Once you understand women, they're never confusing, just predictable.

Summary

Le script du vidéaste Joker aborde la complexité des relations entre hommes et femmes, en se concentrant sur les stéréotypes et les comportements répétés au fil des ans. Il partage son expérience personnelle et des observations sur les dynamiques de la séduction, la manière dont les femmes et les hommes peuvent être prévisibles ou confus, et la nécessité de comprendre la nature humaine avant de s'engager dans des relations. Joker critique également les conseils trompeurs et manipulatifs trouvés sur les médias sociaux et appelle à une réflexion sur la façon dont chacun contribue au paysage de la rencontre et de la date.

Takeaways

• 😀 Les hommes et les femmes n'ont pas changé dans leur façon de se comporter dans les relations amoureuses depuis des décennies.
• 😀 Les hommes ont tendance à chercher des aventures sans lendemain et à éviter les relations sérieuses, surtout lorsqu'ils sont jeunes.
• 😀 Les femmes tombent souvent dans le piège de sortir avec des 'bad boys' et se retrouvent souvent déçues et blessées.
• 😀 Les femmes continuent de répéter les mêmes erreurs en matière de rencontres, même après plusieurs expériences négatives.
• 😀 Les hommes et les femmes fonctionnent selon des règles cérébrales primitives et des normes sociales, qui influencent leur comportement en matière de rencontres.
• 😀 Il y a une distinction entre les hommes qui cherchent simplement des aventures et ceux qui veulent des relations sérieuses.
• 😀 Les conseils red pill sur les rencontres sont souvent mal compris ou mal appliqués par de nombreux hommes.
• 😀 Les dynamiques de rencontres ont été influencées par l'évolution des normes sociales et l'essor des médias sociaux et des applications de rencontres.
• 😀 Les attentes et les comportements des femmes en matière de rencontres peuvent être influencés par des conseils contradictoires provenant de leurs pairs ou des médias sociaux.
• 😀 La compréhension des dynamiques de rencontres et l'adaptation à ces dynamiques peuvent améliorer les expériences de rencontres pour les hommes et les femmes.

Q & A

Quel est le thème principal de la vidéo de Joker ?

Le thème principal de la vidéo est la dynamique des relations entre hommes et femmes, en particulier sur la manière dont certaines femmes ne semblent pas apprendre de leurs expériences passées dans le domaine de la dating et des relations.

Quelle est la première leçon que Joker a tirée de ses parents sur la manière de se comporter lors des rendez-vous ?

La première leçon qu'il a apprise de ses parents était d'être un gentleman, de ne pas se comporter comme un porc et d'être poli avec les parents des femmes pour qu'ils ne pensent pas qu'il cherche juste à s'installer avec leur fille.

Quel exemple Joker donne-t-il pour illustrer comment les femmes peuvent être prévisibles dans leurs relations ?

Joker donne l'exemple d'une femme qui, malgré avoir été brûlée par des hommes 'bad boys' à plusieurs reprises, continue de tomber dans le même piège, montrant ainsi une prévisibilité dans les relations.

Comment Joker décrit-il son expérience passée avec les femmes et les relations ?

Joker décrit son expérience passée comme étant variée, allant de mariages jeunes à des relations plus légères, et mentionne avoir eu des relations avec des femmes de différents pays lors de ses voyages.

Quel conseil donne Joker aux hommes qui cherchent à se mettre en forme et à améliorer leur vie sociale ?

Joker conseille aux hommes de se mettre en forme, de devenir confortables à discuter avec les gens, de pouvoir faire des plaisanteries rapides et d'être intéressants pour améliorer leurs chances dans le domaine de la dating.

Quelle est la critique que Joker faite à propos de certaines femmes qui cherchent à changer les hommes qu'elles sont attirées par ?

Joker critique l'idée que certaines femmes pensent qu'elles peuvent changer les hommes 'bad boys' en devenant leur petite amie ou en les amenant à se stabiliser, malgré les signes clairs que ces hommes ne cherchent que des relations casual.

Quel est le point de vue de Joker sur les conseils des 'red pill' guys et leur influence sur les relations ?

Joker est contre certaines idées des 'red pill' guys qui encouragent les hommes à manipuler les femmes pour des relations, estimant que cela contribue au problème plutôt qu'à l'améliorer.

Quelle est la position de Joker sur les hommes qui paient pour des relations avec des femmes sur OnlyFans ?

Joker est contre l'idée des hommes payant pour des relations sur OnlyFans, car il considère que cela contribue à perpétuer un problème dans le monde de la dating.

Comment Joker défend-il l'idée d'éviter de participer à des comportements nuisibles dans les relations ?

Joker soutient que pour changer les choses dans le monde de la dating, les hommes doivent s'abstenir de participer à des comportements nuisibles, comme les one-night stands, et ainsi montrer qu'ils ne font pas partie du problème.

