30 Things No One Tells You When You Turn 40
Summary
TLDRThis video script offers 30 insightful pieces of advice for those approaching or in their 40s, highlighting the importance of cherishing loved ones, maintaining physical health, and nurturing a positive mindset. It emphasizes the value of hard work, self-esteem, and surrounding oneself with younger individuals to stay motivated. The speaker shares personal reflections on life, love, and legacy, advocating for a life well-lived, with a focus on health, personal growth, and meaningful relationships.
Takeaways
- π Increased funeral attendance is an inevitable part of aging, highlighting the importance of cherishing loved ones.
- πͺ A noticeable divide appears between those who've maintained their health and those who haven't, becoming more apparent with age.
- ποΈββοΈ Priorities shift in exercise from results to injury prevention as one enters their 40s, emphasizing the importance of mobility and proper form.
- π Maintaining optimism and happiness in the face of aging is a trainable skill that significantly impacts one's quality of life.
- π« The path to self-esteem is through following through on commitments, reinforcing the value of accountability.
- π€οΈ Choosing the hard path in life leads to ease, whereas the easy path often results in hardship, advocating for embracing challenges.
- π§ββοΈ As age progresses, the significance of mobility, stretching, and proper weightlifting form becomes more crucial for maintaining agility.
- π± Surrounding oneself with younger individuals can be a source of motivation and a window into evolving trends.
- π« Status games are detrimental to contentment, as they foster a sense of insufficiency and dissatisfaction.
- π Parental love is often expressed non-verbally through actions rather than words, requiring a deeper understanding of their intentions.
- π Inner freedom arises from the courage to be disliked, promoting authenticity and independence from others' opinions.
Q & A
What is one significant change people experience when they turn 40?
-One significant change is attending more funerals as people around you start to pass away, emphasizing the importance of cherishing loved ones.
How does the divide between those who take care of their bodies and those who don't become apparent at the age of 40?
-The divide becomes evident in their faces and bodies, where differences in health, fitness, and overall physical appearance are noticeable.
What shifts in priorities when it comes to working out as one transitions from their 30s to 40s?
-The priority shifts from focusing on results to injury prevention, placing more importance on maintaining a healthy body over achieving physical milestones.
Why is maintaining optimism and happiness important as we age?
-Optimism and happiness are important because they contribute to a more fulfilling life, as opposed to becoming bitter and pessimistic, which can lead to a less satisfying existence.
How does self-esteem relate to following through on commitments?
-Self-esteem is boosted by doing what you say you will do, as it reinforces trust in one's own abilities and decisions.
What is the significance of choosing the hard path in life?
-Choosing the hard path leads to a more rewarding life, as it often results in personal growth and the achievement of long-term goals that are typically harder to attain.
Why is it beneficial to associate with younger people as you age?
-Younger people can keep you motivated, introduce you to new trends, and help maintain a fresh perspective on the world.
What are the dangers of engaging in status games?
-Status games can lead to discontentment and a constant feeling of inadequacy, as they encourage comparison and competition rather than personal satisfaction.
How can parents express their love without verbalizing it?
-Parents can express love through actions such as cooking, sacrificing, and providing for their children, even if they do not verbally say 'I love you'.
What is the 'green box' exercise recommended for parents?
-The 'green box' exercise involves organizing and documenting important information such as funeral preferences and asset allocation to make things easier for children when the parent passes away.
What is the difference between service friends and funeral friends?
-Service friends are those who are there for the ride and are transactional, while funeral friends are those who would genuinely pay their respects at your funeral, indicating a deeper bond.
Outlines
π Life Lessons Upon Turning 40
This paragraph discusses the unexpected realities and lessons one encounters after turning 40. It highlights the inevitability of attending more funerals, the physical divide between those who maintain their health and those who don't, the shift in priorities from results to injury prevention in workouts, the importance of optimism, the value of doing hard things, the significance of mobility and proper exercise, the benefits of surrounding oneself with younger individuals, the pitfalls of status games, the diverse ways parents express love, the importance of being prepared for one's own death, the distinction between service and funeral friends, the insight gained by observing how people treat service staff, the futility of aiming for small goals over big ones, the impact of smartphone usage on life, the necessity of showing up and doing the work for success, the importance of managing one's emotions, and refraining from using age as an excuse for inaction.
