Imposter Syndrome & Late Autism Diagnosis - 10 Things Autistic People DON'T Experience
Summary
TLDRВ этом видео Орион Келли обсуждает синдром самозванца среди поздно диагностированных аутичных людей и объясняет, как этот феномен может особенно сильно влиять на них. Он описывает 10 признаков, которые указывают на то, что вы действительно аутичны и должны перестать сомневаться в своем диагнозе. В частности, он подчеркивает трудности в социализации, нестандартную речь, необходимость маскировки, сенсорные триггеры и сложность переключения между задачами. Видео призывает аутичных людей принять свою идентичность и избавиться от синдрома самозванца.
Takeaways
- 🤔 Импостерский синдром - это распространенное явление среди поздно диагностированных аутистов.
- 💡 Импостерский синдром - это не медицинский диагноз, а феномен поведения, связанный с сомнением в собственных успехах.
- ⚠️ Поздно диагностированные аутисты часто сталкиваются с газлайтингом и недопониманием со стороны окружающих, включая специалистов.
- 😷 Маскировка своего аутизма на протяжении всей жизни может усиливать ощущение импостерского синдрома.
- 🔍 Внутренняя инвалидность и кризис идентичности также способствуют развитию импостерского синдрома у поздно диагностированных аутистов.
- 👥 Аутисты редко достигают социальных успехов и часто испытывают трудности в построении отношений.
- ❌ Аутисты чаще сталкиваются с буллингом, дискриминацией и остракизмом, чем с принятием.
- 📣 Аутисты могут испытывать трудности с естественной речью, включая темп, тон и объем.
- ♻️ Стимминг является важной частью регуляции для аутистов и помогает справляться с перегрузками.
- 🔊 Аутисты более чувствительны к сенсорным раздражителям, таким как звуки, запахи и свет.
Q & A
Что такое синдром самозванца и как он проявляется у поздно диагностированных аутистов?
-Синдром самозванца – это поведенческий феномен, при котором человек испытывает сомнения в своих способностях и достижениях, несмотря на объективные доказательства обратного. У поздно диагностированных аутистов этот синдром может быть особенно выражен из-за их опыта жизни без диагноза и постоянных сомнений со стороны окружающих.
Как газлайтинг влияет на ощущение синдрома самозванца у аутистов?
-Газлайтинг, который может проявляться в форме сомнений или отрицания диагноза со стороны близких людей, друзей или даже медицинских работников, усиливает чувство синдрома самозванца у аутистов, заставляя их сомневаться в своей идентичности и диаграмме.
Почему маскировка играет важную роль в развитии синдрома самозванца у аутистов?
-Маскировка, или способность скрывать свою истинную аутистическую сущность, приводит к тому, что человек начинает сомневаться в своей аутентичности. Это усиливает синдром самозванца, так как создается впечатление, что он лишь притворяется, а не является собой.
Что такое внутренняя эйблизм и как она влияет на поздно диагностированных аутистов?
-Внутренний эйблизм – это принятие общественных стереотипов и стандартов, которые навязываются людям с аутизмом. Аутисты могут внутренне принимать несправедливые ожидания и критиковать себя за неспособность соответствовать этим стандартам, что усиливает синдром самозванца.
Как кризис идентичности связан с синдромом самозванца у поздно диагностированных аутистов?
-Кризис идентичности возникает у поздно диагностированных аутистов, когда они начинают переосмысливать свою жизнь до и после диагноза. Это приводит к сомнениям в том, кем они являются на самом деле, что усиливает ощущение синдрома самозванца.
Почему аутисты не испытывают 'социального успеха' и как это связано с синдромом самозванца?
-Социальный успех, включающий легкость в установлении дружеских связей и комфорт в социальных ситуациях, редко является опытом аутистов. Это еще больше усиливает их сомнения в собственной аутентичности и способствует развитию синдрома самозванца.
Почему аутисты редко обладают множеством и разнообразными увлечениями?
-Аутисты, как правило, имеют узкий круг интересов или так называемые 'специальные интересы'. Им сложно одновременно увлекаться множеством вещей, что также является одним из факторов, отличающих их опыт от нейротипичных людей.
Как аутисты воспринимают изменения и почему это вызывает трудности?
-Аутисты часто испытывают трудности с адаптацией к изменениям, предпочитая стабильность и рутину. Эта неспособность легко переключаться между задачами или изменять свой распорядок также усиливает чувство синдрома самозванца.