Quelle invitation Joker lance-t-il aux gens intéressés par son travail et sa communauté ?

Joker invite les gens intéressés par son travail à rejoindre la communauté Better Bachelor, où ils peuvent assister à des projections de films en ligne et partager des moments de détente avec d'autres membres.

Outlines

00:00

😀 Introduction à la thématique de la relation

Le narrateur commence par se présenter comme étant célibataire et disponible, puis aborde le sujet d'une vidéo virale sur TikTok où une femme interroge les hommes sur leur comportement dans les relations. Il partage son opinion que les femmes n'ont pas changé tout au long de sa vie et qu'elles ne comprennent toujours pas la façon dont les hommes fonctionnent. Il mentionne également que les valeurs et normes sociaux ont évolué, mais que les femmes ne semblent pas avoir appris à gérer les relations face aux hommes.

05:00

😔 La critique des conseils et des attitudes des 'red pill'

Le narrateur exprime son mécontentement à l'égard de certains individus qui se réfèrent à eux-mêmes comme 'red pill' et qui, selon lui, donnent de mauvais conseils ou ne respectent pas leurs propres normes. Il mentionne qu'il y a des cas où des hommes paient pour l'attention féminine plutôt que de vraiment apprendre à interagir avec les femmes. Il partage son expérience personnelle pour montrer qu'il a eu des relations réussies sans être riche ou avoir de grandes dimensions physiques, soulignant l'importance de la communication et de la valeur sociale.

10:03

🏎️ Les voitures de sport et leur rôle dans l'attention des femmes

Le narrateur parle de son expérience avec des voitures de sport, comme la Mustang GT et la Corvette, et comment elles ont attiré l'attention des femmes. Il partage des anecdotes de ses voyages et de ses rencontres avec des femmes du monde entier, mettant en évidence que malgré son manque de stature physique, il a toujours été en mesure de captiver l'attention des femmes grâce à son charme et sa capacité à communiquer.

15:05

🍷 Les stratégies de séduction et leur efficacité

Dans ce paragraphe, le narrateur décrit les techniques de séduction qu'il a utilisées, telles que la conversation drôle et la banter, ainsi que l'importance de ne pas paraître trop désireux. Il insiste sur le fait que ces stratégies ont fonctionné pour lui à travers différentes décennies, et qu'elles peuvent toujours être efficaces malgré les changements dans les normes sociales et la présence des applications de rencontres.

20:07

💭 Le dilemme de la femme et ses attentes dans la relation

Le narrateur présente un scénario où une femme exprime son inquiétude après avoir couché avec un homme sur la deuxième date. Elle s'interroge sur la conduite de l'homme qui ne l'a pas rappelée la nuit, malgré le fait qu'ils aient eu une activité intime. Il critique l'attitude de la femme qui, selon lui, a des attentes irréalistes et qui ne tient pas compte de la nature des hommes, ce qui mène à sa propre frustration.

25:11

🤔 La compréhension des motivations et des comportements dans les relations

Le narrateur partage son analyse des motivations derrière les comportements des hommes et des femmes dans les relations. Il soutient que les femmes ne comprennent pas ou refusent de comprendre les hommes, ce qui les rend prévisibles. Il donne des conseils aux hommes sur la façon de se comporter dans le monde de la dating, en mettant l'accent sur la nécessité d'être en forme, de bien communiquer et d'être drôle pour réussir.

30:12

🚫 Le rejet de la manipulation dans les relations

Dans ce paragraphe, le narrateur condamne la manipulation dans les relations, qu'il s'agisse d'hommes ou de femmes. Il partage son opinion que les hommes devraient comprendre la nature des femmes et agir en conséquence, plutôt que de se plaindre du système de la dating. Il insiste sur l'importance d'être honnête et de ne pas contribuer au problème en payant pour des interactions ou en participant à des comportements irresponsables.

35:14

🎉 Invitation à rejoindre la communauté Better Bachelor

En conclusion, le narrateur invite les téléspectateurs à rejoindre la communauté Better Bachelor, où ils peuvent assister à des projections de films et partager des moments de détente en ligne. Il met en avant l'atmosphère positive et l'opportunité de socialisation pour les membres de la communauté.

Keywords

💡Single

Le terme 'single' se réfère à une personne qui n'est pas en couple. Dans la vidéo, l'orateur mentionne plusieurs fois qu'il est 'single and available', soulignant qu'il est célibataire et ouvert à des relations.

💡Red pill

Le concept de 'red pill' provient du film 'Matrix' et est utilisé dans la vidéo pour désigner une prise de conscience des dynamiques sociales et des réalités des relations modernes. L'orateur critique ceux qui se disent 'red pill' mais ne suivent pas les principes qu'ils prêchent.