π Embracing Life and Aging Gracefully
The second paragraph emphasizes the importance of embracing life as it is, with all its uncertainties and opportunities. It encourages individuals to seize the moment and pursue their desires, recognizing that they will never be as young as they are now. It stresses the value of continuous learning to combat aging and mental atrophy, the control one has over their reactions to life's events, the perspective that death provides on life's priorities, the futility of sharing goals verbally without action, and the analogy of the body as a house that requires maintenance and improvement. The speaker shares their personal goal of living to 100 and reflects on the value of these lessons, hoping they provide guidance and meaning to viewers of all ages.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Aging
π‘Self-esteem
π‘Optimism
π‘Hard work
π‘Mobility
π‘Inner Freedom
π‘Status Games
π‘Parental Love
π‘Green Box Exercise
π‘Service Friends vs. Funeral Friends
π‘Emotional Management
π‘Age as an Excuse
π‘Lifelong Learning
Highlights
As you age, you'll attend more funerals, so cherish loved ones while they're here.
A noticeable divide appears between those who've cared for their bodies and those who haven't, especially in their 40s.
In your 40s, the focus of working out shifts from results to injury prevention.
Optimism and happiness become more challenging but are essential to cultivate as you age.
Self-esteem comes from following through on commitments.
Choosing the hard path in life leads to ease, while the easy path leads to hardship.
Importance of mobility, stretching, and lifting weights with good form to maintain flexibility and nimbleness in aging.
Surrounding yourself with younger people can keep you motivated and updated with trends.
Avoid status games as they prevent contentment and feelings of sufficiency.
Different generations express love in non-verbal ways, but it's still significant.
Prepare a 'green box' to organize your affairs for your family's ease.
Distinguish between service friends and funeral friends to understand true connections.
Assess a person's character by how they treat service staff.
Pursuing big goals requires the same effort as small ones, so dream big.
Excessive smartphone use can lead to a less fulfilling life; strive for balance.
Success involves showing up, doing the work, and constantly seeking improvement.
Being easily offended makes one easily manipulated; manage emotions responsibly.
Stop using age as an excuse; if you won't do something, be honest about it.
Continuous learning is crucial to prevent mental atrophy and live a vibrant life.
You can't control events, but you can control your reactions to them.
Keeping your body in good shape is like maintaining and improving your house; it requires effort.
Transcripts
30 things no one tells you when you turn
40 number one when you turn 40 no one
tells you that you are going to be going
to more funerals this number is just
going to accelerate as you get older
people around you that you love they
will pass at some point in time so you
must do everything you can to cherish
them while they are here number two at
40 you are going to see a massive divide
between the people who have taken care
of their bodies and the people who have
not and you will see this specifically
on their face and bodies number three
when you're working out in your 20s and
30s it is results first and injury
prevention second when you get to your
40s that inverts it is injury prevention
first and results second number four as
you age it becomes easier to become
bitter and pessimistic being optimistic
and happy is hard but it is something
that we can train and it is much better
to be happier and optimistic as you age
than it is to be bitter and pessim istic
five self-esteem comes from doing the
thing that you said you were going to do
when you said you were going to do it
six if you choose the easy path then
life is going to be hard if you choose
the hard path then life is going to be
easy everything you want is on the other
side of hard things train yourself to do
hard things seven the older you get the
more important it is to do Mobility
stretching and also to be lifting
weights with good form in full ranges of
motion these are one of the best ways to
keep your flexibility and they're one of
the best ways to keep your body Nimble
impliable as you age number eight it may
hurt your ego a lot but you want to be
hanging around younger people younger
people keep you motivated and they also
keep you on top of trends that are
changing the world number nine the worst
games to play on this planet are status
games if you play these games you were
never going to be content and you will
never feel like you were enough 10 our
parents especially in my generation had
a different way of saying I love you
some said it through cooking you food
others said it through sacrificing just
because they didn't verbalize it to you
doesn't mean that they didn't show it to
you in other ways 11 inner Freedom means
Having the courage to be disliked 12
stay away from people who put money and
Status over everything eventually you
are going to get caught in the crossfire
13 this is for if you are a parent you
want to do what is called the green box
exercise which is is you want to have a
box preferably hit screen and you want
to put everything in order from how you
