UNDERSTANDING FEMALE ATTRACTION: THE REAL REASONS WOMEN CHOOSE MEN

Summary

The video script discusses the impact of men's career success and lifestyle on their romantic relationships. It suggests that those with demanding careers attract women interested in material benefits rather than emotional connection, leading to higher chances of infidelity. The script also touches on the paradox of beautiful women and wealthy men being more likely to be cheated on, due to attracting partners valuing their assets over a genuine bond. It criticizes the 'red pill' philosophy for creating fear and weakness in men, urging them to seek healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding, rather than focusing on superficial gains or defenses.

Takeaways

• 🧐 Focusing solely on appearance can attract women interested in lifestyle rather than emotional connection.
• 💼 Men with demanding careers may attract partners who are more interested in material benefits than quality time.
• 🔒 High earners should consider the type of women they attract and whether they prioritize emotional connection or material perks.
• 💔 The risk of infidelity may be higher in relationships where emotional connection is lacking or where partners are attracted to lifestyle over person.
• 🤔 It's important to question what truly makes a relationship worth the sacrifices and to reflect on one's motivations for wealth and relationships.
• 💰 The pursuit of wealth for the purpose of attracting women may lead to attracting women who are interested in money rather than the individual.
• 🚫 If a person is attracted to someone primarily because of money, they are replaceable by anyone with money, indicating a lack of genuine connection.
• 🙅‍♀️ Physical attractiveness alone does not guarantee a fulfilling relationship; compatibility and shared values are crucial.
• 🚶‍♂️ Men who are not primarily driven by physical beauty may have different relationship dynamics compared to those who highly value it.
• 🚫 The 'red pill' philosophy can create fear and reinforce negative beliefs about women and relationships, rather than fostering healthy relationship skills.
• 🔑 Successful relationships are built on good selection, healthy boundaries, and self-esteem, not on fear or manipulation.

Q & A

What happens when men focus solely on a woman's appearance rather than her character?

They attract women who are interested in their lifestyle and material benefits, rather than seeking an emotional connection, leading to relationships where infidelity may not be a significant concern for these women.

Why do men with simple jobs and careers tend to attract women who value quality time?

Because their less demanding careers allow for more personal interactions, attracting women who prioritize emotional connections and shared experiences over material wealth.

How does a busy career impact the type of women a man attracts?

A man with a very busy career may attract women who are more interested in the perks associated with being with him, such as financial security, rather than a deep emotional bond.

What is the potential downside of attracting women based on material wealth rather than emotional connection?

The downside is that these women may be more likely to cheat, as they may not be emotionally invested in the relationship and may seek emotional experiences elsewhere.

Why do some people believe that having wealth will attract better quality partners?

Some believe that wealth can provide access to a wider range of potential partners, including those who may be more attractive or desirable. However, this can be misguided if the focus is solely on material attraction rather than genuine compatibility.

What is the potential issue with using money as a primary motivation for attracting a partner?

Using money as a primary motivation can lead to attracting partners who are more interested in material benefits than in building a genuine, emotionally connected relationship.

Why might a beautiful woman be more likely to be cheated on according to the transcript?

A beautiful woman may be more likely to be cheated on because the men who are attracted to her are often those who highly value physical beauty and are willing to risk rejection to be with attractive women, which can lead to infidelity.

What does the transcript suggest about the relationship between a man's libido and the type of woman he chooses?

The transcript suggests that a man with a high libido and a strong attraction to beauty is more likely to choose a physically attractive partner and may be more prone to infidelity.

What is the 'red pill' movement mentioned in the transcript, and how does it affect men's perceptions of relationships?

The 'red pill' movement refers to a community that shares certain beliefs about gender dynamics and relationships, often promoting the idea that women are inherently manipulative. This can lead to a distorted view of relationships and reinforce negative stereotypes.

How does the 'red pill' movement potentially harm men's ability to form healthy relationships?

The 'red pill' movement can harm men's ability to form healthy relationships by fostering fear and mistrust of women, rather than teaching effective communication and relationship-building skills.

