Agar Shohar Hambistri Na Karay To - Mufti Tariq Masood Masail

Summary

The script discusses marital issues from an Islamic perspective, focusing on a husband's responsibilities toward his wife, particularly regarding intimacy and emotional connection. It addresses situations where a husband neglects his wife's physical and emotional needs, offering religious insights and solutions such as medical treatment, counseling, and the option of divorce. It also emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and loyalty in marriage, highlighting the consequences of neglecting these duties. The script advises against secret or unauthorized marriages and stresses the significance of family involvement and honesty in relationships.

Takeaways

• 😀 A husband is responsible for fulfilling his wife's marital rights, including sexual relations, and neglecting this can be considered a sin in Islam.
• 😀 If a husband fails to maintain attraction or intimacy towards his wife, it is important for the wife to address this issue directly with him, and if needed, seek professional help like a counselor or doctor.
• 😀 A wife should not resort to zina (fornication) in case of marital issues; instead, she should seek a divorce if necessary, especially if the husband refuses to fulfill his marital duties.
• 😀 If a husband avoids intimacy with his wife for an extended period (like several years), it is a violation of the wife's rights, and this situation can lead to her requesting a divorce.
• 😀 According to Islamic teachings, a husband must not leave his wife for more than four months without fulfilling his marital duties. If this happens, the wife has the right to seek divorce.
• 😀 If a husband does not have any attraction to his wife, this can be a medical or psychological issue. The wife should have an open conversation with him, and the husband should seek treatment if needed.
• 😀 If a husband's lack of attraction is due to the wife's appearance or fitness, she should take responsibility for maintaining herself, while also considering the husband's mental or physical health.
• 😀 A woman should not seek a relationship outside of marriage, even if her husband is not fulfilling his duties. Zina is strictly forbidden in Islam, and a wife must avoid this at all costs.
• 😀 If a husband continuously neglects his wife and refuses to address the issue, the wife has the right to ask for a divorce. If the husband agrees to divorce, he must not delay the process.
• 😀 Marriage without parental consent or involvement (like eloping or court marriages) is discouraged, as it often leads to long-term problems, such as abandonment or the husband losing interest after a short time.

Q & A

What is the role of a husband in fulfilling his wife's needs according to the script?

According to the script, a husband's responsibility is to fulfill his wife's physical and emotional needs, including intimacy. If a husband is intentionally neglecting this, it is considered a sin in Islamic teachings.

Is it a sin if a husband refuses to engage in intimacy with his wife despite having attraction towards her?

Yes, if a husband deliberately refuses to be intimate with his wife, even if he is attracted to her, it is considered haram (forbidden) because it poses a risk of the wife committing a sin.

What does the script say about the consequences if a husband is absent for too long?

The script mentions that if a husband remains away from his wife for more than four months without valid reasons, it becomes a form of oppression. The wife’s rights to intimacy must be respected, and if the husband is unable to fulfill this duty, he should either seek treatment or the wife can seek a divorce.

What should a wife do if her husband shows no attraction towards her?

The script advises that if the husband shows no attraction towards his wife, the wife should communicate with him and seek medical help if needed. If the issue is psychological, a psychologist or psychiatrist may be consulted. If no resolution occurs, the wife is entitled to ask for a divorce.

What does the Quran say about a husband's obligation in marital relations?

The Quran instructs that a husband who has sworn not to engage in intimacy with his wife should do so for no longer than four months. After this period, the wife may seek divorce. The idea is to prevent injustice and avoid putting the wife in a situation where she might sin due to neglect.

What is the punishment for a wife who seeks intimacy outside her marriage?

Seeking intimacy outside the marriage is strictly prohibited in Islam. The wife would be considered a sinner if she engages in such behavior. The script emphasizes that in cases of marital neglect, the wife should either seek divorce or endure patiently without resorting to immoral actions.

What is the recommended course of action if a wife is unable to fulfill her emotional or physical needs?

If a wife is unable to fulfill her emotional or physical needs due to her husband's behavior or lack of attention, the script advises the wife to either seek divorce or live with patience while preserving her dignity and purity.

What advice is given regarding secret or unofficial marriages?

The script strongly advises against secret marriages, especially those conducted without parental consent or through legal means like court marriages. Such marriages are often risky as they can lead to abandonment, emotional distress, and a lack of trust in the long run.

What is the potential consequence of a man marrying without parental involvement or approval?

The consequence is that the woman involved might be misled or abandoned once the initial excitement fades. The man might lose interest, leaving the woman emotionally and financially vulnerable, which makes secret marriages harmful to both parties.

How does the script address the issue of a woman seeking a second marriage while still being engaged?

The script advises against secret marriages, especially for women who are already engaged. It suggests that if the engagement does not lead to marriage soon, the woman should communicate her concerns to her family and consider ending the engagement to pursue a healthier relationship with someone else.