“I have no friends” and why it’s okay
Summary
TLDRIn this journal entry episode, the creator discusses the struggles of not having friends and the self-realization that comes from solitude. They explore the idea that being alone can lead to personal growth and self-discovery. The video encourages viewers to embrace their alone time, build confidence, and not let the lack of friends hinder their pursuit of happiness and personal goals. It also touches on the importance of self-improvement and maintaining one's identity in friendships.
Takeaways
- 🌟 It's completely okay to have no friends and one should not let loneliness hinder living their best life.
- 🧐 Being alone can lead to self-discovery and a better understanding of one's own preferences and desires.
- 🤔 The absence of friends can provide a unique opportunity for personal growth and breakthroughs.
- 🙁 Feeling lonely is a normal human emotion, and it's important to acknowledge and accept it.
- 🤝 While friendships can be fulfilling, they can also sometimes lead to feelings of loneliness or exclusion.
- 🚫 It's crucial not to let the fear of being alone or losing friends compromise one's personal goals and passions.
- 💪 Embracing solitude can lead to a sense of self-reliance and the realization of one's capabilities.
- 🤷♀️ It's important to work on self-improvement for the right reasons, primarily for oneself rather than to gain friends.
- 😌 Happiness should come from within, and one should not rely solely on others for their sense of fulfillment.
- 🔑 Self-confidence and self-love are key to attracting positive relationships and experiences.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video script?
-The main theme of the video script is the acceptance and positivity of having no friends, and how it can lead to self-discovery and personal growth.
Why does the speaker feel envious of girls with many friends?
-The speaker feels envious because they have always had trouble keeping friends long-term and have always been insecure due to not having many friends.
What is a breakthrough the speaker believes one can have when alone?
-The speaker believes that when alone, one can have a breakthrough in realizing their own capabilities and achieving happiness from within themselves.
How does the speaker feel about doing things alone?
-Initially, the speaker had to do things alone out of necessity but has grown to appreciate and enjoy doing things by themselves.
What does the speaker suggest about friendships making one feel lonely?
-The speaker suggests that being in a group of friends does not guarantee inclusion or satisfaction, and sometimes one can feel lonely even when surrounded by others.
Why does the speaker think it's important not to lose oneself in friendships?
-The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining one's identity and not losing sight of personal goals and passions, even when in a friendship.
What advice does the speaker give to those who feel lonely without friends?
-The speaker advises that it's normal to feel lonely but one should not let the lack of friends stop them from living their best life and achieving their dreams.
How does the speaker view the role of self-improvement when alone?
-The speaker views self-improvement as a crucial aspect of being alone, as it allows for self-reflection, personal growth, and the development of a strong sense of self-worth.
What does the speaker suggest about the relationship between happiness and friendships?
-The speaker suggests that true happiness comes from within, and while friends can contribute to happiness, one should not rely solely on others for their happiness.
Why does the speaker encourage being open to new people while also being cautious?
-The speaker encourages being open to new people to form meaningful connections but also advises caution to ensure that these relationships are healthy and genuine.
What is the speaker's perspective on the importance of self-belief and overcoming obstacles?
-The speaker believes in the power of self-belief and emphasizes that the only person who can truly stop one from achieving their goals is themselves.
Outlines
🧘♀️ Embracing Solitude: The Power of Being Alone
The speaker begins by expressing envy towards girls with many friends, reflecting on the self-discovery that comes with solitude. They acknowledge the societal pressure to have friends and the insecurities that arise from loneliness. However, they argue that being alone can lead to personal breakthroughs and a deeper understanding of one's own desires and capabilities. The speaker shares their journey from childhood insecurities to realizing the value of solitude, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and the need to not let the lack of friends hinder one's life. They discuss the tendency to conform in groups and the potential for loneliness even within friendships, suggesting that true happiness comes from within and advocating for self-improvement and self-acceptance.
🌟 Self-Growth and Happiness: The Superpower of Solitude
In the second paragraph, the speaker delves into the concept of self-growth and happiness derived from solitude. They discuss the realization that internal problems can accelerate personal development and the importance of not shaming oneself for being alone. The speaker encourages embracing the capability to find happiness within oneself, rather than relying on others for fulfillment. They share their experiences of attracting better friendships and interactions by being happy and confident. The paragraph concludes with advice on being open to new people, getting to know them slowly, and maintaining one's sense of identity. The speaker reflects on the value of alone time and the joy of good friendships, emphasizing the importance of self-belief and the potential for achieving dreams, regardless of one's social circle.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Alone
💡Friendships
💡Self-Esteem
💡Insecurity
💡Loneliness
💡Self-Discovery
💡Self-Worth
💡Mental Health
💡Self-Improvement
💡Happiness
💡Identity
Highlights
The speaker discusses the envy of girls with many friends and the self-discovery that comes with being alone.
Emphasizes that being alone can lead to personal breakthroughs that might not happen in a group setting.
Mentions the importance of not letting the lack of friends prevent one from living their best life.
Reflects on personal struggles with maintaining long-term friendships and low self-esteem.
Explains how being alone can lead to a better understanding of one's own preferences and desires.