What advice does the transcript offer to men who feel they are being 'played' by women or who have been hurt in relationships?

The advice is to focus on self-improvement, setting healthy boundaries, and developing good selection criteria for partners, rather than blaming women or seeking to protect oneself from perceived 'evil'.

Outlines

00:00

💼 The Paradox of Success and Relationship Dynamics

The first paragraph discusses the unintended consequences of success on romantic relationships. It suggests that men with simple jobs attract women who value quality time, while those with demanding careers draw women interested in the lifestyle perks, such as access to a credit card, rather than an emotional connection. This dynamic can lead to infidelity, as the women attracted to the latter group may not be emotionally invested and thus more likely to cheat. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding what one truly seeks in a relationship and warns against the pitfalls of valuing material wealth over genuine connection. It also touches on the idea that money can attract women who are replaceable by any man with money, highlighting the difference between superficial and deep relationships.

05:00

🚫 The Red Pill Philosophy: A Detriment to Healthy Relationships

The second paragraph critiques the 'Red Pill' philosophy, which the speaker describes as a harmful ideology that can exacerbate men's fears and insecurities in relationships. It suggests that successful men do not engage with this content, as it appeals primarily to those struggling with women, often due to poor selection or past hurts. The Red Pill is accused of teaching men to fear women and to adopt strategies that protect them from perceived female 'evils,' rather than fostering healthy relationship skills. The speaker argues that this philosophy validates and amplifies men's shortcomings, leading them to select inappropriate partners and create weak, fear-based relationships. The paragraph concludes with a hypothetical scenario where the speaker, as the 'Empress of the Red Pill,' would aim to correct these misguided beliefs and teach men to value self-esteem and boundaries over materialistic and superficial attractions.

Keywords

💡Eyesight

In the context of the video, 'eyesight' metaphorically refers to the ability to perceive or understand something clearly. It is used to illustrate that some individuals fail to see beyond the surface-level attractiveness of a person and focus solely on their appearance, neglecting deeper qualities such as character.

💡Emotional Connection

Emotional connection is a deep bond between individuals, characterized by mutual understanding and empathy. The video discusses how a lack of emotional connection can lead to relationships where one party is more interested in the material benefits than in the personal relationship, which can result in infidelity.

💡Cheating

Cheating in the video is presented as a form of betrayal in a relationship, where one partner is unfaithful to the other. It is discussed as a potential outcome when relationships are based on superficial factors rather than a genuine emotional bond.

💡Quality Time

Quality time refers to moments spent together that are meaningful and focused on each other, rather than being distracted by other activities or responsibilities. The script mentions that women who seek quality time are less likely to be attracted to a lifestyle that prioritizes work over personal relationships.

💡Career

Career in this context is the professional path or occupation of an individual. The video suggests that the nature of one's career can influence the type of partner they attract, with busy careers potentially attracting partners who are more interested in the lifestyle than in a deep relationship.

💡Self-Selection Bias

Self-selection bias is a psychological phenomenon where individuals tend to choose or be attracted to options that align with their existing preferences or characteristics. The video uses this term to explain why certain types of individuals, such as those with sociopathic tendencies, might be drawn to specific types of partners.

💡Red Pill Movement

The 'red pill' movement is a term used in the video to describe a community that believes in certain controversial views about gender dynamics and relationships. The video criticizes this movement for promoting fear and mistrust of women and for not fostering healthy relationship skills.

💡Self-Esteem

Self-esteem refers to the overall subjective evaluation of one's own worth. The script suggests that low self-esteem can lead to poor relationship choices and a tendency to attract or tolerate negative behaviors from partners.

💡Boundaries

Boundaries are the limits or rules that individuals set for themselves in relationships to protect their well-being. The video implies that a lack of clear boundaries can result in being taken advantage of or experiencing infidelity.

💡Lifestyle

Lifestyle in this context refers to the way in which an individual lives, including their habits, interests, and social status. The script discusses how a luxurious or high-status lifestyle can attract partners who are more interested in the material aspects than in a genuine emotional connection.

