4 Messages you should NEVER send while chatting
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the speaker emphasizes the importance of effective communication in online chatting, particularly with new subscribers. They advise against using generic and unengaging phrases like 'how are you' and 'what are you doing,' which can lead to dull conversations and missed opportunities. Instead, they recommend personalized openers that play on the subscriber's username to capture their interest. The speaker also warns against directly mentioning money or making the subscriber feel like they're being pressured to spend. They suggest building an emotional connection to encourage voluntary purchases, and stress the importance of respect and value in sales interactions.
Takeaways
- 💡 Start conversations with new subscribers with personalized and engaging messages to capture their attention from the first interaction.
- 🎯 Avoid generic and uninteresting questions like 'How are you?' as they waste the opportunity to make a compelling first impression.
- 🚫 Refrain from asking subscribers directly about their financial status or implying they are wealthy, as it can be off-putting and disrespectful.
- 💌 Show genuine interest in the subscriber by asking personalized questions and creating an emotional connection, which can lead to more sales.
- 💬 Do not use lazy questions like 'What are you doing?' which show a lack of effort and do not add value to the conversation.
- 🙅♂️ Never directly ask if a subscriber will purchase content or unlock a pay-per-view; this can come across as desperate and undermines the relationship.
- 🔒 Focus on building a relationship with the subscriber where they feel valued and connected, making them more likely to willingly spend money.
- 💰 Remember that sales are proportional to the effort you put into communicating with the customer; the more effort, the more likely you are to succeed.
- 🤝 Treat the subscriber with respect and courtesy, just as you would in any sales interaction, to foster a positive buyer-seller dynamic.
- ⏳ Be patient and strategic in your approach; don't rush subscribers into making a purchase, but instead, let the relationship develop naturally.
Q & A
What is the main takeaway from the speaker's experience with chatting and learning how to train Chatters?
-The main takeaway is that the speaker's life and financial situation improved significantly after starting to chat and train Chatters, despite initial reluctance.
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of not asking 'how are you' at the beginning of a chat?
-The speaker believes 'how are you' is a waste of the first impression and does not engage the subscriber effectively, leading to a loss of momentum and a less compelling conversation.
What alternative does the speaker suggest to the generic 'how are you' question?
-The speaker suggests using a personalized opener that plays on the subscriber's username, which is more likely to elicit a response and build engagement.
According to the speaker, what is the overarching principle of successful chatting?
-The overarching principle is to put a lot of effort into the conversation, which will be rewarded proportionally in sales and building a genuine interest in the subscriber.
Why is asking 'what are you doing' considered a low-effort question by the speaker?
-It's considered low-effort because it's predictable and doesn't require much thought, and it doesn't show genuine interest in the subscriber beyond the obvious.
What is the speaker's advice regarding discussing money or wealth with subscribers?
-The speaker advises against directly mentioning money or wealth because it can come off as disrespectful and can negatively affect the sales process by making the subscriber uncomfortable.
Can you explain the analogy the speaker uses about family friend Christian and respecting parents?
-The analogy is used to illustrate the importance of respecting the buyer's position by not being too direct about the seller's intentions, similar to how one wouldn't openly disrespect a parent by flaunting behavior they disapprove of.
Why does the speaker say it's a bad idea to ask subscribers directly if they are going to unlock or buy content?
-Directly asking about unlocking or buying content can put the subscriber on the defensive, leading them to make excuses instead of building a connection that would naturally lead to a purchase.
What is the speaker's view on the importance of building an emotional connection with subscribers?
-The speaker views building an emotional connection as crucial because it can make subscribers more willing to pay for content, even at high prices, due to the value of the relationship over the content itself.
How does the speaker feel about the approach of begging subscribers to unlock or buy content?
-The speaker is against begging as it lowers the value of the chatter, puts the subscriber in an uncomfortable position, and is ineffective in促成 sales.
