Why Muslims MUST Control Their Anger

Summary

The video discusses the importance of managing anger in accordance with Islamic teachings. It highlights the Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) advice on not letting anger lead to regretful actions and emphasizes the distinction between justifiable anger and self-interested anger. The video provides practical steps to control anger, such as changing one's physical state and seeking refuge in Allah. It underscores the rewards of self-restraint and offers techniques to manage anger, encouraging viewers to follow the Prophet's example of patience, forgiveness, and love.

Takeaways

• 📜 Developing self-control is crucial, especially during times of heightened emotion and anger.
• 📖 The Prophet Muhammad advised not to let anger overcome you, leading to actions or words you may regret.
• 🕌 In Islam, there is a distinction between justified anger that pleases Allah and self-interested anger that pleases Shaytan.
• 🗣️ It's essential to control your tongue and actions during anger to avoid saying or doing things that are unbecoming.
• 🤲 Seek refuge in Allah from Shaytan, who encourages excessive anger and immoral actions.
• 💡 Changing your physical state, such as sitting down or lying down, can help manage anger.
• 👥 Surrounding yourself with supportive people can help you manage anger and provide assistance.
• 🔄 Empathize with others by considering how you would want them to react if the roles were reversed.
• 🔇 Giving people space during moments of anger can help them cool off and avoid escalation.
• 🕌 The Prophet Muhammad's life exemplified patience, perseverance, love, and forgiveness, serving as a model for managing anger.

Q & A

What is the main topic discussed in the script?

The main topic discussed is the importance of controlling anger and the guidance provided by the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) on managing anger.

What did the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) advise when a person asked for advice?

The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) advised not to let anger overcome them, meaning not to let anger control their actions and words.

What are the two types of anger mentioned in the script?

The two types of anger are anger that is pleasing to Allah and anger that is self-serving and pleasing to oneself and Satan.

How is the anger that is pleasing to Allah described?

The anger that is pleasing to Allah is justified, a natural human emotion, and often occurs in response to wrongdoing or injustice.

What does the Arabic word for anger imply about the state of the mind?

The Arabic word for anger implies that the mind becomes clouded, leading to loss of control and judgment.

What practical advice did the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) give for managing anger?

The Prophet advised staying silent when angry, changing physical positions (standing to sitting, sitting to lying down), and leaving the place of disturbance to manage anger.

What example is given to illustrate the Prophet's (PBUH) approach to dealing with insults?

An example given is when the Prophet (PBUH) remained calm and did not react to insults from a man, and when Abu Bakr responded to the insults, the Prophet (PBUH) explained that the angels left and Satan took their place.

What is the reward for controlling one's anger, according to the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)?

The reward for controlling one's anger is a promise of a place in Jannah (Paradise).

What are three important steps to manage anger, as mentioned in the script?

The three important steps are: 1) Remembering that Allah is a witness to everything and you are not alone, 2) Reflecting on your own past mistakes and understanding others' perspectives, 3) Learning that unchecked anger can derail productive outcomes and harm relationships.

What does the Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) life story teach about anger?

The Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) life story teaches patience, perseverance, love, and forgiveness, demonstrating how to restrain oneself in moments of anger.

Outlines

00:00

😠 The Importance of Self-Control and Managing Anger

This paragraph discusses the importance of self-control, particularly in moments of heightened emotion and anger. It highlights the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) on not letting anger lead to regretful actions. The Prophet advised people to control their anger to avoid acting immorally or inappropriately. The paragraph also distinguishes between justified anger, which can be pleasing to Allah, and uncontrolled anger that leads to sinful behavior. It emphasizes the significance of seeking refuge in Allah from the Shaytan, who encourages excessive anger.

05:01

🧘 Techniques for Controlling Anger

This section emphasizes the Prophet Muhammad's (saw) advice on changing physical states to manage anger. For instance, if angry while standing, one should sit down, and if sitting, lay down or walk away. The narrative includes a story of Abu Bakr's reaction to a man's verbal abuse towards the Prophet, illustrating the importance of maintaining composure and avoiding reciprocating with harsh words. The Prophet taught that responding with patience invites divine support, while reacting with anger allows the Shaytan to take hold. The section underscores the importance of physical movement and patience in anger management.

10:02

💪 Rewards and Practical Steps for Anger Management

This paragraph details the rewards for controlling anger, promising a place in Jannah for those who manage their temper. It stresses the importance of adopting anger management techniques beyond spiritual advice. Practical steps include remembering that Allah is always watching and that one is not alone in facing problems. It suggests seeking help from others, understanding one's own faults, and putting oneself in others' shoes. The paragraph also highlights the potential negative impacts of unchecked anger on personal relationships and overall well-being.