💡Dating

Le 'dating' fait référence à l'acte de sortir avec quelqu'un dans un contexte romantique. La vidéo explore les expériences de l'orateur avec le dating, ses succès et ses échecs, et ses réflexions sur la façon dont les hommes et les femmes naviguent dans les relations.

💡Social norms

Les 'social norms' ou normes sociales désignent les règles et les comportements acceptés au sein d'une société. L'orateur compare les normes sociales d'aujourd'hui avec celles des décennies précédentes, affirmant que les valeurs morales et les attentes ont changé.

💡Hookup

Un 'hookup' est une relation sexuelle occasionnelle sans engagement. L'orateur discute de ses nombreuses expériences de hookups et de la manière dont cela influence la perception des relations et des attentes des femmes.

💡Player

Un 'player' est un homme qui cherche à avoir des relations sexuelles avec de nombreuses femmes sans intention d'engagement. L'orateur se décrit lui-même comme un ancien player, expliquant comment il manipulait les situations pour obtenir ce qu'il voulait.

💡Accountability

'Accountability' se réfère à la responsabilité que l'on prend pour ses actions. Dans la vidéo, l'orateur critique les femmes qui ne prennent pas de responsabilité pour leurs décisions dans les relations et blâment les hommes pour leurs malheurs.

💡Moral decay

'Moral decay' désigne la détérioration des valeurs et des normes éthiques dans une société. L'orateur argue que la société actuelle souffre d'une décadence morale, où les comportements autrefois jugés inacceptables sont maintenant courants.

💡Relationship

Une 'relationship' est une relation entre deux personnes, généralement dans un contexte romantique. L'orateur parle des différents types de relations qu'il a eues, de ses mariages et divorces, et de la difficulté de maintenir des relations durables.

💡Attraction

'Attraction' désigne l'attrait physique ou émotionnel qu'une personne ressent pour une autre. La vidéo examine comment l'attraction joue un rôle crucial dans la formation des relations et pourquoi certaines femmes se retrouvent attirées par des hommes qui ne sont pas bons pour elles.

Highlights

A TikTok video questioning men's intentions with women has gone viral.

The speaker notes that women have not changed in their approach to dating over the past 37 years.

Social norms, morals, and values have decayed, affecting dating behaviors.

Women often ignore how men think and operate when they are attracted to a man.

The speaker believes women will never learn from past mistakes in dating.

The speaker emphasizes the differences between how men and women perceive dating and relationships.

There is a critique of 'red pill' communities and the advice they give regarding dating.

The speaker shares personal experiences, including multiple marriages and divorces.

Women often put physical attraction and instant gratification ahead of forming a relationship.

Men will often disqualify women as serious partners if they sleep with them too quickly.

The speaker argues that understanding the nature of men and women can make dating predictable.

Women frequently misinterpret casual dating behavior as the beginning of a relationship.

The speaker discusses the importance of being sociable and confident in attracting women.

The impact of social media and dating apps on modern dating practices is highlighted.

The speaker advocates for responsible behavior in dating and criticizes manipulative tactics.

A call for men to understand and navigate the dating landscape without perpetuating negative behaviors.

The speaker concludes with an invitation to join their community for discussions and entertainment.

