How I Make Myself Work When I’m Lazy (it’s not discipline)

Ruri Ohama
3 Jul 202413:21

Summary

TLDRThe speaker discusses common struggles with motivation and productivity, highlighting the ineffectiveness of traditional methods like time blocking and the Pomodoro technique. They propose a new system to tackle lack of clarity, overwhelm, unfulfillment, and burnout by prioritizing tasks with the Eisenhower Matrix, setting a daily focus for long-term goals, and eliminating non-essential tasks. The importance of tracking progress and reflecting on daily wins and losses is emphasized to foster continuous improvement and reduce reliance on motivation and discipline.

Takeaways

  • 😣 The struggle with motivation is common, and relying solely on discipline can lead to burnout.
  • 🔍 Understanding the underlying reasons for lack of motivation and procrastination is crucial before trying productivity methods.
  • 📝 Clarity is often a key issue; successful people focus on a few important tasks and eliminate the rest.
  • 🧠 Brain dumping can help eliminate feelings of overwhelm and provide clarity by getting all thoughts out of the mind.
  • ⏲ Setting a timer for tasks, as per Parkinson's Law, can help manage time effectively and prevent tasks from taking longer than necessary.
  • 🗂 The Eisenhower Matrix is a useful tool for categorizing tasks based on importance and urgency, aiding in prioritization.
  • 🏋️‍♂️ Committing to 'Q2' tasks—important but not urgent—by scheduling them ensures they get done and prevent procrastination.
  • 🎯 Having a 'focus of the day' that aligns with long-term goals can lead to fulfillment and happiness.
  • 🚫 Eliminating unnecessary tasks is essential; even if it feels counterintuitive, it can prevent burnout and improve productivity.
  • 📊 Tracking daily progress and reflecting on what went well and what could be improved is a powerful habit for continuous improvement.
  • 🛑 Avoiding consecutive days of skipping tasks is important for maintaining momentum and avoiding falling into negative cycles.
  • 📈 Personalizing productivity methods and understanding that different issues require different solutions is key to long-term success.

Q & A

  • What is the main issue the speaker struggles with?

    -The speaker struggles with motivation and procrastination, trying various productivity methods without success.

  • Why does the speaker believe relying solely on discipline is not sustainable?

    -The speaker believes that relying solely on discipline can lead to burnout and is not sustainable in the long run.

  • What is the first step the speaker suggests to deal with lack of clarity?

    -The first step is to do a brain dump, writing down everything on one's mind to eliminate the feeling of overwhelm.

  • What is the purpose of setting a timer during the brain dump process?

    -Setting a timer helps to manage the time spent on brain dumping, preventing the task from taking longer than necessary due to Parkinson's Law.

  • What tool does the speaker recommend for the brain dump process?

    -The speaker recommends using Notion or an iPad for the brain dump process.

  • What is the Eisenhower Matrix and how is it used in the script?

    -The Eisenhower Matrix is a tool that categorizes tasks into four quadrants based on their importance and urgency, helping to prioritize tasks effectively.

  • Why is it important to schedule time for Q2 tasks in the Eisenhower Matrix?

    -Scheduling time for Q2 tasks ensures that important but not urgent tasks are not neglected and are completed in a timely manner.

  • What is the significance of picking a 'focus of the day'?

    -The 'focus of the day' is an activity that aligns with long-term goals and contributes to personal fulfillment and happiness.

  • How does the speaker suggest using the Notion Q&A feature?

    -The Notion Q&A feature can be used to get instant answers to questions using information from across the workspace, acting as a personalized executive assistant.

  • What is the final step in the speaker's productivity system?

    -The final step is to reflect on what went well and what could have been better, and to write down these reflections as action points for improvement.

  • Why is it important to track daily progress and reflections visibly?

    -Tracking progress and reflections visibly helps to keep the process in mind, making it a priority and increasing the likelihood of consistent action.

  • What is the speaker's view on the effectiveness of a one-size-fits-all productivity method?

    -The speaker believes that a one-size-fits-all productivity method is not effective because different individuals struggle with different issues and need personalized solutions.