😇 Wisdom in Allowing Space and Promoting Patience

This paragraph focuses on the wisdom of giving people space when they are angry. The Prophet Muhammad (saw) sometimes let people argue and vent their frustrations before intervening to help them reconcile. It advises against immediate interference, suggesting that cooling-off periods can be beneficial. The section also emphasizes the rewards for those who restrain their anger, citing the Prophet's life as an example of patience, perseverance, and forgiveness. The paragraph concludes with an encouragement to follow the Prophet's example in managing anger and maintaining harmony in relationships.

Keywords

💡Self-control

Self-control refers to the ability to regulate one's emotions, especially in moments of heightened emotion or anger. In the video, it is emphasized as a necessary quality for righteousness and devotion to Allah. The Prophet Muhammad advised a person to not let anger overcome them, highlighting the importance of self-control in maintaining a proper demeanor and preventing regretful actions.

💡Anger

Anger is an intense emotional state that can lead to negative behaviors if not controlled. The video distinguishes between justified anger, which is a natural human emotion, and excessive anger, which can lead to immoral actions. The Prophet Muhammad's advice on controlling anger, such as remaining silent and changing one's physical state, underscores the importance of managing this emotion.

💡Prophet Muhammad

Prophet Muhammad is the central figure in Islam whose teachings and actions serve as a guide for Muslims. In the video, his responses to anger and his advice on how to manage it are highlighted. His example of remaining calm and patient in the face of insults and encouraging self-control demonstrates his wisdom and the importance of following his teachings.

💡Refuge with Allah

Seeking refuge with Allah involves asking for divine protection from negative influences, such as excessive anger encouraged by Satan. The video mentions that Allah has taught believers to seek refuge from actions that lead to immoral behavior, emphasizing the spiritual aspect of managing anger.

💡Justified Anger

Justified anger is the type of anger that aligns with Allah's teachings and arises from situations that warrant a natural human response. For example, the video mentions the Prophet Moses's anger when his people worshiped a golden idol. This type of anger is contrasted with self-serving anger, highlighting the importance of context and intention.

💡Unbecoming Actions

Unbecoming actions are behaviors that are inappropriate or regretful, often resulting from uncontrolled anger. The video advises against letting anger sway one's actions to prevent such behaviors. This concept reinforces the need for self-control and mindful responses to emotional triggers.

💡Patience

Patience is the ability to endure difficult situations without becoming angry or upset. The video illustrates this through the Prophet Muhammad's patience in dealing with insults and his advice to others to remain calm. Patience is portrayed as a virtue that leads to better outcomes and aligns with righteous living.

💡Physical State

Changing one's physical state is a practical method to manage anger, such as sitting down if standing or lying down if sitting. The video advises changing physical positions to reduce agitation and prevent actions that might arise from anger. This technique helps break the cycle of escalating emotions and promotes calmness.

💡Accountability

Accountability refers to being responsible for one's actions and their consequences. The video stresses that individuals remain accountable for their behavior, even when angry. This concept highlights the importance of controlling anger to avoid actions that one might regret and be held responsible for, both in this life and in front of Allah.

💡Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the act of pardoning others for their mistakes or offenses. The video showcases the Prophet Muhammad's ability to forgive those who insulted him, illustrating the power of forgiveness in managing anger and maintaining harmony. This virtue is encouraged as a means to overcome negative emotions and foster positive relationships.

Highlights

Establishing self-control at times of heightened emotion and anger is crucial for righteousness and devotion to Allah.

The Prophet Muhammad advised not to let anger sway you to say or do something regretful.

There are two types of anger: one that is pleasing to Allah and one that is pleasing to oneself and Shaytan.

Justified anger is a natural human emotion that is beyond our control.

Unjustified anger clouds judgment and leads to regretful actions and words.

The Prophet advised remaining silent and controlling one's tongue during anger.

Changing one's physical state, such as sitting or lying down, can help manage anger.

There is a massive reward for controlling anger, as promised by the Prophet.

Seeking refuge with Allah from Shaytan helps protect against excessive anger.

Understanding that we are not alone and seeking help can aid in managing anger.

Reflecting on times when we may have wronged others can help us control our anger.

Anger should not derail us from being productive and maintaining positive relationships.

The Prophet demonstrated patience and perseverance in the face of anger and insults.

