How to Become a Sex God | Gregor Schmidinger | TEDxDonauinsel

Summary

Denise R Quivu shares his struggle with porn-induced erectile dysfunction (ED) in his 20s, a condition he initially believed was an older man's problem. After a neurologist suggested performance anxiety, he tried Cialis but faced side effects. Researching the psychological aspects of sexuality, he discovered pornography's negative impact on the brain. He embarked on a 'Sex God Project', abstaining from porn and masturbation for 120 days to reboot his brain. Despite physical improvements, he still struggled with ED during intercourse. Realizing the flaw in his approach, he shifted focus from physical prowess to becoming a 'sex god' as a state of consciousness, embracing human sexuality's multi-sensory and meaningful aspects.

Takeaways

• 😔 The speaker suffered from erectile dysfunction (ED) in his 20s, which was unexpected and caused him shame.
• 🏥 A neurologist suggested that his ED might be due to performance anxiety and prescribed Cialis to help with confidence.
• 💊 Cialis provided temporary physical relief but did not solve the underlying issue and came with side effects.
• 🧠 The speaker discovered that the brain is the most important sex organ and that pornography can negatively affect it by rewiring it.
• 🌐 Growing up in a restrictive environment led him to heavily rely on internet pornography to explore his sexuality.
• 🔞 The contrast between the easily accessible and abundant online porn and the limited sexual exploration of his youth may have contributed to his ED.
• 🧬 The over-stimulation from porn can lead to desensitization and reduced dopamine release, impacting sexual function.
• 🔄 The concept of 'rebooting' or abstaining from porn and masturbation for 120 days was introduced as a way to reverse porn-induced ED.
• 💪 The speaker embarked on the 'Sex God Project' to transform himself physically and mentally to overcome his ED.
• 🤔 Despite physical progress, the speaker still experienced ED during intercourse, leading to a reevaluation of his approach.
• 📚 Plato's Allegory of the Cave helped the speaker understand that his sexual experiences were distorted by pornography, much like the shadows in the cave.
• 🔓 The realization that true sexual fulfillment comes from a conscious, multi-sensory, and meaningful experience, not just physical prowess.
• 🌟 The final definition of a 'sex god' evolved to someone who creates meaningful sexual experiences, not just someone with physical attributes.
• 🚫 The speaker encourages breaking free from the 'cave' of porn-induced expectations and shame to embrace a healthier sexual consciousness.

Q & A

What was the main issue the speaker faced during his 20s?

The speaker suffered from erectile dysfunction (ED), which is the inability to get or maintain an erection or have an orgasm during intercourse.

Why did the speaker initially keep his ED a secret?

He was ashamed of his condition and believed it was something one would only experience in old age.

What was the neurologist's initial diagnosis and treatment for the speaker's ED?

The neurologist found no physical cause and suggested it might be performance anxiety. He prescribed Cialis, an erection-enhancing drug similar to Viagra.

What were the side effects the speaker experienced from taking Cialis?

The speaker experienced dizziness and headaches as side effects from taking Cialis.

How did the speaker's research lead him to understand the impact of pornography on the brain?

The speaker discovered that excessive pornography consumption can rewire the brain, leading to desensitization and potentially causing erectile dysfunction.

What is the term used to describe ED caused by excessive pornography consumption?

The term used is 'porn-induced erectile dysfunction'.

What is the 'rebooting' process mentioned by the speaker?

Rebooting is the process of abstaining from masturbation and watching porn for 120 days to allow the brain to rewire itself and potentially cure porn-induced ED.

What was the speaker's goal with the 'Sex God Project'?

The speaker aimed to reverse his porn-induced ED and become a 'sex god' by developing physical strength, stamina, high testosterone levels, and mastering various sexual techniques.

What realization did the speaker come to regarding the 'Sex God Project'?

The speaker realized that his project was flawed because it was based on distorted and abstracted views of sexuality from pornography, rather than the reality of human sexuality.

How did Plato's Allegory of the Cave help the speaker understand his situation?

Plato's Allegory of the Cave helped the speaker understand that his sexual experiences were like the shadows on the cave wall, which are a distorted version of reality. This realization led him to seek a more authentic understanding of sexuality.

What is the speaker's new definition of a sex god or goddess?

A sex god or goddess, according to the speaker, is someone who consciously creates a multi-sensory and meaningful sexual experience, treating sex as an art form, a way for self-expression, or for physical and emotional healing.

What advice does the speaker give to those who wish to avoid the negative effects of pornography?

The speaker advises creating awareness of the situation when the impulse to watch porn arises, by creating a mental gap between the impulse and the action, and perceiving the screen as pixels, which are the post-modern shadows in Plato's cave.