Что такое 'аутистическая инерция' и как она влияет на ежедневную жизнь аутистов?
-'Аутистическая инерция' – это склонность аутистов продолжать делать то, что они уже начали, и испытывать трудности с переключением на другие задачи. Это состояние часто приводит к сопротивлению изменениям и усилению синдрома самозванца.
Почему аутисты часто чувствуют необходимость в маскировке и как это связано с синдромом самозванца?
-Маскировка помогает аутистам скрывать свои особенности, чтобы избежать дискриминации или негативного восприятия со стороны общества. Однако постоянное подавление своей истинной сущности приводит к ощущению, что они не являются 'настоящими', что усиливает синдром самозванца.
Outlines
🔍 Импостерский синдром у поздно диагностированных аутистов
Импостерский синдром — это распространенное явление среди поздно диагностированных аутистов. Он заключается в чувстве самосомнения в своих навыках и достижениях, несмотря на объективные доказательства обратного. Люди с аутизмом часто сталкиваются с газлайтингом и обесцениванием со стороны окружающих, включая семью, друзей и медицинских специалистов, что усиливает чувство самозванца. Маскировка, внутренний эйблизм и кризис идентичности также вносят свой вклад в этот синдром.
💡 Как победить импостерский синдром у аутистов
Чтобы избавиться от импостерского синдрома, важно осознать, что аутистичные люди не испытывают ряда типичных для нейротипичных людей ощущений. Например, они редко добиваются социальных успехов, часто сталкиваются с травлей и дискриминацией, не любят социализацию и могут испытывать трудности с естественной речью. Эти признаки подтверждают подлинность аутистичного диагноза и помогают избавиться от ложного чувства самозванца.
🤯 Стимминг и сенсорные триггеры у аутистов
Стимминг — это важный аспект саморегуляции для аутистичных людей. Он помогает справляться с сенсорной перегрузкой и поддерживать эмоциональное равновесие. Аутистичные люди также более чувствительны к сенсорным триггерам, таким как звуки, запахи и свет. Им сложно иметь разнообразные увлечения, а изменение распорядка дня вызывает стресс и тревогу. Переключение между задачами также вызывает трудности, что дополнительно подтверждает их аутистичный опыт.
😌 Маскирование и принятие себя у аутистов
Маскирование — это стратегия, которую аутисты используют для того, чтобы скрывать свои особенности от окружающих. Однако это приводит к сильному внутреннему напряжению. Если аутист может быть самим собой, не испытывая страха перед травлей или дискриминацией, это означает, что он достиг подлинного принятия своей аутистичной идентичности. Для дальнейшего понимания процесса принятия себя можно обратиться к видео об "Unmasking".
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Keywords
💡Синдром самозванца
💡Поздняя диагностика аутизма
💡Газлайтинг
💡Маскирование
💡Внутренняя эйблизм
💡Кризис идентичности
💡Социальный успех
💡Стимминг
💡Сенсорные триггеры
💡Специальные интересы
Highlights
Introduction of imposter syndrome and its prevalence among late-diagnosed autistic individuals.
Explanation of imposter syndrome as a behavioral phenomenon, not a medical diagnosis.
Connection between imposter syndrome and late-diagnosed autistic people, emphasizing the intensity of the feeling.
Discussion on the role of gaslighting and invalidation from family, friends, and healthcare professionals in exacerbating imposter syndrome.
The impact of lifelong masking on the development of imposter syndrome among autistic individuals.
Internalized ableism and its contribution to imposter syndrome in late-diagnosed autistic people.
Identity crisis following a late autism diagnosis and its role in imposter syndrome.
Social challenges faced by autistic individuals, including difficulties in forming friendships and meeting new people.
The common experience of bullying, harassment, and ostracization among autistic people.
Autistic people's struggle with socializing, and the sensory challenges they face in social situations.
Differences in speech patterns among autistic people, including tone, pace, and repetitiveness.
Stimming as a crucial regulatory mechanism for autistic individuals, highlighting its importance.
The impact of environmental triggers on autistic people and their heightened sensitivity to sounds, smells, and lights.
Autistic people's tendency to have specific, passionate interests rather than varied hobbies.
The challenges autistic individuals face with task switching and transitions, related to autistic inertia.
The importance of recognizing the differences between an actual imposter and an autistic person experiencing imposter syndrome.
