Don't text her, don't call her, don't look for her

Summary

Christine, a dating and personal development coach, emphasizes the importance of giving women space after they've shown disinterest or rejected you. She advocates for the 'no contact' rule to let the woman pursue you, if she still has feelings. If you're forced to interact due to work, school, or shared responsibilities, treat the relationship like a business transaction, keeping emotions out. Christine also discusses self-reflection and moving on, advising viewers to focus on their personal goals and to seek a better partner when ready. Her approach combines emotional detachment, self-growth, and moving forward with confidence.

Takeaways

• 😀 Don't text, call, or seek out a woman who has already rejected you in some form. She knows how you feel, and no further communication will change that.
• 😀 The only way to move forward after rejection is to go into 'no contact' and disappear from her life as much as possible, unless you have shared responsibilities like work or kids.
• 😀 If you do need to interact with her due to shared obligations, treat the relationship like a business transaction. Keep conversations focused on practical matters, not emotions.
• 😀 In environments where you can’t fully disappear (work, school, shared custody), treat her like a neutral acquaintance—polite, friendly, but distant. Let her pursue if she’s interested.
• 😀 When engaging in brief conversations, always be the one to end it. Keep it short, polite, and positive, showing confidence and emotional control.
• 😀 If a woman genuinely cares about you, disappearing will prompt her to reach out. If she doesn’t, you'll never hear from her again, which is a sign she’s not right for you.
• 😀 If you have to communicate about children or shared responsibilities, keep it professional. Avoid bringing up emotions or past relationship issues unless she initiates it.
• 😀 Even if you want to get back together, if the conversation doesn’t lead to reconciliation, politely end it and move on. Don’t dwell on past emotions or complaints.
• 😀 Moving on from an ex involves reflecting on your role in the relationship. Recognize any mistakes, and ensure you learn from them to avoid repeating them with future partners.
• 😀 Finding new, inspiring goals and passions will help you move on. Focus on your personal development and excitement for life to reduce emotional dependence on your ex.
• 😀 The best way to fully move on is to find a new partner who is a better fit in every way—more attractive, kinder, and with better prospects. A better woman will make you forget the past.

Q & A

Why is it important not to keep texting or calling a woman after she knows how you feel about her?

Once a woman knows how you feel about her, continuous attempts to contact her through text or phone calls only serve to reinforce your feelings for her, which doesn't change the fact that she's not interested. It can also come across as over-pursuing, which is unattractive.

What is the concept of 'no contact' and why is it recommended?

No contact is about cutting all communication with the woman to give her space and time to reflect on her feelings. If she still has feelings for you, she may reach out on her own. This process helps prevent over-pursuing and allows you to regain control over your emotions.

How should you behave if you have to see the woman regularly, such as in a work or school environment?

In such cases, it's important to treat her with neutral politeness, like an acquaintance, rather than being cold or overly enthusiastic. You should engage in brief, friendly conversations without lingering, so you don't give the impression of emotional attachment.

How can you apply no contact when there are adult entanglements, such as shared custody or a divorce?

In these situations, communication should remain focused on the practical aspects, like arranging schedules or dealing with necessary logistics. It's crucial to keep the interaction business-like, neutral, and avoid discussing past emotions or the relationship.

What should you do if the woman brings up emotional topics or the breakup during necessary conversations?

If she brings up emotional topics, keep your responses short and to the point. Avoid engaging in deep discussions about the breakup unless she expresses a desire to reconcile. Always aim to end the conversation on a neutral or positive note.

How can reflection help you move on from a relationship?

Reflection allows you to analyze your actions during the relationship, understand what went wrong, and learn from the experience. It's essential to acknowledge both your strengths and areas where you can improve to avoid repeating the same mistakes in future relationships.

Why is it important to look for red flags when dating new women?

Red flags are warning signs of potential issues in a relationship. By being aware of these signs early on, you can avoid getting emotionally invested in someone who may not be a good fit for you, thus preventing future heartbreak and wasted time.

How can focusing on your own goals and passions help you move on from a breakup?

Focusing on your own ambitions and passions provides a sense of fulfillment and purpose, which can make it easier to move on from a woman who has lost interest. When you're excited about your own life, the pain of the breakup becomes less consuming.

What is the best way to prevent getting stuck in the same situation with a future partner?

By learning from past relationships and understanding what worked and what didn't, you can avoid making the same mistakes. Taking time to reflect on past red flags and focusing on self-improvement will help you make healthier relationship choices in the future.

How do you ensure you don't make a woman the center of your world after a breakup?

By cultivating other passions, friendships, and personal growth, you ensure that your happiness doesn't depend solely on one person. This mindset helps you bounce back from a breakup without losing your sense of identity and direction.