Outlines

00:00

🔄 Overcoming Procrastination and Motivation Struggles

The speaker discusses their personal struggle with motivation and the ineffectiveness of common productivity methods like time-blocking and the Pomodoro Technique. They emphasize the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for lack of motivation and procrastination, comparing it to seeking medical treatment without a proper diagnosis. The speaker introduces a system to address productivity without relying solely on motivation or discipline. They highlight common issues such as lack of clarity, feeling overwhelmed, unfulfillment, burnout, and the absence of a proper system. The speaker proposes a method involving brain dumping, filtering tasks, and using the Eisenhower Matrix to prioritize work effectively.

05:02

📋 Implementing the Eisenhower Matrix for Prioritization

This paragraph delves into the practical application of the Eisenhower Matrix to categorize tasks based on urgency and importance. The speaker explains the four quadrants of the matrix, focusing on addressing Q1 tasks immediately, scheduling time for Q2 tasks to prevent procrastination, and dealing with Q3 and Q4 tasks strategically. They also introduce the concept of choosing a 'focus of the day' to align with long-term goals, advocating for a 20-minute minimum commitment to this task. The speaker shares personal anecdotes about establishing a workout routine and mentions tools like Notion's Q&A feature for workspace organization and efficiency.

10:03

🎯 Establishing Daily Routines and Accountability

The speaker outlines a strategy for maintaining daily routines and accountability by setting and prioritizing tasks, eliminating non-essential activities, and focusing on a 'daily highlight' that contributes to long-term fulfillment. They stress the importance of tracking progress visibly and consistently, using tools like whiteboards or Notion templates. The speaker also discusses the significance of reflecting on daily successes and setbacks to refine approaches and improve productivity. They acknowledge that different individuals may face unique challenges and that a one-size-fits-all solution is unlikely, advocating for personalized strategies and continuous self-improvement.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Motivation

Motivation refers to the psychological drive that influences a person's behavior towards a goal. In the video, the speaker discusses the struggle with motivation and how waiting for it to 'kick in' often leads to procrastination. The video suggests that relying solely on motivation is not a sustainable approach to productivity.

💡Discipline

Discipline is the practice of training oneself to follow a pattern of behavior, often by forcible restraint or control over one's impulses and tendencies. The speaker initially believed that discipline was the key to overcoming procrastination, but later realized that it alone can lead to burnout and is not a long-term solution.

💡Productivity

Productivity is the efficiency of productive effort, especially in work situations. The video's theme revolves around improving productivity by addressing the underlying issues that cause a lack of motivation and procrastination, rather than just applying various productivity techniques.

💡Clarity

Clarity in this context refers to having a clear understanding or vision of what needs to be done. The script emphasizes the importance of clarity for focusing on tasks and eliminating distractions, suggesting that a lack of clarity is a common reason for struggling with motivation.

💡Overwhelm

Feeling overwhelmed implies being excessively burdened or preoccupied by tasks or responsibilities. The video mentions that a brain dump can help eliminate the feeling of being overwhelmed and is a step towards achieving clarity and focus.

💡Eisenhower Matrix

The Eisenhower Matrix is a time management tool that helps in organizing tasks by urgency and importance. In the script, it is recommended for prioritizing tasks into four categories to effectively manage time and focus on what truly matters.

💡Burnout

Burnout is a state of chronic stress that leads to physical and emotional exhaustion. The speaker warns against the dangers of relying solely on discipline, as it can result in burnout, and instead promotes a balanced approach to productivity.

💡Focus of the Day

Focus of the Day is a concept introduced in the video where one selects a task or activity that aligns with long-term goals to work on daily. It serves as a non-negotiable part of the daily routine to ensure progress towards personal fulfillment and goals.

💡Prioritization

Prioritization is the act of deciding the order or relative importance of tasks. The video script discusses the use of the Eisenhower Matrix for prioritizing tasks and emphasizes the importance of focusing on the most important and urgent tasks first.

💡Notion

Notion is a productivity tool used for note-taking, task management, and collaboration. In the script, it is mentioned as a tool for brain dumping and organizing tasks, highlighting its utility in the productivity system discussed.

💡Reflection

Reflection involves thinking deeply about one's experiences, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The video encourages daily reflection to identify what went well and what could be improved, using this insight to make adjustments and improve productivity.

