You Keep Thinking About that Guy Because God Is . . .

Summary

In this video, the speaker explores four potential reasons why thoughts of a man persist despite divine guidance suggesting otherwise. The reasons include the man's continued presence in one's life, addiction to the anticipation of a possible relationship, hidden bonds such as trauma or emotional ties, and the possibility of unfinished business requiring resolution. The speaker emphasizes finding joy in Christ to maintain balance and suggests prayer for discerning God's will, whether to wait or move on.

Takeaways

• 👀 The presence of someone in your life can fuel thoughts about them, as per the biblical principle that our eyes influence our thoughts.
• 🎰 Anticipation of a possible relationship with someone can be addictive, similar to the excitement of gambling, which can lead to persistent thoughts about that person.
• 💖 The heart's treasure, as mentioned in Matthew 6:21, directs where our thoughts go. If someone is your source of joy, you may think about them excessively.
• 🔑 Finding joy in Christ can provide balance and help in experiencing life's blessings without becoming overly fixated on one person or aspect.
• 🤔 Hidden bonds, such as trauma, chemical, or emotional ties, may be causing you to think about someone, and prayer can help in discerning and resolving these bonds.
• 🙏 Prayer is essential in identifying and addressing any lingering bonds or unresolved issues between you and another person.
• 👥 Unfinished business or unresolved conflicts between two people might be the reason why thoughts about the other person persist.
• 🔄 Sometimes, God may be calling individuals to work through conflicts to achieve closure and growth, which can involve persistent thoughts about the other person.
• 🚫 It's important to discern whether God is directing you to wait or to move on from a relationship, and seeking spiritual guidance can help in this process.
• 📚 The script suggests that understanding the reasons behind persistent thoughts can lead to spiritual growth and healthier relationships.
• 🛑 The speaker provides a resource for further exploration on discerning God's will in matters of relationships and waiting or moving on.

Q & A

Why might God not be removing thoughts about a specific man from your mind?

God may not be removing these thoughts because He might want you to be with this man one day, or because you're not letting go of this man even though it may not be God's will for you to be with him.

How does Scripture relate our thoughts and what we see with our eyes?

Scripture directly links our thoughts with what we see. For example, Jesus stated in Matthew 5:28-29 that looking at someone with lustful intent is akin to committing adultery in the heart. This implies that seeing this man in your life could be fueling the thoughts you have about him.

What does Matthew 6:22-23 say about the eye and its impact on the body?

Matthew 6:22-23 states that the eye is the lamp of the body. If the eye is healthy, the whole body is full of light, but if it is bad, the whole body is full of darkness. This suggests that what you focus on with your eyes can deeply affect your inner thoughts and state of being.

Why might the anticipation of a relationship with this man be keeping him in your thoughts?

The anticipation of the possibility of a relationship with this man can be powerful and addictive, much like the excitement of gambling. The unexpected joys and hopes of interaction with this man can create a strong mental attachment.

What did Jesus mean by 'where your treasure is, there your heart will be also' in Matthew 6:21?

This verse means that what you value and focus on is where your heart and attention will be. If you're thinking a lot about this man, it may be because you're finding joy in the idea of him rather than in God, leading to an imbalance in your life.

How can hidden bonds with this man be affecting your thoughts?

You may still be thinking about this man because of a hidden bond, such as a trauma bond, chemical bond, or emotional soul tie, that you created through shared experiences, emotional rush, or past relationships with him.

What are some possible ways to break hidden bonds with this man?

Praying for God’s help to reveal and break any hidden bonds, such as trauma bonds or emotional ties, can be a step towards freeing yourself from these persistent thoughts.

Why might God allow you to continue thinking about this man due to unfinished business?

God may be allowing these thoughts because there is unfinished business between you and this man that needs to be resolved, such as unresolved conflict or the need for mutual apologies and closure.

What does the script suggest you do if you feel unresolved conflict with this man?

The script suggests that you may need to address any unresolved conflict with this man, possibly by apologizing or working through the issues, to achieve closure and move on in a healthier way.

How can you discern whether God is telling you to wait or move on from this man?

Discerning whether God wants you to wait or move on involves prayer, reflection, and possibly seeking counsel through spiritual guidance, as this is a complex question that requires understanding God’s will for your life.

