How To Handle A DIFFICULT HUSBAND? | Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Summary

In this transcript, a person seeks advice from a Guruji about a husband who neglects his responsibilities, avoids work, spends money recklessly, and doesn't contribute to family life. The Guruji suggests that the wife should continue addressing the situation, perhaps adding intervals of fun when the husband is enjoying himself. The Guruji also recommends a role reversal for a month to see the husband's reaction, encouraging her to approach the situation with a playful, non-calculative mindset. The advice emphasizes the idea of treating life as a game and responding with a sense of lightness.

Takeaways

• 😀 The husband is not fulfilling his responsibilities, avoiding work, and not taking care of the child.
• 😀 He spends much of his time having fun, sleeping in a separate room, and overspending compared to his income.
• 😀 Despite years of communication and attempts to resolve the issue, the situation remains unchanged.
• 😀 The Guruji suggests understanding the husband's side of the story before jumping to conclusions.
• 😀 It is advised to continue addressing the issue with some patience, using intervals when the husband is having fun to join in as well.
• 😀 A potential approach could involve doing all the things the husband is doing and even more for a month to see his reaction.
• 😀 The suggestion includes spending more money, having fun, and possibly living in a separate house to understand his response.
• 😀 Life is seen as a game, and the key is to approach it with fun rather than being overly calculative.
• 😀 The Guruji encourages creating an environment of playfulness to shift the dynamics of the relationship.
• 😀 The message is about balancing responsibility with enjoyment, and exploring the idea of mutual involvement in fun activities.
• 😀 Ultimately, the Guruji’s advice leans towards experimentation and playful engagement rather than rigid expectations.

Q & A

What is the main concern raised in the transcript?

The main concern is about a husband who is not fulfilling his responsibilities, such as not working, not taking care of the child, and spending more money than he earns, while also neglecting his marital duties.

What kind of behavior does the wife describe her husband displaying?

The wife describes her husband as having fun all day long, sleeping in a separate room, spending much more money than he earns, and not participating in family responsibilities.

What is the Guruji's initial response to the wife's complaint?

Guruji suggests that before offering advice, it is important to hear the husband's side of the story, implying a balanced perspective before taking action.

What strategy does Guruji recommend for the wife to deal with the situation?

Guruji suggests that the wife should continue addressing the issues with her husband, possibly in a less confrontational way, and also join him in having fun. Additionally, he suggests mirroring his behavior for a month to observe his reaction.

How does Guruji suggest the wife approach her husband’s behavior?

Guruji advises the wife to approach the situation with a sense of fun and not be too calculative or strategic. By engaging in similar behaviors, the wife might be able to provoke a reaction from the husband and see what happens.

What does Guruji mean by 'life is a game'?

By saying 'life is a game,' Guruji suggests that the wife should not take things too seriously or be overly strategic but rather approach the situation with a playful attitude to see how things unfold.

What alternative living arrangement does Guruji propose?

Guruji proposes that the wife might consider living in a separate house, as a way to see how the husband reacts and possibly prompt him to change his behavior.

Why does Guruji suggest that the wife spend more money than her husband?

Guruji suggests that the wife might mirror her husband's behavior, including spending more money than he earns, to see how he reacts to the same behavior and possibly realize the consequences of his actions.

What does Guruji mean by the wife 'spending more money' and 'having fun'?

Guruji suggests that by spending more money and having fun in the same way the husband does, the wife can create a role reversal situation, which may help the husband reflect on his behavior when he faces the same challenges.

What is the overall tone of Guruji’s advice?

The overall tone of Guruji’s advice is playful and unconventional, encouraging the wife to approach the situation in a lighthearted manner, rather than being confrontational or serious.