💡Q&A Feature in Notion

The Q&A feature in Notion is a tool that provides instant answers to questions using information from across the workspace. The script mentions this feature as an innovative way to retrieve information quickly, enhancing productivity by saving time and reducing repetitive questions.

Highlights

The speaker struggles with motivation and has tried various productivity methods without success.

Motivation is unpredictable, and relying solely on discipline can lead to burnout.

Understanding the underlying reasons for lack of motivation is crucial before trying productivity tips.

Common reasons for motivational struggles include lack of clarity, feeling overwhelmed, unfulfilled, burnout, and lack of a system.

Successful people focus on a few important tasks and eliminate the rest.

The importance of dumping everything from one's mind to achieve clarity and reduce overwhelm.

Using a timer for tasks, as per Parkinson's Law, to manage time effectively.

The Eisenhower Matrix as a tool for prioritizing tasks based on importance and urgency.

Scheduling time for important but not urgent tasks to ensure they get done.

Choosing a 'focus of the day' that aligns with long-term goals for a sense of fulfillment.

Starting with a 20-minute commitment to the daily focus to build momentum.

The importance of writing down the daily focus in a visible place to maintain accountability.

Eliminating five tasks from the list of ten to prioritize and prevent burnout.

The non-negotiable nature of completing the top three tasks and the daily focus for success.

Tracking daily progress in a visible place to maintain motivation and awareness.

Reflecting on what went well and what could be improved at the end of each day for continuous improvement.

The speaker's personal experience with implementing these methods and the benefits observed.

The upcoming community and resources for like-minded individuals interested in time management.

