5a . The Fifth Word
Summary
TLDRThis lecture explores the fifth and sixth commandments, focusing on the transition from commands centered on worshiping God to those about relationships with others. It discusses the debate on whether honoring parents is part of loving God or loving neighbors, emphasizing the importance of honoring parents as a reflection of honoring God. The lecture delves into the differences between the commandments in Exodus and Deuteronomy, the significance of structure, and the enduring relevance of honoring parents throughout life, even in challenging circumstances.
Takeaways
- π The fifth and sixth commandments represent a shift in focus from loving God to loving one's neighbors, emphasizing the importance of relationships within the community.
- π The fifth commandment, 'Honor your father and mother,' can be seen as a hinge point that connects the role of God in our lives to the role of parents, highlighting the significance of respecting authority figures.
- β‘ The structure of the Ten Commandments, possibly divided between two tablets, suggests a deeper meaning and organization, with the first four focusing on love for God and the latter six on love for neighbor.
- π The commandments are memorable and designed for memorization, with a clear structure that invites detailed thought and consideration of their implications in daily life.
- πͺ The concept of 'honor' in the fifth commandment involves ascribing proper respect and dignity to one's parents, acknowledging their role in giving and sustaining life.
- π± Honoring parents is not limited to childhood obedience but extends into adulthood, requiring ongoing care, respect, and recognition of their importance in one's life.
- π‘ The promise associated with honoring one's parents is that of a long and prosperous life in the land God has given, suggesting a causal relationship between honoring parents and receiving God's blessings.
- π€ The script raises questions about interpreting the promise of a long life as either a direct promise from God or a general proverb, acknowledging the complexities of life's circumstances.
- π Biblical examples illustrate the importance of honoring parents, such as the story of Noah and his sons, and the commandment's role in maintaining social and moral order.
- π The New Testament reinforces the importance of honoring parents, as seen in Ephesians 6, where it is called the first commandment with a promise, and in Jesus' teachings in Mark 7.
- π‘ The enduring relevance of honoring parents is emphasized, suggesting that it is a holy and lifelong duty that is appropriate to every stage of life, even in the face of difficult family dynamics.
Q & A
What is the significance of the fifth and sixth commandments in the context of the Ten Commandments?
-The fifth and sixth commandments represent a shift in focus for the worshiper. While the first four commandments focus directly on the Lord and things He deems holy, these two commandments begin to address the worshiper's relationship with others, specifically parents and the community, emphasizing the importance of honoring one's parents and not killing or murdering.
How does Baker's interpretation of the Ten Commandments suggest a structural division?
-Baker suggests that the fifth commandment, 'Honor your father and mother,' belongs with the first four commands that focus on loving the Lord. The sixth and following commands would then be on another tablet, focusing on the worshiper's relationship with others. This interpretation implies a structural division that aligns with the two great commandments Jesus gives: loving God and loving one's neighbor.
What is the role of parents in the context of the fifth commandment?
-The role of parents in the fifth commandment is indicative of the kind of role that God plays in our lives. They are the ones who give life and sustain us, and thus, honoring them reflects the honor and respect we should give to God as the ultimate authority and sustainer.
How does the structure of the Ten Commandments contribute to their memorization and understanding?
-The structure of the Ten Commandments, being given in a list of 10, makes it easier to memorize. This structure invites individuals to think more carefully and specifically about each command, aiding in the commitment of these principles to memory and encouraging a detailed consideration of what each command calls us to do.
What is the difference between the way the fifth commandment is presented in Exodus 20 and Deuteronomy 5?
-In Exodus 20:12, the commandment is to 'honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.' In Deuteronomy 5:16, it is 'honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.' The difference lies in the addition of 'as the Lord your God commanded you' and 'that it may go well with you,' emphasizing the command's source and the promise of well-being.
What does the word 'lama' signify in the context of the fifth commandment?
