if you attract Dramatic People WATCH THIS

Summary

The video script discusses the impact of dramatic people in our lives, who can drain our energy and block deeper connections. It explores how childhood experiences with chaos might normalize drama, leading to a cycle of attracting similar energy. The speaker shares personal experiences and offers guidance on shedding this energy, emphasizing the importance of not feeling guilty about cutting ties with such individuals. The script also introduces the concept of DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim to offender) as a manipulative tactic used by some. The speaker encourages viewers to practice forgiveness and compassion, and suggests breathwork as a method to release stored emotions and achieve a more regulated nervous system.

Takeaways

• 🌀 Drama in life can be draining and block deeper connections.
• 🔔 Constant exposure to dramatic people may feel normal due to childhood experiences with chaos.
• 🛡 Shielding oneself from drama can lead to an energetic drain and a cycle of attracting more drama.
• 🌟 The excitement of drama can be mistaken for a desirable energy, but it is ultimately depleting.
• 👶 Childhood experiences with controlling or manipulative figures can normalize drama into adulthood.
• 💡 Becoming aware of the draining energy is the first step towards letting it go.
• 🚫 Saying no to drama and manipulative energy is essential for personal growth and emotional freedom.
• 🌱 Forgiveness and compassion are crucial for releasing the grip of past drama and moving forward.
• 🌈 Breath work can be a transformative practice for releasing trapped emotions and energy.
• 🔄 Letting go of drama can lead to more stable and healthier relationships.

Q & A

What is the impact of having dramatic people in one's life?

Having dramatic people in one's life can lead to feeling energetically drained, even though there might be a rush of energy. It can block deeper connections and normalize chaos, leading to a life that's filled with drama and emotional exhaustion.

Why does drama sometimes feel like excitement?

Drama can feel exciting because it provides a rush of energy and stimulation. This can be particularly true if one grew up in a chaotic environment where such energy was normalized.

How does the presence of drama affect one's energy field?

The presence of drama can cause a person to either try to shield themselves from it or absorb it, which then influences their interactions with the world, attracting more drama and perpetuating a cycle of energetic drain.

What is the role of guilt in maintaining drama in one's life?

Guilt can play a significant role in maintaining drama by making a person feel responsible for others' emotions, leading to a reluctance to set boundaries or cut ties, even when it's necessary for their own well-being.

How does one's childhood experience with drama influence their adult relationships?

Childhood experiences with drama can create a subconscious tolerance for chaotic energy in adult relationships, as individuals may normalize and tolerate drama due to familiarity from their upbringing.

What is DARVO and how does it relate to drama in relationships?

DARVO is a tactic where someone denies an accusation, attacks the accuser, and then reverses roles to claim victimhood. It's a form of manipulation used by some dramatic individuals when confronted or when boundaries are set.

Why is it important to let go of the guilt associated with cutting ties with dramatic people?

Letting go of guilt is crucial because it allows individuals to prioritize their own emotional well-being over the perceived needs of others. It's a step towards self-care and breaking free from the cycle of drama.

How can breath work help in releasing the energy of drama?

Breath work can release stored emotions and energy from the body, allowing for a transformation in one's life. It can lead to a more regulated nervous system and deeper, healthier connections with others.

What is the significance of the statement 'people are in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime'?

This statement suggests that the duration and purpose of relationships vary. Some people are meant to teach us lessons or help us grow, while others are long-term companions. Recognizing this can help in setting boundaries and letting go of those who no longer serve a positive purpose.

How does the process of forgiveness play a role in dealing with dramatic people?

Forgiveness is important for releasing the negative energy and emotional charge associated with dramatic individuals. It allows for a shift in perspective, understanding that these individuals are acting out of their own need for validation or safety, rather than holding onto resentment.

What is the significance of the term 'ho'oponopono' and how can it help in clearing one's energy field?

Ho'oponopono is a Hawaiian healing process that involves clearing and releasing negative energy. It can be a powerful tool for healing and clearing the energy field, contributing to a more peaceful and harmonious state of being.

Outlines

00:00

🌀 The Impact of Drama on Personal Energy

This paragraph discusses the effects of having dramatic people in one's life. It explains how such individuals can cause a rush of energy but also lead to emotional exhaustion. The speaker shares their own experiences with a dramatic person in their life and how it led to a feeling of energetic drain. The idea is presented that drama can feel exciting but is actually draining and can block deeper connections. The speaker also talks about how childhood experiences with chaos might make drama feel normal, and how recognizing and letting go of this energy can lead to more intimate and healthier relationships.

