Top 1% Secrets To Change Your Life

Summary

At 19, I hit rock bottom, arrested six times in one year. But by embracing six harsh truths, I transformed my life, built a multi-million dollar company, and became the person I always wanted to be. These truths are: 1) Let go of the need for approval, 2) Success demands sacrifices, 3) Clarity comes from action, not waiting, 4) Your thoughts are not facts, 5) Acceptance of discomfort leads to growth, and 6) Challenge and change your irrational beliefs. If you're ready to get unstuck, it’s time to break free from the beliefs and patterns holding you back.

Takeaways

• 😀 Approval addiction is one of the biggest obstacles to success. The need for approval from others can hold you back from pursuing your true goals and desires.
• 😀 Success demands a trade-off. To grow, you must be willing to let go of things—like comfort and certain relationships—that keep you stuck.
• 😀 Action leads to clarity. Waiting to feel ready is a trap; only by taking action can you begin to build the confidence and competence necessary for success.
• 😀 Thoughts are not facts. Just because you think something doesn't make it true. Learn to detach from negative thoughts and reframe them with more empowering beliefs.
• 😀 You don't have to believe everything you think. Practice thought attachment to identify and challenge irrational beliefs that no longer serve you.
• 😀 Acceptance is power. Rather than resisting negative emotions or situations, embrace them and move forward. This mindset shift can lead to greater freedom.
• 😀 You get what you work for, not just what you want. The disconnect between desire and behavior is what keeps people stuck. Actions must align with goals for progress to happen.
• 😀 Judgment is part of the process. If you want to succeed, you must be willing to be misunderstood and judged by others. The fear of judgment often keeps people from taking risks.
• 😀 Rational beliefs move you forward, while irrational beliefs keep you stuck. Replace limiting beliefs with rational ones by questioning their logic and relevance to your life.
• 😀 Change starts with small steps. Whether it's posting content, having difficult conversations, or making different choices in your daily life, small actions lead to big results over time.

Q & A

What is the primary reason people stay stuck according to the speaker?

The speaker believes that the primary reason people stay stuck is not fear of failure, but rather an addiction to seeking approval from others. People often prioritize the approval of others over their own self-approval, which keeps them trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and hesitation.

What was the pivotal moment when the speaker realized she was allowing others' approval to dictate her actions?

The pivotal moment occurred when someone at a business mastermind told the speaker that her casual attire would prevent her from being taken seriously. After changing her wardrobe and feeling increasingly uncomfortable, she realized she was sacrificing her own self-approval for the approval of people she didn’t respect or admire.

How can someone overcome their fear of judgment and approval addiction?

To overcome the fear of judgment, the speaker advises taking small actions that expose you to judgment, such as posting content, having difficult conversations, or expressing your truth. The key is to tolerate the discomfort of being judged, as this leads to freedom and self-empowerment.

What does the speaker mean by 'success demands a trade'?

Success demands a trade means that achieving your goals often requires sacrificing something, whether it's comfort, friendships, or certain habits. The speaker shares how she had to prioritize her personal growth over maintaining old friendships that were holding her back.

What does the speaker say about the disconnect between desire and action?

The speaker emphasizes that you don’t get what you want most in life, but rather what you are willing to work for. If your actions (time, money, energy) don’t align with your stated goals, it shows that you might desire the current life more than the life you claim to want. The disconnect between desire and behavior is what keeps people stuck.

Why is 'clarity' something that comes from motion and not from waiting for the right moment?

Clarity comes from taking action because you won’t feel ready for the first time you do something. The speaker reflects on her own experiences, from starting her first business to making big life decisions, and notes that readiness only comes through action and repetition.

What is the concept of 'thought attachment' and how does it help in managing negative thoughts?

Thought attachment is a process where you recognize that thoughts are just words or pictures in your head and not necessarily facts. By labeling thoughts as optional, you gain the power to choose whether or not to believe them. This practice helps weaken the negative impact of intrusive thoughts.

How does 'active acceptance' play a role in overcoming challenges or negative emotions?

Active acceptance involves acknowledging and carrying negative thoughts or emotions with you, instead of resisting them. By accepting the reality of a situation, you reduce its emotional power and move forward more effectively. This mindset shift helps to manage discomfort without allowing it to stop progress.

What is the 'so what?' tool and how can it help in dealing with negative thoughts?

The 'so what?' tool involves asking yourself 'so what?' when faced with negative or fearful thoughts. This helps to detach from the emotional charge of the thought and move on without letting it dictate your actions. It’s about accepting reality and not letting irrational fears or doubts hold you back.

How can someone challenge and change irrational beliefs to progress in life?

To challenge irrational beliefs, the speaker suggests conducting a belief swap: identify the irrational belief, then ask three key questions: Is it logical? Is there proof of this belief in reality? Does believing this help me? By reframing these beliefs into rational, empowering ones, you can shift your mindset and take actions that lead to growth.