-The word 'lama' in the context of the fifth commandment signifies a causal relationship. It clarifies that the long life in the land God is giving is contingent upon honoring one's father and mother.
How does the concept of 'honor' in the fifth commandment relate to the idea of 'glory' or 'kavod'?
-The concept of 'honor' in the fifth commandment, derived from the Hebrew word 'kavod,' relates to the idea of 'glory' or 'weightiness.' It implies ascribing the proper weight or dignity to one's parents, recognizing their role in giving life and providing for the child.
What are some ways in which one can honor their parents according to the script?
-One can honor their parents by ascribing dignity and respect to their role, caring for them as they age, maintaining contact and making oneself and one's children available to them, and showing respect even in disagreements.
How does the script interpret the promise of a long life in the land for those who honor their parents?
-The script interprets the promise of a long life as both a general rule (proverb) and a specific promise from God. It suggests that while there are exceptions due to the effects of sin or God's mysterious purposes, honoring one's parents is closely associated with flourishing and a long life in God's kingdom.
What are some biblical examples given in the script that illustrate the importance of honoring one's parents?
-The script provides examples such as the story of Noah and his son Ham in Genesis 9, where Ham dishonors his father and incurs a curse, and the example of a stubborn and rebellious son in Deuteronomy 21 who is put to death for his disrespect.
How does the New Testament view the commandment to honor one's parents?
-The New Testament, specifically Ephesians 6 and Mark 7, reinforces the importance of honoring one's parents. In Ephesians 6, it is called the first commandment with a promise, while Mark 7 criticizes those who use religious traditions to avoid caring for their parents, thus dishonoring them.
What is the enduring relevance of the commandment to honor one's parents in the script's perspective?
-The enduring relevance of the commandment is that it is a holy thing to respect and care for one's parents at every stage of life. This includes maintaining contact, caring for them as they age, and showing respect even in disagreements. The script emphasizes that this duty does not go away, even in difficult circumstances.
How should one approach honoring parents who were not good or caused harm?
-The script suggests that even in cases of bad parents, the duty to honor them has not gone away. It becomes more burdensome but still requires seeking ways to honor them as much as possible, without compromising safety or enabling sinful behavior.
Outlines
π Shift in Focus within the Ten Commandments
In this week's lesson, we explore the fifth and sixth commandments, highlighting a shift in focus for worshipers. The discussion centers around the structure of the Ten Commandments, noting that the first four commandments emphasize direct devotion to God. The fifth commandment, honoring one's parents, serves as a hinge between loving God and loving one's neighbor, symbolizing both divine and parental authority.
π The Importance of Structure and Memorization
The video emphasizes the significance of the structure within the Ten Commandments, particularly the benefit of having ten specific commands, which aids in memorization. This structure encourages careful contemplation of each command and its call to holiness, making it easier for individuals to internalize and live by these principles.
πͺ The Fifth Commandment: Honoring Parents
Focusing on the fifth commandment, the discussion compares the versions in Exodus and Deuteronomy, noting subtle differences. The command to honor one's parents is tied to the promise of a long and prosperous life in the land God provides. This honor involves ascribing proper respect and dignity to parents, acknowledging their role in giving life and providing for their children, and ensuring care for them as they age.
π€ Respect and Care in Parent-Child Relationships
This section highlights the importance of maintaining respect towards parents, even in disagreements. The command to honor parents extends beyond childhood and involves continuous respect and care throughout one's life. The relationship is seen as foundational, with proper honor leading to a blessed and prosperous life.
π Biblical Examples of Honoring Parents
Various biblical examples illustrate the significance of honoring parents, such as Noah's sons covering his shame and the severe consequences for a rebellious son in Deuteronomy. Jesus and Paul also reiterate the importance of this commandment, emphasizing its foundational role in maintaining respect for authority and fostering a godly community.
