people will never drain your energy again if you do THIS
Summary
TLDRThis video discusses the impact of energy dynamics when interacting with others. Some people drain our energy while others uplift us, and this is largely influenced by subconscious absorption of thoughts, emotions, and belief systems from those around us. The speaker emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and regulating one's own energy, suggesting practices like breathwork to release unprocessed emotions and heal inner wounds. By doing so, individuals can stop attracting toxic people, take back their power, and feel more magnetic and empowered in their relationships and interactions.
Takeaways
- π Energy exchanges with others can either drain or enhance your energy, depending on their energy and mindset.
- π We subconsciously absorb the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions of those we spend time with, which can affect us energetically.
- π People may resist your self-improvement or changes because it reflects what they're not doing, leading to feelings of guilt or judgment.
- π± Setting boundaries with toxic people helps protect your energy and allows for personal growth by healing inner emotional wounds.
- β‘ Being around people with disregulated energy can cause you to become disregulated as well, but staying centered can prevent this.
- π You can influence the energy of others by maintaining your own inner balance, leading them towards co-regulation instead of disregulation.
- π― People fight for familiarity, meaning they often resist changes that disrupt their comfort zones, even if it's toxic.
- π Taking responsibility for your own energy and not blaming others for draining you is key to breaking toxic cycles.
- πͺ When you heal your internal wounds, people who drain your energy will naturally fall out of your life, no longer resonating with you.
- π§ Techniques like breath work help release unprocessed emotions, regulate your nervous system, and foster feelings of safety in your body.
Q & A
Why do some people drain our energy while others enhance it?
-Some people drain our energy because they may have a negative or disregulated energy that affects us subconsciously, making us feel depleted. Others enhance our energy as they may be more positive, inspiring, and uplifting, making us feel more motivated and present.
What is the role of our subconscious in absorbing energies from others?
-Our subconscious mind absorbs thoughts, motivations, and belief systems from the people we surround ourselves with, even if we consciously decide not to be influenced by them.
How can we energetically shift our energy to not be affected by others?
-We can shift our energy by setting boundaries, understanding our own beliefs and motivations, and learning to regulate our own emotional state, so we are not easily swayed by the energies of others.
What is the impact of being around people with limited views on life?
-Being around people with limited views can subconsciously influence us to adopt their perspectives, potentially leading to a sense of guilt or shame when we try to break away from those limitations.
Why do people sometimes feel guilty for improving their lifestyle or health?
-People may feel guilty for improving their lifestyle or health because they perceive judgment or triggers from those around them who are not making similar positive changes, reflecting a sense of disapproval or discomfort.
How does the energy of the people we surround ourselves with affect us?
-The energy of those around us can expand our energetic field and influence our emotions and thoughts. If they are disregulated, it can lead us to also become disregulated, but if we maintain a regulated state, we can potentially help them co-regulate.
What is the significance of the statement 'people fight for familiarity' in the context of energy dynamics?
-The statement 'people fight for familiarity' means that individuals often seek out or create situations that mirror their past experiences, even if those experiences were negative, because it feels familiar and 'normal' to them.
How can we remain in a higher vibrational state and not be affected by others' fear or negativity?
-To remain in a higher vibrational state, we can practice self-regulation, set boundaries, and focus on adding positive energy to the collective consciousness rather than internalizing others' fears or negativity.
What is the importance of understanding our own stories and beliefs in managing our energy?
-Understanding our own stories and beliefs is crucial because they shape how we perceive and react to others' energies. By recognizing and challenging limiting beliefs, we can change our energy dynamics and stop attracting toxic or draining people into our lives.
How does the concept of 'familiarity' relate to the people we attract into our lives?
-The concept of 'familiarity' suggests that we often attract people who reflect our own inner state or past experiences. If our past was chaotic or filled with drama, we might unconsciously attract similar energy into our current life.
What role does breath work play in regulating our energy and emotions?
-Breath work is a powerful tool for releasing unprocessed emotions and regulating our energy. It can help us feel safe within our own bodies, separate from others' energies, and enhance our overall well-being.