Transcripts

and your name single

unavailable single and available single

and available that's me that's me I'm

single and available I'm single and

available if anybody wants to know okay

I'm going to I'm going to go

now okay I'm single and available though

guys welcome to better Bachelor my name

is Joker with a face for radio and a

voice for print um this video's kind of

gone viral uh to gal on Tik Tok as all

videos of anybody anymore is on Tik Tok

and she's been asking this question of

of hey are are guys like this are are

men do men just hit it and quit it and

this gal's got to be mid-30s I think

maybe even later 30s and I watched the

video and I realized women have been the

same not only in

in my entire life which is I mean I

started paying attention to women maybe

around I don't know 13 or so so that's

at least 37 years um women have been the

same all my life and they were the same

before that because my my parents kind

of taught me what I do should and

shouldn't do when dating women and one

of the things was to be a gentleman and

not not be a pig and be nice to the

father so he doesn't think that I'm just

trying to shack up with her daughter so

but this is this is knowledge coming for

my parents uh and they were married you

know I think in the

1960s uh yeah it would have been late 19

late 1950s early 1960s so they knew the

deal too and of course you can watch

movies from the 1960s and this is this

is common knowledge it's been around for

60 years maybe even

plus but for some reason women still

refuse to learn this lesson and I just

realized something they're never going

to learn they're never going to learn

how men think how men operate or or they

know how men think and operate and they

choose to ignore it when they're really

attracted to a guy like when oh he's

super hot and it's only the second date

and I totally know I shouldn't hook up

with him but he's super hot and I'm

going to do it anyway and then they get

burned and something happens and the guy

bounces or floats on him or ghosts on

them and they're like I ah how awful and

then they go out and do it again and

again and again until they're 35 like

this gal and and now they're in

desperation mode wanting to settle down

but they can't settle for the average

guy and they can't stop sleeping with

the bad boys and and this the next

generation is learning the same thing

and so on and so on this is this is just

how women are now I think they've always

been like this if we're to be honest

about it but because of social norms and

morals and values that were instilled

whether it was by parents by Church uh

by the education system which was way

different before uh the education system

became

nationalized women were taught hey yes

you're going to want to do this stuff

but if you do it people are going to

think poorly of you and you're you're

going to probably end up being a mom a

single mom and instead of now you know

it used to be you'd have it and maybe

give it up for abortion before that you

were traveling having the kid and giving

it to a nunnery or or leaving it with

your you know a family relative all of a

sudden coming back the gal would finish

school and then maybe go back and pick

up the kid because she didn't want to be

known as the girl that put out when she

wasn't married got pregnant and so on

and so forth but because social social

because of the social moral Decay now

it's no longer a big deal but women

still haven't learned how men operate

and and Men honestly should change the

way they operate but they're not going

to because it's lizard brain stuff you

know you put an attractive woman in

front of a guy and she says hey do you

want to sleep with me guys don't have

don't have the risk of do I know her

should I was she GNA do this and leave

me in a bad way am I going to get

pregnant and get you know strung strung

up in a in a bad way or have something

bad happen to me guys are just kind of

like well yeah and even then the young

men that that did the the deed and maybe

got a girl pregnant their fathers or

family shipped them off into the

military to get them the heck out of

Dodge and maybe get some some rational

you know control in their lives but I'm

going to I'm going to talk about this

and this gal here but before I do

there's something else I want to do and

I want to take just a minute to do this

because I do think it is

important recently I've been seeing a

lot of especially on Twitter uh a lot of

red pill guys out there talking and get

and that's what my other videos about

today and they're either giving bad

advice or or they're not living up to

their own standards or uh in many cases

I think they're paying for girls and and

not

actually not actually dating them or or

learning how to to talk to them and I

think they're just going out there

spending some money getting some video

and photo shoots and then trying to sell

a book or something else I don't know

what's going on with these communities

not all of them of course but there's a

lot of of people out there that that

don't understand uh at least don't

understand how dating really works and

in many of my posts and many of my

videos and many of my comments people

are coming on my channel and saying and

you guys don't see it very often in the

comments here on YouTube but I do see it

on Twitter when I post something and

then someone wants to insult me and they

they they call men that are red pill or

that decide not to date or decide that

they want to do a different thing in

life they call them incels they call

them losers they call them butt hurt who

just can't get women I know many of you

can get women but because I'm a content

creator and you guys listen to me for my

thoughts on things I wanted to give you

a little bit of rundown like a very

quick rundown of my past not the the

details the dayby day but the fact that

I was married at

19 no wait I take that back married by

21 and divorced by 22

because she left me for a guy that had a

ton of money I went into a tail spin I

decided I I just I didn't want to ever

fall in love again I just wanted to

sleep with women did that till I was