Closing statement encouraging the embrace of autistic identity and the rejection of imposter syndrome.
Transcripts
- Imposter syndrome is common
for late diagnosed autistic people.
But I'm here to change that
with 10 things autistic people don't experience.
Welcome. Thank you so much for watching.
I really do appreciate it.
I'm Orion Kelly, that autistic guy.
I'm all about providing validation
and support for autistic people
and their loved ones, imposter syndrome
and autism, something
as a late diagnosed autistic person I can
really resonate with.
But some may ask, sorry, what is imposter syndrome?
Well, in basic terms,
imposter syndrome is basically described
as a behavioral phenomenon.
In other words, not like a medically diagnosed condition.
And there's phenomenon known
as imposter syndrome is often described as a sense
of self-doubt of intellect skills
or accomplishments amongst people
who can internalize their success
and subsequently experience pervasive feelings like
self-doubt, anxiety, depression,
and something that tends to resonate deeply
with late diagnosed autistic people.
An apprehension of being exposed.
But this is important to point out.
This is a feeling
and apprehension of being exposed
as a fraud despite verifiable
and objective evidence to the contrary.
So there's verifiable objective evidence
to go against our feeling that we are a fraud.
Yet we can't shake that feeling.
Imposter syndrome in a nutshell,
and I would hazard a guest
to say most people living on the planet will feel this at
some point in their life.
It may be as a result of the job they're in
or the group they're in, or the activity they're doing
or a type of accomplishment.
But for late diagnosed autistic people, this feeling
of imposter syndrome can be even more intense.
Why? You may ask, okay, well let's make a list together.
Let's say you're a late diagnosed autistic person.
In other words, you are born autistic.
You lived a large portion of your life,
undiagnosed, unrecognized.
As an autistic person.
You finally are
provided the opportunity, which is a miracle by the way,
the costs, the waiting time, the access to professionals
that actually know what they're talking about.
All these things going against you
and you actually get a diagnosis,
but then things still pop up to cause you
to feel like a fraud to experience imposter syndrome.
What could that be put down to? Gaslighting.
Could that be a thing? No. You are not autistic.
You're crazy if you think you're autistic.
I've, I know autistic people. Do you?
No, but I I reckon if I did, I'd know them
and you are not them invalidating, right?
So there's gaslighting from family and friends,
but there's also invalidating this invalidation can actually
come from healthcare practitioners, psychiatrists
with no real understanding, no real experience,
no real education in modern day medicine in diagnosing
autistic adults.
This invalidation can come from employers, fellow employees,
teachers, schooling.
You can be invalidated from all sorts of people.
The issue is none of these people have any idea about you
and your experience as an autistic person that leads
to imposter syndrome.
It isn't just water off a duck's back masking.
You've masked your entire life.
In other words, learn to hide your true autistic self.
In doing so, you're gonna start to have a special set
of skills and you'll mask
and suddenly like, actually, you know,
I can do okay in these situations
that these people seem to struggle with.
Yeah, that again, that feeds into imposter syndrome just
because you've built up a specific set of skills.
And that leads into another reason I reckon why you
as a late diagnosed autistic person may experience imposter
syndrome, your own internalized ableism.
People hate this by the way.
People are constantly trying
to spit fire on the community at large
who can be very ableist.
I get it. But the thing is, what about you?
So you are part of society.
Late diagnosed autistic people definitely still hold
themselves to standards that are unacceptable.
That should not be expectations that can't be met anyway,
based on your own internalized ableism.
And probably the final thing I'd add to our list of why
as late diagnosed autistic people,
we can experience imposter syndrome,
I reckon is probably our own rite
of passage in late diagnosis.
And that is identity crisis.
We all go through an identity crisis.
If I've been diagnosed later in life, who was I prior?
Who am I now? Who should I or would I or will I be?
Because in a way, it's like you have two lifes
pre-diagnosis, which presumably everyone said, no, no,
you are just a bad, crappy person that doesn't fit in.
You are, you are not supposed to be here,
you just aren't right?
And you thinking, that's who I am to.
In fact, no, you're autistic to, you're going, oh, so if
that's not who I am, who am I?
I can't just say I'm autistic.
There's, there's gotta be more than that's who am I?
This feeds into imposter syndrome.
This is an experience as a late diagnosed autistic person.
Even a person diagnosed earlier in life as they grow older
and grow into themselves might start to feel this pressure
of imposter syndrome.