Outlines
π± Understanding How Energies Affect Us
This paragraph explains why some people drain your energy while others enhance it. It discusses how being around certain individuals can make you feel depleted or motivated, based on the energy they bring into your environment. The speaker emphasizes that energetically, we absorb the thoughts, motivations, and beliefs of those around us at a subconscious level, which can influence our own energy. The key takeaway is that by setting boundaries and managing our energetic interactions, we can prevent ourselves from being drained.
π‘ The Power of Co-Regulation
This section focuses on how we influence and are influenced by others' energy fields. It highlights that when someone is energetically disregulated, it can cause us to feel the same, but by regulating our own energy, we can help bring others into a balanced state. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of not internalizing others' emotions or realities, and instead staying grounded and present within our own energetic frame. The key lesson is the ability to co-regulate and maintain a higher vibrational state without being pulled into negativity.
π Breaking Free from Familiar Patterns
Here, the speaker discusses how we may subconsciously attract toxic people or situations because they feel familiar, even if they are draining. The nervous system seeks homeostasis, often reverting to chaotic energy that feels like family or past experiences. This section encourages the reader to heal the parts of themselves that have normalized toxic energy and to stop being in victim mode. The speaker shares personal stories of realizing how blame and old narratives were keeping them trapped in unhealthy dynamics.
π οΈ Taking Responsibility for Your Energy
The final paragraph addresses how taking responsibility for your own energy and setting boundaries can help you feel more empowered. The speaker shares personal experiences of learning to stand up for themselves and stop externalizing blame for negative situations. The importance of regulating your own nervous system, feeling safe within your body, and clearing out unprocessed emotions through breathwork is emphasized. Finally, the speaker mentions that as you heal and grow, certain people will naturally fall out of your life, and this should be accepted as a sign of growth.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Energy Drain
π‘Energy Enhancement
π‘Magnetic Energy
π‘Boundaries
π‘Subconscious Absorption
π‘Emotional Regulation
π‘Familiarity and Control
π‘Vibrational State
π‘Energetic Field
π‘Inner Child Healing
π‘Breath Work
Highlights
Some people drain your energy, while others enhance it, and it's essential to recognize this energetic difference.
You absorb other people's thoughts, motivations, and belief systems subconsciously when you're around them.
Guilt can act as a form of control, influencing behavior, especially when making life changes like adopting healthier habits.
We normalize toxic energy when we haven't healed parts of ourselves that resonate with it, leading to the attraction of energy-draining people.
Our energetic field extends beyond the physical body, and emotional states can affect others within our energy field.
Co-regulation can occur when you are in a grounded state, influencing others positively, while being disregulated can cause others to feel disregulated too.
People often seek familiarity, even in negative emotions like fear, and may try to get others to feel the same way to validate their own feelings.
You don't have to agree or buy into other people's negative emotions or fears, which helps maintain your energy.
Remaining present and in a higher vibrational state adds positive energy to the collective consciousness, rather than contributing to fear.
We attract people and experiences that reflect our subconscious beliefs, including those shaped by childhood trauma or stories of blame.
Blaming external circumstances, such as childhood experiences or challenging situations, keeps us in victim mode and externalizes our power.
Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself is key to breaking patterns of blame and victimhood.
Clearing unprocessed emotions from your energy field through practices like breathwork can lead to significant emotional release and transformation.
Healing inner child wounds helps you feel safe inside your body, which increases your energetic magnetism and clarity.
As you heal, you will naturally let go of relationships and people that no longer resonate with your energy, and this process becomes easier over time.