almost 30 and and then I tried marriage

again it lasted for 8 years uh actually

we were together eight years I think we

were married for six and then she

decided she wanted to pursue her career

and I went into another Tail Spin of

where I just decided I'm never going to

get married again this isn't for me I'm

just going to hook up with women and

that's why I can say you know hey

hooking up with women is not going to

make you happy getting married in many

cases is not going to make make you

happy I got out of it lucky because I

didn't have any money when I was a when

I was a young buck this is me at 19

years old as I entered the military and

those of you that have have been

longtime viewers have seen me talk about

this and my dating past before but

there's probably 100,000 new subscribers

uh that haven't seen the young bu that

was uh the young Joker and yes I went

out and I I had my daanes and I had my

fun and even though I was on the shorter

side I was relatively successful with

women because I had a good game I could

I could I could kind of make him laugh

and have fun I I pretended at least I

had high values even though I may not

have and I kept in good shape and that

carried through all the way till you

know here here I am in my late 40s uh

this is about I think four or five years

ago uh still in pretty good shape um

obviously the hair is gone now and this

is when I just finished up with one of

my workouts and I was feeling

particularly muscular and good-look this

day and so I snap and this is when I was

doing

ultramarathons and um and and doing my

ultra marathon swim ultramarathon

running doing tough mutter events uh and

doing CrossFit and I was in darn good

shape and here I still had no problem

with tr ing women even though I haven't

gotten any taller and gosh knows I

haven't gotten any better looking over

the

years and and you know something in this

photo I was I was single and I was happy

a lot happier than than the young man

that was going around chasing tail and

trying to impress women when I was young

I went so far as to buy up I was it was

1996 so I would have been 24 years old

and I went out and bought a Mustang GT

brand new off the lot loaded loaded I

ended up driving and owning this for

about a year in Florida and the car

payment was about $400 a month because

it was a pretty expensive car 385 I

think it was a month now that sounds

cheap to you guys out there but back in

the day that's kind of an expensive car

back in

1996 and uh the insurance payments in

Florida because I was living near Miami

was close to $400 a month I could afford

this for about a year uh with my job

that I had until I realized that you

know to I I I'd get too many speeding

tickets if I couldn't control myself cuz

it was a stick shift and a heck of a lot

of fun and it was costing me $800 a

month of which I did not really have and

and I wanted to save up and kind of

better myself so I ended up selling it

but I didn't learn because after I got

married and then I got divorced and I

was in my what late 30s I think it was I

went out and I bought a a a a Corvette

now the difference is this Corvette when

I bought it I think it was 20 let me

think I think it was 2013 when I bought

it and this Corvette was 2011 or at 2001

sorry this is like a C5 Corvette my

years may be a little off it's been a

long time I don't remember but I it's a

2001 maybe a 2002 and I bought it in

like 2012 2013 something like that and

but I because number one I always wanted

to have a sports car and number two you

want to talk about a car that got

attention this thing didn't have a

scratch on it it was beautiful and even

though it was 12 years old it only had

6,000 miles on it because the father

bought it for his kid for a graduation

present from from graduating from Duke

University in North Carolina and his kid

wanted a BMW instead and Rich daddy

doctor uh got him the BMW and stuck this

in the garage and and just drove it

around a little bit here and there to

have fun with it and then decided to

sell it so I got it on a steel and a

dream and I had this for for quite a few

years

could I afford it yes should I have

afforded it I don't know CU I only put

about 5,000 miles on it in three or four

years because it was so nice I didn't

want to get stone chips and dings and

and rocks and everything on it but I'll

tell you it got me the attention of the

ladies and so when I was a a young 30s

something guy or late 30-some guy um I

think in this photo I'm I'm later 30s in

this one I don't remember exactly you

can see still see I had some hair but it

was starting to thin on top I was going

to the clubs I was hanging out with

friends I was drinking I was partying it

up and I had no problems getting

attention from women um these

are something I would do is I would get

social validation in other words you go

to the same bar quite often you get to

know some guy friends you get to know

the bartenders you kind of get known

around the place then you make friends

with some of the women and people see

that you're you're social and and

comfortable and and you can joke around

with everybody and everybody likes you

and that gives you some value and

because of that I could go in there many

times and talk to the female friends

that I had and who were were not

bad-looking I'm not saying they're

models by any way um but they they

weren't bad-looking um I think many of

you would say hey you know what she'd

make a cute girlfriend and then from

there other women would see me hanging

out with a bunch of you know pretty good

decent looking girls and that gave me

social value and then when I went up to

talk to them and had a joke I was

already kind of pre

uh pre accepted because they saw me

speaking to other women and other women

laughing and having a good time with me

and and enjoying my time and so they

didn't feel like I was a creep or a

weirdo things were much different back

then because we didn't have the dating

apps and everything like

that moving forward I traveled around

the world and again as I've stated many

times this is not because of the bug

this is because very dusty roads driving

