What getting JACKED taught me about women

Martel Metellus
19 Aug 202411:41

Summary

TLDRThe speaker shares his insights on how physical transformation, or 'getting jacked,' affects interactions with women. He argues that while many women claim to prefer less muscular men, they are often attracted to the confidence and discipline that a fit body signifies. He discusses the evolutionary reasons behind this preference, emphasizing the importance of self-image and the parallels between dating and marketing. The speaker concludes by encouraging viewers to optimize their physical appearance for better social interactions, suggesting it's a low-cost, high-reward investment for improving one's dating prospects and overall life.

Takeaways

  • πŸ’ͺ The speaker emphasizes the transformative impact of physical fitness on how one is perceived by others, particularly women.
  • πŸ—£οΈ Women may claim to prefer 'dad bods' over muscular physiques, but their actions often contradict these preferences.
  • πŸ€” The speaker suggests that women are drawn to well-rounded men who have diverse interests beyond just fitness.
  • πŸ‹οΈβ€β™‚οΈ The speaker shares personal experiences, highlighting how being 'jacked' has taught him about women's true preferences.
  • 🧠 The script touches on evolutionary biology, suggesting that women are subconsciously attracted to men who appear capable of protection and provision.
  • πŸ‘• The speaker equates physical fitness with self-image and discipline, qualities that can be attractive to potential partners.
  • πŸ’‘ The concept of 'marketing oneself' is introduced, with the speaker advising on how to optimize one's appearance to attract attention.
  • 🀝 The speaker discusses the importance of aligning values and lifestyles for successful relationships.
  • πŸƒβ€β™‚οΈ The script advocates for a holistic approach to life, suggesting that fitness is just one aspect that should complement other interests and skills.
  • 🌟 The speaker concludes by encouraging viewers to 'get jacked' as a means to improve their dating prospects and overall life quality.

Q & A

  • What is the main lesson the speaker learned about women from getting 'jacked'?

    -The speaker learned that what women say does not necessarily equate to what they do, and that their actions often reveal their true preferences, which are influenced by evolutionary biology and social factors.

  • Why do some women claim to prefer men with 'dad bods' according to the speaker?

    -The speaker suggests that women may say they prefer 'dad bods' because it makes them feel comfortable and in control, as they perceive such men as less threatening and more accessible.

  • What does the speaker imply about the one-dimensionality of men who focus solely on their physique?

    -The speaker implies that men who are only focused on their physique and neglect other areas of life, such as personal interests and intellectual pursuits, may struggle to engage in meaningful conversations and relationships.

  • How does the speaker relate the concept of 'getting jacked' to evolutionary biology?

    -The speaker relates 'getting jacked' to evolutionary biology by stating that women are subconsciously attracted to men who appear strong and capable of protecting and providing, which are traits signaled by a fit and muscular physique.

  • What is the speaker's view on the importance of self-image in social interactions?

    -The speaker views self-image as crucial in social interactions, arguing that physical appearance and how one carries oneself can significantly impact how others perceive and react to them.

  • Why does the speaker suggest that getting in shape can be a low-cost, high-ROI investment?

    -The speaker suggests that getting in shape can be a low-cost, high-ROI investment because it requires minimal financial outlay compared to other lifestyle changes, yet it can significantly improve one's attractiveness and social success.

  • What does the speaker mean by 'optimizing for the top of the funnel' in the context of dating?

    -The speaker means that one should focus on improving their physical appearance and self-image to attract attention and generate interest, which is the first step in the 'funnel' of dating and forming relationships.

  • How does the speaker define 'getting jacked' and what does it signify to him?

    -The speaker defines 'getting jacked' as being in good physical shape, below 15% body fat, and having a decent amount of muscle. It signifies discipline, self-care, and the ability to protect and provide, which are attractive qualities to women.

  • What advice does the speaker give to those who want to improve their dating success?

    -The speaker advises focusing on getting in the best shape of one's life as a way to improve dating success, as it can change how one is perceived and attract the attention of potential partners.

  • What is the speaker's perspective on the role of physical appearance in attracting a partner?

    -The speaker believes that physical appearance plays a significant role in attracting a partner, as it can signal qualities like strength, discipline, and the ability to protect and provide, which are subconsciously sought after by women.