π‘ Enduring Relevance of Honoring Parents
The final section addresses the enduring relevance of honoring parents, emphasizing that it remains a holy duty throughout life. Practical ways to honor parents include maintaining contact, caring for them as they age, and respecting them despite disagreements. The discussion also acknowledges the challenges of honoring parents in difficult circumstances, urging a balance between honor and wisdom.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Worship
π‘Ten Commandments
π‘Honor
π‘Fifth Commandment
π‘Parental Authority
π‘Covenant
π‘Sabbath
π‘Love Thy Neighbor
π‘Holiness
π‘Proverbs
π‘Ephesians
Highlights
The fifth and sixth commandments represent a shift in the worshiper's focus, emphasizing the role of parents as indicative of God's role in our lives.
The first four commandments focus on the love and reverence for God, while the fifth commandment acts as a hinge point between honoring God and relating to others.
The structure of the Ten Commandments, with ten words, makes them memorable and invites detailed consideration of each command.
The fifth commandment, 'Honor your father and mother,' is seen as the first commandment with a promise, linking honor to a long and prosperous life in the land God gives.
The concept of 'honor' in the fifth commandment involves ascribing proper weight and dignity to one's parents, reflecting their role in giving and sustaining life.
Honoring parents can involve caring for them as they age, maintaining their dignity, and respecting them even in disagreements.
The land that God is giving is not to be entered and used without regard for God's commandments, emphasizing our role as stewards in God's kingdom.
The structure of the Ten Commandments may provide a clue to the larger structure of the book of Deuteronomy, although this is not a tight structure.
The promise of a long life for honoring parents can be seen as a proverb, indicating a general rule rather than a guaranteed outcome.
The command to honor parents is closely associated with how one honors God, as parents' roles in our lives parallel God's role.
Biblical examples from Genesis and Deuteronomy highlight the seriousness of not honoring one's parents, with severe consequences.
Jesus criticizes religious leaders for rejecting the command to honor parents in favor of their own traditions, showing the importance of honoring parents over religious practices.
Paul in Ephesians emphasizes the command to honor parents as the first with a promise, tying it to the broader context of obeying God's authority.
The enduring relevance of honoring parents includes maintaining contact, caring for them in old age, and respecting them despite disagreements.
The duty to honor parents does not disappear even in cases of bad parenting, requiring a careful balance between honor and wisdom.
Transcripts
welcome to week five uh this week we're
going to be looking at the fifth and
sixth commands
um structurally these these two commands
are especially with the fifth command
represent a shift in the worshiper's
focus as we look at the ten commandments
as you've already read about in baker's
book for example that
there's some discussion about you know
on what two tablets were specific
commands written or something like that
and um
you know baker for example thinks that
um the the fifth command honor your
father and mother properly belongs with
the first four commands that you love
the lord your god with all your heart
soul mind and strength in these various
ways
and the sixth and following commands
would be on another tablet so
you know to some extent um there's
there's not a whole lot of difference
between these two ideas we'll talk about
structure in just a moment but
um the first four commands clearly do um
focus directly on the lord and things
that he has commanded things that he
would deem holy
you know we we don't worship other gods
there's no images to be made
one does not bear the name of the lord
in vain and then the sabbath day
marking it or living in it as a holy day
in order to worship the lord properly to
give proper deference and holiness to
who god is
um so this is uh many will say this is
how the the first command that jesus
gives is summarized you shall love the
lord your god with all your heart soul
mind and strength commands one through
four and then others will say then
commands five through ten
properly locate the second great
commandment that jesus gives that you
shall love your neighbors yourself and
again there's some discussion about
whether that fifth command properly
belongs with loving the lord your god
with all your hearts almighty strength
or loving your neighbor as yourself
i think a case can be made for both um i
i think there's there's good words that
are said in either direction