So let's kill off that imposter syndrome once
and for all my friends
with these 10 things autistic people don't usually
experience put differently 10 signs.
You are not autistic. You see what I'm saying?
You see where I'm going with this?
If you don't, in general terms, experience these 10 things,
you need to drop the imposter syndrome, my friend.
Believe and embrace your autistic diagnosis,
your autistic identity.
Number one, social success
as an autistic person experiencing imposter syndrome.
Just a quick little leveler.
Let's talk about your social success.
How's your friendships going? Do you have many friendships?
Are they successful?
Do you find it hard to make new friends?
What about even just meeting new people?
How are you in the social situation
- Of meeting new people in new environments?
Is that something you thrive at or is it a challenge?
Does social success come easy to you? No.
Welcome to my world. You're welcome to stay.
Just not too close to me. My over there.
Keep going bit further.
The next thing autistic people don't usually experience is
not being bullied, harassed, ostracized.
So you are saying there's people on the planet
that don't get bullied.
Who are these people you speak of?
Imagine if I said, Hey, are you a person who
for the most part, never really gets bullied,
doesn't really have any experiences with being ostracized,
discriminated against or harassed?
Is that something that resonates with you?
The idea that that isn't a thing for you.
You've come to the wrong place as autistic people.
It's probably not part of your standard experience in life
to simply just easily fit in, be accepted willingly
and knowingly embraced by your fellow humans.
Is that something that's not especially familiar to you?
And to add to that, have you gone through life
with people feeling comfortable around you
or people just for the most part
and there's always exceptions for the most part,
feeling pretty at ease and comfortable around you,
not bothered by your differences.
Would you say the world at large would class you
as just your standard normal human?
No. No. You gotta ditch the imposter syndrome, man.
This is a reality. Check on the life of an autistic person.
Number three, do you love socializing?
Do you absolutely love being around other people? Now?
I get it. There are exceptions
and I don't think that I can just say I hate socializing
or I hate being around other people, but I don't like it.
Okay, so for starters, what's the environment?
The sensory environment like?
Well, there'll be lots of people there.
Are they people I know?
Are they safe people
or people I know who make me uncomfortable?
Or are they people I don't know.
So this is the thing, right?
You might go, oh, I do love
socializing and hanging out with people.
Yeah, but on what terms?
I mean in general, are you a social butterfly?
Who just loves being around people?
Are you a social butterfly? Who's a people person?
Is that you? It's not me being around groups.
Do you love events?
Do you love catchups meetups, meetings pop up,
little parties pop in visitors.
Do you love that whole kind
of like just unpredictable nature
of socializing and interacting?
Why am I my whole body wobbling? I dunno.
I'm just trying to say if you don't usually experience these
types of feelings of man, I just love socializing
and hanging out and being a people person
and social butterfly
and going to new events and groups and things.
I mean, if that's not something you usually experience,
you need to start listening to your daily experiences
and stop letting the world push you into
doubting your own identity.
Number four on the 10 things autistic people don't usually
experience is around speech.
More specifically natural speech.
Do you as a late diagnosed autistic person
with imposter syndrome experience natural speech experience?
Natural tone, natural pace, natural volume.
In other words, people don't say,
why are you talking so loudly?
Why are you talking so fastly? What did I just say?
Why are you talking so fast? I'm keeping that in.
What about repetitiveness?
Is your speech natural or can it be quite repetitive?
Do you explain something seven times like This is me.
Do you have an autistic child who sounds like a professor?
Do you have weird choices of words?
I love the autistic vibe of the choices
of words used.
Some would say they sound like professors.
Others would say they sound old fashioned.
Others would say they sound from a different
country or culture.
There's something really unique about an autistic
person's speech.
What I wouldn't say in general terms is it comes across
neurotypically natural.
Number five. Can I comfortably say that you don't stem?
I mean as a late diagnosed autistic person,
I know you stem right?
Stemming is an integral part of our day. Why regulation?
This is so important. I say it every time. Regulation.
What helps you regulate yourself?
What keeps you in the ballpark of feeling okay with life?
Stimming is a big part of that.
To say you don't,
stim probably isn't something you could accept
or even get your head around, but that's what I'm saying.
The experience of not stimming should not be something
that an autistic person can easily relate to.
No. Would it be right in me saying
to you late diagnosed autistic person, you have no need,
no urge for repetitive movements or actions
or activities for in the most part, the sole goal
of regulation.
