OVERCOMING MY ADDICTION
Summary
TLDRIn this candid video, the speaker shares his struggle with an addiction to adult websites and online paid pornography that has jeopardized his financial stability and relationships. After realizing the severity of his issue, he opens up to his partner, Nicole Drinkwater, who helps him devise a system to monitor his finances and curb his spending. The speaker emphasizes the importance of admitting to an addiction and seeking support from loved ones to overcome it. His story serves as an inspiration for others facing similar challenges and highlights the power of trust and collaboration in healing.
Takeaways
- π The speaker has been struggling with an addiction to adult sites and campsites for the past three years, which has negatively impacted their future and relationships.
- πΈ Initially, the spending on these sites was small, but it escalated to the point where the speaker was spending all their extra income on adult content, leading to financial instability.
- π The speaker tried to find the 'perfect video' on adult sites, which led to hours of wasted time and eventually to financial addiction.
- π« The addiction not only affected the speaker's finances but also their social life, as they had to make excuses for not being able to afford outings or trips.
- π The speaker faced the harsh reality of having no savings and even a negative balance, which was a wake-up call to address the addiction.
- π€ The speaker credits their partner, Nicole Drinkwater, for being understanding and supportive in overcoming the addiction.
- π A system was established with Nicole's help, where she monitors the speaker's bank accounts to prevent further spending on adult content.
- π The system has been successful, with the speaker not spending money on adult content for the past two months, indicating progress in overcoming the addiction.
- π‘ The speaker emphasizes the importance of admitting to an addiction and opening up to a loved one as a crucial step in the recovery process.
- π The speaker expresses gratitude for Nicole's role in the healing process and acknowledges that they could not have made progress without her support.
- π£ The message of the video is to encourage others battling addictions to seek help from someone they trust and work together to find a solution.
Q & A
What addiction has the speaker been battling for the last three years?
-The speaker has been battling an addiction to spending money on adult sites, specifically on campsites and online paid porn.
How did the speaker initially get involved with these campsites?
-The speaker initially got involved with campsites through ads on adult sites and curiosity about what the fuss was about these campsites.
What was the initial cost of the speaker's involvement with these campsites?
-The initial cost was small, with one or two ten-dollar purchases, which the speaker considered innocent and not significant.
How did the speaker's spending on campsites evolve over time?
-Over time, the speaker's spending on campsites increased, leading to spending all extra money on these sites and even reaching a negative balance.
What impact did this addiction have on the speaker's relationships and future?
-The addiction compromised the speaker's relationships and future by depleting savings and causing the speaker to make excuses for not being able to afford certain activities.
Who is Nicole Drinkwater, and what role did she play in the speaker's life?
-Nicole Drinkwater is the speaker's partner who played a crucial role in helping the speaker overcome the addiction by establishing a financial oversight system.
What system did the speaker and Nicole establish to manage the speaker's finances?
-The system involved Nicole going through all the speaker's bank accounts every morning, knowing where all the money comes in and where it goes.
How long has the speaker been free from spending money on campsites since implementing the new system?
-The speaker has been free from spending money on campsites for about two months since implementing the new system with Nicole.
What was the speaker's realization about the impact of the addiction on his daily life?
-The speaker realized that the addiction consumed him not only during the moments of spending money but also during other activities like going to the gym, with constant thoughts about the next opportunity to spend.
How did the speaker feel when opening up to Nicole about the addiction?
-The speaker felt embarrassed and humiliated when opening up to Nicole about the addiction, to the point of having her stand behind him while he shared the truth.
What message does the speaker want to convey to viewers who might be battling their own addictions?
-The speaker wants to convey that admitting the addiction is the first step, and opening up to someone loved and trusted can make a significant difference in overcoming the addiction.
Outlines
π Overcoming an Online Addiction
The speaker shares a personal struggle with an addiction to adult sites and online spending, which has negatively impacted their financial situation and relationships over the past three years. Initially, spending was minimal, but it escalated to the point of spending all extra income and even incurring debt. The speaker credits their partner, Nicole Drinkwater, for understanding and helping them confront the issue. They implemented a system where Nicole monitors all bank accounts to prevent further spending on adult sites. This transparency and control have helped the speaker to stop the addiction for the past two months, saving both their relationship and future financial stability.
π€ Acknowledging and Overcoming Addiction Together
The speaker emphasizes the importance of admitting to having an addiction and the pivotal role of opening up to a trusted loved one in their recovery process. Nicole has been instrumental in the healing process, and the speaker acknowledges that they could not have overcome the addiction without her support. The message is to encourage others facing similar struggles to seek help from someone they trust and work together to find a solution. The speaker expresses gratitude for the viewers' attention and promises more content in the future, while also highlighting the hidden struggles everyone faces and the importance of addressing them.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘addiction
π‘compromise
π‘campsites
π‘purchases
π‘experimenting
π‘frequent
π‘negative balance
π‘excuses
π‘trust
π‘solution
π‘pandemic
π‘overcome
π‘relationship
Highlights
The speaker has been battling an addiction for three years that has affected their future and relationships.