where the idea of the fifth commandment
being this um
you know an emphasis on honoring god it
would have to do with the role of mother
and father
in some sense
uh being indicative of the kind of role
that god plays in our lives that he is
the one that gives life and he is the
one that sustains us and so we can
understand this command to honor father
and mother in that way
i think in in many ways this fifth
commandment really is a hinge point
either way it does seem to be kind of a
go-between or mediating position between
the kind of
role or authority that god has over our
lives and the same kind of role that
parents have over their children but
but really there is a distinct
difference obviously that's being made
between
a human being and the authority that
they would have over their children and
the kind of authority that god has over
us so i just think of it as a as a hinge
point um it's still emphasizing that we
honor the lord
but it is also properly pointing us to
how it is we relate to one another so
yes we relate to god um by loving him
wholeheartedly but we also relate to
others and these
last five and or six commands focus on
how it is we relate to one another in
light of
how we relate to god in the first four
commands
now there is some discussion about this
idea of structure
and the ten commandments um and and not
so much just about how they are
structured themselves but that the
structure of the ten commandments
provides a clue or a larger structure
especially in deuteronomy some will make
the case with exodus as well but
especially in deuteronomy
uh that the book of uh deuteronomy the
ten commandments in deuteronomy five
are sort of a layout then for how the
rest of the commands are are structured
in the book of deuteronomy so they'll
say you know well you know these
chapters focus on uh loving the lord
only that there's no other gods before
me these commands have to do with um
images or idols about god these commands
have to do with not bearing the lord's
name in vain
the problem is it starts to look like
quite a bit of a stretch when you try to
lay that template over the text of
deuteronomy or the structure of
deuteronomy 2
closely you start looking at these
chapters and you're like well what does
this have to do with bearing the lord's
name in vain or what do these have to do
with adultery or what do these have to
do with covetousness and things like
that
um there do seem to be some
generalizations perhaps in the book of
deuteronomy that might follow the
structure of the ten commandments but
it's it's not a really tight structure
so i'd be careful about
over emphasizing that but it does give
us a point of thinking about the idea of
structure
within the ten commandments perhaps and
even the idea that there is a structure
and that there are 10 words being given
and
a few things that we see in that one is
that certainly
having a number given a structure given
in number like 10 words
does invite someone to to memorize such
a list it makes it memorable and you're
thinking
and you've probably read this already
right you've got 10 fingers assuming
everything's worked out properly for you
you've got 10 fingers and hey there's
ten words so you're sitting there
thinking as a kid in hebrew school or
something like that okay what's the
first command what's the second command
what's the third command right and you
can just count off the commands and
memorize them and it's it's good to have
these committed to memory as you think
about the spears of life that god calls
us to holiness and loving him and loving
our neighbor
properly
in any case
this kind of structure is a call to
think more carefully
more specifically to think in detail
what do these things call us to
um it makes memorizing easier and it
makes thinking about it more likely okay
so
um
in any case as i mentioned this this
hinge point the fifth and sixth command
um does now shift
uh to direct interaction with others in
community um and we'll say towards our
parents and as we look at the sixth
command as well
of not killing or murdering um these
commands have to do with our interaction
with others in the community
um holiness in god's kingdom requires
intentionality and how we relate to him
and now as we think about how we relate
to one another we we're not here to just
do whatever we want to
and uh wait for god's stamp of approval
on it no we are god's people
um and again i'm speaking in we terms
here they were god's people we are now
god's people as well as we think about
how we relate these to our lives
so let's look at the fifth command
as we think through what these mean
the fifth command what's given in exodus
20 and deuteronomy 5 are similar but not
exact uh the fifth word the fifth
command is another one like the sabbath