Discusses the normalcy of feeling lonely and the pressure to conform in group settings.
Contrasts the loneliness felt when alone versus the loneliness experienced in a group.
Advocates for the value of self-growth and self-reliance, even when in the company of friends.
Encourages listeners not to blame themselves for the end of friendships and to recognize their self-worth.
Suggests that being alone can lead to a realization of one's capabilities and strengths.
Counsels against overthinking and the waste of energy on constant anxiety.
Talks about the importance of not seeking self-improvement solely to gain friends but for personal growth.
Reassures listeners that they are worthy of friendship regardless of their mental health struggles.
Encourages self-acceptance and not forcing friendships that don't feel right.
Describes the benefits of enjoying one's own company and the joy of genuine friendships.
Advises on the importance of maintaining a sense of identity even when in social situations.
Shares personal experiences of self-discovery and goal setting after the end of a significant friendship.
Ends with a message of empowerment, emphasizing that one's life and happiness are not dependent on others.
Transcripts
again I've always been envious of girls
who are friends with each other you know
girls who have lots of friends when you
are alone you figure out a lot of things
that you never really know about
yourself when you're just completely
alone with no friends I feel like
there's a certain breakthrough that you
probably never have am I worthy of
having friends don't ever let having no
friends to stop you from living your
best life
whoa
hey
that was a really bad intro anyways hi
everyone welcome back to my channel so
for this journal entry episode eight
we're going to be talking about why
having no friends is completely okay
I'm kind of shocked that I haven't
talked about because as you guys can see
I do a lot of things by myself I've
always had trouble keeping friends long
term this can go into a lot of issues of
mine and as a kid I've always been
extremely insecure because I didn't have
you know a lot of friends that I had
like really low self-esteem ever since I
was a kid I did everything by myself but
it was always kind of like I had to I
didn't really learn to enjoy doing
things by myself
as a kid I've always been envious of
girls who are friends with each other
you know girls who have lots of friends
and I always wanted to be like that but
as I gotten older I realized how having
no friends is
really okay it really is when you are
alone you figure out a lot of things
that you've never really known about
yourself because sometimes when you're
in group setting a lot of us tend to
just like go with the flow you go with
what your friends want I want to do this
because I just want to enjoy their
company which is completely fine but you
don't realize what you want you like
this activity because you guys are doing
it together right you have your friends
company you like their company so as you
like this activity that doesn't mean you
like this activity when you have no
friends to hang out with all you have is
yourself so you really try to do things
that you enjoy right it's very obvious
like you know we all want friends so
it's very very normal to feel lonely
because sometimes I feel like when we
feel lonely it's like you feel bad about
it you're like but you need to
understand that is very very normal it
is normal to feel lonely it is normal to
want company from people and start
pushing the thought away I tell myself
that this is normal I'm a human being I
shouldn't want to socialize with people
friendships can also make you feel
lonely just because you're in a group of
people doesn't mean that you would feel
included right somehow you're in a group
of people feel like an outcast you just
feel like oh my God like I feel like
nobody here really gives two shits about
me like I said I'm just here just to be
here I just want the company of others
even though I'm not really enjoying
their company so would you rather be
feeling lonely by yourself or feeling
lonely in a group personally I would
rather feel lonely by myself like what's
the point hang out with people if you
feel lonely when you're with friends you
can become so fixated on them you can
become so focused on them that you don't
really care about what you want you
don't care about the goals you have
because some of us just want to hold on
to that song want to hold on to these
friends because you just feel you've
been alone for so long what if they
leave me what do they leave me for
someone else whether I'm not good enough
and I don't blame you because you know
we all want friends sometimes you might
even lose your passions and your goals
you might set that aside it's like a
thing that you don't even realize and
that is not to say like this is a
friend's fault it's our fault I'm not
encouraging YouTube boyfriend when
you're just completely alone with no
friends I feel like there's a certain
breakthrough that you probably never
have I mean of course it gets dark
sometimes but also it can be a
breakthrough you realize how capable you
are to do absolutely everything by
yourself once you have this mindset even
when you get back into friend groups you
will still have this mindset I
personally don't think it can be taken
away once you have this breakthrough
when you have no friends you realize
that I have to do everything for myself
sometimes these things is just like you
have to just do it you have so much fear
you're like oh my God I cannot do this I
have to do this with someone else but
you can literally sometimes we just
overthink but the things that when we
think so much about it it's a waste of
energy it's literally a waste of energy
to be anxious about a 24 7. just do it
because trust me when you actually do
the thing it's not as scary as you think
I feel like sometimes when you just have
no friends sometimes you try to prove
yourself am I worthy of having friends
and then you start doing things to make
yourself feel
I need to better myself feel I'm worthy
for friends but the things that you are
worth your friend you can create a
better version of yourself but make sure
that you're creating it for the right
reason you're creating it for yourself
that's a proof to anyone that you are
worth your friends because you are I I
had this negative mind this where I feel
oh I don't deserve friends because I
have mental issues friendship breaks
down I blame it all myself I'm like oh
this is my fault this is my fault I was
the one who called it off I'm the one
who who left for friendship to work
there needs to be both parties right I
sometimes need to remind myself that
they also didn't do anything to fix the