Giving people space and allowing them to cool off is a prophetic wisdom in dealing with anger.

Allah rewards those who restrain themselves in moments of anger, following the example of the Prophet.

Transcripts

overcoming anger Subhan Allah one of the

great qualities great characteristics

that all of us need to establish to

complete our sense of righteousness our

sense of Devotion to Allah subhah wa

ta'ala is to develop a measure of

self-control especially at a time of

heightened elevated emotion and anger

the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi

wasallam you know a person would come

and ask him different questions people

would come and they would

sayam you know advise me what advice do

you give to me and on one occasion the

prophet wasallam could see the demeanor

of this person and he said don't let

your anger overcome you so you react and

act in a way that is Unbecoming and I

know in Arabic it's just don't be angry

it doesn't mean don't get angry it means

don't let your anger sway you move you

to say something you will regret to do

something you will regret or to act in a

way that is Unbecoming and that's part

of the beauty of course of the Arabic

language that eloquence in it two words

they require a whole paragraph to kind

of understand it Allah subhana wa tala

has also taught us in the Quran to seek

Refuge with him from the Shan who

encourages us to become excessively

angry and to act out immorally in our

anger now I want to First separate

between two types of anger there's the

one type of anger which is pleasing to

Allah and then there's the other type of

anger which is pleasing to yourself and

the Shan the anger that is pleasing to

Allah subhah wa taala is is the type of

anger that is Justified and is a natural

human emotion that is not within our RIT

and control to stop ourselves from it

Allah describes

Prophet when the anger that had overcome

M because his people had begun

worshiping a golden idol departed from

him and that they had returned to Allah

repented to Allah then Allah subhah wa

taala it is consoling to M notice that

the prophet wasallam is also described

that when he give

his his voice would become elevated and

there would be a sense of urgency and

almost anger in his tone when he was

commanding people to that which is right

if they were straying away from the path

of subhah wa taala and being angry in a

moment of time is not negligence in our

relationship with Allah if it is

Justified for a particular reason now of

course the anger that is of

self-interest the anger that is an

emotional heightened state which causes

us to lose control the word in the

Arabic language it begins with that

letter which is a letter that signifies

the loss of something and therefore you

know the word meaning the one's brain is

wiped out means that one's brain is

clouded over that their anger has moved

over their mind to make them kind of

clouded in their judgment and therefore

people in a state of may say things do

things that of course are unbe coming

and unacceptable which they remain

accountable for in front of Allah in

front of society and in the light of our

Shar and that's why it's not an excuse

to Simply say you know I was angry and I

said a word that was unacceptable you

have to be in charge and in command of

ourself and that's an important teaching

of the Prophet wasallam so notice in

another authentic Hadith the prophet

Salli wasallam he says if any of you

becomes angry which is natural a natural

state of angerness let them let them

remain quiet let them remain uh silent

don't share words hold yourself it's not

hold your anger but hold your tongue

while in a state of anger prophet

sallallahu alaihi wasallam he saw two of

his companions peace and blessings be

upon him they remain unnamed although

their names are are known to the S but

to hold the dignity that we have for

theab in general they're not named to us

and in the M of the Prophet wasallam

they were upset with each other and they

exchanged the verbal altercation where

the words were Unbecoming of the me of

the prophet where their voices were

raised and even in the presence of the

prophet wasallam and he turned to his

and he

said I know of a word that if these

people were to speak it that which has

increased their anger to this level made

them lose their control over themselves

would

depart and therefore how do you protect

yourself from going overboard because of

your anger It Is by you remembering that

Allah subhah wa ta'ala has asked us to

protect oursel from the Shan and

therefore you must and I must ask Allah

to protect us from anger number four

that's really important is to seek and

to hear the advice of the Prophet

Muhammad sallallah alaihi wasallam where

the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

he tells us that if you're angry and

you're standing sit down and that's to

limit your physical disturbance to

others cuz if you're angry and you're

moving around it's better for you to sit

and if you're sitting down lay down

Subhan Allah I remember asking my

teacher well what if I'm laying down

what do I do now he said well get up and

walk away it's not about you can't stand

is that you leave the place so if you

find yourself in a state of agitation

the example of the Prophet wasallam is

to change your physical state change

your place of disturbance move away from

those who have wronged you know that you

can make a mistake and I can make a

mistake if we remain in that same

vicinity another powerful incident in

the life of the Prophet wasallam as he

was sitting with his best friend AB

a man who was vile and angry and full of

hatred came and abused the prophet

wasallam and these are the early days of

Mecca he abused him with vulgar words