You've become dysregulated
and you are using these repetitive actions to provide you
with a sense of regulation.
You never have that urge or need.
That's probably not your experience
as a late diagnosed autistic person.
Number six on the 10 things autistic people don't
usually experience.
It's around the environmental stuff.
I don't mean the climate. I mean environmental triggers.
They're nothing. Environmental triggers.
They don't bother me. Huh? Not your experience.
Yeah, not my experience either.
Do you find yourself
as a late diagnosed autistic person not really picking up on
sounds, smells, light,
or things in the environment that trigger your senses?
Create sensory, overwhelm, not your experience.
Definitely is mine. Are you able
to just get up in the morning
and live your life like nothing is annoying or triggering.
Now seriously though, are you able to do
that if you are able to do that?
I'm, I'm offended.
I This is not What are you doing here by the way, this is,
I'm annoyed and triggered by the idea
that you are not annoyed and triggered by things.
Number seven, do you have many and varied hobbies
and interests?
Oh, it's another thing
that autistic people don't usually experience.
We know about this. Autistic people have very specific
passions and interests.
Some call them special interests.
The bottom line is some could class it as obsession.
Like I would class it
as super passionate about particular things they can change.
There's no question about that.
But the idea that we can have many and varied hobbies
and interests at one time, to me is unthinkable.
It's not something I can experience or relate to.
In other words, are you kind of like that jack
of all trades, master of none kind of.
I just have many varied, countless hobbies.
I'm not so much that kind of person
that has just a few special interests because I am.
I mean, come on. Number eight.
In the 10 things autistic people don't usually experience,
would you class yourself as a naturally relaxed, easygoing,
adaptable kind of cat?
That's me. Like they call me Mr.
Adaptable. You wanna point out someone who's
relaxed and natural?
Don't look at me. Me. I don't mind change. I hate it.
I'm a kind of a just goes with the flow kind of guy.
Your flow better not get in my way routine.
Sameness, no need for that here.
If you so much as alta one scary of my day, I will end you.
Life doesn't make me anxious.
I'm riddled with anxiety and cry myself to sleep.
Number nine, I love this one.
Can you easily switch tasks
as a late diagnosed autistic person?
I couldn't relate to that anymore than not being able
to relate to that at all.
No, no. Transitioning. You might as well call me a car.
'cause I have my own transition. What's that?
That's transmission. Transmission
and transition are two different things.
Yeah, but it's still going from one gear to the next.
Okay, cool. So transitioning
and transmission is pretty much the same thing.
The point I make, just cut there please.
What I'm saying is I'm an autistic person.
A late diagnosed autistic person mean no likey,
likey the transitions.
I don't care if there's something that needs to be done
or something that has to happen now I'm doing this.
I don't wanna stop doing this to do that, let alone trying
to get an autistic child to transition.
Like if they're doing something after school
and it's dinner time, oh my goodness,
I need long service leave from transitioning my kid
to dinner, transitioning from one thing to another.
Totally fine. Is
that your experience like diagnosed autistic person?
I don't think it is. You see what I'm saying?
How easily we can just completely kill off this stupid idea
of imposter syndrome.
Don't forget autistic inertia.
It's actually ingrained in us to want to stay doing
what we are doing.
Conversely, autistic inertia doesn't usually occur
for neurotypical people.
If you are the kind of person that can switch tasks,
can be at rest and go straight into motion
or can be in motion
and go straight into rest, then
that's an experience I can't relate to.
And the final thing I've got for you, my friends,
that autistic people do not usually experience is,
are you a person who can always just be yourself
and never be bullied or rejected or discriminated against?
Or this is a thing?
Do you see no real need to ever mask your true self?
No, not me. You see what I'm saying?
If you wake up in the morning
and see no need to even forget about fear
or anxiety, no need to even consider masking
or suppressing your true self.
You are not experiencing an autistic experience.
You see how easy it is to show the difference
between a late diagnosed autistic person suffering from
imposter syndrome and an actual imposter.
This doesn't occur to autistic people.
What do you mean I can be myself and not be rejected
or bullied or ostracized or discriminated or harassed?
What do you mean I don't ever have
to consider masking my true self?
What are you even talking about
for even more on navigating a late autism diagnosis?
You can check out my video unmasking
after a late autism diagnosis.
Embracing authenticity.
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