05:00

🚫 Breaking Free from Manipulative Energies

The second paragraph delves into the emotional control exerted by manipulative people and the guilt they instill. It emphasizes the importance of self-care and not abandoning oneself to others' emotional needs. The speaker reflects on the lessons people bring into one's life, often teaching the importance of setting boundaries and saying no. They recount their own journey of confronting past traumas and the guilt associated with cutting ties. The realization that guilt is a form of control and learning to let it go is highlighted as a significant step towards personal empowerment.

10:04

🤔 Recognizing and Responding to DARVO

The third paragraph introduces the concept of DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim to Offender), a tactic used by some individuals when confronted with boundary-setting or rejection. The speaker shares personal experiences with people employing DARVO and how recognizing this pattern helped them to not be swayed by it. The importance of forgiveness and understanding that these individuals are acting out of a need to meet their own needs is discussed. The speaker encourages viewers to take responsibility for their own emotional well-being and not to manage others' emotions.

15:06

🌟 Embracing Healthy Relationships Over Drama

The final paragraph encourages letting go of drama and manipulative energy to foster deeper connections and a regulated nervous system. The speaker suggests that what might seem 'boring' relationships are actually healthier and more stable. They discuss the importance of nurturing one's inner child and the subconscious, which may have normalized drama due to fear of abandonment. The paragraph concludes with a recommendation for breath work as a powerful tool for releasing stored emotions and transforming one's life.

Keywords

💡dramatic people

Dramatic people are individuals who tend to create or attract intense situations and emotions. In the video, it is suggested that such individuals can lead to an energetic drain, as they often require high levels of attention and emotional response. The speaker describes how these people might have a big response to events and keep others updated on their chaotic lives, which can be both exciting and draining.

💡energetically drained

To be 'energetically drained' refers to a state of feeling depleted of energy, often due to the influence of others' emotions or the environment. The video discusses how being around dramatic people can lead to this state, as their constant need for attention and the energy required to respond to their crises can leave one feeling exhausted.

💡intimate connections

Intimate connections refer to deep, meaningful relationships that are emotionally fulfilling and supportive. The video suggests that maintaining relationships with dramatic people can hinder the formation of these connections, as the energy spent on managing drama leaves less room for deeper, more nourishing relationships.

💡exciting energy

Exciting energy is a term used to describe the adrenaline-fueled, high-intensity emotions that can come from being around dramatic individuals. The video contrasts this with the draining effect it has, suggesting that while it might feel thrilling, it is ultimately depleting and can prevent more stable, regulated emotional experiences.

💡leaky energy

Leaky energy is a metaphor for the sense of being emotionally or energetically drained over time. The video uses this term to describe the ongoing, subtle drain that occurs when one is in a relationship with a dramatic person, suggesting that this type of energy can slowly deplete one's emotional reserves.

💡childhood chaos

Childhood chaos refers to the tumultuous or unstable environment one might have experienced growing up. The video mentions that if one's childhood was marked by such chaos, they might be more likely to tolerate or even seek out dramatic relationships in adulthood, as they feel familiar and 'normal'.

💡guilt

Guilt is a feeling of unease or remorse for some real or imagined wrongdoing or failure to fulfill a duty. In the context of the video, guilt is identified as a barrier to cutting ties with draining individuals, as the speaker describes their own struggle with feeling guilty about ending relationships with dramatic people.

💡Darvo

Darvo stands for 'deny, attack, reverse victim and offender' and is a tactic used by some individuals to deflect blame and manipulate others. The video describes how some people accused of being manipulative might use DARVO to avoid taking responsibility and to turn the tables on the accuser.

💡compassion

Compassion is a deep awareness of and sympathy for the suffering of others, coupled with a desire to alleviate it. The video emphasizes the importance of compassion in dealing with draining individuals, suggesting that understanding their actions as a survival mechanism can help in letting go of negative emotions and fostering forgiveness.

💡ho'oponopono

Ho'oponopono is a Hawaiian problem-solving process that involves reconciliation and forgiveness. The video suggests that this practice can be a powerful tool for clearing out negative energy and fostering healing, which aligns with the theme of letting go of drama and moving towards healthier relationships.

💡somatic release breath work

Somatic release breath work is a type of therapy that involves deep breathing exercises to release trapped emotions and stress from the body. The video highlights the speaker's personal experience with this practice as a transformative tool for emotional release and achieving a more regulated state of being.