abak you know he was became angry how

could this man say it but he didn't say

anything the prophet wasallam didn't

make any movement or reaction the

prophet simply smiled and ignored the

man the man left and came back and

abused the prophet wasallam abused

abak alhi wasallam you know Abu Bakr is

holding the third time he left and came

back and then

abak says I responded to this vile man

with the same words he had used I didn't

add to it you know he said this so I

said back to you it's you that is this

Prophet s wasallam stood up and left and

Abu Bakr understood he had made a

mistake and he chased behind the prophet

he said I couldn't control myself he

made me so angry he said to you

something that you're Unworthy of how

dare he you know speak to you in such a

way you are the messenger of God Prophet

wasallam said Abu Bak when this man

insulted us the first time and the

second time and we were quiet we were

patient Allah sent Angels who defended

us but when you spoke when you misspoke

and you return those vulgar words back

to him Allah caused the angels to depart

and the Shan came in his place and I

will never sit in a place where the

shatan has arrived it's going to make

things worse so I left right it shows us

that we should change our physical Place

change our demeanor be careful with what

our tongues say another important thing

is to understand that there's a massive

reward for controlling our anger and the

prophet Sall wasallam he

says in an authentic the prophet said to

a man don't let your anger overcome you

that you make sinful statements that you

act in a wrong way and I promise you on

account of you controlling your anger

that you will have a place in Jenna what

a beautiful promise of the Prophet

alaihi wasallam so anger is something

that's really important for us and it's

important to kind of learn anger

management techniques that are Beyond

beond just these spiritual words so I'm

going to give you three things that are

really important to help myself in you

and this is a struggle I have you have

doesn't matter young or old all of us

will be prone to losing control and

being angry so the first thing first

important step when we find ourself in a

state of anger is to remember that we

are not alone and that the words that

have angered us even if we're not able

to take back what maybe somebody

insulted us or whatever it is know that

Allah is witness to it and know that you

are not alone and there are other people

that can help you and it's not you that

has to solve every one of your problems

it might be that you have to come to

your parents or to your spouse you know

whatever your life circumstance is to

find somebody who can assist you if

you're at work and you have somebody

who's you know who's spoken to you in a

way that they shouldn't there's human

resources if you're a student and your

teacher is the one who's responsible for

your duty of care and your well-being

every one of us is not left to their own

devices so understand that in life you

are not always the only one obligated

and responsible for your protection your

betterment and what it is that you need

out of life number two and I think

extremely also important is to

understand that we must submit ourselves

at times to the concept that maybe we

have wronged someone and this is a way

of Allah subhah wa taala cleansing our

state and de-stressing us and know that

nobody is ever brought into disrepute

with Allah subhana wa tala without

Allah's knowledge so I I want you to

begin to understand well listen I'm in

this moment of anger and there were

other moments when I made other people

angry and I need to now control myself

in the way that I wanted other people to

be controlled in their return and their

response to me so put yourself in other

people's shoes put yourself in other

people's perspective and put yourself in

other people's circumstances and number

three learn that with anger we can

actually go completely off the rails and

we can derail ourselves from any

productive and if anger is something

that is found in our homes and in our

habits and in our lifestyles you will

never be from those who find ease and

comfort and Fidelity and love in it for

those of us who you know mallah for my

young brothers and sisters I want you to

consider that of the biggest obstacles

for myself as I was growing up was not

knowing when to be quiet and not knowing

when to do nothing and in that example

that I gave to you the prophet wasallam

he saw two of his companions who were

angry with each each other and the

prophet didn't get up and stop them he

didn't go and speak to them he spoke to

others and he said I know what word if

these two people said it it would get

cause thean to leave them and of the

great importance of the of this Hadith

is that the prophet wasallam let people

at times argue it out and do do whatever

they they had to do that they kind of

sunk to that place and then he helped

them to get out of it and it's important

for us to kind of give people space when

they're angry to kind of push back and

not get involved and it could be that

you see your parents are in a place of

anger or that you and your friends are

in a place of anger sometimes people

need that cooling off period and that's

a prophetic wisdom that we learned from

the prophet Muhammad sallallah alaihi

wasallam know that Allah subhah wa

ta'ala rewards those who restrain

themselves in moments of anger and may

that be reason for you and I to follow

that prophetic example of ouri wasallam

if there was anyone who had a right to

be angry it was the messenger of allahi

wasallam but his life story is one of

patience perseverance love and

forgiveness May increase those in

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