Outlines
🗣️ Effective Communication in Chatting
The speaker emphasizes the importance of effective communication in chatting, particularly with new subscribers. They share their personal experience of improved financial success and life quality after learning to chat well. The speaker advises against using generic and unengaging phrases like 'how are you' in conversations, as they can lead to boring and unproductive interactions. Instead, they suggest creating personalized openers that play on the subscriber's username to capture their attention and create a more engaging conversation.
💡 The Art of Effort and Genuine Interest
This paragraph discusses the principles of putting effort into chatting and showing genuine interest in the subscriber. The speaker stresses that effort is proportionally rewarded with sales and that a lazy approach, such as asking 'what are you doing,' can lead to missed opportunities. They advocate for developing a real interest in the subscriber and not just being interesting. The speaker also warns against being too forward about the desire for money, comparing it to not throwing in the face that one wants to smoke weed in front of a parent who disapproves.
🚫 Avoiding Direct Requests for Purchases
The speaker advises against making direct requests for purchases, such as asking if a subscriber is going to unlock content. They argue that this approach is ineffective and can lead to excuses from the subscriber rather than sales. Instead, the speaker suggests building an emotional connection with the subscriber, which can make them more willing to pay for content. They use the analogy of dating to explain that being direct about one's intentions can be off-putting and disrespectful to the other party.
💰 The Impact of Value and Respect in Sales
In the final paragraph, the speaker talks about the importance of providing value and respect in sales. They discuss how begging for a sale or asking directly if a subscriber will unlock content can lower the seller's value and lead to excuses rather than purchases. The speaker emphasizes that the goal should be to create such a connection and value that the subscriber wants to unlock and engage with the content without being prompted. They conclude by summarizing the key points and encouraging viewers to apply these strategies to improve their chatting and sales.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Chatters
💡Subs
💡First impression
💡Effort
💡Personalized opener
💡Sales
💡Respect
💡Emotional connection
💡Value
💡Unlocking content
Highlights
The speaker emphasizes the importance of learning how to effectively chat and train Chatters for financial gain and personal well-being.
The speaker shares personal experience, noting a significant improvement in income and life quality after starting to chat and train Chatters.
Four key phrases or questions are identified as things to never say in a conversation with a subscriber, especially new ones without an established relationship.
The phrase 'how are you' is criticized as a poor conversation starter due to its lack of originality and inability to engage the subscriber.
The speaker advises against using generic openers, suggesting personalized messages that play on the subscriber's username instead.
The importance of effort in chatting is highlighted, with the speaker asserting that more effort leads to higher sales.
The phrase 'what are you doing' is criticized for being low-effort and showing little interest in the subscriber.
The speaker stresses the need to develop a genuine interest in the subscriber and to be respectful in the sales process.
Refraining from directly asking about a subscriber's wealth or ability to pay is advised to maintain respect and avoid turning off the subscriber.
An analogy is made between sales and dating, suggesting that being upfront about wanting money can be off-putting to subscribers.
The speaker explains that building an emotional connection with subscribers can lead them to be more willing to pay for content.
Asking subscribers directly if they will unlock or buy content is discouraged as it can lower the speaker's perceived value and lead to excuses.
The speaker suggests that subscribers should unlock content because they like the speaker, not because they are being asked to.
The video concludes with a call to action for viewers to like, comment, and subscribe, as well as to check out the provided links for more information.