a motorcycle in the Philippines but as I

did my travels I still always was

hanging out out and sleeping with

various women whether it was Southeast

Asian women or women in Australia or

women in I think this was Iceland uh or

you know women as I was backpacking

across Norway uh or a a uh a Ukrainian

woman that was in uh Poland at the

time and or here in the United

States I never really had any problems

dating I want to tell you guys this

because a couple of things yes things

have

changed yes things are way better

overseas um but I'm a 5 foot six 5 foot

s guy um I'm not in great shape now I've

gained quite a I won't even lie I've

gained quite a bit of weight just

working around the buildings and I

haven't been doing my my gym and my diet

properly which I've I've said I was

going to start multiple times and then I

get caught up on something else and and

I just don't but in the same token it's

not a priority for me to have like an

amazing six-pack body and look really

good and a tight t-shirt anymore now I

just want to be healthy and and I want

to feel good and I want to be strong and

and I don't want to have any like

physical problems that's really where

where my mindset is now today but as a

younger man or even as a as an older

dude like here in my early or mid 4S I

think um you know I was running Ultra

marathons I was going to the gym at 5' 6

or 5'7 and this is going back 5 years

ago so it's not like we're going back to

the Stone Age I could still talk to

women I could still get phone numbers uh

I could still get dates and it's not

because I'm all that you know it's not

because I'm all that it's because I have

the ability to to communicate and talk

to women okay so so I I wanted to

mention this because when we get to this

video here when I say things are always

the same I mean they're always the

same women have a tendency that if

they're attracted or they get the

butterflies they will sleep with a man

in my day when I was

younger it was you met them in pubs or

clubs or bars you had to have really

good game you'd go up you'd strike a

conversation um you'd be funny they get

a laugh and then you would stop talking

to her and go talk to your guy friends

and then you'd go up and talk to another

woman and then you go talk to your guy

friends then You' shoot a game of pool

then you come up and order a beer and

then as you swing back around around and

maybe you didn't talk to the woman for

half an hour or 45 minutes you come back

up and you say something interesting I'm

still nursing the same beer do you want

want me to put a little you want me to

put a little rubber baby baby nip on

there and you can take your time on it

and she'd laugh or no I'm just here for

and you have that banter in

conversation but once that happens you'd

be surprised how quickly and easily they

will sleep with you if if you're in

pretty good shape and you have a really

good Gift of Gab now it may be a little

bit tougher now but there are women out

there that say they'll only sleep with 6

foot or they only date 6 foot or they

only date millionaires or and that same

woman will sleep with a dude that works

at Taco Bell and uh he's 5 foot n

because he's funny he's Charming he's in

good shape and she's had a couple of

beers that that's just it's still that

that same way as it is today so I

mention this because you guys that don't

get out there don't date don't put

yourself out there because you're

listening to guys like myself or anybody

else that says hey it's a mess out there

in dating I want you to go out and still

attempt it because there's women like

this that haven't learned the lesson and

they go out and do the same thing over

and over and over again and you you know

they will make that mistake with you too

that's that's the great news now you may

not want to necessarily sleep with women

but and and you want maybe a

relationship or something like that but

my whole point is it is possible because

women refuse to learn their lessons so

let's listen to her give the same speech

in the same lesson that all women do

over the course of time with the same

results I need the girls to weigh in on

this cuz I can't tell if I'm being

completely irrational or unreasonable so

I've been seeing this guy and we've seen

each other a couple of times at this

point we decided to have dinner the

other night she says she's seeing this

guy and they've they've she's seen him a

couple of times which means one couple

is two a few times is three or more I

don't know if you guys know this but a

couple is two which means she's seen him

a couple times one time second time she

takes him home so we go out to dinner we

both have a couple of glasses of wine at

dinner and then we go back to his place

together this is my first time at his

place and I think we all can assume what

happened from there we can assume what

happened from there because this is how

modern women are who can't control

themselves she had a couple of glasses

of wine he's good-looking he invites her

to her place she can't control the

tingles she gets excited and she goes

yeah and we can assume what happened

from there which is I slept with him so

I'm going home and he walks me to my car

thankfully and as we're saying goodbye

he tells me to text him when I get home

courteous right took me about 20 minutes

to get home so by the time I'm home it's

around 2: a.m. I texted him that I made

it home safely and he doesn't respond so

he texts me back the next morning and

he's like glad you made it home okay he

obviously fell asleep but I just feel

like given the circumstances I'm a new

girl that you're seeing we both had a

couple of glasses of wine with dinner we

just hooked up and I was driving home

late at night I feel like he should have

stayed awake to make sure I made it home

okay obviously I get it that late at

night no one wants to stay up but like

when you're

dating don't you want to make sure she

made it especially as a guy I mean like

I don't have many means to defend myself

like should something happen I don't

know I just feel like he should have

made sure I made it home okay is that

unreasonable I mean it was like 2: a.m.