day where there's there's quite a bit of
difference between the two
um and we want to look at perhaps why
that might be okay so in exodus 20 verse
12 the command is honor your father and
mother that your days may be long in the
land that the lord your god is giving
you
and then deuteronomy 5 16 honor your
father and mother
as the lord your god commanded you
there's a shift there
that your days may be long and here's
another shift and that it may go well
with you in the land that the lord your
god is giving you
okay so
with
this there's a few things i'll point out
as we look at this um so
honor your father and mother
that your days may be long in the land
that the lord your god is giving you
there's there's a word there um so that
the word is lama on um which
the only reason i'm telling you this is
because it it distinguishes or clarifies
a causal relationship here honor your
father and mother
the cause
that your days may be long in the land
that lord your god is giving you okay so
a long
length of time in the day in the land
that god is giving you is contingent
upon honoring your father and mother
um paul i'll talk about this in just a
bit more it talks about in ephesians
chapter six how this is the first
commandment with a promise right the
goddess is hinging
uh their length of days in the land upon
their honoring of father and mother okay
so le ma on this causal relationship
it's important that we that this stands
out that you recognize in english the
word that
um is doing some work there
okay again
we see here the singular you your days
may be long in the land as a result of
honoring father and mother so again
they're hearing god speaking directly to
them as individuals and something else
to notice here in the land that the lord
your god is giving you this kind of goes
back to what i said a moment ago
this is god's land in god's kingdom he
is the one who is taking them into the
land he is the one that will sustain and
bless them there based on their
faithfulness or that he will bring about
his covenant curses in in the event that
they are being unfaithful to the
covenant right this is the land that god
is giving you you don't get to go into
this land and just do whatever you want
to with it you were stewards you were my
kingdom of priests and holy nation my
image bearers going into this land you
will do in that land what i've called
you to do this is
the land god is giving to them
okay so then similar in deuteronomy 5
just a few things to point out here
um
deuteronomy 5 reiterates as the lord
your god commanded you now this might be
just because deuteronomy 5 is moses
retelling these things to the people
rather than
god speaking directly from the mountain
at sinai like he did in exodus 20. here
moses is reiterating what god has said
but it also is just a reminder in the
midst of this
god is the one who commands this this is
kind of like the land that the lord your
god is giving you god is the one who is
making this command
this particular word in deuteronomy also
does add this phrase and that it may
well go well with you and so the idea is
not just that you're staying in the land
a long time but but that your time there
is one of blessing and flourishing okay
so
what does this command mean
well the idea of honor is ascribing
the proper weight to one's father and
mother
the word here kavadh or kavod
communicates this idea of heaviness or
weightiness the the noun form kavod
is this idea that we use for glory right
so this this glory that is ascribed to
god for example or glory that may be
ascribed to another
community is communicated by this idea
of heaviness or weightiness
so to be heavy kavadh
is also the word that we use to give
glory to or give honor to so ascribing
the proper weight
to one's father and mother
and now you'll notice in this as you
think about that the people to whom god
was speaking and the people that god
that moses is speaking to in deuteronomy
5 for example this has implications for
children who are still living in the
home
but it's being spoken primarily to adult
children in other words this isn't
simply about obedience paul uses it for
obedience in ephesians 6 that's not all
it's about so it's not as though the
command to
honor one's mother and father stops the
instant you uh or an israelite
would leave the home this command
applies throughout their lives
what's going on here well one's
relationship to his or her parents is no
light thing it is a very heavy weighty
honorable kind of thing so how does one
honor parents for example
well i think one would be to
ascribe the dignity and respect that is
due to their role as a parent
right as i mentioned a bit earlier
the parent is the one who gives life and
the one who provides for
that child
as they're being brought up in the hold
in the home and then being