Highlights

Attracting dramatic people into your life can create an initial rush of energy but ultimately leaves you feeling drained.

The energy from dramatic individuals can block deeper, intimate connections and keeps one in a cycle of chaos.

People often tolerate drama because it feels normal, especially if their childhood was filled with chaotic energy.

Dramatic energy in relationships can perpetuate drama in your own life, attracting more chaotic situations and people.

The speaker shares a personal story of having tolerated dramatic, manipulative energy from someone for many years due to unresolved childhood trauma.

In childhood, the speaker normalized chaotic energy, linked to a controlling, narcissistic ex-stepmom, which influenced future relationships.

Letting go of guilt is a key step in breaking free from draining, dramatic relationships. Guilt is framed as a form of control.

People in your life are often there for a 'season or a reason,' teaching you lessons such as setting boundaries and saying no.

Standing up to dramatic energy, such as through conversations and boundary-setting, provides emotional relief and a sense of freedom.

Recognizing DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used by manipulative people can help maintain emotional boundaries.

Forgiveness is essential in healing from manipulative relationships, allowing you to release the charge of blame and avoid attracting similar dynamics.

Breathwork, specifically somatic release, is recommended as a powerful tool to release stored emotions and transform one's life.

Nervous system regulation is key to attracting healthy, non-dramatic relationships that provide emotional stability.

Saying no to dramatic energy opens space for deeper, more authentic connections with others.

The speaker encourages nurturing the inner child, who may have normalized drama out of fear of abandonment, to foster emotional healing and growth.