Outlines

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πŸ’ͺ The Impact of Physical Transformation on Perception and Relationships

The speaker shares his insights on how getting physically fit, or 'jacked,' has influenced his understanding of women and relationships. He explains that after transforming his body, he noticed a change in how people interacted with him, suggesting that physical appearance plays a significant role in social dynamics. He challenges the notion that being oneself is enough, arguing that neglecting one's physical fitness can lead to being overlooked or replaced in relationships. The speaker also discusses how women's stated preferences for men may not align with their actions, hinting at a preference for men who are in shape due to evolutionary reasons of protection and provision. He emphasizes the importance of self-image and the subconscious signals it sends about one's ability to protect and provide, as well as the need for men to be well-rounded, with interests beyond fitness.

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🌟 The Evolutionary and Social Benefits of Being Fit

In this paragraph, the speaker delves deeper into the evolutionary biology perspective on why women are attracted to fit men, who are perceived as capable of protection and provision. He discusses the societal and self-image benefits of being in shape, like discipline, routine, and commitment, which are attractive qualities to women. The speaker also uses a marketing analogy to explain the dating process, where physical fitness helps in capturing attention, which is the first step in forming relationships. He argues that getting 'jacked' is a low-cost, high-return investment in one's dating life and overall attractiveness. The speaker dispels the idea that being fit only attracts superficial interest, stating that humans are naturally drawn to what benefits them, and physical fitness is a sign of health and capability.

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πŸš€ Maximizing Personal Potential and Attracting Quality Companions

The final paragraph reinforces the idea that getting in shape, or 'jacked,' can significantly improve one's social standing and ability to attract a quality partner. The speaker encourages the audience to embrace physical fitness as a means to stand out and to be seen as a person of value and inspiration. He suggests that while some may not want attention, those who do will benefit from the positive changes fitness can bring to their lives, including attracting a good partner who can elevate their life. The speaker concludes by motivating the audience to take action, promising that the transformation will change their lives for the better and ends with a call to like, comment, subscribe, and share the video for those seeking motivation.

Mindmap

Keywords

πŸ’‘Jacked

In the context of the video, 'jacked' refers to having a well-built, muscular physique. It is used to describe the physical transformation that can lead to changes in how one is perceived and treated by others, particularly women. The speaker suggests that getting 'jacked' can influence social interactions and dating success, as it may signal strength, discipline, and the ability to protect and provide, which are attractive traits from an evolutionary perspective.

πŸ’‘Dad Bod

A 'dad bod' is a term used to describe a body type that is not overly muscular or lean, often associated with a more relaxed lifestyle. In the script, the speaker mentions that some women claim to prefer the 'dad bod' because it is perceived as more comfortable and less intimidating. However, the speaker argues that this preference might be a way for women to avoid the competition and anxiety that comes with dating someone who is in great shape.

πŸ’‘Self-Image

Self-image refers to how an individual perceives themselves, which includes their physical appearance, abilities, and worth. The video emphasizes the importance of self-image in social interactions, suggesting that when one improves their physical appearance by getting 'jacked,' it can boost their self-confidence and positively influence how they are perceived by others, including potential romantic partners.

πŸ’‘Evolutionary Biology

The concept of evolutionary biology is used in the video to explain why certain physical traits, like a muscular build, might be attractive to women. From an evolutionary standpoint, traits that signal strength and the ability to protect and provide are desirable because they increase the chances of survival and success for offspring. The speaker argues that getting 'jacked' aligns with these evolutionary preferences.

πŸ’‘Accountability

In the context of the video, 'accountability' refers to the responsibility one has to maintain a certain standard or behavior, particularly in relationships. The speaker suggests that women might prefer men with a 'dad bod' because they feel more in control and less accountable for their own self-improvement when their partner is not in peak physical shape.

πŸ’‘One-Dimensional

The term 'one-dimensional' is used to describe individuals who focus solely on one aspect of their lives, such as fitness, to the exclusion of other interests or personal development. The speaker warns against becoming 'onedimensional' by only focusing on physical fitness, as it can limit one's ability to engage in meaningful conversations and relationships.