Transcripts

play00:00

I struggle with motivation a lot trust

play00:02

me I've tried everything from time

play00:03

blocking to Pomodoro GTD method to

play00:06

2-minute roll and none of them worked

play00:09

for me there's always something I know I

play00:11

got to do it but I don't I wait for the

play00:14

motivation to kick in but it never comes

play00:16

when I need it and suddenly around 2:00

play00:19

a.m. in the middle of night I would get

play00:21

super hyped up about something and

play00:23

promise myself that I would change this

play00:25

time only to find myself in the same

play00:27

position 3 days after what's worse is

play00:31

that the more I repeat this cycle the

play00:33

more I doubt myself and feel awful I

play00:36

used to say you don't need motivation

play00:38

only thing you need is discipline but I

play00:40

disagree now because completely relying

play00:43

on discipline is not sustainable in the

play00:45

long run and it causes burnouts so how

play00:48

can we get things done without relying

play00:51

on motivation neither on discipline I

play00:53

read dozens of books watch hundreds

play00:55

hours of content and with trial and

play00:58

error I found the solution today I'm

play01:00

going to introduce you the system I used

play01:03

to get things done and work without

play01:05

relying on motivation so the major

play01:07

mistake we all do is not understanding

play01:09

the underlying reason why we struggle

play01:12

with motivation and procrastinate

play01:15

without understanding what is causing it

play01:18

it's almost like going to a doctor

play01:19

getting a medication without getting a

play01:21

diagnosis imagine you're actually like

play01:23

an Alzheimer but get a medication for

play01:26

like diabetes it doesn't make sense

play01:28

rather than like trying every sing

play01:29

single productivity tip you see online

play01:32

it's much better to First understand the

play01:34

reason and try to solve that issue so

play01:36

that you spend less time trying to

play01:38

figure out what works for you so there

play01:40

are a bunch of reasons why you might be

play01:42

struggling with motivation and even the

play01:44

same person can struggle with different

play01:45

reasons depending on the season of their

play01:48

life so today I decided to talk about

play01:50

the most common ones which are lack of

play01:52

clarity feeling overwhelmed feeling

play01:55

unfulfilled burnout and also lack of

play01:58

system if you're interested in other

play01:59

reasons and how to solve them I will

play02:02

have videos coming so stay tuned so most

play02:04

of us I think including myself really

play02:06

struggle with Clarity because we are

play02:09

taught especially if you're in

play02:10

productivity we are taught that the more

play02:12

you get done the better it is but one

play02:14

thing I learned after talking with other

play02:16

entrepreneurs is that most successful

play02:18

people actually only focus on handful of

play02:21

things and they just eliminate

play02:22

everything but to do so we first need to

play02:24

be super clear on what to focus and what

play02:27

to eliminate the first step we're going

play02:29

to do is actually dumping everything we

play02:32

have in our mind I usually like to

play02:33

either use notion or use my iPad for

play02:37

doing a brain dump by beginning our day

play02:39

doing a brain dump they eliminate the

play02:41

feeling of overwhelm notifications

play02:43

popping in and so many things that are

play02:45

distracting else and all these things

play02:47

are inputs in our brain so

play02:49

subconsciously actually we're getting

play02:51

like overwhelmed every single day and

play02:52

that's completely normal when you do

play02:54

this even for once you're going to see

play02:56

the immediate results of like getting

play02:57

Clarity and feeling in peace so so

play02:59

whether you decide at 5 10 or 15 minutes

play03:02

the important thing is that you

play03:03

basically set yourself a deadline the

play03:05

reason why we set a timer is because of

play03:08

the Parkinson's love basically if you

play03:09

would give a task an hour it's going to

play03:12

take an hour so if we're going to give a

play03:13

5 minutes it's going to take 5 minutes

play03:15

so step two is filter go through your

play03:17

brain dump and write down 10 things you

play03:20

need to get done that day now what we

play03:22

need to do is prioritizing them so I'm

play03:25

actually terrible at prioritizing when I

play03:28

have 10 tasks in in front of me I look

play03:31

at them and I'm like okay which one

play03:33

should I do first which one should I do

play03:35

next and then I get overwhelmed and I do

play03:37

nothing so if you don't want to be like

play03:39

me what I recommend is using the eisenh

play03:42

how Matrix it basically divides the

play03:44

tasks into four different categories

play03:46

based on their importance and also their

play03:48

urgency so the quadrant one is the

play03:50

important and Urgent tasks these are the

play03:53

tasks that requires your immediate

play03:56

attention let's say the kitchen's

play03:57

floating or your toilet is broken like

play04:00

happened to me two weeks ago we want to

play04:02

ideally get these done first so that we

play04:05

won't get stressed over them and we will

play04:07

also not face these consequences next up

play04:09

we have the Q2 tasks these are the

play04:11

important but not urgent tasks often

play04:14

times because they don't have a deadline

play04:16

we always say that we're going to start

play04:17

someday and then that someday never

play04:20

comes I always did that a couple of

play04:22

years ago I would always tell myself

play04:24

that I'm going to start working out