Transcripts
I put off chatting and learning how to
train Chatters for a very long time to
my detriment and now that I have started
to do it I have made way more money and
my life is unironically actually no
exaggeration much better a lot more
stress but you know it's part of the
game and as my own knowledge of chatting
develops um I come across from time to
time things that I see my Chatters do
that I don't like and one of those
things is using one of these phrases or
questions in their
chatting so in this video I'm going to
go over I've got four here I might think
of some more as I'm doing this but I've
got four things to never say in a
conversation with a sub now this is a
like most of these are for like a new
sub that you don't have a relationship
with and you haven't sold any content
with it's not like somebody that you've
known for a long time and there's you
know it's like not a a friend friend
right okay so things to Never Say in
chatting I'm going to tell you what they
are and I'm going to tell you why by the
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question number one or thing number one
to Never Say in chatting how are you
you got to understand like
this when you chat okay every every
message that you send especially early
on every message that you send right is
a sniper bullet that if you do not hit
your mark with that
bullet you're going to lose or it
becomes much harder to like dig yourself
out and turn around a stupid or [ __ ] or
boring conversation than it is to like
nail it right from the get-go and start
off on the right foot uh my dad always
used to tell me you never get a second
chance to make a first impression and
that's very true and it is the same with
chatting as well now why is how are you
a [ __ ] stupid question that if if I
see my Chatters ask that question like I
I I go berserk like I lose my [ __ ] and
the reason I'll say it I'll say it one
more time just for
emphasis the reason is that when you
have when you're starting a conversation
with a new sub this usually happens at
the beginning of a conversation where
you ask [ __ ] dumb questions like this
when you're starting a new conversation
with them you are obviously competing
with a lot of other stuff for their
attention and if you don't capture their
uh if you don't send something
compelling in the first message and
you're not interesting immediately from
the get-go then you just lost a ton of
the momentum so why is how are you
stupid it's like there's what are they
going to say right what is the sub going
to say oh I'm good I'm
fine and then what and then that's it I
maybe he'll say oh I'm good how are you
what have you accomplished nothing
nothing what's what's the point of
asking that you could you could have
said anything else and gotten a much
more interesting engaged invested
response but you just wasted your first
sniper bullets the most important one
arguably on some dumb [ __ ] now what I
like to have people do now okay so this
is usually um done in like the first
message or two messages so usually what
Chatters will do if they're you know
unaware of this let's give them the
benefit of the doubt and just say that
they it never occurred to them that was
a stupid
question what they'll say is they'll be
like hey you know Steve how are
you um what I will have them do instead
and this you know assumes that the sub
has like an actual username
is I will make them do a personalized
opener with a play on the username so if
it's Steve for example it be like uh hey
Steve so glad you're here um by the way
are you Steve Jobs uh I hate to tell you
this but I don't have an iPhone I have a
Samsung right it's a lot of work right a
lot of investment early on from the
chatter to do that but that message or
series of messages is much more likely
to get a response and it doesn't it
doesn't and there's a few reasons for
that I don't want to go into them all
right now but that's much more likely to
get a response than how are you how are
you is not interesting it's like oh she
just asked me how I am like it's boring
like who cares like let me see what else
there is but now she's talking about
Steve Job Samsung there's a lot of
threads for the sub to pull on so that's
number one I [ __ ] lose my [ __ ] when I
see that and all variations of how are
you are included in this what's up how's
it going it's all the same doesn't have
to be how are you
the second thing that you should never
say in chatting this is similar to the
last one but what are you
doing when I see that okay so so when I
train Chatters I tell them a few things
but like the overarching principle of
chatting you put effort put a lot of
effort into it okay you will be rewarded
proportionally in sales any kind of
sales with the amount of effort that you
put in to communicating with your
customer let's just call it that if you
don't put a lot of effort in yeah you'll
get the easy customers here and there
but you won't get a lot from them you
won't get as much as if you put effort
into them you might make a sale or two
here and there but you will not turn
them into a lifelong customer who gives
them gives you all their money because
they [ __ ] like
you number one is effort number two is
develop a genuine interest in the sub
develop an interest don't be interesting
