5 things I wish I knew before moving to the US

Summary

In this reflective video, Vivan shares the five key lessons learned after moving from Taiwan to the U.S. for graduate school. From choosing a career path based on insecurity to dealing with unanticipated biases and workplace challenges, Vivan discusses the regrets and realizations that shaped their journey. They emphasize the importance of pursuing your true passions, thoroughly researching your destination, joining supportive communities early, and seeking therapy to address personal growth. Ultimately, Vivan highlights how self-awareness and introspection helped them navigate the complexities of moving abroad and adjusting to a new life.

Takeaways

• 😀 Listen to your gut when making career choices; don't let ego or insecurities dictate your decisions.
• 😀 Do thorough research before making a big move—don’t just choose based on reputation. Understand the city, culture, and job market.
• 😀 Confront your biases and question preconceived notions about your home country and your destination.
• 😀 Moving to a new country doesn’t automatically solve all your problems—personal growth and introspection are key.
• 😀 Find a community early on when relocating or starting something new. Clubs and social groups help with making connections and easing transitions.
• 😀 Understand that the process of personal development takes time, and don't expect it to be solved by changing your environment.
• 😀 Seek therapy or mental health support early on. It can help with self-awareness and understanding deeper issues.
• 😀 If you're considering a move abroad, don't just focus on the logistics—understand the culture and societal dynamics of your destination.
• 😀 Recognize that the life you envision in another country may not meet your expectations—embrace reality with an open mind.
• 😀 Don’t let the fear of the unknown limit your potential. Explore new hobbies or interests to enrich your experience and build a supportive network.

Q & A

What is the main reason Vivan chose to study data analytics for his Master's program?

Vivan chose data analytics for his Master's program because he believed it was a realistic choice, with high demand for data scientists and analysts, as well as good pay. He did not initially have a passion for coding or math but felt it was a practical decision to secure a job after graduation.

What does Vivan regret about his decision to pursue data analytics?

Vivan regrets not listening to his true self and choosing a field he was actually passionate about, like psychology. He acknowledges that his decision was influenced by ego and insecurities, aiming to secure a high-paying job rather than following his interests.

How did Vivan's choice to study data analytics impact his work experience in the United States?

Because of the H1B visa restrictions, Vivan had to work in a role directly related to his Master's degree in data analytics. This limitation prevented him from exploring other career interests or switching to more creative roles, even though he had developed a passion for psychology.

What would Vivan have done differently when researching schools for his Master's program?

Vivan admits he did not research enough about the schools, their programs, or the locations. He applied to well-known schools based on reputation rather than considering important factors such as the program curriculum, city life, or the social and cultural environment.

What blind spots or biases did Vivan have before moving to the United States?

Vivan had several biases, including negativity bias toward Taiwan, optimism bias about moving to America, and confirmation bias that supported the idea that America would be better than Taiwan. He believed moving to the US would solve all his problems, which led to unrealistic expectations.

What did Vivan learn about his biases after moving to the US?

After moving to the US, Vivan’s biases were challenged as he encountered realities that contradicted his beliefs. He realized that changing his environment alone wouldn't solve his issues, and that personal change—shifting his mindset and behavior—was necessary for growth.

Why does Vivan think it's important to join a community when moving to a new place?

Vivan believes that joining a community or a hobby group early on can help in making friends, feeling more settled, and integrating into the new environment. He regretted not joining a club sooner during his first semester and realized it would have made the adjustment process easier.

What is the significance of Vivan's experience with bullying at work?

Vivan's experience with bullying at work was a turning point. It forced him to confront his reliance on external changes, like moving to America, to improve his life. The situation made him realize that the issues he faced were not tied to his environment but to his own behavior and mindset.

How did Vivan's belief in a 'healing fantasy' affect his expectations of life in the US?

Vivan’s 'healing fantasy' led him to believe that moving to the US would instantly fix all his problems and make him happy. However, when faced with challenges, he realized that this belief was unrealistic, and that internal changes and self-awareness were more important for true growth.

Why does Vivan recommend seeing a therapist for people moving abroad?

Vivan recommends seeing a therapist because therapy helped him reach self-awareness and introspection, especially when he faced emotional challenges like bullying. He acknowledges that therapy can provide invaluable support in dealing with mental health issues, which are often overlooked during major life transitions.