πŸ’‘Marketing and Sales

The video uses the analogy of marketing and sales to explain the process of dating and attracting a partner. The speaker suggests that getting 'jacked' is akin to optimizing for the 'top of the funnel,' which in marketing terms means attracting attention. The speaker argues that physical appearance is the initial factor that draws attention, which is crucial for initiating social interactions and potentially leading to deeper connections.

πŸ’‘Discipline

Discipline, as discussed in the video, refers to the ability to maintain a consistent routine and adhere to a set of principles or values. The speaker implies that getting 'jacked' requires discipline, as it involves a commitment to a fitness regimen and healthy lifestyle. This discipline is attractive to potential partners, as it signals reliability and the ability to follow through on commitments.

πŸ’‘Attention

In the video, 'attention' is a key component in the initial stages of forming relationships, particularly in the context of dating. The speaker suggests that having a fit and muscular physique can help capture the attention of others, which is the first step in the marketing funnel analogy. This attention can lead to further interactions and potentially, deeper connections.

πŸ’‘Nurture

Nurture, in the context of the video, refers to the process of fostering and developing a relationship after initial attention has been gained. The speaker explains that after attracting attention through physical appearance, one must engage in meaningful conversations and demonstrate a well-rounded personality to nurture the relationship and move towards a deeper connection.

πŸ’‘Values Alignment

Values alignment is the concept that two individuals should share similar values and life goals for a relationship to be successful. The speaker mentions that after nurturing a relationship through meaningful interactions, the alignment of values is what ultimately leads to a committed relationship. This concept is integral to the speaker's advice on dating and forming lasting connections.

Highlights

The transformative impact of physical fitness on social interactions and perceptions.

Contrasting women's verbal preferences with their actual behaviors towards men's physiques.

The misconception of 'dad bod' preference and its implications on men's self-image.

Exploring the idea that physical fitness reflects broader life interests and well-roundedness.

The importance of not being one-dimensional and the role of exploration in personal development.

The evolutionary perspective on why physical fitness is attractive to women.

The significance of self-image and body language in social interactions.

How discipline and routine demonstrated through fitness can signal commitment and reliability.

The analogy between dating and marketing, emphasizing the importance of attention and value alignment.

The concept of 'getting jacked' as a low-cost, high-ROI investment in personal branding.

Addressing the criticism that 'getting jacked' attracts superficial interest.

The role of physical fitness in standing out and attracting attention in social settings.

The psychological benefits of being in shape and the impact on self-esteem and confidence.

Encouraging men to become the best version of themselves for personal growth and relationships.

The importance of aligning with a partner who can elevate one's life and contribute positively.

A call to action for men to take charge of their lives and physical fitness for personal and social benefits.

Transcripts

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you see on the journey and even Beyond

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The Journey after I've gotten jacked I I

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realized I learned a lot about women it

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taught me a lot about women and it's

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going to teach you a lot about women as

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well as you progress as you start to see

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the difference in how people treat you

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how people speak to you all of that

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comes once you've transformed your body

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I know a lot of the the the people in

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the comment will be like dude why are

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you talking about getting jacked that it

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doesn't even matter all you have to

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focus on is just just being you and

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everyone's going to love you for who you

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are that's wrong that's why you're

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single that's why women don't talk to

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you that's why they may talk to you

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right now and then they'll just find

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somebody else you get your heartbroken

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and you wonder why people are so cruel

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in this world it's because that's what

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you believe see getting Jack taught me a

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lot about women and the first thing it

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taught me is that what they say does not

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necessarily equate to what they do a lot

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of women will say I don't really I don't

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like guys who are who are in shape I

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don't really like guys who are who who

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are muscular I like the dad bot right

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that's what they tell you I like the dad

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bot the fact is one they don't even know

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what a dad bod looks like that's one two

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they say that because that's what makes

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them feel

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comfortable that's what they can

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actually have and and and control and

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maintain and there's no level of of

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accountability when the person is not in

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shape there's no accountability in

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themselves to be the best woman for that

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person because they know that the person

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who's in shape the person who's jacked

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will always have many

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options so they don't want to have that

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level of competition that level of