play04:25

tomorrow and that tomorrow never came so

play04:28

one day I said okay I should actually

play04:31

schedule a time in my calendar if you

play04:33

don't make actively time for your Q2

play04:35

tasks you will never have time for them

play04:37

once I started to actually commit to

play04:39

working out I got actually quite jacked

play04:41

in like two years not really sure

play04:43

whether you can see my muscles but I'm

play04:46

like pretty healthy and doing pretty

play04:48

well let's see whether you can see them

play04:50

maybe not that much but yeah I'll

play04:52

include some pictures don't worry about

play04:53

it okay and then we also have the Q3

play04:57

tasks these are the Urgent ones but not

play04:59

not important one for example like work

play05:01

emails that you don't care about so

play05:04

we're going to always do the q1 first

play05:06

schedule time for the Q2 batch Q3 and

play05:09

try to eliminate Q4 once you create this

play05:12

list of 10 different tasks make sure

play05:15

that there's at least one Tusk in Q2 if

play05:19

there nothing in Q2 that is a very big

play05:22

red flag I would go through my list once

play05:24

again and find one in Q now step three

play05:28

is going to be picking your focus of the

play05:30

day this is going to be something that

play05:32

is going to get closer to your long-term

play05:34

goals whether that's working out whether

play05:36

that's working on your business maybe

play05:38

taking online courses maybe spending

play05:40

more time with your family or let's say

play05:43

going to a therapy something like that

play05:45

this focus of the day should be

play05:47

something that is going to make you more

play05:49

fulfilled and happy in the long term if

play05:51

you have All or Nothing attitude like me

play05:53

starting from I think 20 minutes is a

play05:55

really good spot because if you do

play05:57

something 20 minutes every single day

play05:59

you you actually see significant amount

play06:01

of results and also if you have more

play06:03

time you can spend more time on it the

play06:05

important thing is that every single day

play06:07

you pick a focus of the day and do

play06:10

something for your future self and

play06:12

saying no to all the deadlines all the

play06:14

distractions all the obligations that

play06:16

you have and making time for yourself

play06:19

whenever I don't make actively time for

play06:22

the things that I care and gives me

play06:24

fulfillment I really start to question

play06:27

the meaning of life and Life starts to

play06:29

feel really pointless and everything

play06:31

becomes boring and that really

play06:33

demotivates me and I start to

play06:34

procrastinating when picking your focus

play06:36

of the day you can use a notion template

play06:40

like mine or you can use this app vidget

play06:43

where you can type a note and put it on

play06:45

the screen of your phone so that

play06:47

whenever you unlock your phone you see

play06:48

it whatever it is it's important that

play06:50

you write this in somewhere else that

play06:53

you can easily see it speaking of notion

play06:55

they've recently launched an amazing

play06:57

feature called Q&A this this feature

play07:00

provides instant answers to your

play07:02

questions using information from across

play07:04

your workspace it's like having your own

play07:06

executive assistant that you can bug

play07:09

24/7 with questions let's say you had a

play07:11

meeting with your team but can't

play07:13

remember the task you need to handle no

play07:15

worries you can ask the Q&A or let's say

play07:18

you're using notion for school and you

play07:20

want to find a specific class note you

play07:23

can ask Q&A the difference between Q&A

play07:26

and traditional AI chat Bots is Q&A on

play07:29

understands your business previous

play07:31

decisions and meeting notes to provide

play07:33

accurate and relevant answers it only

play07:36

uses the internal knowledge within your

play07:38

notion workspace making it far more

play07:40

personalized than other AI models

play07:42

trained on publicly available

play07:44

information it saves so much time and

play07:47

reduces repetitive questions whether

play07:49

you're trying to find company policies

play07:51

or trying to check a project status

play07:54

instead of messaging your coworker or

play07:56

your friend to find the answer you need

play07:58

you can simply ask q and day it will

play08:00

also give you the link to the relevant

play08:02

notion page so that you can dive deeper

play08:04

if you need it to if you're already a

play08:06

notion AI user you can get started today

play08:09

with Q&A already in your notion

play08:11

workspace you can get started with

play08:12

notion AI for only $10 a month if you're

play08:16

interested trying out join the weight

play08:19

list to get Early Access I have my link

play08:21

in the description below at this point

play08:23

we should have 10 tasks in our list and

play08:25

one focus of the day so now out of these

play08:28

10 tasks

play08:30

we're going to eliminate five of them

play08:32

yes you heard it right we're going to

play08:34

eliminate five of them one thing that I

play08:36

learned over time is that even though

play08:38

sometimes I think I have to get this

play08:40

done today or I'm going to die I do it

play08:43

the next day or maybe the day after and

play08:45

it's actually not end of the world in

play08:47

the beginning you might not be able to

play08:49

eliminate if you have been

play08:50

procrastinating for a while and things

play08:52

piled up but make sure that it's

play08:54

absolutely must if you can't eliminate

play08:57

one thing that you can do is that only

play08:59

