The One Trait That Makes Guys Extremely Attractive - Sara Saffari
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful discussion, the focus is on the dating habits and maturity levels of Generation Z males, particularly those aged 22 to 27. The conversation delves into their priorities, often centered around socializing and partying, and speculates on the impact of location, hinting that the LA lifestyle might play a role. The concept of 'slow life strategy' is introduced, noting a trend where Gen Z delays traditional milestones like driving and living independently. The dialogue also touches on the importance of ambition and motivation in potential partners, and the challenges faced by young women in defining their femininity in a world heavily influenced by social media. The conversation raises questions about the future of relationships and personal growth in the digital age.
Takeaways
- 🧑🎓 The speaker feels that there is a significant amount of personal growth that occurs for men between the ages of 22 and 27, with 22-year-olds often not being mature enough for serious relationships.
- 🤔 The speaker is self-aware, acknowledging their own maturity and comparing it to the perceived immaturity of their male peers who are more focused on socializing and partying.
- 🏙️ The influence of location, such as LA, is considered as a factor that might contribute to the lifestyle choices of young men, suggesting that the scene might be different in less urban areas.
- 📊 There's a reference to the 'slow life strategy' trend among Gen Z, which involves delaying traditional milestones and exhibiting less risk-taking behavior compared to previous generations.
- 🚸 The COVID-19 pandemic is speculated to have potentially contributed to a more isolated and less adventurous attitude among young people.
- 💪 The speaker values ambition, drive, and motivation in a partner, seeing these traits as attractive and indicative of a healthy, growth-oriented relationship.
- 🤝 The ideal partner, according to the speaker, is someone who is not only attractive but also admirable, embodying a blend of attraction and role-model qualities.
- 👩🍳 There's a societal expectation for women to perform traditional roles such as cooking and cleaning, which the speaker resists, reflecting on the pressures and stereotypes associated with femininity.
- 📱 Social media is criticized for complicating the understanding of femininity and body image, with the speaker noting the discrepancy between online portrayals and real-life expectations.
- 🌟 The script touches on the fallibility of public figures who are held up as role models, highlighting the contrast between their public image and private behavior.
Q & A
What age group does the speaker feel is still growing and maturing?
-The speaker feels that men aged 22 to 27 are still growing and maturing.
What does the speaker believe many young men prioritize at this age?
-The speaker believes that many young men prioritize friends, partying, and going out, which includes drinking.
Does the speaker think this behavior is specific to Los Angeles?
-The speaker wonders if this behavior might be specific to Los Angeles and suggests that it might be different in a rural town in Kansas.
What is the 'slow life strategy' mentioned in the script?
-The 'slow life strategy' refers to Gen Z delaying traditional milestones such as getting a driver's license, moving out, and starting a job, and also not engaging in risky behaviors like partying, drinking, or taking drugs.
How does the speaker feel about the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on the younger generation?
-The speaker speculates that the pandemic may have contributed to a pushback in traditional milestones and a more isolated, hermit-like lifestyle for young people during their formative years.
What qualities does the speaker find attractive in a partner?
-The speaker finds motivation, dedication, drive, and ambition attractive in a partner, as well as competence.
What role does the speaker think traditional household chores play in relationships?
-The speaker suggests that a lack of willingness to do traditional household chores might be associated with non-traditional relationships and a less feminine image.
How does the speaker view the influence of social media on young women's perception of femininity?
-The speaker believes that social media has complicated the understanding of femininity for young women, as it often showcases extremes like sex symbols or unrealistic beauty standards.
What challenges does the speaker observe in young women finding their role in the world?
-The speaker observes that young women face challenges in deciding whether to adopt traditional roles or more modern, liberated lifestyles, which can be confusing due to mixed messages from role models and social media.
How does the speaker feel about the authenticity of some public figures who portray themselves as virtuous?
-The speaker is skeptical about the authenticity of public figures who grandstand their virtue, suggesting that actions are less visible than words online, and that those who are the most forthcoming about being virtuous may have something to hide.