💡Intellectual Challenge

Intellectual challenge refers to the stimulation or engagement of one's intellect, often through thought-provoking conversation or activities. The video suggests that relationships lacking intellectual challenge can be shallow and less fulfilling.

Highlights

Men with busy careers often attract women interested in their lifestyle rather than an emotional connection.

Women who desire quality time may avoid relationships with CEOs or individuals with demanding jobs.

Individuals should reflect on what truly makes a relationship worth the sacrifices.

Wealth as a motivation for attracting women can lead to attracting those who are replaceable by another wealthy man.

The quality of women attracted to wealth may not be based on genuine connection but rather material benefits.

Men who are terrified of rejection are more likely to approach and be attracted to beautiful women.

Beautiful women and rich men are paradoxically more likely to be cheated on due to the type of people attracted to them.

Men with a high libido and appreciation for beauty may be more likely to stray in relationships.

The red pill movement is criticized for creating fear and weakness in men, rather than fostering healthy relationships.

Successful men with women do not typically engage with red pill content, as it appeals more to those struggling with relationships.

Red pill content may exaggerate existing fears and poor selection strategies in men.

The red pill movement is accused of not teaching men the skills for healthy relationships but rather how to protect against perceived female 'evil'.

Being the 'Empress of the red pill' would involve debunking the base assumption that women are the enemy and teaching healthier relationship dynamics.

It is suggested that issues with women in relationships stem from low self-esteem and poor boundaries, not the women themselves.

The red pill movement is said to teach men to select women based on superficial criteria, leading to unhealthy relationships.

The transcript emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and understanding one's motivations in relationships to avoid unhealthy patterns.

Men are encouraged to delete dating apps and red pill content to foster healthier perspectives on relationships.

