Cara Mengatasi Anak Yang Tidak Mau Sekolah & Penyebab Anak tidak mau Sekolah - dr Aisah Dahlan CMHt

Summary

This transcript discusses the developmental stages and characteristics of children, focusing on the differences between introverted and extroverted children. It highlights how some children, particularly introverts, may prefer learning at home or with trusted caregivers, such as their mothers, due to their natural inclination for solitude and comfort. The conversation also explores how these traits may influence schooling choices, like homeschooling, and the importance of understanding a child's needs. It emphasizes the role of parents in guiding children through their educational journey while being mindful of their temperament and emotional security.

Takeaways

• 😀 Children may be hesitant about school due to early brain development, where the right brain often matures before the left brain, especially in children under 6 years old.
• 😀 Fear or hesitation about school could stem from a child's introverted nature, preferring solitude and feeling overwhelmed by crowds or new environments.
• 😀 Introverted children tend to thrive in environments where they feel safe and comfortable, such as learning at home with a trusted parent.
• 😀 Not all children want to go to school immediately; introverted children may prefer homeschooling or online learning due to their comfort with solitude.
• 😀 Homeschooling, especially before the pandemic, catered to introverted children who were often bullied in traditional schools for being shy or quiet.
• 😀 Introverted children may develop into strategic thinkers, IT professionals, or scientists, roles that don't necessarily require constant interaction with large groups of people.
• 😀 Parents should be patient and understanding when introverted children resist school, and not force them into environments that overwhelm them.
• 😀 It is essential to educate children, especially introverted ones, about school before they attend so they are mentally prepared for the change.
• 😀 If an introverted child is too anxious about school, allowing them time to adjust, possibly with a parent nearby, can help ease their transition.
• 😀 For parents who work, balancing professional commitments and attending to their introverted child's needs (such as accompanying them to school) may require flexibility, such as requesting time off or adjusting work hours.

Q & A

What are the key factors affecting a child's reluctance to go to school at the age of 5?

A child's reluctance to go to school at the age of 5 may stem from their developmental stage, where their right brain develops faster than the left brain. This makes them perceive school as a complicated and stressful environment. Additionally, children with introverted tendencies may prefer quieter, safer spaces like home, leading to resistance against school settings that involve larger social interactions.

What is the significance of understanding whether a child is introverted, extroverted, or ambiverted?

Understanding whether a child is introverted, extroverted, or ambiverted helps tailor their learning experience to their personality. Introverted children may prefer learning in smaller, more controlled environments, while extroverted children may thrive in interactive, social settings. Recognizing these traits ensures that the child’s needs are met in a way that promotes their comfort and success.

How does the pandemic affect introverted children’s preference for learning at home?

The pandemic has allowed introverted children to experience online learning, which many of them prefer because it provides a quieter and more solitary environment. Introverts may find traditional schooling overwhelming due to the social interactions involved, while online learning allows them to focus and learn in a space that feels safer and more comfortable.

What impact does homeschooling have on introverted children?

Homeschooling is an excellent option for introverted children as it provides a calm, controlled environment for learning. These children may feel more comfortable learning at home with a trusted adult, like their mother, as opposed to the stress and distractions of a traditional school environment. This approach can help introverted children avoid feelings of being overwhelmed and can foster more productive learning.

How can parents support introverted children in school transitions?

Parents can support introverted children by gradually easing them into the school environment. This might include accompanying the child during the initial days of school to provide emotional support and reassurance. It’s important to acknowledge the child’s fears and provide comfort, ensuring that the transition happens at a pace that suits the child’s needs.

What should parents avoid saying when discussing school with introverted children?

Parents should avoid dismissive or negative language like, 'I can’t be with you because I have to work,' as this can cause emotional distress in introverted children. Such statements can make the child feel unsupported and may lead to a sense of abandonment. Instead, parents should frame the situation in a reassuring way, explaining that they will be there for the child while encouraging independence.

What should a parent do if their introverted child is anxious about attending school?

If an introverted child is anxious about school, parents should not force them into the situation immediately. It’s essential to give the child time to adjust. Parents can accompany the child to school at first and gradually reduce their involvement. Additionally, parents can talk to the child beforehand to prepare them for the school experience, highlighting aspects of school that are calm and safe.

Why is it important for parents to recognize their child’s personality type early on?

Recognizing a child's personality type early allows parents to provide the right kind of support and environment for the child’s growth. Introverted children may benefit from a quieter, more structured learning environment, while extroverted children may thrive in a more interactive, social setting. Early recognition helps in choosing the right educational approach, such as homeschooling or more traditional schooling, and reduces the risk of unnecessary stress for the child.

How can working parents balance their jobs while supporting their introverted child's educational needs?

Working parents can balance their jobs with supporting their introverted child by negotiating flexible work arrangements, such as working from home or taking short-term leave. This flexibility allows the parent to be present during the child’s initial school days or while helping them adjust to homeschooling. Open communication with employers can help facilitate this balance.

What should a parent do if their introverted child feels overwhelmed in a school environment?

If an introverted child feels overwhelmed at school, parents should first ensure that the child’s emotional needs are addressed. This might involve discussing the child’s feelings, offering reassurance, and taking steps to reduce the child’s anxiety. Parents can also explore alternative education options, like homeschooling or part-time schooling, to provide the child with a more comfortable and manageable learning environment.