Transcripts

if you attract dramatic people into your

life where there's always things going

on there's always such a big response to

things that happen they're always

calling you to let you know about the

things that are happening you feel this

Rush of energy but at the same time you

feel energetically

drained this is someone that when they

talk to you they may say something that

just sticks with you for many days and

maybe somebody that has always has crazy

things happen in their life

life that you have somehow

subconsciously normalized and tolerated

for a long period of time now the thing

is keeping this dramatic energy in your

life is blocking out intimate deeper

connections sometimes drama feels like

excitement and if in childhood there was

chaotic energy it may feel normal to

have this very exciting energy around

you

but at the same time this exciting

energy is draining energetically and by

being around that energy it is

attracting more drama into your

life if you have people in your life

where there's always drama happening

you're perceiving of drama you're

energetically either trying to Shield

yourself from drama or you're feeling

the drama they're talking about it's

going in your energetic

field and then you're going out into the

world and you're interacting with drama

in your energy field you're attracting

people into your life to reflect that

energy back you're more triggered

because when you're around someone that

is triggered it's triggering

you so in this video what I want to do

is show you how to shed the energy of

the drama once and for all how not to

feel guilty about it and how as a as a

response to that you will then attract

more intimacy and deeper connection

that actually regulate your nervous

system now in my own life I've gone

through times where I

realize I have been tolerating a certain

energy for a long period of time and I'm

asking myself why have I done

this why did I allow someone in my life

for maybe a year or two or more that was

extremely dramatic things were always

going

on and it would be long periods of time

where I could feel just from being in

relation to this person there was a

leaky energy there was leaky energy and

this leaky like just this draining

energy that would constantly be pulling

me to

it and what I

realized was that in childhood there was

a very familiar energy where there was a

lot of drama in

childhood there was a lot of chaotic

energy and there was also a lot of

having to be naive about the control and

the ulation when I was a kid in order to

feel in order to

survive having a controlling

narcissistic ex- stepmom from 7 to

17 I had to be not naive like I was

aware of what was happening but I had

normalized it it was like normal for me

to have somebody that was controlling

around

me and whether that's someone that's

covert or

overt it was still a manipulative energy

that I was that I that was familiar to

childhood so what happens is once I

became aware of this Dynamic the thing

that was keeping me in it was a feeling

of one feeling guilty feeling guilty

feeling like I'm being mean by cutting

them

out but by being avoiding being mean by

cutting them out I was being mean to my

own inner child and being mean to

myself in essence I was abandoning

myself to make other people happy

abandoning myself to ease someone else's

energy leaving me feeling abandoned

myself and what happens is when you wake

up to this energy that's out of

alignment what you need to realize is

that you're waking up now for you to

become aware of it and for you to let it

go now on the planet I think too there's

a wave of this happening where a lot of

the shadow of what's been subconsciously

hidden is coming to the surface and we

now have the opportunity to look at this

and to let it go and we're becoming

aware of like do I want to remain in

relation with people that are

energetically

draining now there's a couple quick

things I want to also point out about

this that's very important to understand

and the first is that there may be a

story here that people are manipulative

people can't be trusted or that I'm

responsible for other people's emotions

subconsciously but what happens is that

story is keeping them in your life that

story is keeping you feel guilty now

guilt is an emotion of

control guilt is where you say your

emotions are more important than my

emotions and what you need to start

realizing is you need to put the energy

back in

yourself put the energy back in your own

frame of

reality stop abandoning

yourself and realize that as you do that

you start bringing your power back you

in a way pass the

test because ultimately people are in

our lives for a

reason someone told me once they said

people are in your life for either a

season a reason or a

lifetime and what's interesting about

this is a lot of times someone to be be

in your life for a season and a

reason and maybe that reason is to help

you learn to set boundaries was to learn

learned to help you to say no was to

help you to have the

courage to cut ties and in an

interesting way what I can recognize is

as I've had to do this over the last

couple years in a few different ways I

can tell that there's this almost

nervous

system ramp up of having to stand up to

the energy to say hey and have the

conversation to be like this doesn't

work for me anymore I wish you the best

blah blah blah there's almost like an E

From the Past of cuz I cuz in a weird

way I never really got closure with my

ex-

stepmom my dad divorced her when I was

17 years old I had freedom I was allowed

to have friends allowed to have enough

food to eat I didn't have to earn going

to school activities I was allowed to

watch TV all of a sudden Whole New World

anxiety came with that but I just never

pretty much saw my ex- stepmom again I'd

hear things that she would say about me

or my brother and um my sisters that's

their real mom so in certain ways I like

kind of hear about things but never had

to really see her again except for that

one situation for a

moment however I never actually got to

express like this is how I feel hey this

wasn't

cool I mean a kid of course that was the

ex stepmom so you can't say oh I don't

want you my life anymore I'm walking out

I at certain points considered running

away but where would I have gone I

wasn't in contact with my real mom at

the time because I was in a way

brainwashed to not any time I'd go see

my real mom when I was like seven or

eight I'd get in a lot of trouble So

eventually cut contact with my real mom

up until I was turned 17 then I

reconnected with my real

mom but nonetheless there was this

around drama it was almost like the

lesson around the drama was to stand up

to it and to say no more of

it and I never got that closure with my

ex- stepmom and I can

tell that a few people in my life over

the last couple years there's been less

of a version of it it's almost like it's

a nicer and not nicer but like less

intense version of it as time goes

on but it's still an unconscious energy

that as I become aware of I'm like wait

here's that energy

again my breakthrough is to actually

express how I feel to cut it off and to

say no I'm not engaging with this energy

and every time the only thing that would

keep me in it for so long was a certain

form of

guilt and as I become aware of that

guilt is making someone else's emotions

more important than my emotions it's a

form of control I started to question

that

guilt and to realize I could feel it to

heal it but also I could let that

emotion I could let that energy go and

realize it doesn't have to control me

any

longer now when you're standing up to

somebody that may be reflective of

something from the

past understand the lesson there is for

