Don't Try Too Hard if You're Handsome

Summary

In this video, Rom Wills shares advice specifically for handsome men on how to approach women without appearing desperate. He emphasizes that being cool, calm, and confident is key, advising against trying too hard or using cheesy lines. Handsome men should avoid coming off as players, and instead let women chase them, as over-aggressive behavior can raise suspicion. Rom also discusses how women, often insecure, may scrutinize a handsome man, and stresses the importance of maintaining composure while subtly letting women do the work in the seduction process.

Takeaways

• 😀 Handsome men should avoid trying too hard when approaching women; being too eager can create suspicion.
• 😀 Confidence is key: Handsome men should stay cool, calm, and relaxed while interacting with women.
• 😀 When women see an attractive man being too eager or chasing too hard, they may think something is wrong with him.
• 😀 Women often assume handsome men already have a partner, so if they’re single, it might raise concerns about what’s wrong with them.
• 😀 Instead of declaring you're single, simply say you have 'friends' and leave it at that, avoiding the 'thirsty' approach.
• 😀 Handsome men should let women chase them, as women expect the man to be the one being pursued.
• 😀 If you're handsome and act confident, women will find it attractive when you're calm and not overly eager.
• 😀 Women often feel competitive and scrutinize handsome men more, especially if they feel insecure about their own appearance.
• 😀 The best way for handsome men to approach women is simply with a casual 'hi' and a calm demeanor, avoiding any cheesy pickup lines.
• 😀 Women expect handsome men to have the right 'husband cues' – a clean look, good grooming, and confidence, without being too forward.
• 😀 Handsome men must practice being cool and calm, not acting like a player or using indirect methods to approach women.

Q & A

Why is it important for handsome men to not try too hard when approaching women?

Handsome men should avoid trying too hard because doing so can make them appear insecure or desperate. Women might question why an attractive man is chasing them, which could lead to doubts about his true intentions or self-esteem.

What do women assume about handsome men when they approach them?

Women often assume that handsome men are players or already in relationships. They may be cautious and scrutinize everything the man says to determine if something is wrong with him.

How should a handsome man approach women to avoid appearing thirsty?

A handsome man should approach women in a calm and confident manner, without coming off as desperate or using pickup lines. A simple greeting, like 'Hi, how are you?' is often the best approach.

Why might a woman feel insecure when approached by a handsome man?

A woman may feel insecure when approached by a handsome man because she might believe that someone as attractive as him could be out of her league. This insecurity can make her more guarded and critical of his behavior.

What is the 'husband cues' concept in dating?

The 'husband cues' concept refers to the idea that men who are generically handsome, well-groomed, and confident are perceived as more suitable for long-term relationships. These men are seen as attractive without being overly flashy or intimidating.

Why is it important for a handsome man to stay cool and calm when interacting with women?

Staying cool and calm helps prevent the handsome man from coming across as insecure or trying too hard. It also reassures the woman, easing her own insecurities and making her feel more comfortable.

How can a man’s level of attractiveness affect his interactions with women?

A man's level of attractiveness can influence how women perceive his intentions. Handsome men are often scrutinized more closely, as women may assume they have ulterior motives. On the other hand, less attractive men might be seen as more genuine or approachable.

Why do women appreciate confidence in men who may not be conventionally attractive?

Women appreciate confidence in men who may not be conventionally attractive because it demonstrates self-assurance and the ability to overcome perceived disadvantages, such as height or looks. This confidence often makes the man more appealing.

What should a handsome man do if asked if he's single?

If asked if he's single, a handsome man should be honest but not overshare. He can simply say he has friends or that he knows some women, which keeps things vague without seeming like he's hiding something.

What impact does coming off as thirsty have on a handsome man’s attractiveness?

Coming off as thirsty can greatly diminish a handsome man's attractiveness. It makes him seem desperate or insecure, which can turn women off. Women often want to feel like they are doing the work of seducing the man, rather than the other way around.