Transcripts
why is it that some people you are
around drain your energy while other
people you're around may actually
enhance your energy some people it may
feel very hard to be around you may find
yourself feeling more depleted by the
time you leave or by the time they leave
than when they were there and you feel
like you just want to go home cocoon
yourself and not be around the energy
but other people it is so easy to be
around
and there is this energy of feeling like
more motivated more inspired and just
more present in general and what can you
do
energetically to shift your energy so
that instead of being affected by other
people you are the one setting the frame
now what I'm about to share with you in
this video completely shifted my energy
it made me more magnetic it allowed me
to not be so affected by other people's
energies and allowed me to understand
what was really going on and once I
learned it to be honest I ended up
setting more boundaries because I
understood that the people I was
surrounding myself with energetically we
are absorbing their thoughts we are
absorbing their motivations even their
belief systems we
absorb and this is done at a
subconscious level so you could say okay
well I'm going to go meet certain people
that have very limited views on life I'm
not going to absorb their energy but
subconsciously if you're around them
enough it may leak onto
you this is why it'll be very hard for
someone that say somebody is very much
overweight and around a whole bunch of
other people that are overweight and
they start to get in shape what happens
is they will literally feel guilty going
to the gym or eating cleaner because
they will feel the judgment and the
triggers of the people around them that
are feeling triggered because it's
reflecting back to them something
they're not doing for
themselves so what happens is cont think
of guilt as a form of control it's an
emotion that controls us whether we're
feeling the guilt or whether they're
projecting the guilt onto us like who
you trying to be by going to the
gym oh you're eating all healthy now
aren't
you as if there's some shame with that
but do you see what people are fighting
for is they are fighting for
familiar and one of the sad parts of
this process is is it may feel
normalized to be around people that have
very toxic
energy and when we heal the part of
ourself that has normalized toxic energy
we also find that the person we were
attracting that was draining our energy
has served its purpose and we can now
let that
go this happens when you heal the parts
of yourself you will see that you no
longer resonate with certain people in
your life any
longer it's almost like the draining of
the energy was only allowed because
there was a part of you that felt like
you had to let them drain it or even
believed they could drain your energy
now let's look at this this completely
changed my life when I when I learned
this so the PE say the people we
surround oursel with there's a certain
energy and our energetic field expands
Beyond just our skin we have an
energetic field that goes around our
body within it has the accumulated
motions and thoughts that we are
continuously
thinking and they can show this with
different machines as well when it comes
to the emotions we feel on our energetic
field uh the effect on our energetic
field and when we're feeling
disregulated and we go somewhere what
effect on people do you think that
has if you are disregulated and you're
around other people it will most likely
make them disregulated as well whereas
if somebody else is disre disregulated
comes around you and you're kind of
neutral it may bring you into a disre
regulated
State and remember people fight for
familiarity I have a buddy of mine that
was telling me that there's a member of
his family that always is like kind of
like watching the news and always like
Doomsday like did you see on the news
that there's this crazy stuff
happening yeah isn't that crazy and if
you're not like oh my God yes that's
crazy it's almost like they feel alone
so you're like oh yeah I guess it was
kind of bad but do you see how do you
see how someone may want someone else to
feel fear so that they know they're not
alone on their
fear so when you are around other people
you have an energy
field and they have their energy field
and if they are
disregulated it will have an effect on
yours it can have the effect of bringing
you more likely into C- disregulation
however when you co-regulate yourself
you you have the ability to bring people
into a
co-regulation so if somebody comes up to
you and they go oh my gosh did you see
what was happening and you're you choose
not to be you choose not to be like
either resistant both not resistant like
don't get that negative stuff around me
but also not buying into it like oh my
God you're so
right what happens is you can remain in
your own frame you can regulate yourself
and not let it affect you
it has to do with how present are you
inside of your own body and how much do
you internalize other people's
emotions how much do you do you a you
don't have to agree with everyone's
reality now this doesn't mean
disassociating and agreeing like like
saying oh I'm not saying like this
horrible stuff is happening in the world
but you have a choice to whether you
internalize it and you let it
disregulated yourself well I think one
of the biggest gifts we can give to the