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Outlines
👦 Maturity and Priorities of Gen Z Men
The speaker discusses the perceived immaturity of men in their early to mid-20s, suggesting that they prioritize socializing and partying over more mature pursuits. They mention a potential regional influence, such as LA, on these behaviors. The conversation shifts to the 'slow life strategy' observed in Gen Z, where individuals are delaying traditional milestones like getting a driver's license, moving out, and starting a job. The speaker also touches on the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on social development and the potential long-term effects on young adults' growth and maturity. They emphasize the attractiveness of ambition, drive, and motivation in a partner, suggesting that these traits are 'sexy' and lead to a strong attraction when combined with admiration.
👩 Femininity and Role Models in the Digital Age
The discussion in this paragraph revolves around the challenges young women face in defining their femininity in a world heavily influenced by social media. The speaker notes the dichotomy of images portrayed by women online, ranging from sex symbols to body positivity advocates, and how these can create confusion about what constitutes feminine strength and success. They also express disappointment in public figures who are seen as role models but later reveal controversial or contradictory behaviors, using Lizzo and Ellen DeGeneres as examples. The conversation highlights the complexity of finding genuine role models and the impact of social media on shaping societal expectations and individual self-perception.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Gen Z
💡Maturity
💡Prioritizing
💡Risk Aversion
💡Slow Life Strategy
💡Motivation
💡Femininity
💡Role Models
💡Social Media Influence
💡Traditional Household Roles
Highlights
Discussion on the maturity levels of Generation Z males, particularly between the ages of 22 to 27.
Observation that 22-year-old men might not be as mature as their age might suggest.
The interviewee's self-assessment as being mature for their age and the perceived immaturity of their male peers.
Prioritization of friends, partying, and social activities by young men, possibly influenced by the LA culture.
The 'slow life strategy' of Generation Z, characterized by delayed milestones and risk-averse behavior.
The potential impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on the social and developmental behaviors of young adults.
The importance of motivation, dedication, and ambition in a partner as attractive qualities.
The desire for a partner who is both attractive and admirable, creating a potent combination for attraction.
The challenge for young women in finding their role and expression of femininity in the modern world.
The influence of social media on the perception of femininity and body image.
The complexity of finding role models in a world where public personas may not align with private actions.
The potential for a disconnect between online virtue signaling and real-world behavior.
The role of traditional household tasks in defining gender roles and expectations in relationships.
The perception of women who do not engage in traditional domestic roles and the societal judgments that follow.
The advertisement for Cozy Earth, promoting high-quality bedding for a better sleep experience.
Oprah's endorsement of Cozy Earth as one of her favorite things, highlighting the product's quality and comfort.
Transcripts
like what what a gen Zed guys like the
ones that you either grew up with or
sometimes try and speak to with regards
to dating or or anything what how do you
categorize them how do you classify them
I feel like there's a lot of growing to
do from the ages of from the age of 22
to like 27 for men and I think you know
22 year old men just aren't there yet
necessarily and I think that I am I'm
pretty mature for my age
um
and I think the guys that I've counted
for the most part just aren't there yet
they're just immature maybe caught up
with
kind of a younger mindset yeah so what
are they doing like what are they
what are they prioritizing what are they
concerned about I think they prioritize
friends a good amount which isn't a bad
thing I'm just saying friends a lot
partying going out you know drinking
I wonder how much of that's an LA thing
I think a good amount of it might be an
LA thing I think if you go like to a
rural rural town in Kansas maybe it's
not as much yeah
have you heard of slow life strategy do
you know about this low life strategy
yeah so there's a
it seems at the moment based on the data
that
gen Zed both guys and girls a little bit
younger than you
um you would probably be at the very
front of this wave
um getting a driver's license later
moving out of home later uh getting a
job later not partying as much not
drinking as much not taking drugs so
they've got generalized risk aversion
they're not doing the risky things that
previous generations of that age would
but they're also not even really doing
the adult things like the number of
16 to 20 year olds who don't have a
driver's license is the highest ever
really you think covet had a like a
pushback in that maybe maybe it could be
that people just became more isolated
stopped if that's your formative yours
if you're
15 and coveted hits and you're 18 and
covered finishes you've just grown up
all you can remember basically being the
person that you are is this hermit at
home playing fortnite or whatever yeah
um
but what it makes me think about is
what when these people do need to grow
up you mentioned young guys could do
with maybe growing up a little bit more