to get them done once you accomplish

play09:01

your top five and also your daily

play09:03

highlight once you have finished these

play09:06

then you can work on the remaining tasks

play09:08

if you skip your daily highlight and

play09:10

keep focusing on urgent tasks you will

play09:12

get burned out and you will find

play09:14

yourself in the same position so it's

play09:16

actually a non-negotiable for this

play09:18

method to work I think most of the

play09:20

productivity methods just doesn't have

play09:23

the step and this is the most important

play09:25

step in my opinion at least like for me

play09:28

at the end of the each day I sometimes

play09:29

forget it I'm not going to lie but at

play09:32

the end of each day ideally I'm supposed

play09:34

to do it and you're supposed to do it is

play09:37

go through your task list and look at

play09:39

how many of them you got done so the top

play09:42

three and the daily focus is a

play09:44

non-negotiable if you get done your top

play09:46

three tasks and your daily Focus you're

play09:47

going to give yourself a tick and if you

play09:49

couldn't get done your top three tasks

play09:51

you know your daily Focus these are just

play09:53

like a set then you give yourself a one

play09:56

cross and the important thing is

play09:58

tracking this in a visible position

play10:01

whether that's a notion template that

play10:02

you have and where you track it or

play10:04

whether it's a whiteboard or whether

play10:06

it's the sticky vidget or what is your

play10:08

like Apple notes doesn't matter it

play10:10

should be in a place where you see it

play10:13

all the time so that your subconsciously

play10:16

make it sure and make it important that

play10:18

this actually matters for you because

play10:20

one actually really important thing I

play10:22

learned is that out of side out of mind

play10:24

is so true if I'm not seeing it visually

play10:27

you know on a whiteboard then I find

play10:29

forget about it and I never do it so

play10:31

make sure that every single day you

play10:32

track it and I think actually doing this

play10:34

on a whiteboard kind of like becomes a

play10:36

game and being able to see that first

play10:38

thing in the morning really motivates me

play10:41

actually sometimes things don't go well

play10:44

I mean 90% of the time things will go

play10:46

well to be

play10:46

honest but one important thing is that

play10:49

we never skip 2 days in a row I mean if

play10:51

something extreme happens obviously you

play10:54

have all the rights to rest but I'm not

play10:56

talking about that and you know that

play10:57

once we have marked our day

play10:59

the last important step is writing down

play11:03

in one sentence what went well and what

play11:05

could have been better this is going to

play11:07

be the action point for tomorrow and by

play11:10

looking at this we're going to try to

play11:12

prevent the same mistake happening maybe

play11:14

that day you forgot to turn off your

play11:16

notifications and you got a call from

play11:18

your friend and you ended up chatting

play11:20

for 3 hours which I did last week so it

play11:23

was actually my feedback for a couple of

play11:26

days ago to the next day you know just

play11:29

put your phone and do not disturb mod

play11:31

depending on your life the reason why

play11:33

you're struggling is going to be

play11:35

different so we can't act like there is

play11:37

going to be a one magical method that is

play11:39

going to like cure it like ha GTD method

play11:43

cure everything that all the problems

play11:45

you have in your life like it doesn't

play11:46

work like that I don't know at least it

play11:48

does it works like that for me so by

play11:50

reflecting every single day of like what

play11:52

went well maybe you went to a cafe and

play11:55

you were like really able to focus so do

play11:57

that next day again the same thing by

play11:59

repeating the things that went well and

play12:02

by eliminating the things that maybe

play12:04

didn't go that well we give ourselves

play12:06

every single day a chance to improve so

play12:10

Ka by doing this you start to rely on

play12:14

motivation and discipline less and less

play12:16

and less and because we gamify this and

play12:18

we also try to understand our emotions

play12:20

and behaviors it gives a very high

play12:23

awareness of your actions it actually

play12:25

made me realize that I'm a human and I'm

play12:27

not a robot and and depending on you

play12:31

know the things that is happening around

play12:32

me sometimes my motivation and my dry

play12:35

life flows I learn that and the

play12:39

important thing is rather than pushing

play12:40

yourself all the time and telling

play12:42

yourself like oh you're a loser rather

play12:44

than doing that understand your

play12:45

situation adapting to it and knowing

play12:48

what to do in those scenarios is going

play12:50

to help you more in the long run if you

play12:52

like this video and found it helpful I'm

play12:55

currently working on creating a free

play12:57

community where I can connect

play12:59

like-minded people and also add a master

play13:02

guide maybe a mini course maybe a PDF

play13:05

who knows about time management for

play13:07

different reasons today we mainly

play13:10

covered overwhelm burnout lack of

play13:12

clarity and luck of fulfillment in

play13:15

upcoming videos I'm thinking about

play13:16

covering other areas so if you're

play13:18

interested let me know in the comments

play13:20

and see you soon

Rate This

5.0 / 5 (0 votes)

Related Tags
Productivity TipsMotivation IssuesTime ManagementEisenhower MatrixDaily FocusTask PrioritizationGoal AchievementBurnout PreventionSelf-DisciplineMindset ShiftProcrastination Solutions