world is to remain in a higher
vibrational
state to be present to be adding our
unique gift into the
world that adds an energy into the
collective Consciousness that is better
than people saying let's just get in
let's just all be fearful it's almost
like people think the world is going to
change the more people that blast fear
into the world I get people that message
me sometimes and are like
you know everything that's happening in
the world they're like why aren't you
talking about this why aren't you
talking about this with your your
following and it's like why is it my
responsibility to talk about stuff that
I'm not equipped to talk
about when I could instead talk about
the stuff that I believe makes a
difference in my life and other people's
lives and what by by projecting the fear
out into the world and getting more
people afraid why does that benefit if
anything
it harms it more because then there's
more negative thought energy that's
being put towards it what we need is
more thoughts of unity more thoughts of
Peace of empowerment of transforming the
stories that we have that are keeping us
trapped in that level of
Consciousness now one of the major
things that I had to learn to stop
attracting toxic people into my life is
I had to realize I was doing it for a
reason subconsciously
you see we attract people to mirr back
what we believe about
ourselves so if we believe for example
that people are controlling and
manipulative and that they can't be
trusted we will attract people that are
controlling and manipulative and can't
be trusted and even after this is a lot
of times done at a subconscious level
I've shared it a bajillion times on my
channel but attracting similar AR type
to the ex stepmom control energy in a 9
to-5 job that I
had as man as a manager same type of
personality and everything why am I
attracting this well part of it too was
my stories I had stories of blame around
my childhood and I want you to look at
this it could be uncomfortable to look
at but are there stories of blame
towards your childhood towards a parent
a sibling someone in your life that did
something because is is if there is a
story that is on autopilot of blame that
is also a story of an externalization of
power and of making ourselves the
victim and I think that because I had a
harder childhood from 7 to 17 years old
didn't have much of a childhood didn't
have much Freedom wasn't allowed to have
friends get enough food to eat all of
that I think that what rationalized my
childhood is that I was it was not fair
I was a
victim and it was almost like by being
able to relate with people like there
was this tendency I had when I related
with people to like be vulnerable and to
show and if I could be vulnerable then
they would be vulnerable and we have
this deeper level
connection but one of the things I
became aware of is that that was a story
that was keeping me trapped into similar
patterns over and over again because I
was always blaming someone else's energy
if we're blaming we're externalizing our
power
and think of that same blame story may
be the same story that this person's
disre is is not regulated their nervous
system is not regulated our nervous
system wants to find homeostasis with
what is
familiar
familiar
familial feels like family so did you
have a regulated nervous system in your
family or was it chaotic because if it's
chaotic one of the reasons you May
attract people who are draining is
because that chaotic energy feels
familiar familiar
familial don't you see that you can
choose whether it's still normalize or
you can heal that inner child part of
yourself that feels like you have to be
in the
chaos sometimes there's drama sometimes
we may think I've had times where I've
drawn boundaries or cut C certain people
out of my life that were had a lot of
drama that brought into my life and
afterwards there was almost withdrawals
of like being free of the drama but like
where's the next drama thing in my life
and then being aware that there's a part
of myself I can begin to soothe and I
can let things be more relaxed more
regulated but one thing that I had to
become aware of is this story of
blame I remember even
something that happened when I moved to
Sedona Arizona is I got this house I
remodeled this house and there was this
contractor that did things very
poorly and things did not end well with
this
contractor including one thing that
happened is inside one of the
walls um they put in I had a steam
shower unit I had put into the master B
bathroom and the steam shower unit was
not installed correctly so every time
this the Steam Unit went on it was
putting water into the walls for like
months and months until there was black
mold and I had to spend like $100,000 or
$80,000 to fix black mold in the house
which is not covered by insurance for
some
reason they got out of it somehow and
then there's another story of blame so I
had the story so this happened and it
was uh I realized that there was this
story that I had blame around the
contractor even blame around the
insurance company because it's like why
do I pay for insurance if the insurance
never actually they pay pay for it when
I bought the house also there was roof
problems that cost $20,000 to fix and
I'm like why did I get insurance why am
I paying for insurance if they got out
of everything it's like you didn't check
the water heater two years ago from some