sent out to to start their own families
right so there's a dignity and respect
to this kind of role
they're taking this on they're giving
life they're providing for that child
they're being tasked by god as well
to bring that child up to maturity in
life you know so it's not just like hey
i gave you life and food
good luck no parents are teaching their
children they're giving of themselves
and their lives in order to be fruitful
and multiply uh to
make more image bearers of god life
provision and
bringing up to maturity in life so what
does this look like then to honor one's
parents
uh one would be to care for them
this is um particularly noteworthy as
they require your help so you think
about uh the effects of aging as your as
your parents are growing into
later life they need the help of their
children
to help care for them in the later years
of their lives
perhaps also as
parents are growing older and they lose
the spouse one or the other
your presence
for them is um an act of honoring them
for who they are as your parents you're
caring for them when they cannot care
for themselves
um this also i think might have
implications um in
that time and this will kind of get into
enduring relevance a little bit but it's
it's been noteworthy in my own life to
think about
uh your presence and time in their lives
continuing presence and time in their
lives even after you leave the home and
you think about when grandkids come into
the picture
i think it's an act of honor that you
ensure that your parents have access to
their grandkids and you as well right
that you don't necessarily just leave
home and you're gone forever now i know
there's all kinds of things we have to
consider here um we we do not live near
my parents or my wife's parents um but
um this video is actually being recorded
in the backyard of my in-laws who live
about 15 hours away
because we take it very seriously that
one act of honoring them we love being
around them anyway but
it's an act of honoring who they are
they want to see us they want to see
their grandkids so we carve out time a
couple times a year to make sure that
we're around them i mean i believe this
is an act of honoring them
they still love you they want to be
around
you and your
their grandkids as well
another way of showing honor then so
you're you're caring for them but
there's also an aspect of respect
toward one's parents um even with
disagreements i think they're not merely
a friend or a co-worker etc
and so even when there's disagreements
or issues going on that
that one
provides a proper level of respect even
in those disagreements
you know this is a relationship that you
will continue throughout your life
god willing and so you you do the kinds
of things to ensure that that
relationship can continue in a healthy
way
you might say in some sense it's better
to be wronged than to dishonor one's
parents now again obviously there's a
lot of
caveats that might need to be said about
this
and i'll get to that in a moment
um so what does this mean um
dignity and respect towards one's
parents for who they are caring for them
and respecting them
um and this is in the land that the lord
your god is giving you as i mentioned
already
this is a reminder that one is not one's
own
right they are not just hashtag blessed
because they go into land no they are
blessed by god to be a blessing they're
they have a role in this land they're
expected to fulfill it and enjoy god's
blessings
um and if they're going to do that then
they are going to be the kind of people
that god has called them to be
and the promise that's given
in both is that your days may be long in
the land that god has given you and
deuteronomy adds this
additional line that it may be
well with you and so in what sense is
this a promise as paul says in ephesians
6
or perhaps should we think of it as more
of a proverb
right when we think about proverbs we
think of proverbs as
general rules not a promise you know the
one that's often
said would be you know train up a child
and the way they should go and when
they're old they will not depart from it
you know and then we wring our hands
over this because we think well my
children aren't following the lord
but god has promised if i brought him up
in a right way that they will never
depart from that and you know is it then
we start to to doubt and wonder what's
right and wrong
but i think we we understand proverbs
are general rules uh that we can
understand you know if we want to have
children who are following the lord we
bring them up in the ways of god that's
how we would have the expectation that
they would continue to follow that it's
not a promise though or a guarantee
so is that what's going on with this
those who
learn to honor their parents
if they're doing so then god is