Transcripts

so what happens is they lose their

eyesight when when it comes to her

character and they focus entirely on her

appearance so they end up attracting

women who just like his lifestyle who

don't care if there's a lot of emotional

connection won't mind that you're

working 20 five hours a day eight days a

week um because she's got access to your

credit card and that type of woman is

completely different to the woman that

begs you for a few days off so she can

spend more time with you so what happens

is men that have simple jobs simple

careers attract women who like quality

time men that have very busy careers

that take over their world they attract

women who just like the perks of being

with you and those women are so

emotionally disconnected to you that

cheating doesn't feel like anything to

those women whereas a women that build

with you and are emotionally connected

to you crave quality time they don't

want that CEO lifestyle so they filter

themselves out so you end up with a pool

of women that are more likely to

cheat it's really interesting yeah this

is why people really have got to ask

themselves the question what is going to

need to be true for this relationship to

be worth the sacrifices yeah and if your

answer is sex you're in real trouble and

you have to ask yourself if your

motivation if your motivation for

becoming rich is getting more women you

have to think about the quality of women

if you couldn't access her without money

then chances are any man with money can

access her and if you yeah so if if you

can access her without money she's your

level but if it takes money to access

her you are replaceable by the next man

who's an ATM so don't do it

unfortunately we have to be realistic

with our expectations if you're a four

out of 10 guy that happens to be a

millionaire but the reality is a 10 out

of 10 girl is still not going to be

physically attracted to you she's still

going to just be attracted to your

lifestyle so she's more likely to still

get her physical needs met elsewhere and

the amount of women I see cheating on

their Rich husbands is unbelievable the

weird thing about this for me and it may

just be that you're right and there's a

self- selection bias

for the female version of sociopathy

quite frankly because typically men

cheat because they want a novel sexual

experience and women cheat because they

want an emotional experience that

they're not getting from their spouse

yeah um but this is a totally different

thing but I Al yeah because usually the

emotional connection is limited when a

man is so busy um but I would I say rich

men have it the same way beautiful women

are more likely to be cheated on and

people are always confused by that

because they'll say to a beautiful girl

that gets cheated on like you're so

beautiful how did he cheat on you and I

always say you're the most likely to get

cheated on if you're a beautiful woman

and the reason being is in order to you

got to remember men are terrified of

women and terrified of rejection it's

not a nice feel

that man that is able to go to the 10

out of 10 in the club or the 10 and 10

the street and try and approach her and

try and be with her is a man who wants

women and wants beautiful women so much

that he's he's able to forgo his risk of

rejection he really likes Beauty so that

man is always going to be attracted to

beautiful women beautiful women are a

big value to him he likes that that's a

important outcome for him in his life so

when you're with a woman who's super

beautiful are you've been with other

beautiful women or beauty means a lot to

you you're willing to risk rejection for

it so unfortunately what happens to

women is that shy quiet good reserved

man if she's really beautiful he won't

approach her he doesn't act he doesn't

care to go through the potential

rejection to get to her but the guy that

has plenty of women who really values

sex really wants sexual intimacy really

likes beauty is the only pull of men

that come to her and that man is more

likely to be unfaithful sexually so

beautiful women and rich men and they're

the most likely to be cheated

on that's really fascinating I don't

think that's what people expect so yeah

it's not I mean it's not necessarily the

case all the time but the reality is if

I see a man and he's chosen a a very

very like simple not so pretty girl that

doesn't look after us up that man has a

libido that's different to a man that

has a Playboy Bunny wife he's libido is

different he's a type of guy that's okay

with average and isn't super super

distracted by Beauty and just is sex

doesn't isn't the for for of Forefront

of his mind whereas a guy that's got the

Swedish supermodel sex means something

to him beautiful girls mean something to

him accessing beauty is important he's

more likely to

stray so the the whole red pill movement

with um guys today feeling like they're

pulling back the curtain on how the

world really works and they're

understanding these games with women um

what do you tell them uh it's nonsense

and put it all away and it's literally a

disease that you've inserted into your

brain genuinely yeah and how do you put

it away I I've heard you say delete your

dating apps delete your because here's

the thing with the red pill you've got

to understand that men that are

successful with women don't actually

watch Red fi content this doesn't really

appeal to them men that have good

success with women who select women

wisely who have good healthy

relationships they don't actually watch

the red Bill content that much it's the

men that suffer with women are the ones

either they've been hurt or they suffer

in general they're bad at selection

they're the ones that listen to it so

what happens is it the red pill content

exaggerates their existing fears they

usually have an underlying fear or bad

or poor selection and the red pill

content will tell them exactly what to

fear how to fear it and their strategies

to avoid it but it's not actually

teaching them the skills and tools that

they need to create a good healthy

relationship it's just how to protect

yourself against the evil that is women

and so it's really dangerous to them it

actually doesn't help them overcome

their um their shortcomings it just

exaggerates them and validates them and

then makes them more fearful of women

and more weak more weak what the red

field content creates weak

men say more because what it does is it

teaches them how to select terrible

women it teaches them have lots of money

and you'll get lots of girls have a

young girl that's half your age that's

what you want these women are just there

for lifestyle of course they're can

acheve on you it treat them mean keep

them clean basically attract a broken

woman to have a woman with no standards

who loves lifestyle is a bimbo doesn't

intellectually challenge you that's the

woman you should be with what is this

nonsense how are you going to create a

marriage out of that that's what they

teach them so what if you could be the

Empress of the red pill for a year what

would we be what are some of the

lectures that we would give to try to

get them back on track like they've got

a base assumption that the woman is the

enemy yeah uh that money is going to

solve your

problems if you've ever come across a

woman that's your enemy it's because

you've had low self-esteem and poor

boundaries it's never the woman yeah

never ever there are thieves everywhere

but my house has never been broken into

because there's a lock on the door

there's drug dealers everywhere I've

never taken one because I'm not

interested in that now if you are

constantly getting played by women you

are constantly getting used by them

they're cheating on you it's because you

saw red flags and ignored them and went

forward because your low self-esteem was

driving your selection process rather

than your actual boundaries so it's

entirely an utterly your fault