be interested right it's another tip
from
sales what are you doing is is low
effort and very little interest very
little interest I guess it's some
interest because you are technically
asking them a question about themselves
but it's such a lazy question number one
it's a lazy question okay like what are
you doing [ __ ] what do you think
he's doing he's on the [ __ ] computer
or on the phone talking to you that's
what he's doing and that's what he's
going to say well he's not going to say
that he's going to be like oh
nothing okay and and what have you done
with that with that very valuable
opportunity to communicate with somebody
who could be could put thousands of
dollars in your pocket and what did you
decide to do you decided to ask them
what they're doing you know what they're
doing you know exactly what they're
doing [ __ ] makes me want to lose my
[ __ ] the third thing to Never Say in
chatting is some variation of this of
like oh wow you're rich or oh wow you
must make a lot of money or oh wow you
know [ __ ] whatever
you don't I tell this to my Chatters I
say yes you are there to get money the
sub knows you want money but you do not
want to throw it in their face okay so
this is something slightly unrelated but
this is something that like so I used to
go for the holidays I used to go to my
cousin's house and there was like a
family friend there he was a couple
years older than me and he was like he
wasn't related to us but him and his dad
were like very close with my uncle's
family and so he was like basically like
family like I I considered him one of my
cousins very cool guy um so we used to
like go off in the family you know get
togethers and go smoke
weed um and like I remember one time cuz
he would tell me that his he his dad
knew that he smoked wheed and it was it
was the type of thing that like you know
they had that relationship I didn't have
that relationship with my parents where
I could go [ __ ] tell them I'm going
to go smoke a joint with his name was
Christian like yeah me and Christian
we're going to go [ __ ] hit the blunt
like down the street um we'll be back in
a couple hours maybe like I couldn't say
that to them and I and I said to him
like I don't know we were talking about
it one day and he goes you know you can
you can do whatever you want but you
just have to show them respect and not
throw it in their face like you can't
[ __ ] talk about smoking The Joint in
front of him you can't [ __ ] smoke the
joint in front of him whatever like that
would be disrespectful to him because
it's his obligation as a parent to not
allow you to do that and it puts him in
an awkward position so this is this is
kind of like that except this is you
know different obviously this is a a
buyer seller Dynamic so you you want to
show the sub respect you want to show
them the respect you want to do them the
courtesy of not throwing it in their
face that you want their money it's so
disrespectful as a
salesperson you might think and I I fell
into this trap myself when I do
commission only sales all the time
like you might think like I just want to
be real with this person I just want to
tell this person the unfiltered full
[ __ ] truth about what I'm saying so I
would say stuff like well look to be
honest with you I really want to make
the sale so blah blah blah and when I
did that the chances of me making money
actually getting the sale went way down
because I was even if it was honest even
if it was genuine like it was bringing
to the attention to the customer the
fact that if they took a specific action
the action that I wanted them to take I
would directly receive a benefit from
that and that tints everything that you
say in a negative way in a way that is
not going to you know help you [ __ ]
get the money so it's not a good thing
to say and when you say [ __ ] like oh
you're rich oh you must make so much
money wow you're [ __ ] you can buy
everything you can definitely buy this
content from me it's terrible it's awful
right I'll give you one more example
we'll move to the next one when you're
trying to court a woman let's call it
you're dating a girl it's the first date
second date
whatever let's be honest gentlemen like
yeah okay maybe some of you are looking
for a companion maybe some of you are
looking for your wife or whatever but
like you go out I mean this is me at
least I don't know maybe you guys are
not like this but like if I go out with
a girl I want to [ __ ] her you know what
I mean and like that's why I'm going out
with her that's why I'm going and buying
her dinner that's why we're going to get
drinks that's why I'm [ __ ] texting
her that's why I'm talking to her that's
why I'm doing all this stuff so I can
stick my dick inside her you know what I
I mean however and she knows that they
know they're not stupid they're not
idiots but they enjoy the experience as
long as you don't throw that in their
face you can't I can't say to a girl be
like well yeah like I'm going to take
you to a really nice place CU I really
want to [ __ ] you right you you can't do
that you can't say after the dinner well
you know I'm feeling kind of Tipsy um
I'd really like to [ __ ] right now do you
want to go [ __ ] like you can't do that
it's it's it's disrespectful to them not
because I'm not saying it's
disrespectful cuz you're like mean to