so I get it but at the same time I'm

like I don't know I need what's funny is

she still got the the text and the call

the next morning when he said hey glad

you made it home

okay that's I mean that's more than a

player would do that's a guy that's at

least like okay I got my rocks off um

and after a couple glasses of wine he

decided ah she'll be fine and then he

went to

bed she wants the and and now she says

uh when you're seeing each other he

never said that they're seeing each

other see this is the this is what women

do is go she's gone on a couple of dates

she has a couple of glasses of wine her

inhibitions goes down he probably

doesn't have any cuz he's a dude they

hook up he's nice to her he walks her to

the car

he she goes home he he probably crashes

out and in the morning he responds to

her and now she says when you're seeing

somebody this is she put the bedroom

ahead of the relationship as they always

do now or at least most of the time they

do and he got his rocks off and then he

went to bed now he will see her again

that's the good news and how do I know

this because he responded to the text

saying hey glad you made it home

okay does that does he look at her as

girlfriend material no why because on

the second date she slept with him he

doesn't really care that badly and this

is what women do the same thing over and

and and oh and and does he see her as

are they seeing each other no he does

not think that at all how do I know this

because this is the way I used to

operate when I was a young guy we'd go

out I'd meet somebody like I said when

you go to the pubs you get phone numbers

and things like that that it wasn't

always the one night stand although a

lot of times you

could instead you'd get her number you'd

message her a couple of times and guys I

cannot tell you how many times this

happened to me directly especially if

you have good text game and you're funny

and you're interesting on your first

conversation you can tease them over

text you can flirt with them over texts

and yes you she can will come over to

your place and bring a bottle of wine or

she will invite you over to her or you

go out for a quick a couple of drinks at

the pub and then straight back to her

place it happened for me in my 40s it

happened for me in my 30s it happened

for me in my 20s it's always the

same and women have yet to learn that

there are men like I used to be and

there are a lot of guys that still are

that will say hey I'm I'm in this for

the hookup I'm in this for the having

fun if a woman said to me or says to

guys uh at least honest guys she says

I'm looking for a long-term relationship

I want something that's I tell you now I

used to say oh I'm not really into that

I'm just kind of goofing off and having

fun you never know if you meet the right

somebody maybe something might happen

but other than that I'm just kind of

doing the casual thing you'd be

surprised how many women would say oh

that's cool I totally get that and then

you hang and now this wouldn't be on a

date this would be like if you're asking

for a phone number in a club or

something or other but but she still

sees you out having fun she sees you're

sociable and she'll think to herself I

bet I could change him I bet I bet I

could convince him that I would make a

good girlfriend I bet I can change his

mind and so you'd flirt a little bit

more maybe hook up that night maybe get

the number later on hook up and then

after hooking up for a couple of times

you get the well what are we texts what

are we what are we doing you and I I

would inevitably say what do you mean

what are we we're we're going on dates

and hooking up she'd say yeah but I told

you I just wanted a serious relationship

yes yes you told me that and I told you

I was just hooking up and having fun and

then they get mad at you even though you

told them right up front what your plans

were and what you were doing and what's

going on and then they get angry with

you like it's your fault like you trick

them or you convince them to sleep with

you and it's the same game that's been

going on for all of time and then she in

instead of taking accountability for for

maybe what she's done she blames you now

the difference is back when I was a

younger guy she just get get mad at you

and call you an a-hole or something or

other now what women like to do is they

like to say that you're the bad guy that

you you somehow manipulated her and then

all of a sudden you're getting in

trouble with the law or the school

system if you're in college or your

employer because she decides to dox you

or social media or she files a civil

suit against you you know 18 years later

whatever that's the the litigious system

that we have now where but women have

never taken accountability for this

stuff I wanted to talk about this

because so many men today have the wrong

mindset about dating and about

women women are not awful creatures they

just have a set of hardwired rules in

their brain that they op operate by and

if you don't understand it it's

confusing if you do understand it it's

predictable guys if you want to date if

you want to sleep with women get in

shape get comfortable talking to people

be able to to crack a quick joke and be

funny and be interesting that's why you

know most of these most of these people

that I whether it was in Asia or whether

it was in Europe or whether it was you

know here in the United States or in

Australia or Poland or

wherever most of these women knew me for

less

than two or three hours one or two hours

either they picked me up because I was

hitchhiking and they gave me a ride for

a while and then we'd talk and maybe

stop in for a place and a bite to eat

and we struck it up and then then they

wanted to continue giving me a ride if

you know what I'm saying for a little

while or I go to Southeast Asia contact

them ahead of time vet them make make

sure they're not some professional that

they're actually you know a girl that

has a normal job and wants the to give a

guy the quote unquote girlfriend

experience for a couple of weeks and she

can take some time off from her job

that's what I did There's ways to work

the system that work for you and that's

what guys do that's what we do because

we're either a smart

b pigs a littleit little bit that just

want to sleep with women or like see all

of the above and it's always been the

same and women can't understand it

because they refuse to

learn you either women are confusing to

you or you understand them and it's

predictable women women should be able

to say men are either confusing if you

haven't been in the dating world or

don't pay attention or men are

predictable the problem with women like

this is she acts like she's confused but

she's not confused confused she's

predicting what will happen next because

it's happened to her before and it will

happen to her

again she just ref she and others like

her refuse to understand the dating game

and the Mating Game and how this

works and if a woman if a woman really

really wanted to date a guy and have a

boyfriend I think we could all

agree she should meet a guy date him for

an extended period of time when I say

extended period of time at least

multiple dates get to know him does he

legitimately want to have a girlfriend

does he want a date do you get to meet

some of his friends do you go to his

place does he come to your place and and

