligns with their parenting and understand the outcomes associated with each.

💡Authoritarian Parents

Authoritarian Parents are characterized by high expectations for discipline and obedience but are less responsive to their child's individual needs. They often demand compliance without explaining the reasons behind their demands. In the script, examples from movies depict Authoritarian Parents as strict and controlling, using phrases like 'Because I said so' and resorting to punishment rather than rewards.

💡Authoritative Parents

Authoritative Parents also have high expectations but differ from Authoritarian Parents by being more responsive to their child's feelings and opinions. They set clear boundaries but encourage discussion and reasoning. The video suggests that Authoritative Parents are likely to use rewards and logical consequences rather than punishment. The term is exemplified through the contrast with Authoritarian parenting and the suggestion that it leads to better outcomes like higher school achievement.

💡Permissive Parents

Permissive Parents are described as being highly attuned to their child's emotions but do not set many expectations or enforce rules. This parenting style is depicted in the video through humorous movie scenes where parents allow their children to have their way without imposing structure or discipline. The video implies that while this approach might seem fun, it can lack the guidance necessary for a child's development.

💡Uninvolved & Neglectful Parents

Uninvolved & Neglectful Parents are characterized by a lack of engagement with their child's life, neither enforcing rules nor providing emotional support. This style is briefly mentioned in the video as the least nurturing and potentially harmful to a child's development, as it leaves the child to fend for themselves with minimal guidance or care.

💡Discipline

Discipline, as discussed in the video, refers to the methods parents use to teach their children right from wrong and to shape their behavior. Authoritarian Parents often use punishment as a form of discipline, while Authoritative Parents may use a combination of rewards and logical consequences. Discipline is a central theme in the video, as it is a key aspect of all parenting styles.

💡Obedience

Obedience is a key expectation in Authoritarian parenting, where children are expected to follow rules without question. The video uses examples to illustrate how Authoritarian Parents might demand obedience with phrases like 'You need structure, you need discipline.' It contrasts with Authoritative and Permissive styles, where obedience might be balanced with a child's input or not emphasized as heavily.

💡Emotional Needs

Emotional needs refer to a child's requirement for love, understanding, and support from their parents. Authoritative and Permissive Parents are described as being highly responsive to their child's emotional needs, which is in contrast to Authoritarian Parents who may prioritize obedience and discipline over emotional responsiveness.

💡Structure

Structure in parenting refers to the establishment of routines, rules, and expectations that provide a framework for a child's life. The video mentions that Authoritarian Parents often provide a lot of structure, which can lead to well-behaved children but may also restrict a child's autonomy and creativity.

💡Rewards and Punishments

Rewards and punishments are methods used by parents to reinforce or discourage certain behaviors. Authoritative Parents are more likely to use rewards to encourage good behavior, while Authoritarian Parents may rely more on punishment. The video suggests that the approach to rewards and punishments can significantly impact a child's development and behavior.

💡Stem Mindset

Stem Mindset refers to an approach to learning that emphasizes science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM). The video's presenter mentions that the blog seed2stem.com is focused on helping parents raise children with a STEM mindset. This keyword suggests that the parenting styles discussed are also considered in the context of preparing children for success in STEM fields.

Highlights

Introduction to four different parenting styles with examples from TV and movies.

The science behind parenting styles was first defined by Diana Baumrind in 1967.

Macoby and Martin proposed additional changes to parenting styles in 1983.

Definition of Authoritarian Parents: high expectations for discipline and obedience.

Authoritarian Parents expect total obedience without explaining reasons.

Authoritarian Parents use punishment more often than rewards.

Authoritarian Parenting linked to higher school achievement but can also backfire.

Children of Authoritarian Parents can be less sociable and suffer from emotional problems.

Authoritative Parents have high expectations and are responsive to their child's emotional needs.

Authoritative Parents set clear limits and enforce them consistently.

Authoritative Parents encourage their children to have a point of view.

Authoritative Parenting is linked to less drug use, better problem-solving, and higher resilience in children.

Challenges of Authoritative Parenting include maintaining patience and consistency.

Permissive Parents are highly attuned to their child's emotional needs but do not set expectations or enforce rules.

Examples of Permissive Parenting from movies like 'Mean Girls' and 'Minions'.

Uninvolved & Neglectful Parents neither enforce rules nor have a close relationship with their child.

Invitation to download a checklist on how to become an Authoritative Parent.

Encouragement to join the seed2stem Facebook group for parenting support.

Call to action for viewers to like, subscribe, and share the video if they found it helpful.

Transcripts

Are you interested in the different parenting styles and trying to figure out which one

works best for you and your child?

Watch this video where i'll share examples of the four different types of parenting styles

including some very funny examples from TV and movies.