Outlines

00:00

🤔 Persistent Thoughts: God's Intentions and Your Emotions

This paragraph explores the possible reasons why someone might continue to think about a man, despite God's apparent disapproval of the relationship. It suggests that thoughts are linked to what we see and experience, as illustrated by biblical references to the power of the eye and the heart's desires. The speaker discusses the addictive nature of anticipation in relationships, drawing parallels to gambling addictions. The paragraph concludes with the idea that finding joy in Christ can provide balance and help in managing these thoughts.

05:00

🔗 Unresolved Bonds and Unfinished Business

The second paragraph delves into the concept of hidden bonds that might be causing persistent thoughts about a man. It touches on the possibility of trauma bonds, chemical bonds from shared experiences, and emotional soul ties that could have been formed during the relationship. The speaker also considers the idea that there might be unresolved issues or conflicts that need to be addressed for closure. The paragraph suggests that prayer and seeking God's guidance can help in discerning whether there is unfinished business or if it's time to move on.

Keywords

💡Thoughts

In the context of the video, 'thoughts' refer to the recurring mental images or ideas about a specific man that the viewer may be struggling to let go of. The video explores why these thoughts persist despite the viewer's desire to move on. It is central to the theme as it is the main issue being addressed.

💡God's Will

The concept of 'God's Will' is integral to the video's narrative, suggesting that divine intervention or lack thereof might be influencing the viewer's thoughts about the man. It is used to explore whether God is allowing these thoughts for a reason or if the viewer is not aligning with divine intentions.

💡Addiction

'Addiction' in the video is used metaphorically to describe the powerful draw of the anticipation of a relationship with the man in question. It is compared to gambling addiction, where the excitement comes from the uncertainty and potential reward, illustrating the difficulty in letting go of these thoughts.

💡Anticipation

'Anticipation' is the expectation or looking forward to a future event, which in the video, is related to the potential of a relationship with the man. It is a key concept because it explains the addictive nature of the thoughts and their persistence.

💡Trauma Bond

A 'trauma bond' is a strong emotional connection formed between two people as a result of a shared traumatic experience. In the video, it is suggested as a possible reason for the persistent thoughts, indicating a deeper, potentially unconscious connection.

💡Chemical Bond

'Chemical Bond' refers to a connection that may have been formed through shared experiences such as drug use or sexual encounters. The video mentions this as a potential reason for the lingering thoughts, suggesting a physiological aspect to the emotional attachment.

💡Emotional Soul Tie

An 'emotional soul tie' is a deep emotional connection that can be hard to break. The video discusses this concept as a possible reason for the ongoing thoughts, indicating that the viewer may have invested deeply in the relationship with the man.

💡Unfinished Business

'Unfinished Business' in the video refers to unresolved issues or conflicts between the viewer and the man that may need to be addressed for closure. It is presented as a possible reason why thoughts about the man continue to persist.

💡Joy in Christ

The 'Joy in Christ' mentioned in the video is the spiritual happiness and fulfillment that comes from a relationship with God. It is contrasted with the worldly joy derived from relationships, suggesting that true joy can help balance and overcome the persistent thoughts about the man.

💡Matthew 5:28-29

This biblical reference is used in the video to illustrate the principle that what we see can influence our thoughts. It is applied to explain how seeing the man in question can fuel the thoughts about him, tying it to the broader theme of the video.

💡Matthew 6:21

Another biblical reference, 'Matthew 6:21' is cited to convey the idea that where our heart (or treasure) is, there our focus and thoughts will be. It is used to explain the concept of finding joy and fulfillment in Christ rather than in the man.

Highlights

There is a direct link between our thoughts and what we see, as discussed in Matthew 5:28-29.

The presence of a man in your life can fuel the imaginative thoughts you have about him.

Anticipation of potential romantic pursuits can be addictive, similar to how gambling creates addiction through the anticipation of rewards.

Where your heart is focused, your thoughts and desires will follow, as explained in Matthew 6:21.

Finding fullness of joy in Christ can help balance your thoughts and desires about a man.

You might still think about this man because of a hidden bond, such as a trauma bond or an emotional soul tie.

Chemical bonds can form through experiences like drug use, drunkenness, or sexual activity, making it hard to move on.

A previously healthy bond during a season of life might now be difficult to let go of, even though that season is over.

Praying about possible lingering bonds can help in finding freedom and closure.

God may not be removing your thoughts about this man because of unfinished business between you two.

Conflicts or unresolved issues in a relationship might require you to take action to either reconcile or find closure.