promising a long life and a wonderful
prosperous life well
we know lots of people who have honored
their parents
and you know whose lives are tragically
cut short for for one reason or another
or who
um are in a
perhaps a financially uh difficult place
or something like that is that god
failing to keep his promise here well no
if we think about this as a proverb
perhaps we understand this in a way that
you know those who are learning to honor
their parents they learn how to respect
authority
they learn how to conduct themselves in
a way that contributes to flourishing
right and is that primarily what we're
we're looking at with this
or are we thinking this as more of a
promise now say we allow for sins
effects life being cut short
due to sickness disease or just tragic
accidents or something like that
or other mysterious purposes of god
where he might
cause the life of a person to end what
we would say prematurely or tragically
um
the role of a parent is closely
paralleling
god's
role in our own lives or god's
relationship with his people he is the
one who is the giver and the sustainer
of life and teaching one how to live
so
i think there's something to this that
that the child whether an adult or
otherwise
honoring their parents is is closely
associated with how one honors god as
well and so to dishonor the parent is to
dishonor the position that god has given
that parent over them
and
the position that god himself has over
them so
uh to honor what god honors brings about
flourishing and length of days in his
kingdom
so
you know there's there's kind of those
two ways that we might look at this as
perhaps a proverb or perhaps as more of
a promise but i think
it's it's probably something more than a
mere proverb where it's sort of a
general rule if you do good things good
things happen if you honor your parents
uh you'll tend to respect authority and
and uh flourish in life and and live a
longer life because you've you've done
that i think it's something more than
that god is
as i mentioned that sort of causal link
um god is saying i
essentially if you expect to be blessed
and to live a long life
you will honor the institution of
parenthood you will honor your father
and mother that i've given you if you
can't even do that i certainly wouldn't
expect you to honor me
and there's no way that i will um
happily bless you and prosper you with
length of days and well-being in life so
i think there is something more
behind that than a mere proverb that
there's an aspect of promise there but
probably we need to be able to allow for
the effects of sin or god's mysterious
purposes in that feel free to ask
questions on that i know there's a lot
that can be said about that
all right so just looking at some
biblical context regarding honoring
one's parents
we can think of a few different examples
in the old testament one with in genesis
9 verses 20 to 27
we have this very odd passage where
noah has uncovered himself in his tent
and his son ham finds him and goes
outside and tells his brothers about it
his brothers respond by walking into the
tent backwards so that they they can't
see behind them to see their dad lying
naked behind them and they go in with a
garment and they go backwards and they
cover him up
so that
noah's shame is covered
of course when noah wakes up he's
quite
infuriated right and pronounces a curse
upon him
many people try to do
a lot of things with that arguing that
perhaps there was some sexual violation
occurring with noah or perhaps his
noah's wife or ham's mother
i don't think so i've studied this a
little bit i don't think so i think it
really is a matter of dishonoring their
father nakedness was a shameful thing
and ham's impulse after the flood
when sin was
wiped out supposedly right this is a
fresh start with humanity ham continues
to show that sinfulness in the human
person persisted even after the flood
and he dishonors his father by exposing
his shamefulness to his brothers in this
weak moment that noah was in ham
uncovers this to his brothers
and it's um
the shame is mitigated by the brothers
not looking at their father and covering
him up right so ham clearly is
dishonoring his father and i think this
kind of command
highlights the seriousness of not
honoring one's father and mother right
ham's
son kanan and his descendants bear this
curse for what ham had done
deuteronomy 21 18-21
we have an example of a stubborn and
rebellious son who was put to death
right his days were shortened um he was
wicked and rebellious and the penalty
for this was to kill him
uh if you want to know how seriously god
took this particular command there you
go right there's a an example of that
we have a few more um in the new
testament um i mentioned ephesians 6
we'll talk also about mark 7 verses 10
through 13.