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anxiety so they're always going to go

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towards the man who is not jacked the

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second reason why they say that though

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the sub reason for why they say I like

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men who have Dad bods is because they

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like men who are well-rounded they like

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men who who also have different

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interests and unfortunately today a lot

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of men you included

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maybe even me at a certain point in time

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you've we've lost our our sense of

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exploration we've lost our sense of of

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learning different things of a zest of

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Life all we do is live in the gym I had

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a point in life where that's all I did

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was just live in the gym yes I had my

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business I had everything else but I

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didn't explore other things I didn't

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read different books I didn't get into

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music I've always loved music if you

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look up Martel matelis piano you will

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see me I was professionally trained as a

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piano player when I was what this was 20

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200 six 2006 I was professionally

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trained as a piano

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player and I stopped that because I

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wanted to get into Athletics and then

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from Athletics I got into the sport of

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bodybuilding and then I got into just

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overall Fitness right overall I just

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like being fit but you'll start to

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realize that the person who's just in

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shape that just focuses on that which is

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a lot of the gym cells out there they

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they're onedimensional they don't know

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anything else all they know is protein

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shakes macros that's all they talk about

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so they can't even go conversate with

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women they can't have real conversations

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with women so women don't like that

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that's why they always dictate they

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always say that they want to be with the

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man who is who has a dadbot because that

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man is exploratory he has to

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overcompensate with other areas of his

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life to be able to feel whole to to to

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to overcompensate for the lack of a

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physique that he should have that's the

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reason why too right and the third the

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second reason so the first reason was

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that women will say one thing and do the

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opposite right but the reality is your

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self-image matters the most see women

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business whatever that whatever thing

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requires social interaction the first

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thing a human being is going to see is

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you is how you are shaped is how your

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clothes fit you that is what they're

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going to see that's what they're going

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to admire that's what they're going to

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appreciate and that's going to give them

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signals of who you are with women

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you have to look from an evolutionary

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evolutionary biology perspective right

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from an evolutionary biology perspective

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women want a man who can protect and

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provide what your body signals whether

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you can or you can't there's men who

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look the type but they can't actually do

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it but the advertisement that you put

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out is that you can protect and you can

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provide because you can protect since

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you have muscles it signifies strength

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even if it's artificial strength it

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still signifies that I would suggest

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going to learn powerlifting or even

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boxing to have that combat to be able to

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protect right to be able to go with the

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body that you've built but to also

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provide because when you're in shape

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when you're jacked it shows that you

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have discipline it shows that you

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actually have a routine it shows that

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you're serious about yourself it shows

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that you actually have some level of

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commitment in your life right so that

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protecting and providing are the two

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evolutionary biology metrics that women

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have had for the long time right

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throughout the entire Pantheon of

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humanity that's what women have wanted

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so when you get Jack that that signifies

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that you actually have the thing that

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they're looking for and they might not

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even know that internally but the

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reality is they're just automatically

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programmed to want that it's the same

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way that a man programmatically wants a

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woman who can nurture a woman who is

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caring right a women and a woman who is

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willing to be led

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men inherently want that whether they

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think about it or not so when you get

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jacked you have to realize from a social

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image perspective from from from a

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self-image perspective you're exuding

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the fact that you are disciplined that

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you actually care about yourself to take

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care of yourself and you also have the

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consistency that it takes to be able to

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do that that is that is what

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subconsciously people are thinking when

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they see you it's more than just like oh

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he has big muscles he yes visibly you

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look great but you have to think of

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yourself you have to think about with

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women it's all about marketing it's all

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marketing and sales if you look at it

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from a business angle it's a funnel

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right when you're dating women top of

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funnel is all about attention you have

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to generate attention that's why like

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marketers put out content they put out

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ads visual ads to be able to catch your

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attention your body is something that

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will be able to catch women's attention

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then you have to nurture which means

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when you have conversations with them

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you need to be smart you need to have

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many different topics that you can talk

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about and then once you've nurtured

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that's when you get into booking a call

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or a call to action or cling the

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deal and that comes down to the values

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if the values align if the structure of

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your Lifestyles

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align that is when you close the deal so

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you have to look at it like that that's