Sometimes, thoughts linger because there is something God wants you to work through with this person.

The struggle to let go might be a sign that God is calling you to address something unresolved.

Determining whether God wants you to wait or move on is a difficult but crucial question to answer.

The video concludes with a reference to additional resources for further guidance on whether to wait or move on.

Transcripts

is God not removing those thoughts that

you have about this man because God

maybe wants you to be with this man one

day or are you still having those

thoughts because you're just not letting

this man go even though God has made it

clear he doesn't want you with this man

so in this video we're going to talk

about four possible reasons and

explanations to that question number one

this man is still in your thoughts

because he's still in your life in

scripture there's a direct link between

our thoughts and our eyes for example in

Matthew 5:28-29 Jesus said but I say to

you that everyone who looks at a woman

with lustful intent has already

committed adultery with her in his heart

if your right eye causes you to sin tear

it out and throw it away for it is

better that you lose one of your members

than that your whole body be thrown into

hell well you may not be struggling with

lust about this man the principle and

Truth we just discussed in that passage

certainly relates in that when you see

this man in your life it will fuel the

imaginative fires that are burning in

your mind in Matthew 6:

22-23 Jesus also said the eye is the

lamp of the body so if your eye is

healthy your whole body will be full of

light but if your eye is bad your whole

body will be full of Darkness so when we

apply these ideas to our question about

why

these thoughts about this man may be

still in your mind even though you wish

they would just go away or that you

would find an answer to them it means

that when you see this man it fuels the

thoughts number two you may keep

thinking about this man because you've

become addicted to the anticipation of

the possible Pursuit that this man may

give you one day now we all know that

relationships and those feelings that

come along with Rel relationships are

very powerful but did you know that the

anticipation of that pleasure that could

come from a relationship can be just as

powerful for example one of the main

elements that causes a gambling

addiction is the anticipation and

expectancy of rewards being randomly

fulfilled when you roll the dice when

you flip the cards when you pull the

lever you have no idea what will happen

you could be a loser or you could be a

winner when you get a sudden Rush of

excitement that was heightened by the

surprise it forms a stronger addiction

this same idea can occur when you're

interacting and thinking about a guy so

when you're thinking about going

somewhere you might say I wonder if he's

going to be there I wonder if he's going

to talk to me oh I heard my phone go off

I wonder if that's a message from him

all of these unknowns and sudden bursts

of joy that occur because this person

showed up randomly or that desire you

have was fulfilled randomly when you

didn't expect it all of that can be very

addicting in Matthew 6:21 Jesus said for

where your treasure is there your heart

will also be we can use this principle

to also say where your heart is that is

what you treasure thus you may be

thinking so much about this man because

you are going to him for the joy you

crave the solution here is to find your

fullness of joy in Christ only when

you're filled with the love of God

through Jesus Christ can you balance and

and experience those other blessings in

life that aren't bad but only then can

you experience them in a balanced way

number three you may be thinking of this

man still because you've created some

hidden bond that you're not aware of did

you go through some traumatic experience

with this man it's possible that you

formed a trauma bond with him or did you

engage in drug use or drunkenness or

have some sort of sexual experience with

this man it's possible you've created

some sort of chemical bond with this man

or did you unwisely not guard your heart

and you rushed into this relationship

full-blown and now you've created an

emotional Soul tie with this man and

it's also true that sometimes you can

create a good bond with a man because it

was healthy For That season but now that

that season is over you're struggling to

let it go either way pray about the

possibility of there being some Bond

still lingering between you two Jesus

can always set you free and number four

God may not be removing your thoughts

about this man because there's some sort

of unfinished business between you two

maybe you two broke up because there was

some sort of conflict that God wanted

you to work through and he's still

calling you to work through it so that

you can get back together now I will say

that usually that is not the case for

some of you it may be or maybe both of

you are Christian

but you also know you both wronged each

other and there's just something nagging

in both of your hearts where you know

you need to apologize and confess your

sins so that there's closure and both of

you can just move on in a much healthier

way the possibilities are endless here

the point is if there is something

unfinished between you both the Lord may

be allowing you to think about this

person so you can take the necessary

action steps he is leading you to take

is God telling you to wait or is God

telling you to move on that's a hard

question answer so here's a playlist of

videos where I try to help people answer

that important question I'm Mark from

applygodsword dcom and until next time

God bless