jesus is talking to the religious
leaders and says to them you reject the
commandments of god by your traditions
and what is this tradition that they're
rejecting the command of god they say
what is what is what for you is
corbon
this is a gift that's given to god the
the money that should be given to care
for one's parents in their aging years
if the if the people would give that to
god instead dedicated to some kind of
holy use then they would sort of
disentangle themselves from the
obligation to care for their parents in
their old age and jesus is like how is
this
honoring god's you're
rejecting the command of god to honor
your parents by supposedly this other
tradition that you can give those things
to god and that's not what god has told
you from the very beginning
um so rather than providing for parents
they're they're supposedly giving this
money to god that doesn't honor your
parents you're disobeying god and
dishonoring your parents at the same
time even while you try to do it in this
religious guise of generosity to the
lord
no thanks
and then lastly we'll look at ephesians
6 1-13 and this is
that command that paul i was mentioning
referencing in his household
code he points back to this command to
honor your father and mother indicates
this was the first command with a
promise
and you know in this
paul is certainly referencing
children he's directing this command to
children primarily to obey their parents
and believing children would be guided
by this but i think it also is a
command given to children that parents
then understand their responsibility to
teach their children to obey them
um it's it's beyond mere obedience to
god's command you're teaching them how
to follow god-given authority
particularly god himself and so even
that command the children's our children
are to obey their parents
even that is a command for parents to
recognize this is some one of the things
that i need to teach my children
in this case okay so enduring relevance
uh just a couple things i'll say about
this and then we'll we'll wrap up this
lecture
um one it is a
holy thing to respect and care for one's
parents
um appropriate to every stage of life so
things that i mentioned like keeping in
contact with them visiting them
making grandkids available to them
making yourself available to them
it can be very easy as you grow up as
you leave your home you sort of just
go away and you may not think too much
or think about oh if they want to talk
to me they can reach out to me or
something like that i know there's an
honor in maintaining that relationship
in a healthy way because these these are
the people that god gave to you
to give you life to sustain you to teach
you and train you up
other things would be then caring for
them as they age perhaps they're losing
their spouse or having significant
medical issues or something like that
that first and foremost we recognize as
as their children that responsibility
falls on us now perhaps circumstances
are extenuating in some way that that we
need to
delegate that to someone else perhaps
someone that has better
skills or knowledge or ability to care
for them but but we see that as our
responsibility to ensure that that's
happening
and then lastly i would say respecting
them again especially when there are
disagreements that there's no pride or
dismissiveness even if it's warranted
right that our parents require an a
certain kind of honor that's due to them
given by god simply because they are our
parents
and that's not a popular message in a
culture a 21st century western culture
especially right you know oh our parents
they didn't know what they were doing
this that you know they're a bunch of
old fuddy-duddies whatever
right but but that's not even honoring
them in our hearts to recognize that
they've done something that we ourselves
haven't done yet right successfully
raised children into adulthood right
they're always going to be a step ahead
of us in some ways no matter what right
now this does bring the question though
what about bad parents
um and i i don't want to say this
lightly at all i understand i was i was
blessed so very blessed to grow up in a
home with wonderful parents the same
thing for my wife
but i know all too well that that many
did not
experience that one or perhaps both of
their parents there were particular
problems of perhaps abuse divorce in the
home
a loss of a parent at an early age or
something like that or growing up in
dangerous environments because of this
and in these cases the duty to honor
one's parents has not gone away
and unfortunately becomes more
burdensome than delight in these kinds
of cases
i think the call is that we
um
we have to seek out any way that we can
possibly continue to honor
them as our parents
particularly because of god being the
one who appointed them into this role
that doesn't mean we go along with
sinful things that don't mean that
doesn't mean we enable certain kinds of
things to happen
um if it's not safe
for some reason to have yourself or your
children in their lives you know this
command doesn't override wisdom but but
sometimes just like the religious
leaders we let wisdom
um push out the honor that god has
called us to give to our parents and so
if we would refrain from being in their
lives or giving our children to allow
them to be in their lives that we would
do so
uh i would say with fear and trembling
that we have carefully considered
in
in every way possible have we made an
effort to honor our parents for who they
are and so i hope you can see the both
and in there
i would want you to push
beyond what
you know our culture might
advocate for it it's very easy for us to
say forget them you know
they've been this way or done this thing
i want to have nothing to do with them
and i think the lord would call us to
something more than that even if it has
to unfortunately fall short of this
thriving flourishing blessing of a
relationship that god would still call
us to honor them in some way shape or
form
so so with that um we will wrap up this
on on honoring one's parents again
whether this is a hinge point whether
this is with the first five or with the
second or the you know the latter six or
something like that
honoring one's parents
um
turns our attention to loving one's
neighbor as ourselves
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