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what that's what getting jacked taught

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me about women that that I optimize for

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the top of the funnel you have to

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optimize for the top of the funnel when

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it comes to dating women by getting in

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the best shape of your life it's the

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easiest thing that you can do lowest

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investment cost

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highest Roi I've said this before

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highest return on investment and people

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might say I I get a lot of these weird

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people that are like you know what do

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you mean getting jacked is so expensive

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so is everything else in

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life getting food getting jacked getting

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food for getting jacked is expensive no

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you can you can optimize for for

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spending the least amount of money

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simplifying your meals you don't have to

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eat extravagantly to then get to the

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goals that you want and by the way

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getting jacked doesn't necessarily mean

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that you look like a bodybuilder a

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steroid using bodybuilder it just means

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that you're below 15% body fat and

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you've packed on a decent amount of

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muscle to where you structurally look

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aesthetic and healthy that is what

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getting jacked is be looking the best

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version of yourself looking like the

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best version of yourself without having

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a detrimental effect with that process

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so getting down to 5% body fat which by

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the way I did naturally you don't want

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to do that because I felt horrible but

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now that I'm at about 11 12% body fat I

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feel great if I drop down the % body fat

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I I'll feel even

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better but the reality is you need to be

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able to do that because women start to

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look at you very differently you when

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you walk down the street you will see

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women looking at you because you have

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the image and you'll attract women and

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again a lot of the haters a lot of the

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people who are keyboard Warriors like

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well you're going to be just attracting

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women that that want you for looks

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duh of course you have to understand

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that human beings they are selfish by

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Nature they will want something for

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their own benefit they'll want something

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that benefits them they'll want

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something that intrigues them there's no

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such thing is just wanting you

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unconditionally and you provide no value

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value meaning entertainment education

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inspiration right you're inspiring

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people when you walk down the street and

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your clothes fit and you look great and

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you have a nice smile on your face you

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have no fat on your face you look great

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you're inspiring people people want to

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be around you women want to be around

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you because women love people who are

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inspiring them men who can Inspire them

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to become better believe it or

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not you you almost appear larger than

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life when you get jacked because you're

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doing something that 99% of the

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population is not doing maybe you're

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watching videos on YouTube and you start

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to see people who are getting jacked you

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see all of these influencers that is an

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echo chamber in your day-to-day life

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just walk around and look at people none

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of them are jacked none none of them are

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even close so you become somebody who

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stands out no matter where you go

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anywhere I've gone I've always stood out

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that's just a fact and you don't have to

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believe me I don't need to prove

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anything to you you you just need to

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prove it to

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yourself so that's what I've really

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learned about women man like I've

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learned to sum this up I've learned the

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fact that they they do things

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differently than what they

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say they're attracted to the body for

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evolutionary biology reasons in terms of

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protecting and providing it signals that

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you can protect and provide

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and Lastly

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lastly it's almost like marketing with

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them when it comes to dating you're

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optimizing that attention level of the

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funnel so with the funnel you have

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attention you have nurture and then you

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have clothes right so you're optimizing

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for the attention and then it comes with

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your mindset it comes with your mind it

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comes with your abilities comes with

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your capabilities all of that is to

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nurture and then to close it's all about

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matching values

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done so why not optimize for for the

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attention so that you even have

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attention and some of you might be like

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well hey hey I don't even want attention

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man I forget attention forget women Sure

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Be Lonely with with just with just

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animals live with just

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animals for the rest of your life have

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no companion that could actually benefit

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your life go for it but for the people

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who actually want genuine companions who

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want a really good woman in your life

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because a good woman will elevate your

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life I'm experiencing it now good woman

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will elevate your life right

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so go ahead and get jacked take this as

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as your sign to go get jacked because

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it's going to change your life I've made

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a video on this it went viral because

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it's

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true whether you want to believe it or

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not so I appreciate you guys like

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comment subscribe share with a friend

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for

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motivation they need motivation to get

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in the gym to get jacked to get their

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diet straightened

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out and I appreciate you guys the world

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conquer your life conquer

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yourself links are in the description if

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you want to tap in with me in whichever

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way that I have

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offered and I I I'll catch you on the

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