then you kind of explore the bedroom a

little bit more because the player guy

the guy like I was when I was in my mid

20s and mid-30s that player guy is going

to get bored he's going to say yeah you

know I there's other girls at the bar

I'm going out with my friends this

weekend I'll find a hookup and he ghosts

he like he just evaporates how do I know

because I was that guy at one point in

time and I you'd just be like no I'm not

going to waste my time with that because

I have other choices I have other things

to do I can go have more fun elsewhere

so the Bad Boys evaporate now when I

wanted to date and when I did want a

girlfriend then I was a good guy she'd

say I want to wait and I'd say hey oh

that's cool and we go on mult multiple

dates and I get to know her a little bit

and then I said hey I kind of like this

one and then they became a

girlfriend the guy that is the player

can become the boyfriend and the

boyfriend can go right back to being the

player women don't understand that

because they think they understand men

and that all men are pigs well the top

the top percent of men that have a lot

of choices they're kind of pigs then

there's this subset of men down below

there that they're going to take

advantage and if they go on a date and

she's up for getting down a a guy will

be into that but he then he disqualifies

her as the girlfriend because he says

well she's easy and I don't want an easy

woman because she likely will cheat on

me or hurt my feelings or ditch me or

something else and so he dis he he

qualifies her as a bedroom part partner

and disqualifies her as a girlfriend

I've done this as well many of you guys

have done this as well what the what the

red pillow is is about it's not hating

women it's not being angry at women it's

not it's not saying just sleep with them

and and use them the red pill is about

understanding their nature and and once

you understand their

nature then you understand sometimes I

will sleep with them and just have some

fun other times I'll meet one that I

think is special and she's a little bit

different and and other times uh I'm

going to be alone and enjoy my time and

they're not worth messing with and it

just depends on in where your life you

are during that

cycle and if you meet the right one and

she does but the see this is where

things start getting messed up too is

because now because of the internet and

because of uh Twitter and Reddit and and

Tik Tok and these other things now

you've got women giving other women

advice like hey if you meet a guy and

you really like him don't sleep with him

make him wait make him think you're high

value in the meantime you can sleep with

all all the other guys you're normally

sleeping with or your side pieces and

then when you know you're you think

you're ready then you can sleep with him

and he'll think you're high

value it's

manipulation that's part of the reason

why I am against some of the quote

unquote red pill content creators that

tell you hey um fake your Instagram

account and make it look like you're

rich and famous and and you know wear a

fancy watch and and money and and uh

tell women that you're really into them

and you care about them even though you

don't and and who cares because they're

just stupid you know women and it's okay

to manipulate them to sleep with them

I'm just as against that as I am against

women manipulating and and it's not that

I think it's not that I think you you

you can't or it's not that I think

that uh that maybe some women don't

deserve it because some women do deserve

it's not that it's that if you're going

to complain about things being bad in

the dating world if if you're going to

complain about women cheating on their

boyfriends if you're going to complain

about the way things are you have to

make sure that you're not part of that

problem and so have I you know have I

seen my friends have I been in

situations where I know guys are and

guys I know guys I I like my friends I

know some of them were sleeping with

married women especially when I was in

the military you know I know they were

rolling up to a sergeant who's out on

deployment or or uh um or he's off base

or whatever I know some of my single

younger guy friends rolled up to married

women's houses and hooked up with

wives now as an older guy I can look

back and reflect and say my God what an

awful thing to do to a guy you know what

an awful way to be to somebody you know

it ruins him his life it ruins and he

doesn't even know about it but I mean

someday he he's probably going to find

out you know it it's it's not good but

at the time when I'm that young buck I

I'd look at the world much differently

and I'd say well who cares if it's not

my friend sleeping with her it it'd be

some other dude that's sleeping like

somebody's going to sleep with her so if

she wants it to be my friend why should

I care that's kind of a valid mindset

too it's not that there's necessarily

it's all wrong I mean at some point it's

all kind of wrong but it's not that

there's right or wrong it's what are the

what are the rules rules and what are

the guidelines that we set and are we as

as good men as are we as mature men as

are we as as responsible men are we

going to separ separate ourselves from

this enough to where we can say we're

not part of the problem anymore it's one

of the reasons why I don't think men

should be paying money to The Only Fools

girls because you're perpetuating the

problem and those guys say yeah but

there's a 100,000 other guys that are

paying bucks a month so who cares if she

makes half a million a year she's only

making $5 for me and I want okay but you

are part of that problem if all the men

said no more Only Fools goes away if

guys stopped hooking up with women on

one night stands yes women it wouldn't

stop women's

nature it because they' they'd still

have hookups in one night stands they'd

just do it with married guys but what if

those married guys didn't do it well it

it would force women to behave well but

it wouldn't change their nature they'd

still want to they'd still look for the

opportunities to do it it's just like if

you make um you know being a street

walker at night illegal women still do

it you know they they do it to their

detriment so you can't control women's

nature and once you understand that then

you can

decide where in the where in where in

that playground where in that that field

of dating you're going to

fall this woman has the same problem

that most women do they they are

confused by men or they understand how

men operate but refuse to come to terms

with it I think most most men understand

the game they understand how women

operate at least red pill guys do you

know blue pill and and simps don't

understand women at all but red red pill

men understand they need to hold

masculine frame they not they need not

to put up with BS uh and they're going

to make their move and take their shot

and if a woman lets them they're going

to do it and if a woman says no but he

wants a girlfriend he's going to date

her and if she says no and he doesn't

want a girlfriend he's going to move on

these are have been in stone for

forever just women like this just don't

understand it they refuse to and then

they're unhappy when they get the

results of their own actions uh guys as

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