want your funeral to go to where your
Investments and where your assets are
going to go you want to make it as easy
as possible for your children to know
exactly what to do when you eventually
pass 13 in life you're going to have
service friends and you're going to have
funeral friends service friends are just
there for the ride they are
transactional funeral friends are people
who would travel from any anywhere in
the world to go to your funeral in order
to pay respects funeral friends are your
true friends 14 you can get a great read
on the quality of a person by how they
treat service staff the greatest measure
of anyone is how they treat people that
can do absolutely nothing for them 15 it
takes the same amount of effort to
achieve big goals as it does to achieve
small ones this is a message to keep
thinking as big as humanly possible and
to take actions towards achieving your
Big Dreams 16 the average person spends
7 hours a day on their smartphones and
if you are 40 years old and you live
until 90 you will have spent at least 11
plus years on your smartphone so one of
the things that you want to do is have a
life that is outside of your smartphone
and I understand the complete irony of
the fact that you may be actually
watching this on your smartphone and I
did an entire video on the dangers of
smartphone addiction and how to
eliminate it and you can check it out
over here so 17 the first step to
success is showing up you can't achieve
anything if you're not in the arena 18
the second step to success is doing the
work you won't see results if you don't
do the thing 19 the final step to
achieving anything you want in this
world is to always look for ways to
improve you compound returns by getting
1% better every single day 20 being
easily offended means that you are
easily manipulated 21 never blame your
emotions on another person you are the
one that is feeling the emotion
ultimately your emotions are your
responsibility point three a massive
part of being human is learning how to
manage your emotions in healthy ways
this is using exercise journaling even
therapy even walking but you want to
learn how to deal with your emotions in
healthy ways so you don't end up blaming
other people for your emotions 24 stop
using your age as an excuse to not do
the things that you weren't going to do
in the first place in fact don't use
excuses at all if you're not going to do
it don't make an excuse just say you're
not going to do it 25 a good Mantra to
adopt in life is to tell yourself that
you are never going to be as young as
you are right now this means that as
long as you're not hurting another
person and need to go and do the thing
that you want to do to go and do the
activities to go and achieve the goals
whatever it is you are never going to be
as young as you are right now so go do
it number 26 if you stop learning new
things you were going to age faster the
biggest principle to this life and also
to delaying and preventing age is to
keep on learning new things to force
yourself to learn new things if you stop
this then you're going to atrophy your
brain and eventually you're just going
to live a life of quiet desperation 27
you can't control what happens to you
but you can control your reactions to it
as the Buddhist says you can't control
the first Arrow when it hits you but the
second arrow is one that you can control
which is your reaction to the event 28
the best way to get the most out of this
life is to remind yourself that you are
eventually going to die most people
treat death as this thing that they're
trying to avoid when the reality is it's
the ultimate form of Parkinson's law
death is a feature of life more so than
it is a bug 29 do not tell people your
goals do not even tell them what you're
going to do show them through your
actions if I were to make any judgment
on anyone in this world I would not look
at the things that they say I would
always look at the things that they do
because that is what makes a person and
the final one is you live in one house
for the rest of your life and that house
is your body so you need to do
everything you can to maintain it to
clean it and also the really cool thing
about the body is is that you can make
renovations to it as well you can lift
weights you can raise your V2 Max so you
can live longer you can do Mobility
stretches so you can keep Nimble
impliable there are so many things that
you can do in order to make this house
that is your body the best place to live
in and the only thing that you got to do
is expend the effort to make it happen
so this year I'm turning 45 years old
and this is what I would consider to be
just before middle age I mean for me one
of my goals is to live to 100 now the
reason why I created this video is
because in the past 4 months I've lost
three people that have been closest to
me to various causes and it really puts
the concept of life right up to your
face actually helps me divide what is
most important and what is not important
and that's the reason why I created this
video so I hope you got value out of
this and I hope you take some of these
to heart I hope you use these to guide
your life whether you're 20 30 40 50 or
60 doesn't matter I hope these have
given you value and if you got this far
into the video please subscribe to the
video we really appreciate it and I'll
see you on the next one peace
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