Initially, the addiction started with spending small amounts on adult sites, but it escalated over time.
The speaker spent extra money and even went into a negative balance due to their addiction to online paid content.
The addiction not only compromised the speaker's relationship but also their financial future.
Nicole Drinkwater, the speaker's partner, was understanding and supportive when the addiction was revealed.
The speaker had to make excuses for not being able to afford outings or trips due to their financial situation.
The realization of the addiction's severity led to a commitment to change and a daily promise to stop.
A system was devised with Nicole to manage the speaker's finances and prevent further spending on addiction.
The system has been successful, with no money spent on the addiction for the past two months.
The speaker credits Nicole as an integral part of the healing process and overcoming the addiction.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of admitting to an addiction and seeking help from a loved one.
The speaker shares their personal struggle to raise awareness and potentially help others facing similar issues.
The speaker's message is about the power of opening up to someone you trust as a key to overcoming addiction.
The speaker hopes their story can be useful to others battling their own addictions.
The video concludes with a promise of more content and a declaration of love for the audience.
Transcripts
what's going on guys so for about the
last three years
i have been battling an addiction that
has been compromising my future
and my relationships so
when you go on adult sites you may see
ads for campsites
well sometimes i'd spend an hour or two
on an adult site trying to find the
perfect video and then one day
i finally caved in and wanted to see
what the fuss about these campsites were
probably the worst decision i've ever
made because
i got sucked in slowly but surely slowly
over time it started off with you know
maybe one
or two ten dollar purchases tipping them
out of ten dollars here and there
innocent nothing huge nothing
significant
but after about
three to six months of experimenting
and visiting the uh these campsites
i realized myself going on it more and
more frequently
and fast forward to
the last i want to say eight months
every single month i have been spending
any and every last bit of extra money
that i have come in monthly
on campsites on online paid porn
on models and it
has not only compromised my relationship
but
my future luckily i have
a very understanding partner you guys
all know her as nicole drinkwater
and i finally had the courage to open up
to her about it
because i had no savings i had nothing
for my future
nothing um and even at one point i was
getting into a negative balance
and i had to make excuses as to why i
couldn't afford to go out to this nice
dinner or why we couldn't take this trip
here
or why i couldn't do this or that i had
to make excuses
because i wasn't ready to admit the
truth the truth is that
i have been wasting all of my money on
this campsite addiction
and i have always been someone who i
felt was good with money
in the sense where i didn't spend my
money on clothes
on any anything materialistic on cars on
anything that i didn't need so when this
came about
uh i don't see how it took me so long to
realize how
bad it got and when i realized how bad
it got
it was a case of every day saying okay
this is the last time
and that had went on for months and
months um
now i came up with a system with nicole
after i opened up with her where every
single morning
she goes through all my bank accounts
she knows where all my money comes in
and where all my money goes now we've
built up that trust
and it has been working so for the last
i want to say two months we have the
system in place i haven't spent any
money
relating to anything that i was wasting
all my money on so i've made huge
progress considering the last two years
all of my extra money has been going to
these campsites leaving me
with nothing every month and in the last
six months in a negative balance
um but
before the pandemic happened is when we
had the system in place
so had i kept this up had i not
had we not worked out a solution i'd be
in a very bad place right now maybe
having to borrow money from a friend
or get a loan out i don't know what i'd
be doing but i'm so grateful
to have such an understanding and loving
partner to help me work through this
addiction because
i wouldn't have been able to progress
from how i can see it
without her we actually had worked out a
really great system it's still working
right now
i haven't spent any money on anything
related to that and i'm proud of myself
and it saved the relationship because
had i kept doing it
of course there would be no more
relationship
so how i came about opening up about it
to her was because i so desperately
wanted to overcome it i realized
how much of it has consumed me and not
only while i was active on it spending
money in the moment
but even when i go to the gym and do
other activities i find myself
constantly thinking about the next
opportunity i would get to spend money
um and i was so embarrassed
and humiliated to open up to her about
this
that when i opened up i had to have her
stand behind me because i couldn't bear
to look her in the face and tell her
where all my money has been going and
it was the best decision i have made
because as i said it has saved our
relationship it has
saved my future i now have a savings
um and it had prevented me from having
uh much worse lockdown
uh much work experience much worse
experience of this pandemic had i not
overcome this addiction so shout out to
nicole
because she has been an integral part of
this healing process
i can't say i could do it without her
and the message of this video
is of course the first step is admitting
have an addiction i think that's common
knowledge but for me
what made the biggest difference was
opening up to someone who i really loved
and trusted
and because of that because i opened up
to her we were able to work out a
solution
so take that and do it actually will
but this is just what has worked for me
uh and something i've been struggling
with for a long time
and on my social media how could anyone
ever know this is something i was
battling but
truth is we all have our trials and
tribulations this has been the biggest
one i have faced
in the last few years and i just want to
share it with you guys
i hope it can be useful to some of you i
hope
maybe if you're battling an addiction of
your own that
you can maybe take my advice and open up
to someone you love and trust
and work out a solution together so
thank you so much
for watching this video and i'll be back
with more good content coming soon
i love you guys
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