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the bell to be notified when I post a new video every Thursday.

Are you interested in parenting?

f you're about to have a kid, congratulations.

you’re about to have an amazing experience.

Or maybe you already have a child and are confused about the different parenting styles,

by the end of this video, I’ll define the four different parenting styles giving you

humorous examples from TV and movies and explain the associated outcomes you often see from

each type.

My name is Iftikhar and i'm the editor of seed2stem.com, a parenting blog focused on

helping parents raise stem mindset kids.

Let’s get started.

First up, a little history.

The science behind parenting styles was first defined back in 1967 by Diana Baumrind, a

development psychologist who studied preschoolers

in her landmark study, she developed the first three of four parenting styles we have today.

In 1983, Macoby and Martin further studied parenting and proposed some additional changes.

The four different types of parenting styles are: 1.

Authoritarian Parents, 2.

Authoritative Parents, 3.

Permissive Parents and 4.

Uninvolved & Neglectful Parents.

Movie scenes: Since we have time on our hands...

But i was only trying to...

Silence.

We’re trying very hard.

i want t understand why it is you insist on defiling us.

This is for your own good boy.

Are you being smart with me?

You have no respect for other peoples things.

For authority...

Sir, I’m sorry.

You can’t just go around doing whatever you feel like.

We’re not going to let you ruin your life.

I am withdrawing you from Walton and enrolling you in military school.

you're going to Harvard and you're going to be a doctor.

If you’re being smart with me young lady, you’re going to be punished.

You can’t.

there are rules in life.

Yes Sir.

You need structure, you need discipline.

Discipline.

Yes sir.

i think you’ve been trying to teach me.

Don’t give up on me dad.

Oh yes, and the tapestries and the draperies.

But I just finished...

Do them again.

You have opportunities that I never even dreamt about and I’m not going to let you...

I deserve to tell you what I feel.

Alright then, tell me what you feel.

And don’t forget the garden and scrub the terrace, sweep the halls and the stairs, clean

the chimneys and of course, theres the mending snd the sowing in the laundry..

[End of movie scenes display] So, first of all, lets talk about Authoritarian

Parents.

As you can probably guess by observing the examples we just watched, Authoritarian Parents

have very high expectations for their kids especially when it comes to discipline and

obedience.

The key point is that Authoritarian Parents expect total obedience and don’t explain

why children should follow their example.

Their reason is "because i said so," and often, Authoritarian Parents don’t even have to

explain that at all.

Authoritarian Parents generally don’t resort to using rewards to motivate their kids as

an excellent behavior is expected instead, Authoritarian Parents more often resort to

using punishment to control children’s behavior.

So, how do you know if you’re an Authoritarian Parent?

Do you agree with symptoms like this: when i ask my child to do something, and she asks,

"why?'

i respond with, "Because I said so."

Do you punish your child by holding expressions of affection?

For example, you may temporarily stop talking to your child or decide to not tuck in your

kid at night as punishment or do you yell and shout when your child misbehaves?

If the answer to all three is yes, then you are an Authoritarian Parent.

If the answer to most of these questions is yes, then you’re probably leaning this way.

Now, the video clips I showed today were obviously a bit satirical, funny and a little scary

but Authoritarian Parenting has its pros too.

Expectations are very high for children of Authoritarian Parents which is a good thing.

A 2001 study by Professor Chao linked Authoritarian Parents with higher school achievement for

their kids.

Children of Authoritarian Parents can often be very well behaved too.

Now, how do I know this? well, I’m the son of an Authoritarian Parent and I like to think

so far, with God's blessings, i've had a very successful life.

My parents upbringing of me helped me become the man i am today.

So, Authoritarian Parenting can have its benefits but Authoritarian Parenting can backfire spectacularly.

Studies have found that Authoritarian Parenting is linked to lower school grades.

in 2017, Martin Pinkart analyzed 1400 published studies and found that harsh psychological

control was the biggest predictor of worsening behavioral issues over a period of time.

Kids from Authoritarian families can be less sociable and less resourceful.

they can suffer from emotional problems like low self esteem and depression.

So now, let’s talk about the second style of parenting, which is Authoritative Parenting.

i'm sure the first thing you're thinking is, "Couldn't they have come up with a different

name?"

Yes, Authoritative Parenting sounds very similar to Authoritarian Parenting but there is a

significant difference.

So, even though Authoritative Parents have high expectations for their kids, they are

also highly responsive to their child's emotional needs.

so, what exactly does this mean?

Well, Authoritative Parents tend to set clear limits on boundaries and consistently enforce.

They reason with their child instead of requiring total obedience, they encourage and allow

their children to have a point of view and they do discipline their children but often

use rewards rather than punishments.

So, how do you know if you're an Authoritative Parent?