handyman so we're not covering it and
I'm like what it didn't make sense to me
but there was this definitely this story
of blame that I had around this whole
situation around the person around the
um the insurance company even but it was
very much disregulated my own nervous
system there was a part of me though
that became aware that there's certain
stories I had around this draining
energy where I believed that I was in a
way that was
normal even before that before I moved
into this house I lived in a house in
Vegas with a landlord cuz I was renting
a house it's a very nice it was one of
my favorite houses I lived in um but the
owner of the house was super
neurotic it was like I remember three
two three weeks I moved into the house
two weeks later the oven I I went to use
the oven for the first time and it
wasn't working he wanted to charge me
$800 to fix the oven when I never used
the oven and I worked I I lived there
for two weeks used the oven for the
first time and I'm like no no no this
isn't the way it works I'm renting the
house I don't pay to fix the oven when
it wasn't working when I moved in you
know and it was like a constant uh it's
kind of like this constant reflection
another thing that happened was the um
the pool was leaking in that house and I
had 100,000 gallons of water that was
leaked and I had to pay $2,000 water
bill I sounds like I'm I'm um what you
call it I'm complaining but what I'm
saying is that Dynamic where I had to
like stand up for myself and eventually
I got out of that like whole contract
and everything but there was a part of
me the reason I'm telling you this is
there was a part of me that was used to
fighting for things not being fair it's
not fair I moved into this house I'm
paying all this money for rent the the
pool because he didn't want to fix the
pool pump that was leaking because it
would cost him a lot of money I'm now
paying $2,000 for like two months I paid
like a whole bunch of money for a water
bill because he didn't want to fix it
that's not
fair this guy I had contracted my house
house in Sedona did all this stuff not
correctly and now I'm paying for it
that's not fair insurance company won't
pay for this it's not fair eventually I
became aware that I was blaming and in
victim mode and I was like you know what
instead of being in victim mode I'm
going to stand up for
myself and I remember saying no I'm not
paying like if if you don't get this
pool fixed you're going to pay the the
water bill because it's not fair that I
have to pay $2,000 because you don't
want to fix the pool because you're
trying to sell the house or uh with the
other the house in Sedona it was a
similar thing when I stand up for myself
and just cut out dealing with the person
dealt with it and then heal that energy
inside of myself so the reason I'm
saying all this is
because instead of becoming a it may
feel very familiar and normal to be a
victim and to be around other people
that have disregulated energy and it's
their fault that I'm not feeling a
certain way but part of taking your
power back is either setting
boundaries which feel unfamiliar at
first but when you set boundaries you
end up gaining respect as a as a natural
reflection of
that but
also
understand that you can feel safe inside
of your own body feel the separation
between you and other people you can
begin to regulate your own nervous
system and one of the most powerful ways
I found to do this by the way is to
clear out the energetic the energy of
unprocessed emotion out of your your
field using something called breath work
one of the most powerful things I've
ever done in my life is I got certified
in breath work because I would see this
done at my Live Events and my challenges
and people were so transformed that I
got certified in it and part of being
certified was I had to go through it and
I had some of the biggest releases in my
entire life and uh if you want to
experience breath work for free you can
do so in high Vibe tribe it's my free
community I have breath work in there
it's a 2-hour long ceremony you can
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below
in the description box but uh join High
VI tribe and do that breath work watch
how much your life begins to change and
understand that a huge part of this
process is feeling safe inside of your
own body a huge part of this process is
becoming aware of your beliefs of your
uh of your identity of what you feel
responsible for if you feel responsible
for other people's energies you will
take on their tension you will take on
their energy literally but feeling safe
in the bottom three chakras is what
really allows you to then feel the
separation between you and other people
which gives you more magnetic
energy when you heal that energy inside
of yourself certain people will begin to
fall out of your life and you'll you
won't feel so guilty about it because
you'll know it served its purpose but it
no longer resonates with
you so if you want a video to show you
step by step how to do this the inner
child uh the inner child dynamics that
are involved to feeling feeling safe
inside of your own body one of my most
popular videos is from a live event if
you are someone that can feel other
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so empaths people that can feel other
people's energy this is both a
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