quickly yeah if they want a chance and
it makes me wonder whether that's going
to keep getting pushed further and
further not
I don't know it's uh
I think for me one of the biggest
turn-ons or pluses a guy can have is
being motivated or like dedicated to
something even if that's Plumbing you
know just something that like every day
you want to do and work towards to being
better at you know whether that's the
gym or
a job like Plumbing or being a dentist
or being an astronaut like whatever you
know just something to work towards
rather than just kinda
laying back and like kicking your feet
up and just enjoying day by day I think
it's like that's great and everything
but I think you have to have something
that every day you're trying to improve
drive and motivation and ambition I
think are very sexy and competence as
well yeah like if you can manage to hit
the sweet spot with a partner of someone
who you are attracted to but you admire
as well
holy like you've got a a partner that's
your role model yeah that's an
unbelievably potent cocktail I think for
attraction
um
I didn't I it's so strange to think
about
what that is for girls because you know
guys can just go out and get their drive
and and do the things that typically are
sort of masculine traits be very
interested in what the equivalent is for
a girl you know like what is it that a
guy would find in feminine traits that
they want to absorb into themselves do
you know what I mean I don't know one
time I was on Brad's part and I was like
oh like I don't cook or clean and then
everyone was like I still don't live
those comments down I'm like okay I've
been practicing now but I will never
live those comments down like oh like
why would you ever want her she can't
cook or clean Jesus Christ we just get
made like you don't need a wife you need
a maid yeah I was like bro I'm not gonna
I mean I don't think I could ever see
myself doing someone else's laundry
maybe my mother's but my partners never
well you just need to earn a bit more
money and then you can pay the maid
today yeah I'm like bro I'll pay someone
to do it I wasn't opposed to a house
Chef so I think I think I think part of
that is is that they associate a lack of
willingness to do traditional household
things with uh
non-traditional relationship that is
just not going to be as as enjoyable
it's a less feminine uh sort of woman
yeah and the polarity between
masculinity and femininity what the
subtext is I'm not doing the washing
you are yeah right which is and guys are
like oh yeah exactly if you're not doing
it I'm definitely not doing it yeah
right so I do understand and I do think
you know there's lots of talk about
masculinity and and stuff like that what
about the other side of the fence are
you seeing challenges that young girls
have with femininity at the moment of
like finding their role within the world
whether they should be a Trad wife or a
like a sex positive sleep around girl
party girl whether it should be a hermit
I don't know I think it's hard
especially with social media and like
most of the girls you see on social
media are like
you know there's there's two sides of it
of course but there's a lot of like
um like sex symbols you see on social
media or even if it's not like sex
symbols you see like these hot beautiful
girls that may or may not have had work
done but in swimsuits or whatever and
for a lot of people it's hard to like
you would never get there but like
that's who you see on a daily basis on
your phone so that's that's what you
want or that's what you want to strive
towards but
yeah so I think it's hard to say what
kind of
what ex like extent to femininity girls
look for but I think it social media
hasn't made it easier it's confusing
it's confusing for sure and look at some
of the role models that were held up as
okay so this is really really where you
know this is someone that's charging
forward and really getting it right
lizzo fighting for girls all over the
place yeah and then the bottom falls out
and it turns out that she's making her
dancers eat bananas out of strippers
vaginas yeah weight shaming all of the
people as this Champion for body
positivity and Ellen DeGeneres as well
turns out that she's a total prick to
work with
um
yeah it's like and it's the people that
you would think that were like the most
understanding that turned out to not be
I don't know whether it's people that
you would think I think it's people that
portrayed themselves yeah correct yeah
people that portrayed themselves to be
like the most understanding or accepting
of everyone
it's like the senator that's pushing the
hardcore anti-gay legislation that goes
home and secretly watches
right VPN right yeah
um it's I I think it's fascinating and
there's a part of that you know the
because people's actions are way less
visible than their words online like the
thing that you tweet is way more
important than the thing that you did
because no one sees the thing that you
did but they see the thing tweeted yep
so when you look at the people that are
the most forthcoming
about being virtuous or morally
grandstanding or I'm holier than now
when you see that that to me a lot of
the time signals
there's probably something going on
there unless I can really really prove
it and I didn't see it with lizzo not
that I like a lizzo scholar
um but lizzo fan yeah I I didn't look at
her and see
yeah this is someone who's really
working hard to try and find the next
like Frontier for a female body
empowerment or something like that it
seemed like someone doing a grift it
seemed like someone that had managed
they managed to capture a particular
narrative and was just leaning into it
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