friendship I tell myself that just
because I am mentally ill doesn't mean
that I don't deserve friendships and
this was something that I felt like
almost as if I'm punishing myself but
when I came to realize is that I am
trying to better myself and I feel like
that counts for something if you feel
like oh my God I feel so alone I have no
friends like I must be such a loser but
the thing that you cannot force it just
because you have friends doesn't mean
that you're you're less worthy compared
to other people who do and I'm also not
saying that like oh we should look down
on people who have friends because there
are friendships that are extremely
beautiful healthy healthy friendships
you know supporting one another some of
us just haven't found the right people
and I want you guys to stay home cool
really genuine so easy to just be like
that's their fault steer for us for
somebody it is but sometimes you realize
maybe I'm the problem it speeds up your
self-growth when you realize that
there's a problem within you because
we're human we all have problems don't
shame yourself don't try to close
yourself off just because all my friends
down it doesn't mean that you're not
gonna have friends in the future right
there's a lot of people who are dealing
with us especially if you're in your
early 20s it's not talked about enough
once you realize how capable you are
when you are alone it's almost like a
superpower in how your happiness can
come from just within yourself you don't
need anyone to complete you yes I can
help it can make you happier but you can
get all the happiness you want from
within yourself you can spread happiness
when you are happy if you are unhappy
how the hell can you spread happiness
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I'm not saying that no you have to
spread happiness to others it can make
an interaction more joyful and you can
realize how when you are happy you
attract more people like I tend to get
insecure and sometimes like I project I
sometimes just think oh just because I'm
insecure about so and so they probably
think bad of me which is really toxic
and it goes to show you this because I'm
insecure but if I was happy if I was
confident this interaction that happens
with another person will be great I
wouldn't be so self-conscious I I
wouldn't think about it
I want to think that because I'm
confident I'm feeling good which is why
I believe that you need to achieve your
happiness
foreign
you can achieve all the happiness with
yourself you want to go sit by the beach
go sit by the beach and when you do
these things that builds up your
confidence and when you build up your
confidence you realize how you can do
almost everything by yourself I'm not
saying that you're doing all of this to
just you know attract people but you're
becoming happier at the same time you're
attracting people so it's like a win-win
why not I'm not trying to be like oh you
can do everything by yourself so you
don't need other people I'm saying that
don't close yourself off to people I
want you guys to enjoy her alone time
but when people come you can be the
judge of that who you want to let in
slowly get to know them don't get
attached too fast don't build this image
of them of food they're gonna be and
don't feel like
and so be it they're not right for you
slowly get to know them and be patient
they'll slowly show you who they are and
then get to decide whether you want to
continue pursuing the apprenticeship I
feel like I have been more open to
people that I have been able to meet a
lot of good people good friends this
year when I hang out with friends I like
it's like I genuinely enjoy it like I
genuinely go back home like I really
enjoy that interaction which I'm really
proud to say because like back then I
sometimes go get home from interaction
with like friends and it just it feels
awful however I still at the same time
enjoy my alone time as well because
there's something different when you
hang out by yourself it's also amazing
when you can hang out with really good
friends you need to make sure that you
don't lose your sense of identity when
you hang out with people I mean of
course your identity can always change
but just hold on what feels true to you
hold on to yourself no matter who you
hang out with it took me to lose the
Friendship to understand who I was and
I'm not saying like oh my God that
friendship in order to figure out who I
am when the friendship ended I realized
how much things I wanted to do that I
never realized I wanted to do before
because I was just fixated on them ever
since then I know what I want and I have
goals I know what I like and I know what
I don't like and this all happened
because I was alone for so long
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do a lot of things by myself a lot what
you guys can clearly tell from
the content of this channel life can be
very lonely something that makes it more
bearable is just finding things that you
like doing life is worth living with
kind people and sometimes it can just
take a little tiny thing to make your
day really really great it's normal to
feel lonely and feel like you have no
one to talk to but don't let that stop
you from living don't ever let having no
friends to stop you from living your
best life okay because you're
life does not depend on others you have
yourself and that is more than enough
all you need to do is believe in
yourself and when you realize how much
you can achieve when you are alone you
become Unstoppable and I'm not lying
with that I'm really not the reason why
you'll be unstoppable is because the
things that you want to do no one can
stop you the only person that can stop
you is yourself so when you realize that
I'm not gonna become my own obstacle and
you go achieve that you can do it just
because you have no friends doesn't mean
that you can't achieve your dreams or
whatever has certain issues that are
preventing your own reading products
that's why self-reflection is very
important going to therapy journaling
self growth important when you have
these issues you you want to get better
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um that's the end of my journal entry
episode eight why having your friends is
completely okay I hope you guys enjoyed
the journal entry I'm really happy to be
able to talk about this I guess I wish
someone had told me this
maybe when I was younger
um which is why I'm making this video
trust me you'll find good people along
the way but as of now better yourself
and do what makes you happy okay okay
anyways I will see you guys all very
very soon I hope you guys will have a
lovely rest of your morning afternoon or
night okay okay
bye
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