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Summary

This video shares a personal journey overcoming premature ejaculation (PE) by correcting common mistakes like overworking the pelvic floor. The speaker introduces a four-step process focusing on nervous system regulation, redefining pleasure, understanding arousal, and open communication. A secret technique, the microcosmic orbit, is revealed to control sexual energy and prolong intimacy.

Takeaways

• 😣 The speaker struggled with premature ejaculation (PE) and performance anxiety for over 15 years.
• 🔄 A common mistake made was clenching the PC muscle too hard, which led to an overly tight pelvic floor and worsened PE.
• 🚫 The speaker advises to stop doing Kegel exercises as they only contribute a small part to curing PE.
• 🧘 The importance of nervous system regulation through breathing is emphasized for stress reduction and better connection to the body.
• 🌱 A 2,000-year-old secret technique was discovered that helped the speaker understand and correct the mistake made in managing PE.
• 🌟 The speaker went from lasting only 2 minutes to being able to last as long as desired and provide multiple orgasms to partners.
• 🔄 The need to override the 'primal instinct' to ejaculate quickly, often conditioned by early masturbation habits, is highlighted.
• 🤲 The second step involves connecting to pleasure in new ways by exploring the body beyond the genitals.
• 🔍 The third step is knowing one's arousal levels and practicing edging to gain control over sexual energy.
• 💬 Open communication and setting boundaries with a partner are crucial for progress and comfort during sexual activities.
• 🌀 The 'microcosmic orbit' technique is introduced as a powerful method to circulate sexual energy and separate orgasm from ejaculation.

Q & A

What is the common mistake that the speaker made in his attempt to cure premature ejaculation (PE)?

The speaker made the mistake of excessively clenching his pelvic floor muscle (PC muscle) five times a day for repetitions, which resulted in an overly tight pelvic floor and worsened his PE.

How did the speaker's daily stress and anxiety affect his PE?

The speaker's daily stress and anxiety led to heavy chest breathing, which was the same breathing pattern he experienced during sex close to ejaculation. This unconsciously primed him to prematurely ejaculate.

What is the first step to lasting longer in bed according to the speaker?

The first step is nervous system regulation, which involves learning how to connect to your breath during times of stress to help the nervous system relax and get out of your head.

What is the second step to lasting longer in bed and why is it important?

The second step is connecting to your pleasure in a new way. This involves exploring pleasure outside of the genitals and using the entire body, touch, and connected breath to repattern the system and feel pleasure in new ways.

How did the speaker's early habits of masturbating to porn affect his PE?

The speaker's early habit of quickly masturbating to porn conditioned him to ejaculate quickly and reinforced the idea that the purpose of sex and pleasure was to ejaculate, which contributed to his PE.

What is the third step to lasting longer in bed and why is it crucial?

The third step is knowing your arousal. It involves practicing and understanding one's own arousal levels to be able to control and manage them during sex, which requires practice and experience.

What is the fourth step to lasting longer in bed and how does it help in the process?

The fourth step is open communication and setting boundaries. This involves sharing wants and needs with your partner, including what you don't want, to establish a safe and comfortable sexual environment.

What is the secret 2,000-year-old technique that the speaker learned to help with PE?

The secret technique is the microcosmic orbit, a dos breath technique that allows the speaker to circulate sexual energy away from the genitals and disperse it throughout the body, enabling him to separate orgasm from ejaculation.

How does the microcosmic orbit technique help in managing sexual energy?

The microcosmic orbit technique helps by allowing the individual to circulate sexual energy up the back of the spine and down the front, dispersing it throughout the body, which reduces sensitivity in the penis and allows for control over ejaculation.

What advice does the speaker give for integrating nervous system regulation into sex life?

The speaker advises practicing deep, connected breathing during times of stress and integrating this into sex life by focusing on the breath and the body's sensations, rather than just the act of sex.

How does the speaker suggest practicing edging to improve sexual stamina?

The speaker suggests practicing edging for 15 to 20 minutes without ejaculation, similar to training for a marathon by building up to longer runs. This helps in learning to control the arousal and manage the sexual energy.