women or you're a pig or something like
that it's from the perspective of the
seller which you are as a man to be
honest you from the seller to the buyer
you are not respecting the buyer um
because you have not uh you
know beautified your conversation let's
say in a way that will make them want to
buy which is your responsibility as the
seller or the chatter in this case and
all you have to do is just not say that
thing right it's not it's not even an
action you need to take it's like a a
non-action it's a [ __ ] just don't do
this
thing the fourth thing to Never Say in
chatting someone drives me up the
[ __ ] wall they all drive me up the
wall is some variation
of are you going to unlock
it okay so picture the situation your
chat is talking to a sub going back and
forth going back and forth sends a ppv
to unlock sub doesn't unlock it let's
say like he doesn't respond he stops
responding after that or they continue
talking whatever doesn't matter if the
chatter sends something like oh babe
you're not going to unlock
this it why is it bad number one what's
he gonna say what's he gonna say he's
going to come up with some excuse about
why he can't buy it right he's not going
to say here's here and here's the truth
here's the truth sometimes they say this
but usually not if you've built some
kind of connection with them they
usually don't say this but you sometimes
what they say is like oh um I don't
think that how you have priced that
piece of content is worth the money that
you are asking for
it sometimes they say that like
sometimes you'll hear a [ __ ] sub say
like oh but this girl sells fulllength
videos for $10 and you want you know $10
for a 20 second video I don't think
that's Fair some of them do say that
however that same sub if he's having a
good time if he's enjoying the
conversation if he feels an emotional
bond with you know the girl then he will
pay $10 for a 20 second video he will
buy it so like that you know that uh
math is not the reason why they're not
buying it the reason they're not buying
it there's lots of reasons right but
like at the end of the day that's the
reason they're like I have money they
want my money they want me to watch this
20c video I don't feel like my money is
worth that 20 second video and there's a
lot of ways to make it worth that 20
second video the best way in my opinion
is to build an emotional connection with
the sub so that they will they would buy
air they would buy a a picture of a
white screen for $10 or $20 or $100 or
whatever good night John Sells [ __ ]
pictures of his Ramen for
$100 like you know what I mean and the
the reason that he does that obviously
you can't do that with everybody but the
reason that he does that I'm sorry the
reason he's able to do that is because
he or his Chatters or whoever it is I
mean he posted the screenshots I assume
it was him maybe it was one of his
Chatters who knows the reason he's able
to do that is because he has spent the
time to atically build adequately build
a connection with the
sub if they do not buy the content that
is the reason why and you asking oh are
you going to unlock it are you going to
buy it babe you'll really like it you'll
come so much some dumb [ __ ] like
that there what they're not going to be
like oh my bad I didn't even see that oh
it totally slipped past me I didn't even
notice that they're going to come up
with some excuse as to why they can't
buy it oh my card doesn't work oh I need
to wait for my salary I I [ __ ] hate
like sometimes I have my chatter submit
reports it doesn't happen anymore cuz
like I put a stop to it but um they'll
say like oh you know no sales weren't
good today all the all the subs are
waiting for their salary waiting for
their salary I know he's got $20 I know
he's got I know he's got $100 in his
account like they have more than that
there there is no waiting for the salary
what that means is you just didn't do a
good job giving him enough value so that
he spent that money it is possible to do
that with
everybody you know the amount of work
required to do it with like the most
difficult people I'm not saying that's
worth it like you know you know what I
mean anyway this this uh this you know
begging of like babe are you going to
unlock it are you going to are you do
you want to are you going to watch my
video babe make sure you tell me how
much you like it you're not [ __ ]
slick bro you're not you're not clever
they're not going to be like oh well I I
do want to give you my feedback on your
[ __ ] dildo video so
$20 so I hate it okay and and I and I
and I don't like seeing and not only
that here's another bad thing about it
is it puts you it it lowers your value
to the point where you are like asking
them to do something for you oh can will
you please do this thing for me no
that's not that's not how the
relationship should be like they should
just unlock everything that you send
because they [ __ ] like you there I
don't know if I [ __ ] told I did tell
this story about like the girl that I
was texting and I didn't didn't want to
go out with her and like she was so good
at conversation I was like well okay
fine let's go she super hot by the way
okay anyway those are the things to
Never Say in chatting thank you for
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