you to be in your own frame of reality

for you to feel safe safe in your own

body there will still be emotions there

even when I've had certain conversations

over the last couple years of like

letting go of this energy and a couple

different

conversations there's this interesting

energy comes up I'm like why does this

affect me so

much but then I feel it and I do it

anyways and then I feel this huge

release afterwards I I feel this huge

relief no longer in the S it's almost

like there was this bandwidth in the

side of my mind that was just always

being used and now it's just completely

gone allowing me to feel way more

emotionally

free now what's interesting is if you

look at why some of this energy was

there in the first place part of it may

be because as a kid there was a survival

mechanism to please a

parent who do I need to be to be

validated and approved of who do I need

to be to feel quote unquote

safe and what you do is as you realize

this you then are in a pattern of like

making people feel safe easing their

tension but interestingly

enough once you start becoming aware

that you've just been tolerating

something for so long you then start to

wake up to it and you start to say I

don't need to tolerate this any

longer other people have you ever like

there's certain people the people that

I'm talking about by the way are people

that also they normally don't have

friends for too long it's like they have

to switch friends group every so often

and I see that now I'm like wow wow no

wonder cuz eventually people start to

see it people start to become aware of

it and if you're around someone that's

controlling someone that guilt trips you

or someone that's full of drama

something sometimes that people do is

something called darvo I'll share this

because I think it's valuable it's d a r

v

o which is deny attack reverse victim to

offender I've now had two or three

different people that use this tactic

when you start to set boundaries

or you express something or you cut them

out they deny whatever you're saying

they attack and say you're doing this

and then they reverse victim to offender

where it's like no I'm the victim not

I'm not the offender I'm the victim

whether it's covert or overt the person

is like covertly trying to manipulate to

get their needs met or over and just

aggressive either way D rvo It's Crazy

when you start to see this you're like

whoa but then you're not swayed by it

because you're aware that it's just a

mechanism that these people are

doing that they're not aware of now let

me also say this in a lot of videos it

can paint like you're a victim who's

coming into your power and these people

are all mean persecutors they're all

meanies understand that these people are

just trying to have their own needs met

because a big part of this process is

forgiveness it's forgiving them for they

know not what they

do they're just trying to get their

needs now the reason I say this is

because if you hold on into the charge

of your energy field that they're the

they're the persecutors they're the um

the villains you will keep the villain

energy and the blame energy in your

energy field and you will attract more

people in your future to play that

Dynamic out with

you so having forgiveness and realizing

they're doing the best that they can

that's just a survival mechanism they

learned to not take accountability so

deny attack reverse victim offender I'm

not saying it makes it right I'm just

saying you understand it you let the

energy go that may be your B your your

big breakthrough is to just cut it out

now forgiving though is another

important part of the process that

sometimes people Overlook and they're so

quick just to blame right they're doing

this they're doing that and one thing

I've learned is had to have more

compassion even this recently I had to

had to cut off somebody for some for the

thing I'm talking about right now and

there was this wave of compassion that

came over me where I realized you know

what I was going to go in like this is

there was something that happened to

where I could be kind of angry and

assertive um in a certain way but I

realized I know this energy Within

Myself I don't have to be overly

reactive and de feed the drama instead

there's this

compassion and there was this energy of

like Clarity where I was like I'm not

going to be in contact with you anymore

I wish you the best this is what I think

you should look at this is whatever the

person was actually open to everything I

was saying

and

understood and there'd be times you do

it where they don't understand I've had

times before they just don't understand

they're still in denial and they're just

doing that darvo

thing but you're doing this for you it's

like what if you set boundaries and they

don't take it well that's on them it's

not your responsibility to manage their

emotions so let this be a sign if you're

seeing this video right now that maybe

it's time to let go of drama in your

life and that by letting go of drama

you're saying no to this manipulative

energy that's surface level drama keeps

you on the surface maybe you feel trauma

bonded and that feels deep but that's

not really deep deep is when you have a

regulated nervous system it's when

you're able to co-regulate with other

people that can see you hear you and and

connect with you at a deeper

level and one of the most powerful ways

to do that that I found is something

called breath work I got certified in a

process called somatic release breath

work completely transform my life

life allowed me to breathe up and and

the emotions in my body that were stored

that I released it was like everything

in my life began to change as I started

doing that breath work you just do a

couple ceremonies too it's not something

you do like every week you can just do

it once or twice and feel a huge

difference I got certified in this

process and I have a free breath work

ceremony it's hour hour and a half long

it's completely free if you want to go

through it you can it's in my high Vibe

tribe which is also

free and you can just click the link

below and I'll go and Link the breath

it's inside my high Vibe tribe under the

breath work

section it's music everything you only

do it once don't do it like three times

in a week though but you'll release

energy and start to feel way more free

start to co-regulate your own energy and

then realize maybe relationships with

people that appear to be more boring are

actually more

healthy it's just not crazy dramatic and

really really highs and really really

lows

maybe what boring actually is is

regulated you can actually connect in

with and sink in at a deeper

level sometimes people will be dating

someone like this person's I don't feel

it like I don't feel that crazy high

dopamine Rush maybe that's a good

thing but in order to allow this to

happen you have to say no to this so the

main part of this video is just saying

no to that energy is cleaning it out of

your life not engaging with the drama

not reacting to the

drama and then also seeing hearing

soothing and nurturing your own inner

child that feels afraid because it's so

used to the

drama that part of your inner child that

part of your subconscious is in fear and

has normalized and tolerated the drama

for so long because it doesn't want to

be

abandoned so in the high Vibe 101 my

free th000 course for free that's also

in high Vibe tribe you can also check it

out there to go

deeper and if you want to learn more

about hooponopono one of the most

powerful processes I've ever found for

clearing out out the energy field watch

this video right here and watch how much

your life shifts by far the most

powerful healing modality I've ever

found