Well, do you agree with statements like this: when i ask my child to explain something and

he asks me, 'why?"

i explain why.

Do you respect your child's opinion and are you okay with your child expressing their

opinions even if they’re different from yours?

instead of punishments, do you focus on disciplining your child using methods such as rewarding

good behavior or taking away privileges?

And do you encourage your child to talk about their feelings?

If the answer is yes, then you are an Authoritative Parent.

However, what about the parent who doesn’t encourage their child to voice their own opinion?

Well, you can still be Authoritative as long as you explain your rules or opinion to your

child.

depends on your point of view.

You see, in every job that must be done, there is an element of fun.

Find the fun and snap, the job's a game and every task you undertake becomes a piece of

cake, a look, a spree, it's very clear to see.

that a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, medicine go down, medicine go down,

just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down in a most...

Now, before we go any further, i'd like to ask you, the viewer, "What type of viewer

was your mom and dad?"

Were they Authoritarian or Authoritative or something else?"

Please comment below.

We’ll come back to this question again later in the video.

So, what are the benefits of Authoritative Parenting?

A number of studies have found that children of Authoritative Parents are less likely to

engage in drugs, alcohol and delinquent behavior.

In addition, encouraging independence in children has been linked to better problem solving

and higher resilience.

So, these all sound great.

Who wouldn't want this result?

Well, what are the downsides of Authoritative Parenting?

One, your child may still rebel.

Since this parenting style all hinges on reasoning, if your child refuses to listen, you'll have

a very hard time instilling discipline and two, its very very hard to implement Authoritative

Parenting.

Do you have the patience and perseverance to reason with a moody and angry child?

Are you willing to make the mental and emotional investment using your reasoning for all your

rules?

Are you going to be consistent in how you discipline?

Now, this topic of being an Authoritative Parent isn't something i can fit into a short

youtube video and like I said, its a lot of work but if you're really interested in taking

the first step in learning how to be an Authoritative Parent, then please sign up for my free checklist:

Keys to be an Authoritative Parent.

These handy reminder will summarize 9 actions you can take to start to be an Authoritative

Parent combined with my weekly seed2stem newsletter packed with tips and tricks and you'll finally

have the tools you need to become better parents.

Ok.

So, let’s keep learning about parenting.

The third parenting style is Permissive Parenting.

Permissive Parenting is similar to Authoritative Parenting in that both are highly attuned

to the emotional needs of the child.

Both parenting styles also encourage and allow their child to have a point of view but the

difference in Permissive Parenting is Permissive Parents do not set any expectations for their

child and there's a reluctance to enforce any rules.

[Movie Scenes] Hey daddy, i want to to go get a Goose.

i just want you to know that if you need anything, don't be shy ok?

There are no rules in this house, I’m not like a regular mom.

I’m a cool mom.

Right Regina?

Please stop talking.

Ok.

What’s with the kid wearing a camerovaon?

I let him wear whatever he wants to wear.

Those boots are the best.

i know right?

I’ll have a hotdog with a mustard and . Frankenstein, what do you want?

30 packets of ketchup.

Alright.

30 packets of ketchup.

Ouuu.

Nice hit pal

Alright sweetheart, alright darling, you'll get your golden goose as soon as you get home. No I want one of those.

This is like a whole new school of child raising. I’m telling you.

You give the kid options instead of orders, you know, let him make the right decision.

In my next video, I’m going to deep dive into permissive parenting and share 7 reasons

why I think this type of parenting can be a disaster for kids.

In the mean time, here’s how you can find out if you’re a Permissive parent.

So, do you often agree with statements like: I often use bribes with my child to get him

to do something he doesn't want to do or I’ll give into my child when he or she has a tantrum

or my child and i are equals and friends and lastly, what about: I want my child to make

their own mistakes and won't impose my own rules.

If the answer is yes, then you're probably a Permissive Parent.

Ok.

So, let’s get to the last parenting style and that is Uninvolved & Neglectful Parenting.

Now, if you're watching this, I’m going to guess this isn’t probably for you.

I’m not going to waste too much time explaining this but you only fall into this category

if you neither enforce rules with your child and have a cold distant relationship with

your child.

In this scenario, for the most part, the child is on their own with their parent only taking

care of the basic need required to survive and sometimes even, that basic requirement

isn’t met.

Now that you know the four types of parenting styles, I’ll like to invite you to download

my checklist on how to start to become an Authoritative Parent.

As discussed, while research shows this parenting style is the most effective in raising successful

children, it’s also the hardest to implement.

So, download the checklist, the link is below in the youtube video description and if you’re

interested in joining a community of parents who are trying to be the best parents they

can be, then request to join the seed2stem Facebook group and well do our best to help

you.

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Thanks.