Sexually Attractive Men Have Short Interactions With Women

Summary

Matthew C. Horn, a dating coach and motivational speaker, discusses the dynamics between sexually attractive men and the 'Nice Guy' in dating. He explains that while sexually attractive men are desired by women, their interactions tend to be short due to women’s difficulty in functioning within the boundaries of these men. Women are often conditioned to the Nice Guy, who tolerates disrespect and imbalance. Horn emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, identity, and boundaries in becoming the 'Quintessential Man' who attracts and maintains healthy, respectful relationships.

Takeaways

• 😀 Sexually attractive men have short interactions with women because they demand respect and boundaries, unlike nice guys who tolerate imbalance.
• 😀 The sexually attractive man is self-assured, confident, and knows his worth, which makes him less willing to tolerate disrespect or manipulation from women.
• 😀 Nice guys overextend themselves in relationships, offering gifts and pedestalizing women, which can lead to prolonged but unfulfilling interactions.
• 😀 The ‘quintessential man’ is a sexually attractive man with clear boundaries, self-respect, and options, and he demands reciprocal treatment from women.
• 😀 Women are often initially enamored by sexually attractive men but struggle to maintain relationships with them because they are calibrated to the ‘nice guy’ who tolerates their behavior.
• 😀 The majority of women are used to controlling, manipulating, or disrespecting men, which creates a challenge when they meet a man who doesn’t tolerate such behavior.
• 😀 Interactions with sexually attractive men tend to be short because women are not used to the level of respect and boundaries these men require.
• 😀 Sexually attractive men have a clear identity and vision for their lives, which makes them desirable but also forces women to meet high standards to stay in their space.
• 😀 Nice guys may appear to have long-term relationships or a lot of women around them, but they often accept disrespect and manipulation in exchange for attention and companionship.
• 😀 Women often cheat or fantasize about sexually attractive men because they desire the qualities these men have, but are unable to sustain a relationship with them due to their own behaviors.
• 😀 The underlying problem in dating dynamics is that many women have not encountered a man who enforces respect and boundaries, which causes them to either love or hate the sexually attractive man.

Q & A

Why do sexually attractive men have short interactions with women?

Sexually attractive men have short interactions with women because they set clear boundaries and demand reciprocal respect. If a woman does not meet their standards or disrespects them, they will quickly walk away. They are not willing to tolerate the behavior that ‘nice guys’ might put up with.

How does the behavior of a 'nice guy' differ from a sexually attractive man in dating?

A nice guy typically overextends himself, pedestalizes women, and caters to their every need, often tolerating disrespect in the process. In contrast, a sexually attractive man is confident, knows his worth, sets boundaries, and expects the same level of respect and effort in return from the woman.

What does it mean to be a 'sexually attractive' man, according to the speaker?

Being a sexually attractive man goes beyond just physical appearance. It involves having a strong sense of self, a clear identity, ambition, and success. He is centered, self-respecting, and commands respect from others, particularly women.

Why are women attracted to sexually attractive men, but struggle to maintain a relationship with them?

Women are drawn to sexually attractive men because they embody qualities like confidence, success, and assertiveness, which are desirable. However, they often struggle to maintain a relationship with these men because they are not used to the boundaries and expectations that come with being around someone who demands respect and reciprocity.

What is the role of boundaries in relationships with sexually attractive men?

Boundaries play a crucial role in relationships with sexually attractive men. These men do not tolerate disrespect or imbalance. If a woman fails to meet their standards or behaves poorly, they will end the interaction quickly. This creates a natural filter, ensuring that only women who respect their boundaries stay in their lives.

How do women typically react when they encounter a sexually attractive man?

Women are often initially enamored with sexually attractive men due to their confidence and appeal. However, when they realize these men require respect and do not tolerate manipulation or disrespect, many women struggle to adapt and may end the interaction prematurely.

Why do women often settle for nice guys, despite being attracted to sexually attractive men?

Women may settle for nice guys because they are comfortable in relationships where their behavior is tolerated, even if there is a lack of genuine respect. Nice guys often don’t demand the same level of respect or accountability, which makes it easier for women to control or manipulate the relationship.

What does the speaker mean by the term 'quintessential man'?

The 'quintessential man' refers to a sexually attractive man who is confident, self-respecting, has boundaries, and knows his worth. He doesn’t settle for less than what he deserves in relationships and demands reciprocal treatment. He embodies the ideal combination of physical appeal, personal identity, and emotional strength.

Why is the nice guy considered a 'placeholder' in relationships?

The nice guy is considered a placeholder because, although he may be available and willing to tolerate poor treatment, he lacks the strong boundaries and self-awareness of a sexually attractive man. As a result, women often view nice guys as someone to settle for temporarily, while still desiring someone with more confidence and assertiveness.

What should a man do to become the 'sexually attractive' man described in the video?

To become a sexually attractive man, a man should focus on developing a strong sense of self, confidence, and ambition. He should work on self-respect, set clear boundaries in relationships, and never tolerate disrespect. Building success in various aspects of life, including career and personal goals, is also key.